Are you comfortable with dancing with someone?

Wow, @Deathko made a thread! I have a strong tendency to dance all by myself at home whenever I listen to music, but dancing with others isn't really my thing ...unless I'm drunk! Then I'll be completely comfortable dancing with complete strangers.

@fleurbleue I really love dancing all by myself, and I don't mind dancing around others... It's the whole one-on-one dancing thing that puzzles me and makes me uncomfortable. I tend to agree with Numbers, it just feels like a weird mating ritual that should not happen in public 😳

Also, I rarely make threads, but when I do, it's usually in AD UwU

@Zettaiken Show me a one-on-one dance that isn't sexual. Like, you mentionned tango. Tango has to be one of the most sexual dances ever. In your living room with your partner, sure; but in public with someone else's partner? Big yikes. Might as well strip and make out on the table.

Folk dances where a bunch of people gather in a circle are fine, and so is solo dancing like headbanging/fistpumping like crazy at a metal show/rave party

@149597871 @Deathko

Oh, come on - if you take it that far, you might as well say swimsuits and bikinis should only be worn at home, with the curtains drawn, haha.

The fact that you might see a sexual undertone in something doesn't mean it's actually there.

First of all, dancing is just fun. It's physical entertainment - a way to shake off some calories and have a laugh after a heavy meal and a long gathering, to take a break from all the endless blah-blah-blah.

Second, it's not automatically sexual. I can dance with family members or with my friends' wives and girlfriends without having the slightest urge to sleep with them. That's normal, chill.

Third, sure - sometimes dancing is sexual. But what's wrong with that? It gives you a structured, respectful way to add a bit of physicality to an interaction without being intrusive or pushy. It has got all the things people say they want: etiquette, consent, room to maneuver and the option to step back. Fucking feminist's dream, lol.

I honestly don't get why so many people who daydream about "just wanting to touch a woman" avoid dancing. It's so much less cringe to move things to a slightly more physical level through dance than to grope someone at a bar and end up in an awkward scene.

With dance, you can do it all - show confidence, lead smoothly, keep a respectful distance, show care, give freedom, and still set the pace. At the same time, your partner keeps full control over her personal space and choice. If she enjoys to squeeze your muscular shoulders a little harder - well, that means the dance was a success.

It's a really elegant system that evolved culturally to balance freedom and respect. If you want to move from small talk to something physical, dance is one of the most graceful and respectful ways to do it, that's it.

And as for the stuff about drunken groping on the dance floor in front of her husband - come on, that's not about dancing at all. That's just about how low your social standards are in that situation. But I'm not judging ofc, haha.