Has anyone ever told you in real life that "You are enough"?

nope people believe in unlimited growth potential of everyone

"You are enough" sounds kinda vague.

Enough for what?

@Zarutaku It's basically something people say when they don't need you to prove yourself to them. It's meant to give comfort.

@LenRea You are enough. Relax and enjoy your life just the way you want. You don't even need to "cherish me for an eternity". ^_^

@LoveYourEyes no i mean in real life irl

fucking nobody
i live my life thinking that im not enough and i always try to push myself too far in every single aspect of my life
and whenever i realize that i have in fact pushed the boundry further again it suddenly becomes not enough
and i will never ever pat myself on the back for my efforts
im permanently unsatsified with myself and im convinced i will never be satisfied no matter how far im able to advance in life
on top of that i treat myself like shit, if i see i am unable to keep my pace and just cant continue to push forward i will tell myself the most vile shit and berate myself for any setback
i have never ever been enough
and this shit took over my life and is causing me great deal of self-doubt, self-hatred, and it sabotages my relationships, and makes me the most insecure person ever
its like imagine im hanging out with my friends and suddenly i remember that im not enough and i become disgustingly insecure and start questioning myself "do yal even want me here? am i good enough to spend time with u? its impossible right? the truth is that u do not want me here and im ruining everything by being here" omfg i crave so so so much validation from others cuz i am simply unable to get it from within
everything is a performace to me at all times and im there to be judged by everybody around me, and each performance must be better than the next; thats kinda why i was always the class clown, i am 'the funny one' in the group, as long as i make people laugh i get a pass, but i will go home and painstakingly analyze and rate and review every single thing i said during a hang out HOLY SHIT ITS SO TIRING
my minds rapid firing negative shit - im stupid, im ugly, im annoying, im not worthy - and i gotta do everything in my power to mask that

my reality is so fucking distorted cuz the truth is that im all hot and cute and smart and funny and amibitious and talented and warm and caring and more than enough - but its oh so hard to believe that

nope people believe in unlimited growth potential of everyone

What do you mean by this?

OT: No, not really, and it's not always the best thing to hear. What if it's not true? Where do you go from there?

@DreamWindow the usual advice of "grow up" and "git gud" as though there is no limit to human potential

@deg

There's always some room for improvement. Just a matter of filtering out what is helpful and what is not.

@DreamWindow too much rat race due to capitalism and also economic growth is infinite according to a lot of economists and capitalists that fuels more rat race

@deg

Why you bringing economics into it? There's a difference between economic growth and personal growth. The latter is more what this thread is getting at, I think.

@DreamWindow because its part of socioeconomic factors you cannot completely separate society to the economy

society expects perfectionism too

Right, but let's say we live in a non-capitalist society. There would still be a multitude of reasons to improve one's standing or personal wellbeing. Do you not think so?

@DreamWindow yes but the level of perfectionism expectations can vary by culture and economic system

@deg

I suppose, though that's not necessarily a bad thing. A culture that strives for mediocrity and stagnation is sure to fall apart faster than a society that aims for gradual improvement.

@DreamWindow i support the green economy this days sustainable growth without destroying the environment too plus it focuses on inclusive growth

My ex told me that, but only because she was trying to reassure me after cheating on me with two of her friends.

@LoveLikeBlood Those friends were male or female?

@Zarutaku

One was male and another was female. She's bi.

@LoveLikeBlood So the other guy got the threesome, that hits hard ngl.
What would you have done if it was just another female? Also break up or turned on with hope that you could become the lucky guy?