Do you think internet dating is good?
| Internet dating can be a little dangerous, however i do believe its a good thing, i probably wouldnt try it |
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| I wouldn't do it. I need the physical contact. If it works for some people then great, but I can't imagine a relationship without the physical intimacy. This intimacy is important. It what makes it different than other relationships. |
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| I would probably not do it. would feel like more of a loser than I already am. |
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TheBrainintheJar said: I wouldn't do it. I need the physical contact. If it works for some people then great, but I can't imagine a relationship without the physical intimacy. This intimacy is important. It what makes it different than other relationships. If you think it's physical intimacy that makes a romantic relationship different from a "regular one", something tells me you've probably never been in love before. Anyhow, to answer the OP: Online dating isn't that much different from "regular" dating. Anyone that thinks it's "pathetic" or some such are quite frankly narrow-minded, and limiting their own options ("I MUST fall in love with someone I've met in real life!! There is no other option!!") As long as you possess the average number of brain cells and use common sense, there's no reason why it can't work out. If it doesn't, too bad; believe or not, but the more "old fashioned" form of dating and relationships have about the same failure rate as "online dating". If you're worried about what people might think of you over meeting someone online, you're almost definitely not mature enough for a serious relationship yet anyway. |
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SnugglyWhuggly said: TheBrainintheJar said: I wouldn't do it. I need the physical contact. If it works for some people then great, but I can't imagine a relationship without the physical intimacy. This intimacy is important. It what makes it different than other relationships. If you think it's physical intimacy that makes a romantic relationship different from a "regular one", something tells me you've probably never been in love before. Anyhow, to answer the OP: Online dating isn't that much different from "regular" dating. Anyone that thinks it's "pathetic" or some such are quite frankly narrow-minded, and limiting their own options ("I MUST fall in love with someone I've met in real life!! There is no other option!!") As long as you possess the average number of brain cells and use common sense, there's no reason why it can't work out. If it doesn't, too bad; believe or not, but the more "old fashioned" form of dating and relationships have about the same failure rate as "online dating". If you're worried about what people might think of you over meeting someone online, you're almost definitely not mature enough for a serious relationship yet anyway. Well, no one has yet to define love as something other than "the only person you have sex with". So far, it seems it's necessary. |
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Let's do this sweede. Doesn't work for what? What would be the supposed criteria to make it work assuming it did? |
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| Online dating is for weak human beings without enough balls who can't even go tell a person they have interest in that they like them. The lack of confidence is real, anyway MAL is a dating site for Australians. |
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| Like all relationships, it does require investment. Online relationships require even more so especially if they are over incredibly long distances (i.e. different country/continent/planet/etc). I'm fine with people who date online so long as they are both happy and willing to commit, which can be hard due to the lack of physical proximity, as things can be done "behind the partners back" without them even knowing. So they are super risky and fragile but if the couple can pull through (which does happen, not often though), then maybe great things can come from it. It isn't easy though. |
SolosFeb 11, 2016 8:59 AM
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TheBrainintheJar said: Well, no one has yet to define love as something other than "the only person you have sex with". So far, it seems it's necessary. Bullshit, plenty of people throughout literally centuries of human's time on this planet have defined their own feelings and thoughts towards what "love" is. A lot of them interlink and mostly come to the same conclusion on the feeling. If you think "love" is simply "two people exclusively having sex with each other", you might as well be a child that's just heard about how babies are made when a mummy and a daddy "really really love each other". Sorry to be harsh, but come on, this stuff is basic; you don't have to be in love with another person to have sex with them. |
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Andomarn said: MrHawkeye said: Let's do this sweede. Doesn't work for what? What would be the supposed criteria to make it work assuming it did? It's not even dating anymore when it's online. Might as well call it Online Interaction with Unnecessary Trust. What, you're going to go on dates browing the internet? Eat dinner at a high-class restaurant on Penguin Club? "dating" Why not? Define what dating is, don't want to get into pointless semantics. Assuming it's ''Spending time together'' I fail to see how that cannot be done on the internet. If your goal is to be intimate then of course it is doomed to fail, however it is possible that people who wish to internet date don't consider meeting up as their goal at all, and are content with the lack of intimacy. Before the internet you had pen pals, and before a good postal service you had a poet and his lovely muse - this is a special relationship when you consider that the muse never really interacts romantically with the poet, while the poet sinks into unfulfilled love which in his eyes is more satisfying than the standard definition of ''dating'' |
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SnugglyWhuggly said: TheBrainintheJar said: Well, no one has yet to define love as something other than "the only person you have sex with". So far, it seems it's necessary. Bullshit, plenty of people throughout literally centuries of human's time on this planet have defined their own feelings and thoughts towards what "love" is. A lot of them interlink and mostly come to the same conclusion on the feeling. If you think "love" is simply "two people exclusively having sex with each other", you might as well be a child that's just heard about how babies are made when a mummy and a daddy "really really love each other". Sorry to be harsh, but come on, this stuff is basic; you don't have to be in love with another person to have sex with them. Then what is love, then? What's the definition? How can I take it seriously unless I have a definition? What separates romantic relationship from friendship? |
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TheBrainintheJar said: Then what is love, then? What's the definition? How can I take it seriously unless I have a definition? What separates romantic relationship from friendship? You can find definitions on Google, you know that, right? http://lmgtfy.com/?q=Definiton+of+love |
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| Of course dating on the internet can be dangerous, anything can be. I'm sure for some people dating on the internet/online can be good. Also for many it can be a bad experience. Given a number of circumstances, I guess I'd date someone online (I have before)... why not? I've dated two people through the internet. They were both very different experiences. |
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SnugglyWhuggly said: TheBrainintheJar said: Then what is love, then? What's the definition? How can I take it seriously unless I have a definition? What separates romantic relationship from friendship? You can find definitions on Google, you know that, right? http://lmgtfy.com/?q=Definiton+of+love 'A deep affection for someone' is also between parent and child, friend and friend, soldier and commander, person and music album. What's the definition of romantic love? What makes it so different? |
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TheBrainintheJar said: What's the definition of romantic love? Ever stop to think there just isn't one? |
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crestofhonesty said: TheBrainintheJar said: What's the definition of romantic love? Ever stop to think there just isn't one? Then there are no romantic relationship. It's a meaningless distinction and I cannot be in a relationship, because of the nature of romance. |
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TheBrainintheJar said: Then there are no romantic relationship. It's a meaningless distinction and I cannot be in a relationship, because of the nature of romance. There's no distinct definition for why or how we exist either. I guess that also means we don't exist. |
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| Wonder how long it'll last without the physical benefits. |
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| Personally, I wouldn't date someone online. No matter how you guys label each other, it doesn't change the fact that the relationship is empty, no substance. At the very least, I would want to hug/be hugged by the person that I like. |
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SnugglyWhuggly said: TheBrainintheJar said: Then there are no romantic relationship. It's a meaningless distinction and I cannot be in a relationship, because of the nature of romance. There's no distinct definition for why or how we exist either. I guess that also means we don't exist. There are far more convincing theories of 'how we exist' than definitions for romantic love. At least people attempted to define existence. |
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TheBrainintheJar said: SnugglyWhuggly said: There's no distinct definition for why or how we exist either. I guess that also means we don't exist. There are far more convincing theories of 'how we exist' than definitions for romantic love. At least people attempted to define existence. You need to drop this mindset of being oh so "logical" and "rational" for everything. Sure, it can definitely help you, and I think it's a good idea to keep your feet firmly planted on the ground, but just make sure you aren't so planted that your feet start growing roots and embedding themselves in the Earth. Not everything can be explained in simple textbook snippets that everyone can easily understand. The world isn't so clear cut and basic, and if you fail to realise that, you probably aren't quite as "logical" as you might like to think. As I said previously, it doesn't seem like you've ever been in love before. Once you do fall in love, you won't be grasping for straws any more since you'll already have first hand experience of how it "feels". Until then, stop worrying about so much about what love (or romantic relationships) "is" or "isn't". There's plenty of things in life you can't know the answers to unless you experience them yourself. |
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SnugglyWhuggly said: TheBrainintheJar said: There are far more convincing theories of 'how we exist' than definitions for romantic love. At least people attempted to define existence. You need to drop this mindset of being oh so "logical" and "rational" for everything. Sure, it can definitely help you, and I think it's a good idea to keep your feet firmly planted on the ground, but just make sure you aren't so planted that your feet start growing roots and embedding themselves in the Earth. Not everything can be explained in simple textbook snippets that everyone can easily understand. The world isn't so clear cut and basic, and if you fail to realise that, you probably aren't quite as "logical" as you might like to think. As I said previously, it doesn't seem like you've ever been in love before. Once you do fall in love, you won't be grasping for straws any more since you'll already have first hand experience of how it "feels". Until then, stop worrying about so much about what love (or romantic relationships) "is" or "isn't". There's plenty of things in life you can't know the answers to unless you experience them yourself. But how do I know if I feel it, if I don't know what it is? I know I can't have all the answers and will never have. I don't ask for the definitive answer. I just want some model I can work with, some direction. |
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TheBrainintheJar said: But how do I know if I feel it, if I don't know what it is? I know I can't have all the answers and will never have. I don't ask for the definitive answer. I just want some model I can work with, some direction. How did you know when you felt hungry for the first time, if no one explained to you prior what feeling hungry "is"? When you feel it, you'll know what it is. You don't need everything explained to you, that's what human intuition is for. |
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