| Ever since I added BL to my list the other day, some people were a bit weirded out that I like that kind of stuff I was wondering if any fellow BL/Girls Love enthusiasts feel the same way or if its just me because Ive always liked BL much more than regular "straight" romances lmao |
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Dapper_Dhampir14 said: Ever since I added BL to my list the other day, some people were a bit weirded out that I like that kind of stuff Very common reaction among common people.. Reminds me of a movie staring my favorite actress playing the role of a successful bl mangaka who was facing the hate from friends and family because of her manga.. And I was like who cares, it's chiaki kuriyama let me marry her if ya'll gonna abuse her in the movie. |
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| I love yuri/shojo ai when it comes to anime while my friends are weirded out by it. I don't mind their reactions though. |
"Nobody could laugh at someone who's trying their hardest" -Machio- |
| I typically blacklist yaoi tag on art websites. Anime rarely has actual yuri. |
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| I've been an avid consumer of BL and yuri for years, but I rarely talk to anyone about it because there's really no winning. Of course people who don't like it get weirded out, but even within the BL/yuri community, there's a lot of discourse, judgment, and elitism. (Don't even get me started on the whole argument between LGBT fans and straight fans.) So I guess I haven't really noticed people's reactions to it in recent years since I just assume they'll have some kind of problem with it. It would be cool if that wasn't the case, though. |
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| Not the biggest fan of the genre but I read some BL, mainly the classic stuff (Tokyo Babylon, Zankoku). I think dudes need to read or watch some of these stuff even though they're straight, and stop being weirded out if they're super into ecchi which is super shallow even compared to the ultra smutty BL/GL. Also, people who are into loli don't have the right to judge yaoi/yuri fans. |
THE JAPANESE SHOULD STICK TO MAKING CARS AND ANIME - GARY K. JOHNSON |
| I'm always reading mangas that have guys who sit on banana, how people react to that, I honestly don't care. Me=🏳️🌈? |
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| there's quite a few people on here who openely dislike just ignore them |
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| Yeah, I have had similar experiences, but it's usually better just to ignore those people. |
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| Never be embarrassed for liking BL/GL, it's a wonderful genre to enjoy and you shouldn't feel ashamed or upset for enjoying it. People can think whatever. |
| I always see alot of boys getting nose bleeds over a girl.... I found a really cute anime... where the Taiyou & Akane are so cute and innocent... Takada, Taiyou's Older sister (in Middle School) get a nose bleeds as she dresses up Nishimura, Akane in her old clothes... My question is: Is this a start of "GL" for Yukiko ...? Or is just as innocent as Taiyou & Akane friendship...? |
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| Both of those are fetish pandering genres. As a male you may get away with yuri, but definitely not Yaoi. |
Reply to JaniSIr
Both of those are fetish pandering genres.
As a male you may get away with yuri, but definitely not Yaoi.
As a male you may get away with yuri, but definitely not Yaoi.
| @JaniSIr That’s quite an exaggeration tbh. So many people watch yuri because they can just relate to it better or because yuri relationships have more impact on their lives. Sure there might be people who fetishise it, but not everyone does. |
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| Not caring is the best option. You watch anime for yourself, not others. |
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Reply to Fluffygreygrass
@JaniSIr That’s quite an exaggeration tbh. So many people watch yuri because they can just relate to it better or because yuri relationships have more impact on their lives. Sure there might be people who fetishise it, but not everyone does.
| @Fluffygreygrass That doesn't contradict what I said. Those might determine which yuri you'll watch, as they obviously vary in quality, but before that you still went out of your way to watch a yuri. |
| Nothing wrong with BL/GL, it can be well-written and poorly-written like any other romance. However, I hate yaoi/yuri bait with a burning passion, seriously, don't gimme that "oh but if you read the subtext in this scene where they hold hands..." crap, you either do it properly or you don't, subtext is for fucking cowards! |
| Who are you and why do you show your hostility towards a complete stranger whom you've not once spoken with before. Are you seriously asking to get blocked? Well, if that's what your intent is; to tempt me into throwing hands with someone as lowly and insignificant as you, then i may grant your wish provided you articulate yourself a bit better when trying to spite a person of my wavelength. |
Reply to TheMechaManiac
@Sylpheline
Okay that may be the case for women, but for men I'm absolutely certain that liking BL means you just ain't straight. OP is male.
Thing is most women interpret romance separately from the sexual component. Not the case for men - romance makes us crave sex as a part of the reproduction instinct. Some supress it with more efficiency, others with less, but the romance-sexuality split never is complete like with women.
Okay that may be the case for women, but for men I'm absolutely certain that liking BL means you just ain't straight. OP is male.
Thing is most women interpret romance separately from the sexual component. Not the case for men - romance makes us crave sex as a part of the reproduction instinct. Some supress it with more efficiency, others with less, but the romance-sexuality split never is complete like with women.
| @TheMechaManiac I assume you didn't read many josei stuff, one of the main tropes is every women at the company being horny for the main love interest CEO. |
| I'm a big fan of tasteful BL/GL, meaning when it's not overlysexualised or isn't presented in a way that basically everyone is gay and has hots for each other. I believe the viewer doesn't need to have a specific sexual orientation to enjoy the series. Therefore, ugh. Despite the ongoing debate on here, I believe a straight man can be fond of a BL title. I think many are lumping BL and yaoi as one, which is... Not correct, lol. |
| I can definitely relate to that. It kinda bothers me that people get weirded out by same sex romantic pairings cuz they sure as hell don't complain about heterosexual romance stories. Not every same sex romance story is of the same quality and as someone who is pansexual and transgender, I can speak from experience considering I feel some same sex romance manga I feel are a bit stinky in the writing or heavily romanticized, but the same thing can be said of heterosexual romance stories. I just tend to think as much as the world is progressing there's just some people who still hold some sort of aversion to people who are gay or consume LGBT content because the community is only very slowly starting to be accepted. I feel that a romance story should be enjoyed regardless of the gender of the couple in it and I wish people could be more open minded about at least reading some of these stories as there's quite a few actually really good ones that I feel people would enjoy if they gave it a chance and went outside of their comfort zones but a lot of people are just kinda dumb and can't get past their own biases. |
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| two guys together is called yaoi and two girls together is called yuri but what is it called when it's a guy and a girl is that even possible |
Reply to TheMechaManiac
If you're male and like BL, you're definitely not straight. Same thing with females and GL.
| @TheMechaManiac dont worry im extremely gay dw |
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| I don't mind BL if one of them is practically a trap, it's kind of rare for either genre to have good shows, though. |
| If you reply back to me and I never respond, I lost interest and don't care. Sorry about that. |
Reply to TheMechaManiac
If you're male and like BL, you're definitely not straight. Same thing with females and GL.
| @TheMechaManiac Did you confuse romance anime with hentai or some shit? Don't discount how effeminate male anime characters can look, either. |
| If you reply back to me and I never respond, I lost interest and don't care. Sorry about that. |
Reply to TheMechaManiac
@Sylpheline
Okay that may be the case for women, but for men I'm absolutely certain that liking BL means you just ain't straight. OP is male.
Thing is most women interpret romance separately from the sexual component. Not the case for men - romance makes us crave sex as a part of the reproduction instinct. Some supress it with more efficiency, others with less, but the romance-sexuality split never is complete like with women.
Okay that may be the case for women, but for men I'm absolutely certain that liking BL means you just ain't straight. OP is male.
Thing is most women interpret romance separately from the sexual component. Not the case for men - romance makes us crave sex as a part of the reproduction instinct. Some supress it with more efficiency, others with less, but the romance-sexuality split never is complete like with women.
| @TheMechaManiac Aside from talking out of your ass, you sound like the guy who disliked My Happy Marriage because he can't beat it to the female lead. |
| If you reply back to me and I never respond, I lost interest and don't care. Sorry about that. |
| heterosexuality is literally a meme i cant believe the supposed cishets cant figure it out; i dont interact with people who are weird around gay stuff, im glad theyre so easy to avoid too, its like u can sense them from a mile away |
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| Reactions to BL are usually heavier from what I've seen and I'll say one thing, I'm a guy who sees XX x XY, XX x XX and XY x XY and I'm not gay or bisexual, I just love to ship the characters. Saying that seeing BL makes you gay is equivalent to saying: • Seeing lolis/shotas makes you a pedophile • Seeing gore makes you a psychopath • Seeing Versailles no Bara makes you a feminist • Seeing Beastars makes you furry |
| I understand where you are coming from. Some people do find it weird, while there are others who don't. For example, I have some friends who are not into BL but have read a novel or watched a movie that was BL and they didn't have a problem with it. But it's true that most of the time people find it weird if they realize someone likes this genre. I even like writing BL stories which many people would find even weirder. But I don't give a damn. I'm pretty sure they also like many things I don't, so we're even. |
"If you think you can talk your way out of this one, by all means please do." - Near |
Reply to LSSJ_Chloe
I can definitely relate to that. It kinda bothers me that people get weirded out by same sex romantic pairings cuz they sure as hell don't complain about heterosexual romance stories. Not every same sex romance story is of the same quality and as someone who is pansexual and transgender, I can speak from experience considering I feel some same sex romance manga I feel are a bit stinky in the writing or heavily romanticized, but the same thing can be said of heterosexual romance stories. I just tend to think as much as the world is progressing there's just some people who still hold some sort of aversion to people who are gay or consume LGBT content because the community is only very slowly starting to be accepted. I feel that a romance story should be enjoyed regardless of the gender of the couple in it and I wish people could be more open minded about at least reading some of these stories as there's quite a few actually really good ones that I feel people would enjoy if they gave it a chance and went outside of their comfort zones but a lot of people are just kinda dumb and can't get past their own biases.
| @LSSJ_Gaming Absolutely agree. I also tried GL even though I'm a straight woman. I didn't like them but it was due to their story and not because it was about two women loving each other. I hate these narrow-minded people who don't try something and complain about it. It's like saying a food is horrible before even tasting it. |
"If you think you can talk your way out of this one, by all means please do." - Near |
| I like BL works, don't enjoy GL. That is it. |
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| as a closested queer from the south who actively seeks out BL/GL and the like, people having abnormally strong negative reactions to anything remotely gay is simply a common experience for me lol. what i dont get is why they feel the need to Say it, clearly, this story with lgbt themes wasnt targeted to you, so why are you throwing a fit yk?? its like if i showed up at whatever sport game i wasnt into and spent the entire time telling other people in the crowd how much this game sucks and they should be ashamed. sounds like a waste of time and energy to me, people shouting their opinions is never gonna stop stories from being written or people from existing. but theyre still gonna let you know ummmmm guys im uncomfortable with this its weeeeirdddd :((( ok the turn it off or do some self reflection lmao how bout we unpack that hm? why does the simple existence of one character mean that "the series is ruined" etc... how? this mentality so close minded and the maturety level is rock bottom. Are you unable to engage with a media that doesnt reflect your every moral alignment and opinions? sounds pretty damn boring to me. i lot of my favorite things have many themes i dont like or agree with, its not hard to engage with things critically and still appreciate them for what you do like from it, and even things you dont like, you can learn a lot from. im no stranger to internalized homophoba, being raised in a VERY conservative religious family, and taking many years to unlearn all that shit. a lot of initial jerk reactions like this people might not even realize stems from culture/societal norms instilled from a young age in people. not to say anyone has to like a genre, or be comfortable with everything, but understanding why things make you react and where thats coming from is always a good thing, helps you not become stagnated as a person. People really just need to learn that feeling grossed out or any kind of discomfort does not = this thing is disgusting and wrong. lots of people need to learn to allow themselves some discomfort in life low key, would do people wonders to learn how to not be so trigger reactive. The art of minding ones business has become a unappreciated, forgotten skill in modern day. |
| My friends irl are usually weirded out by anime in general, let alone BL/GL. I'd say, a society that is homophobic in general, of course would be weirded out by anything that reminds them of the relationships that those people regard as abnormal. No surprise there. The bottom line is, you do you, don't pay attention to the bigots. |
| I was originally gonna keep BL off my MAL but that would defeat the purpose of using this site to track them in the first place. I don’t care if online strangers know what I’ve read. Saying that, I only add certain hentai titles I particularly enjoyed. |
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Reply to JaniSIr
@Clara12 So you mean to tell me they aren't weirded out? o.O
| @JaniSIr I think it depends on a lot of things. Like do they watch anime in general, if they don't, do they know someone who does etc. There're just as many women who aren't weirded out by it as those who are. And there're also women who probably find it strange but don't care. I personally don't care if a man watches GL but then again, I watch, read and write BL, so it would be hypocritical of me doing so. |
"If you think you can talk your way out of this one, by all means please do." - Near |
| @Dapper_Dhampir14 I was about to suggest you try watching Wotaku ni Koi wa Muzukashii because it also deals with this topic you asked about but I saw on your profile that you've already seen it. So, yeah, basically there're like-minded people and there're open-minded people who accept you without making you feel bad for liking something they don't. And then there're those you mentioned. It's hard to avoid them because they always feel the need to inform you of what they don't like about your interests instead of moving on and letting you be the way you are. |
"If you think you can talk your way out of this one, by all means please do." - Near |
| Unless people got weirded out by gay porn (or any porn - for that matter), those are either homophobes or people who have no idea how this genre even is, don't even want to know, yet still comment on it. Personally, I don't want to interact with either of them so I'm glad if trash takes itself out :D And, of course, it is not weird to like BL/GL. It's not weird to like any genre, not even Hentai. There are a few titles I've read/seen where simply don't understand how people enjoy it (even popular ones!). I could also imagine being weirded out by someone liking an anime/manga that features problematic stuff (for example Pedophilia) and treats it as if it's normal and ok to be like this. But I've never seen a show that actually went that far. A few close ones though (The Maid I recently hired is suspicious, for example) Oh, and I also enjoy generally BL/GL more than straight romance. BL has no girls so I don't feel pressured to be like them (plus boys' gay panic is hillarious ^^) and GL has two girls, so I have an easier time relating to both of them. Yuri is my Job is a good example for that. Though in the end I have some favorites in any form of romance. And I've seen bad ones in all of them too. |
Reply to Petronel0
@SleepingAyumu I'd like to disagree with you. I don't know if im wierd or other people are wierd but if I see just a non sexual BL manga or manhwa thumbnail I get very disgusted of the idea of seeing guys making out. Going on dates or just being romantic with each other. I couldn't imagine why would someone read Bl if they weren't into it. I could close my eyes if someone said ,,I read one chapter of a BL'' I'd probably imagine that they just wanted to see but if you are actually in any kind of bond with that comic showing clearly men going out I'm sure you have to be gay or bi for that to happen.
| @Petronel0 That's not exactly weird, no. However, that doesn't mean it isn't homophobic. |
| If you reply back to me and I never respond, I lost interest and don't care. Sorry about that. |
Dapper_Dhampir14 said: Ignore those people. There's nothing wrong in liking different genres. You watch anime for your own entertainment, not for others. Ever since I added BL to my list the other day, some people were a bit weirded out that I like that kind of stuff |
Reply to Petronel0
@SleepingAyumu I'd like to disagree with you. I don't know if im wierd or other people are wierd but if I see just a non sexual BL manga or manhwa thumbnail I get very disgusted of the idea of seeing guys making out. Going on dates or just being romantic with each other. I couldn't imagine why would someone read Bl if they weren't into it. I could close my eyes if someone said ,,I read one chapter of a BL'' I'd probably imagine that they just wanted to see but if you are actually in any kind of bond with that comic showing clearly men going out I'm sure you have to be gay or bi for that to happen.
| @Petronel0 Then by your logic, if someone is into watching anime where siblings are making out, they're secretly into their sister/brother, or if they don't have one, they wish to have one to make out with. I could also ask the same question why would anyone be interested in watching or reading stories depicting such a relationship but I won't because I don't care. |
"If you think you can talk your way out of this one, by all means please do." - Near |
Reply to Mazoy
I expected the MAL userbase a little bit more open to homoerotic attraction, especially when it comes wrapped in their beloved type of media. So here are my two scenarios of what I hope really happened:
- OP got feedback from outside the community by sharing their MAL to someone who has been socialized a different way, maybe because of their age and/or is really deep in some religious community who preach the 'homogay is the devil' each Sunday
- OP actually got feedback from MAL-users, but they were not shocked by BL/yaoi, but instead realized that OP added an omegaverse hentai and hasn't yet finished it and wanted to discreetly make sure they are aware of what they're getting themselves into
- OP got feedback from outside the community by sharing their MAL to someone who has been socialized a different way, maybe because of their age and/or is really deep in some religious community who preach the 'homogay is the devil' each Sunday
- OP actually got feedback from MAL-users, but they were not shocked by BL/yaoi, but instead realized that OP added an omegaverse hentai and hasn't yet finished it and wanted to discreetly make sure they are aware of what they're getting themselves into
| @Mazoy Some anime fans are more open minded in that regard, but plenty are just homophobes as well. |
| If you reply back to me and I never respond, I lost interest and don't care. Sorry about that. |
Reply to Adnash
Dapper_Dhampir14 said:
Ever since I added BL to my list the other day, some people were a bit weirded out that I like that kind of stuff
Ignore those people. There's nothing wrong in liking different genres. You watch anime for your own entertainment, not for others. Ever since I added BL to my list the other day, some people were a bit weirded out that I like that kind of stuff
| @Adnash I second that. There should be more people who think this way. |
"If you think you can talk your way out of this one, by all means please do." - Near |
Reply to Petronel0
@Clara12 I guess you went through my list huh... I gotta admit your right. I have a sister But I would never think of her as anything but my sister. But You can be straight and watch whatever im watching but if you read BL and clearly enjoy the men being romantic with each other I am leaning towards the conclusion that you cannot be straight and enjoy looking at depictions of what the gays do in their relationships. I really cant get over that fact I get exactly the point you are making but I just cannot apply the same logic for some unknown reason to me.
Edit: I think reading bls of gay people getting romantic with each other and liking this part as a straight dude is like Liking the black culture so you go in the hood and just start acting black saying the things they say even the N word. I think of that as the same thing because its something you just cant do you are either born white and doing things as the whites do or youre born black and do what the black do you cant enjoy being black while being white. Of course you can be white but born and raised as a black one. sort of something from both worlds. Same as being Bi if youre bi you can enjoy women and men. But you cannot be straight and like reading gay things.
Edit: I think reading bls of gay people getting romantic with each other and liking this part as a straight dude is like Liking the black culture so you go in the hood and just start acting black saying the things they say even the N word. I think of that as the same thing because its something you just cant do you are either born white and doing things as the whites do or youre born black and do what the black do you cant enjoy being black while being white. Of course you can be white but born and raised as a black one. sort of something from both worlds. Same as being Bi if youre bi you can enjoy women and men. But you cannot be straight and like reading gay things.
| @Petronel0 No, I didn't bother to do that but it's quite a common trope in anime, so it was the first thing that came to my mind when I tried to find a comparison. It might shock you but this trope even appears in anime which is not centered around it as it's not a romance anime but implies a closer relationship at least on the part of one of the siblings in the story. I also watched anime like that so I wasn't judging you, I didn't even know you like those anime. Anyway, this trope even appears in BL not only in straight romance anime. I personally don't like it, so I tend to avoid anime which has this trope in it. I suppose you meant what you wrote in general, because I'm a woman and I don't want to be a man. But I get your point and I accept that everyone has a different opinion which is fine. As long as you don't ridicule others and make them feel bad for liking something you don't. And although, I don't think every men out there watching or reading BL are gay, it's true there may be a few among them who are. But even if they're, it's their business not mine. Now that you mentioned it, if a gay or lesbian person is watching or reading a straight romance story, they're either bi or straight just because of watching it? Not that I have a problem with it, I'm just curious of this logic of who is what based on who is watching/reading what. I get what you mean and as I said before there's no problem if you can't apply the same logic as long as you don't hate on others for all of this. I mean even if some of those men watching BL are really gay, it doesn't matter at all. It's their business. I don't even get why some people feel the need to put tags on others. You watch BL, you're gay, you watch straight romance you must be straight. Because if you watch straight movies only and you're actually gay that would be a shock of the century. And I bet there're also people falling to this latter category. |
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