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May 14, 2021 10:38 PM
#1
Well me personally i'm a very perceptive person and i can easily notice things others may miss and my memory out of everyone in my group of friends is honestly the best they've seen. But enough about thyself. So todays question of the day is can you easily tell if someone has a crush on your or is just being friendly as admittedly both are easily muddled. Yeah i did got called cute one time by one of my friends for relating to best girl xion in kh and also one girl called me a softie and a sweetheart despite the infamous edgelord persona i have around here lol. Flirting online is probably more difficult than offline since well like sarcasm, you can't really tell if its really is sarcasm or not. You can't help but wonder as well if one of your own friends despite the age gap has a crush on you as well too. So the question of the day is can you tell if someone having a crush on you? |
May 14, 2021 10:43 PM
#2
I think I was able to tell once before but she made it insanely obvious so I can't answer the question with certainty. I want to imagine that I can though |
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May 14, 2021 10:46 PM
#3
I have never been good at deciphering whether or not a girl likes me in a romantic way or if she is just being friendly. They need to tell me explicitly for me to understand. My best friend at school said I missed out on a lot of opportunities with girls. But that was okay because I also mad the first move on a lot of girls and got some success. There was a girl at my university that always used to say stuff to me like, “See, this is why I could never date you.” Turns out she said that because she wanted to date me lol. No wonder she was always saying we should get lunch together and do our coursework together. Another girl from the same university confessed her feelings to me after I moved out of her place. You read that right. I moved in with her and her super hot 10/10 introverted sister for a year or so. But she didn’t want to make things awkward between us so she waited for me to move out before confessing. I had no idea that she invited me to move in with her after an argument I had with my mother because she was romantically interested in me. |
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May 14, 2021 10:48 PM
#4
No actually, it's sort of a problem with the genders in today's society I'm afraid. It's always very subtle signals between women and men. However, as someone is bisexual, has been apart of gay spaces, it's much easier to know if someone of the same sex likes you. Especially if they know that you swing that way. So it really is a cultural difference, in my opinion at least. |
May 14, 2021 10:53 PM
#5
No. I used to hang out with this girl a lot in HS, like A LOT. I never thought too much about it, recently found out she and her bf are hanging out and they're super cool (I know the guy, really nice person). I told her I'm happy for her, and she's like "Could've been you if you weren't so dense". That's how I found out she actually had a crush on me and even tried to ask me out, but I just completely disregarded her because I never thought she would like me that way. So no, I'm not good at telling if people have crush on me, I can tell if people dislike being around me (my self-deprecating humor is disturbing to some people) or if they get uncomfortable around me, but I can't tell feelings of affection. I run on a boolean system at this point, either friend or not friend, nothing else. I wish people could just say what they felt, I'm not smart enough to understand emotions. |
May 14, 2021 10:55 PM
#6
Sometimes, but not always. And if I do suspect them having a crush on me, I start to question my own self. "Maybe they are just being friendly", "I shouldn't think too much into it". It also always depends on the person. Am I friends with them? Close friends? Or do we just share a class together (back when I was still in school). And how good do they hide it? I guess it's not always easy. But my instincts have been right at times. |
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May 14, 2021 11:09 PM
#7
I can usually read people but I have failed to take a hint multiple times |
May 15, 2021 12:11 AM
#8
No, but I make assumptions. Even if it's obvious, I don't do anything, 'cause if my guess was wrong then..welp. |
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May 15, 2021 12:12 AM
#9
Yes. I am a "sensing" type. For me it's always obvious who has a crush on me or someone else. But I prefer to hide my stand power and play dumb coz I have enough comedy in my life and I don't want to turn it into a romcom |
dokugamineMay 15, 2021 12:19 AM
May 15, 2021 12:19 AM
#10
No I don't know how to tell if someone is crushing on me, cause I'm dense as fuck |
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May 15, 2021 12:57 AM
#11
I'm not great. But like, I have the basic sense to start to suspect it when they go out of their way to try and spend time together |
May 15, 2021 1:03 AM
#12
Nope. Been blindsided once or twice. |
May 15, 2021 4:39 AM
#13
Adults don't have crushes. We just talk to people. |
May 15, 2021 6:18 AM
#14
Judevin said: No. I used to hang out with this girl a lot in HS, like A LOT. I never thought too much about it, recently found out she and her bf are hanging out and they're super cool (I know the guy, really nice person). I told her I'm happy for her, and she's like "Could've been you if you weren't so dense". That's how I found out she actually had a crush on me and even tried to ask me out, but I just completely disregarded her because I never thought she would like me that way. So no, I'm not good at telling if people have crush on me, I can tell if people dislike being around me (my self-deprecating humor is disturbing to some people) or if they get uncomfortable around me, but I can't tell feelings of affection. I run on a boolean system at this point, either friend or not friend, nothing else. I wish people could just say what they felt, I'm not smart enough to understand emotions. Yeah i rather people be straight up instead of hiding behind something as well. |
May 15, 2021 7:22 AM
#15
I mean it's sort of obvious when their group all looks at you, one of them comes over and tries to talk with you, and then goes back to his friends and they start asking what happened all excitedly lol. |
May 15, 2021 7:27 AM
#16
Bunille said: I mean it's sort of obvious when their group all looks at you, one of them comes over and tries to talk with you, and then goes back to his friends and they start asking what happened all excitedly lol. " SQUEALLING OMG ITS HIM ITS HIM!!! STOP IT GUYS!!!" Yeah that sort of thing i can imagine lol. |
May 15, 2021 7:29 AM
#17
Flirting online through text is the easiest thing there is. You have way more time to think of an opening/reply and you can steer the conversation wherever you want because it's online - time and place are not of essence. You basically remove nearly all social etiquette. It already gets way harder when moving to voice chats, calls, video, etc. But it's still one-on-one with many of the social boundaries removed. You have so much control. And it's easy to tell if it works or not, depends on how much interest they show and how entertained they are, staleness and silence means it's over usually. Irl it's way harder as not everyone shows affection the same way, if they even do at all. Less of having to social cues to pick up on online. Easier to dig into someone. |
May 15, 2021 7:32 AM
#18
Crow_Black said: Judevin said: No. I used to hang out with this girl a lot in HS, like A LOT. I never thought too much about it, recently found out she and her bf are hanging out and they're super cool (I know the guy, really nice person). I told her I'm happy for her, and she's like "Could've been you if you weren't so dense". That's how I found out she actually had a crush on me and even tried to ask me out, but I just completely disregarded her because I never thought she would like me that way. So no, I'm not good at telling if people have crush on me, I can tell if people dislike being around me (my self-deprecating humor is disturbing to some people) or if they get uncomfortable around me, but I can't tell feelings of affection. I run on a boolean system at this point, either friend or not friend, nothing else. I wish people could just say what they felt, I'm not smart enough to understand emotions. Yeah i rather people be straight up instead of hiding behind something as well. People do most of the time. Women tell you through body language not speech. Men are often direct can be a problem. |
May 15, 2021 10:37 AM
#19
If there's anything I've learned about dating girls is that either I really suck at noticing their interest or those critters constantly change their mind and give out really misleading signals. Not only me but lots of guys have been victim of this occurrence too so the best advice I can coach the newbs is that the only sign of interest they can trust is only when a girl starts putting her hand on their crotch, which will almost never happen so the point is to just go and hit on girls instead of waiting for them and their s****y a** signs lol That being said, there are a few times when even a dense guy like me still understands what's going on due to how overtly obvious it is. For example, one girl tried to rush into the elevator I was in then stood close to me and smiled despite there being space available elsewhere, or she sat next to me and start flipping her hair so many times and with such exaggerated motion that her hair ended up hitting my damn face. Another girl loved to hit my back whenever we ran in PE, then giggled with her goons as she passed by then one time as we lined up against the wall waiting for our team's turn to play bball, she leaned her shoulder against mine and I could feel her breast touching my arm so I casually put my hand around her waist and had it stay there without her objection until we were called to go on the court, when we went to our school trip a few months prior to that event another guy tried to casually wrap his hand around her shoulder for a class picture but she dodged him and scooted next to me instead so that's how I knew for sure that she gotta be interested in yours truly. |
Futari_no_OssanMay 15, 2021 10:52 AM
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May 15, 2021 10:42 AM
#20
i don't really get social cues but i have once read that teenage girls even at quite a young age just randomly flirt with people to train their social skills. the same way that young boys brawl with each other to train their fighting skills. so even if there are cues, it doesn't necessarily mean much. maybe women can confirm or deny. |
May 15, 2021 11:09 AM
#21
People tell me I'm "flirty" even though I don't try yet alone know how to flirt consciously. It's gotten me into some uncomfortable situations. So even if I "know for certain" someone "likes" me I won't say anything, just to avoid making things awkward. |
May 15, 2021 2:05 PM
#22
Futari_no_Ossan said: If there's anything I've learned about dating girls is that either I really suck at noticing their interest or those critters constantly change their mind and give out really misleading signals. Not only me but lots of guys have been victim of this occurrence too so the best advice I can coach the newbs is that the only sign of interest they can trust is only when a girl starts putting her hand on their crotch, which will almost never happen so the point is to just go and hit on girls instead of waiting for them and their s****y a** signs lol That being said, there are a few times when even a dense guy like me still understands what's going on due to how overtly obvious it is. For example, one girl tried to rush into the elevator I was in then stood close to me and smiled despite there being space available elsewhere, or she sat next to me and start flipping her hair so many times and with such exaggerated motion that her hair ended up hitting my damn face. Another girl loved to hit my back whenever we ran in PE, then giggled with her goons as she passed by then one time as we lined up against the wall waiting for our team's turn to play bball, she leaned her shoulder against mine and I could feel her breast touching my arm so I casually put my hand around her waist and had it stay there without her objection until we were called to go on the court, when we went to our school trip a few months prior to that event another guy tried to casually wrap his hand around her shoulder for a class picture but she dodged him and scooted next to me instead so that's how I knew for sure that she gotta be interested in yours truly. You're smarter than alot of people take you for so i dunno. |
May 15, 2021 2:10 PM
#23
Sometimes I can and sometimes I'm surprised when they end up telling me they like me. If I know they about to tell me they like me I'll try to make the person know I'm not interested in a nice way so I don't have to reject them. Sadly they never take the hint and it's awkward after u have to reject them. |
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May 15, 2021 2:11 PM
#24
Yeah it's pretty obvious. People are horny and want to fuck - it's not exactly a subtle thing to begin with. |
May 15, 2021 2:15 PM
#25
Well It sometimes depends on how obvious they are. |
May 15, 2021 3:08 PM
#26
xershey said: Well It sometimes depends on how obvious they are. LOL flirting is actually really obvious to tell its all depending on how dense the person is. |
May 15, 2021 3:19 PM
#27
Sometimes. Sometimes not. It can be very obvious at times and sometimes not really. Haven't been crushed on that much though |
Sep 9, 2021 1:24 PM
#28
Crow_Black said: You say this as if there is only one way to flirt. Also just because someone has a crush on you doesn't mean that they'll flirt with you because they might be too shy or something. Or maybe they'll try to hide the fact that they have a crush on you but still fail miserably (I've seen that happen before π)xershey said: Well It sometimes depends on how obvious they are. LOL flirting is actually really obvious to tell its all depending on how dense the person is. |
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Sep 9, 2021 1:41 PM
#29
No, when it comes to that I might as well be an alien life form |
Sep 9, 2021 1:54 PM
#30
OMG this thread reminded me of that one time I was trying to find a place to change my clothes and one of my classmates said "I could help you with that" in a way where it was obvious that he wasn't joking at all (we were at the beach during a school trip btw.) He literally broke up with his girlfriend the day before too which made it even more sus π. I almost gaslit myself into believing that I was just being weird about it, but I asked some of my friends about it and they were all in agreement with me that it was definitely sus asf. Now under any other circumstances I would've just assumed that he was making moves on me but I'm basically 100% sure that he (somehow) misspoke for various different reasons that I can't be bothered to list off rn. Bruh I just realised that this has barely anything to do with the thread topic π. Sorry about that |
Sep 9, 2021 2:07 PM
#31
No, I'm dense when it comes to these things. |
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Sep 9, 2021 2:09 PM
#32
Sep 9, 2021 2:27 PM
#33
Nope, I can't pick up on that sort of thing at all, lol (likely due in part to my own inability to form a crush) I've been told often by others that people were clearly "checking me out", and my reaction every single time is just a confused "Really? What makes you think they were looking at me?" *Shrug* |
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Sep 9, 2021 4:55 PM
#34
I wouldn't know; to my recollection, no one has had a crush on me. Could've happened, though. To be fair, I haven't always made it obvious to my crushes. |
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Sep 9, 2021 6:50 PM
#35
Honestly, no. I have never befriended or hung out with a guy irl often so I can't really tell, the only guys I hang out with are from my family and that's pretty much it. Plus I don't really yearn to be in a relationship anytime soon. |
Sep 11, 2021 7:40 PM
#36
Dunno, probably not-- that or I've failed to notice every single time. It's not really important to me |
Sep 11, 2021 8:02 PM
#37
Boys always make it obvious when they crush on you, they’re either too nice, or act tough around you, compliment you 24/7, try to spend time with you even if you’re anti social and they end up asking you out few days later so it was so easily to tell |
Sep 13, 2021 1:54 AM
#38
usually yes, i just get the feeling lol. though it sucks, cuz i start feeling self-absorbed, but i end up being right, so it's fine i guess. |
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Sep 13, 2021 9:37 AM
#39
Sep 13, 2021 9:53 AM
#40
Omelettecat said: Definitely not. It's really hard to tell if people are just being nice or if they're interested imo. I would need to hear it from them directly or I'm gonna assume it's the first option. Yeah assuming is always the WORST decision. |
Sep 13, 2021 11:05 AM
#41
Many people have had crushes on me but I usually only realize looking back a few years later or if someone outright tells me. I'm pretty dense tbh. As for me I've never had a crush on anyone.. This is cheesy but I want to fall in love at least someday lol ;; |
Sep 13, 2021 1:19 PM
#42
only if it's obvious, like when they approach and flirting me too much |
Sep 13, 2021 1:27 PM
#43
Yes i can tell... because they tell me so. Seriously i had 2 guys wanting to date me and i'm not even gay .__. ...or bi '.__. this was on PSN though and well... ppl seem pretty desperate on there (and thirsty). |
Sep 13, 2021 3:09 PM
#44
I mean, all the people who had crushed on me were immature high schoolers. And it was mostly nothing genuine. The only signal I have relied on was the constant staring. None of them confronted me except for one. Whom I used to a have crush on as well, but it quickly faded. Later when they confronted me asking if I liked them, I literally said "not anymore", I basically flat out rejected them, it was nothing dramatic tho. After that they seemed to almost resent me. Thank god nothing dramatic happened to me after that. |
Sep 13, 2021 4:30 PM
#45
no because I can easily miss the obvious signs but when they are too obvious I question myself a lot. I had a straight guy flirt with me about having a nice ass and wanting to inappropriately do stuff with me. He very well knew I was gay and I THOUGHT he was into me because what type of guy would flirt with a gay man and lead him on. Ya no he's just straight and teasing me. Thank god I didn't make any moves on him. |
Sep 13, 2021 8:37 PM
#46
Sep 13, 2021 11:15 PM
#48
No, they might be pretending in order to make you feel good or out of pity. |
Sep 14, 2021 9:15 AM
#49
Yes. ...in hidsight. ...years later. It's tough to tell when I'm either not interested in being in a relationship (which is me at the moment), or when I'm interested in someone specific. |
Oct 25, 2021 8:12 PM
#50
Both.I can tell by looking at her eyes and her behaviour around me. |
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