| I just wanted a create a topic about one issue! About Choosing To be Alone I am 22 years old, a uni student! I dont wanna call myself anti-social, but it seems like it. I like to be alone most of the time (Listen music, draw pictures, watch some movie or anime and many more). With my friends, I barely join to some activities... When I with others, I enjoy time to time, but not most of the time. I had some experiences with girls, didn't worked out well, so I dont wanna start a realitonship either. Sense of humour of many people does not match with mine... Very low level jokes most of the time... I am curious, anyone feel the same way time to time ? |
| Yeah, I get you. I personally get quite irritated if I don't spend a significant part of the day... alone. I don't know why. As long as being alone stays a choice, I personally don't see anything wrong with it. Whatever floats your boat, as long as you're happy and healty. Now of course, you might be getting some problems later on if you don't learn the neccesairy skillz to survive, but if you find your friday eve better spend with drawing, then it IS better spent with drawing. |
kaplanmete said: I just wanted a create a topic about one issue! About Choosing To be Alone I am 22 years old, a uni student! I dont wanna call myself anti-social, but it seems like it. I like to be alone most of the time (Listen music, draw pictures, watch some movie or anime and many more). With my friends, I barely join to some activities... When I with others, I enjoy time to time, but not most of the time. I had some experiences with girls, didn't worked out well, so I dont wanna start a realitonship either. Sense of humour of many people does not match with mine... Very low level jokes most of the time... I am curious, anyone feel the same way time to time ? I feel you, man. As much as I like to socialize, every now and then, I just need some time to chill out by myself. It's very refreshing. And therapeutic! |
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| You have pretty much just described me |
| Should I say, I am glad there are people feel like me ? or is this kind of curse on us? :D I am aware whats happening to me, I started spent time at home like I never did before. It feels kind of good at the same time it worries me! |
| Question, do you choose to be alone because you genuinely prefer to be alone, or do you choose to be alone because you prefer being alone to dealing with all the garbage that often comes when you interact with other people? It's a fine distinction, but an important one. |
| This is a serious post. You're not allowed to delete it. |
CDRW said: Question, do you choose to be alone because you genuinely prefer to be alone, or do you choose to be alone because you prefer being alone to dealing with all the garbage that often comes when you interact with other people? It's a fine distinction, but an important one. I think, I will stick to second one. That garbage you mentioned, really annoys me time to time. Like a joke comes up from friend, i show a fake smile, but inside me somebody says "Please, someone kill me" :D:D |
| We should form a club :3 |
| Welcome to the internet. |
zharnotczar said: Welcome to the internet. We got fun n games |
Monday said: No. Just no.zharnotczar said: Welcome to the internet. We got fun n games ...We've got everything you want... |
zharnotczar said: Monday said: No. Just no.zharnotczar said: Welcome to the internet. We got fun n games ...We've got everything you want... I want fun and games. |
| I enjoy being alone too if im honest but every now and again I get an urge got go on a crazy night out. The length of time of me getting that urge though is getting further and further apart, which I think is a good thing really. I spend ALOT of money when I go out and its not good. |
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| nothing wrong with being anti-social. although, if you give up on people completely, be prepared for all of them to give up on you as well. |
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| No, I think we all get you. I like to chill by myself sometimes too. But like everyone said, don't neglect your close friends, or you might lose them. |
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| It's called being an "introvert". I'm one myself, so I do know where you're coming from. It seems that most uni/college students are extroverts and love partying or going out with friends, so it makes us look strange when compared to them. There's nothing wrong with being the way you are, as long as you're happy. I'm at my happiest when I'm at home in my PJs, watching my anime. |
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| My free time is 95% spent alone. You're normal. I pretty much sit in my room or sometimes outside, listen to music, think, and that's it. I guess forums, games, and anime, and playing musical instruments is a distraction from that lifestyle. Anything to get out of this prison of myself and my mind. In any case, there's no way you are worse than me. Funny thing is I don't get lonely. After all, hanging out is draining, phone calls get annoying, IM...is really boring, and even Internet forums are just a fickle and trite exercise. |
| I'm the same way. I like going out and hanging with friends from time to time, but I also get sick of it pretty quickly as well. It doesn't help that my friends aren't into the same things as me, so, I have started to wonder if it's less to do with not being sociable and more to do with not having friends that I genuinely enjoy chilling out with. I'd love to have friends who could come round to my place and watch some TV, maybe play a few games and have a beer. But my friends find that boring; they want to go out and spend money at bars and restaurants or go to night clubs. Feh... This is one of those things that really makes me wish I was a guy, actually, as silent stoic guys are at least mysterious. Silent girls just get misinterpreted as bitchy or stuck-up, hah. |
| Yeah, same here. I basically dropped all contact with friends over the last few years. I'm at work during the day sitting quietly at my desk and then in my room at home the rest of the time. It's not that I hate people, I just get nervous around them and I am a boring, bad person, so I don't subject others to my presence. XD Also, my favorite things; anime, music, movies, video games, etc., I like to do alone anyways. It suits me. 99% of the time the fact that I don't really know anyone never bothers me in the least. It's the 1% that I am still trying to ditch. >:[ |
GoodEnoughForMe said: Leave the internet behind and your 1% will be gone.Yeah, same here. I basically dropped all contact with friends over the last few years. I'm at work during the day sitting quietly at my desk and then in my room at home the rest of the time. It's not that I hate people, I just get nervous around them and I am a boring, bad person, so I don't subject others to my presence. XD Also, my favorite things; anime, music, movies, video games, etc., I like to do alone anyways. It suits me. 99% of the time the fact that I don't really know anyone never bothers me in the least. It's the 1% that I am still trying to ditch. >:[ |
zharnotczar said: Leave the internet behind and your 1% will be gone. I've thought about it, but I am so addicted to it that I can't lol. |
| It really depends. Technically, I'm not alone when I'm here with you guys, chatting over the web. Would I like to be on my PS3 by myself for days? No, I wouldn't want to do that. Go onto MAL and talk to you guys? Sure, I'd do that. I guess I'm social, but not in person. Funny thing is, I live with my parents (I'm only 14, damn, I would like my own house e though. But, taxes and all...) And they think I'm dead becuase I never leave teh basement or even see them. They sometimes think I ran away. They even call the police, saying I disappeared (which isn't to far from the truth: I just fell asleep in tall grasses.0 |
RyoginJun 1, 2010 7:08 PM
| "Life...It's the most difficult videogame I've ever played, with the most advanced enemy AI, too many events and quests constantly updated, and for over 16 years so far, i haven't found any save point D: I have yet to beat this game. I've looked up for some cheat codes, but most of them involve finding some kind of herbal items, and none of them really maxes out stats or gives invincibility." |
| Absolutely. I like to be alone 24/7. |
| There should be a new word other than anti-social or alone or something to describe people who isn't into being with others in real life but participate on Internet networks all the time. Maybe there is, and my mnemonic vocab sucks balls atm. |
Tachii said: There should be a new word other than anti-social or alone or something to describe people who isn't into being with others in real life but participate on Internet networks all the time. Maybe there is, and my mnemonic vocab sucks balls atm. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Loner? Also what you said pretty much describes me. |
GogettersJun 1, 2010 10:16 PM
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| Am I the only one who thinks being a loner is cool? Oh, but I've also been turning into a blabberbox lately, as sad as that is... People tend to naturally talk to me, that is, I have zero trouble starting conversations. I think anyone can be as introverted or extroverted as they like, it's all part of the human possibilities. You are the one who defines the "you". If you're a loner, it's because you like it better this way. |
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| Thank you anyone who show some concern on the topic! But, think real life communication is part of human nature, this part worries me the most Recently, I have been asked out! Quickly I refused. My ultimate imagination show me big picture. Like; 'Lets think about this, if I accept, i will have go out reguarly, do many stuff that I dont wanna do, try to break up is a pain in the ass, blah blah blah...' I would want to a nice girlfriend, but at the same time i would like to have my own time as well. Damn, Life is to confusing :( |
| That's me as well. When I'm with people I feel sick - really sick. I spend my days on my computer, watching anime and listening to music. I feel much much happier this way. And I haven't had contact with friends for over a year now and I'm on cloud nine. Less trouble for me I guess. |
| I can't say I don't like being with people at all, but I definitely need my alone time. If I don't get at least an hour by myself a day I start getting really irritated. So I can, at least to some effect, understand your feelings. |
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kaplanmete said: Thank you anyone who show some concern on the topic! But, think real life communication is part of human nature, this part worries me the most Recently, I have been asked out! Quickly I refused. My ultimate imagination show me big picture. Like; 'Lets think about this, if I accept, i will have go out reguarly, do many stuff that I dont wanna do, try to break up is a pain in the ass, blah blah blah...' I would want to a nice girlfriend, but at the same time i would like to have my own time as well. Damn, Life is to confusing :( Well, unless you really like her or are okay with a casual gf, what's the point. But yeah, human face to face contact is important. I would be in bad shape without it. School, work, organizations compensate if one is a loner. I have a lot of face to face contact from such venues. Join an interest group, or something. It only takes a little contact for some of us to feel contented on the interaction part. If I had better ways to get around and places to go, I'd probably be more social. But still, I think this is a contented life. |
Gogetters said: lol, that's just the noun for being alone. Social interactions nowadays however include communication on the Internet, so the word is kind of obsolete in our current society.Tachii said: There should be a new word other than anti-social or alone or something to describe people who isn't into being with others in real life but participate on Internet networks all the time. Maybe there is, and my mnemonic vocab sucks balls atm. [url=http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Loner]http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Loner? Also what you said pretty much describes me. I guess physical solitude is a better term for it, meh. |
TachiiJun 2, 2010 10:59 AM
| I think "asocial" is the correct term for people like us, not "antisocial" which is actually more like a pathological mindset where you actively do stuff that might be criminal like vandalism. |
| You are using anti-social wrong. But anyway, I'm not really like that though I do have my moments. A lot of them acutually, where I like to be alone. |
| <!--link--><a href="http://myanimelist.net/animelist/angelfire892&sclick=1"> Being sane is over rated :) |
| Being surrounded by people all the time in the week, I usually spend my weekends to calm down and I like to be alone then. I think it's normal that you feel like being alone for sometime but don't completely turn your back to people because they will as well~~ |
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| There isn't anything wrong with you (topic poster), it's just your personality. Some people like to be social, while others prefer the solitary life. I for one, am somewhere in the middle I would say, so I can see it from both sides. No one should ever be permanently alone though, personality or not, you would go crazy if you did. Man hungers for companionship, even if he doesn't think so. |
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| I've always been tagged as antisocial by people just because I find no fun in stuff like getting wasted with a bunch of unknown people only to find myself vomiting somewhere in the middle of nowhere, trying to figure out wtf happened last night. I like taking walks, nobody wants to go with me, I like lying in the grass and staring at the sky, people find it boring. I like talking face to face about many things, but when I say i think that watching sports is boring and that I don't give a fuck about that hole on my sleeve as long as my shirt's comfortable or that I don't really care about my hair being messed up as long as it's clean, they tag me a weirdo and decide not to hang out with me(except a few, okay). I don't intend to change in order to conform with the majority. Does that mean I've chosen to be a loner? I don't think so :) Don't take the perspective of the majority on this subject, if people don't accept you because you won't change, it's not your choice, they're at fault. |
| God sure is cruel, sometimes he makes you live. Gather some leaves of Japanese. |
| I love being alone! I get to do the things that I want and I dont have to concern about others. I play sports so i'm still having social contact twice a week with my team, and I have 1 best friend and a couple friends that ive became friends with cause there my best friend friends (still get itXD) But they dont mean that much to me. And my best friends irritates me most of the time with her bullshit about her relationship with her mother, so I only hang out with her when i'm very lonely and need some around me. |
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TokoyamiSenshi said: I've always been tagged as antisocial by people just because I find no fun in stuff like getting wasted with a bunch of unknown people only to find myself vomiting somewhere in the middle of nowhere, trying to figure out wtf happened last night. I like taking walks, nobody wants to go with me, I like lying in the grass and staring at the sky, people find it boring. I like talking face to face about many things, but when I say i think that watching sports is boring and that I don't give a fuck about that hole on my sleeve as long as my shirt's comfortable or that I don't really care about my hair being messed up as long as it's clean, they tag me a weirdo and decide not to hang out with me(except a few, okay). I don't intend to change in order to conform with the majority. Does that mean I've chosen to be a loner? I don't think so :) Don't take the perspective of the majority on this subject, if people don't accept you because you won't change, it's not your choice, they're at fault. I do not know who you are, but you are %100 same with me. I put my music, I walk 2-3 hours to somewhere that I have no idea. I take photo of most uncommon things, if I am near by sea, i go there and watch it and feel the wind on my face. I feel totally free, when I do these things, because I REALLY like doing these stuff. Being friends is fine too, but not enough for me... |
| By being "anti-social" won't make you into good manager and it won't bring any benefits in proper society, I do not know how it goes with renegades, probably by being anti social is "cool" to them. :) Being social could bring money and get job. Being social obviously brings more benefits rather than being anti-social (such as being rude and so on). By saying you are social, does not mean that you are quiet, but that you know how to behave in community and in society. Like me, I barely talk with people, because I have noticed, that most of conflicts starts with misunderstanding and by talking. Just remember some mistakes, you have done in past, and what would probably if you were silent. But I talk if it is worth talking, and if I have something worth saying. It is just that you have to learn, how to recognize when it is suitable to talk, and when it is not, but in my opinion, best is to remain silent most of the time. |
| The Tao that can be told is not the eternal Tao. The name that can be named is not the eternal name. The nameless is the beginning of heaven and Earth. The named is the mother of the ten thousand things. I do not recall, Jesus ever saying "build churches, temples, and kill those who doesn't follow christianity..." nor he said "christianity is religion". News for VN immigrants in EU: vietinfo.eu |
| Don't go that way. Being antisocial does not in any way connect with being rude to others. Being rude is... well, being rude. On the contrary, people without barriers towards others are more likely to act like idiots than those who choose to distance themselves or those who are being distanced forcefully. As for finding a job etc. who gives a fuck about money if what you're doing makes you unhappy. And finally, the amount of talking done is irrelevant, it's the content that counts. |
| God sure is cruel, sometimes he makes you live. Gather some leaves of Japanese. |
TokoyamiSenshi said: Don't go that way. Being antisocial does not in any way connect with being rude to others. Being rude is... well, being rude. On the contrary, people without barriers towards others are more likely to act like idiots than those who choose to distance themselves or those who are being distanced forcefully. As for finding a job etc. who gives a fuck about money if what you're doing makes you unhappy. And finally, the amount of talking done is irrelevant, it's the content that counts. Term of being anti-social is behaviour that lacks consideration for others and that may cause damage to society. So your statement about rudeness is untrue, actually, your whole post cannot be taken seriously. And who cares about money, not me, but there are a lot of people who does. Money is just artificial material to me, not a thing made by nature. |
spupapiJun 2, 2010 12:34 PM
| The Tao that can be told is not the eternal Tao. The name that can be named is not the eternal name. The nameless is the beginning of heaven and Earth. The named is the mother of the ten thousand things. I do not recall, Jesus ever saying "build churches, temples, and kill those who doesn't follow christianity..." nor he said "christianity is religion". News for VN immigrants in EU: vietinfo.eu |
spupapi said: TokoyamiSenshi said: Term of being anti-social is behaviour that lacks consideration for others and that may cause damage to society. So your statement about rudeness is untrue, actually, your whole post cannot be taken seriously. And who cares about money, not me, but there are a lot of people who does. Money is just artificial material to me, not a thing made by nature.Don't go that way. Being antisocial does not in any way connect with being rude to others. Being rude is... well, being rude. On the contrary, people without barriers towards others are more likely to act like idiots than those who choose to distance themselves or those who are being distanced forcefully. As for finding a job etc. who gives a fuck about money if what you're doing makes you unhappy. And finally, the amount of talking done is irrelevant, it's the content that counts. |
| Sig deleted for being obnoxious. |
| @spupapi Partly, you are right. Being social and active can bring the money, job, benefit. But the question is; do these job, money and benefit bring the happiness? For some people answers is yes! For me a basic mp3 player and headphones, a pencil and empty paper is enough to relax, but for some of people not! It is not about being cool. |
kaplanmete said: @spupapi Partly, you are right. Being social and active can bring the money, job, benefit. But the question is; do these job, money and benefit bring the happiness? For some people answers is yes! For me a basic mp3 player and headphones, a pencil and empty paper is enough to relax, but for some of people not! It is not about being cool. I have never said that money brings happiness, I said that being social brings benefits, such as getting job. Everything I said is true and right. Whatever money brings happiness or not, that I don't specify, because it is too concrete to say. And notice me saying "could bring", so what I said is pretty much abstract. And some delinquents like being anti-social in order to represents them, that they belong to some kind of party, so maybe they think it is cool to be anti-social. And money does bring happiness, in same time it doess bring sadness. The more you love, the same ammount of sorrow you will receive. That is why, that material values will have never same great value as the spiritual one. |
spupapiJun 2, 2010 1:03 PM
| The Tao that can be told is not the eternal Tao. The name that can be named is not the eternal name. The nameless is the beginning of heaven and Earth. The named is the mother of the ten thousand things. I do not recall, Jesus ever saying "build churches, temples, and kill those who doesn't follow christianity..." nor he said "christianity is religion". News for VN immigrants in EU: vietinfo.eu |
kaplanmete said: I just wanted a create a topic about one issue! About Choosing To be Alone I am 22 years old, a uni student! I dont wanna call myself anti-social, but it seems like it. I like to be alone most of the time (Listen music, draw pictures, watch some movie or anime and many more). With my friends, I barely join to some activities... When I with others, I enjoy time to time, but not most of the time. I had some experiences with girls, didn't worked out well, so I dont wanna start a realitonship either. Sense of humour of many people does not match with mine... Very low level jokes most of the time... I am curious, anyone feel the same way time to time ? Lol the last three years or so. there's nothing wrong with being alone, though, you can learn a lot about yourself when there's no-one to influence you |
| And I never said that you said that money brings happiness :D I just asked a question like I am going to ask again; Why being soical is better than anti-social ?. What if I do not want those benefits! (And for the record I never said I am anti-social (used the term "seem like")l :D:D, I am a social enough person, but I always find more comfort and happyness on spending time alone) |
kaplanmete said: I just asked a question like I am going to ask again; Why being soical is better than anti-social ?. What if I do not want those benefits! (And for the record I never said I am anti-social (used the term "seem like")l :D:D, I am a social enough person, but I always find more comfort and happyness on spending time alone) You have asked me "But the question is; do these job, money and benefit bring the happiness?", so I have answered you "money does bring happiness, in same time it doess bring sadness. The more you love, the same ammount of sorrow you will receive. That is why, that material values will have never same great value as the spiritual one." So what do you mean by "ask again...", well anyway if you read what I wrote, what is term of being social, then you wouldn't ask this right? "Anti-social is behaviour that lacks consideration for others and that may cause damage to society, whether intentionally or through negligence, as opposed to pro-social behaviour, behaviour that helps or benefits societyIn common parlance antisocial is often used to describe those perceived to be excessively introverted, an incorrect though increasingly common usage." -Wikipedia And you ask me, why is being social better than being anti-social? Even children does know the answer. As you can see, you can be introvert, and untalkative yet in same time you can be person who is sociable. You have probably misunderstood the term anti-social. |
spupapiJun 2, 2010 1:39 PM
| The Tao that can be told is not the eternal Tao. The name that can be named is not the eternal name. The nameless is the beginning of heaven and Earth. The named is the mother of the ten thousand things. I do not recall, Jesus ever saying "build churches, temples, and kill those who doesn't follow christianity..." nor he said "christianity is religion". News for VN immigrants in EU: vietinfo.eu |
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