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Sep 11, 2017 9:12 AM
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As the title says. What is it like to love someone ? We love our parents,,family, anime waifus and husbandos😊. But what is it like to fall in love with someone ? Not a crush, I'm talking about real love. Tell your experiences. I have a little story of mine too.

There's a boy I used to play with as a kid...we were really close friends. But then he moved away to study in a faraway place. When he returned in time of holidays, he kinda changed. I did too I think, cause we were growing up. We both kinda became reserved and shy perhaps. I felt the distance between us was increasing. For some reason I didn't say anything. But it was painful...when I think about it now. There was a time when I really waited to see him just once in a day. But with time... I really told myself to stop this and to move on. And I was successful to cut out all the emotions.

But still, somehow there is permanent warm place for him remained in my heart. I know these feelings won't change.

I never experienced romantic love...yet. is this what you call love ?
Sep 11, 2017 9:16 AM
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i love ass, does that count? well only the individual can really define what love is so i guess i truly do love ass.
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Sep 11, 2017 9:21 AM
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Love is what you make of it.
Sep 11, 2017 9:21 AM
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Romantic love you mean actual real love?? That's redundant.
Sep 11, 2017 9:56 AM
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It's beautiful, but it's bound to go extinct very soon. True love is rarer than the white rhino.


Sep 11, 2017 10:05 AM
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Hoppy said:
It's beautiful, but it's bound to go extinct very soon. True love is rarer than the white rhino.
It's never been common to begin with though and honestly I think currently it's more common than ever. It only seemed like it was more common back in the day because couples never separated even if they despised each other, divorcing wasn't really an acceptable thing back then. It was more about just finding a partner and raising a family, not about love, but now all people want is to find true love and it's much more acceptable to get married and have kids at a much later age.
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Sep 11, 2017 10:21 AM
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It's a great thing. People experience it all the time... but it's hard to make it last.

For me... it did not last very long. But I'm still glad to have experienced love.
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Sep 11, 2017 10:46 AM
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I've met older people who married their first love and were still together to that day. My grandparents, too, met each other in high school or whatever the equivalent of that was back then, and were married up until my grandfather died a few years ago.

To me it doesn't seem like it should be all that rare, something like true love, but maybe I was just born in the wrong era for that. I was madly in love with a girl I met in middle school for quite a while, but she toyed with me, and ultimately it never got very far, but the experience left me distrustful of women and so I avoided them for a while. Now I'm looking for that special someone again, but I feel like my time is gone, and so I just have to live my life alone now.
Sep 11, 2017 11:00 AM
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I don't know, I doubt I have experienced "love." Maybe a crush, but love? Nah.





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Sep 11, 2017 11:03 AM

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That's something I've completely given up on. My future is crazy cat/doglady..

Long story short is that I didn't realize I actually was in love before it was too late and I actually drove him away. Twice. Goddamn me.
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Sep 11, 2017 11:09 AM

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Hard to define since it means something different to different people.

For me, it's when I realize I don't want someone out of my life.
Like, the idea is painful.

Like a good friend, but the thought of them liking someone else more is also painful.

Sep 11, 2017 11:13 AM

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WinterEnlighten said:
As the title says. What is it like to love someone ? We love our parents,,family, anime waifus and husbandos😊. But what is it like to fall in love with someone ? Not a crush, I'm talking about real love. Tell your experiences. I have a little story of mine too.

There's a boy I used to play with as a kid...we were really close friends. But then he moved away to study in a faraway place. When he returned in time of holidays, he kinda changed. I did too I think, cause we were growing up. We both kinda became reserved and shy perhaps. I felt the distance between us was increasing. For some reason I didn't say anything. But it was painful...when I think about it now. There was a time when I really waited to see him just once in a day. But with time... I really told myself to stop this and to move on. And I was successful to cut out all the emotions.

But still, somehow there is permanent warm place for him remained in my heart. I know these feelings won't change.

I never experienced romantic love...yet. is this what you call love ?

That's so sweet!!! Go talk to himm!!!!!!!!!!

Your story seems like straight outta fanfic/romance anime lol

I love childhood friends romances.
There is always this... special place for childhood friends you know?

Anyway, I've yet to experience real love too so idk
Sep 11, 2017 11:14 AM

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Dead, but I'm a cynic when it comes to relationships, so, ...yeah.

Sep 11, 2017 11:24 AM

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Romantic love? Haven't seen that anime yet. Might put it on my PTW.
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Sep 11, 2017 11:51 AM

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Fucking normies should go blow up themselves!

Anyway, what's love? Isn't love romantic enough? Or it has to be romantic to be called "romantic love"? I don't understand.... Why? Mhhh...
Sep 11, 2017 12:15 PM

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Yes when I was a bit younger , I used to like my classmate due to his smartness .. (i'm brainsexual xD) .. but I don't think that I was really in love with him lol ..

CatSoul said:
Romantic love? Haven't seen that anime yet. Might put it on my PTW.


Pls if you don't have an answer then don't answer cuz that's not funny :/


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Sep 11, 2017 12:32 PM
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WinterEnlighten said:
We love our parents,,family, anime waifus and husbandos😊.


I don't know if these should be used in one sentence.
Sep 11, 2017 12:44 PM

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I am an edgy loser on MAL, therefore I will obviously state that love isn't real, and all the normies are wasting their lives chasing after a dream that is fake.
Sep 11, 2017 1:13 PM

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Don't really understand "romantic" but

Think it happened to me, I was thinking about her all the time, trying to find something to tell her, something to do to be with her, those kind of things.
Started being social and started studying so that I could go attempt entrance to the school she aimed.
That just gives you motivation for everything !
Plus the butterflies in the stomach and all sort of feeling whenever I saw her.
That's how it felt.

For your latter question,
It could be but I think you can only experience it fully if you put your mind to it, if you aknowledge your feelings and express them.
Sep 11, 2017 1:17 PM

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As a romantic, I think it's fuckin siccckkkk brooo up top!

Donchyall wanna just snuggle up wit a gurl and just watch movies all day. And when she falls asleep.... YOU COVER HER WITH A BLANKET!!!
amirite bro or am I just a dawg.

T-To be honest homes... I'd so kiss her cheek before marriage OHHHHH.
with consent of course
Sep 11, 2017 1:19 PM

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It's a concept I desire to obtain, if anything I want my love for someone to be wholesome and romantic but we'll see

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Sep 11, 2017 1:28 PM
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If you are talking about real romantic love, and not the one for parents, family, etc. then I don't know. I was never in REAL love with someone. Maybe I'm heartless, idk, but I did have crushes. I am wondering how it is to feel real love, and I'm wondering how much it hurts to lose that love. If I'm gonna experience pain because of love, then I don't want to experience true love in the first place.
Sep 11, 2017 1:39 PM

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@SnugglyWhuggly is romantic love.
I love Christine

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Sep 11, 2017 3:08 PM

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like when theyre gone and youre all alone and you dont know how you ever survived being single
thats when ukno its real and you cant live without them x
Sep 11, 2017 11:21 PM

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Well... Romantic love is also called passionate love. Some friendships can evolve into this. Romantic love is when the chemicals in your brain kick in and you feel an emotional high, exhilaration, passion, and elation when you and your lover are together. The old saying about love being blind truly describes romantic love.

I guess I have a little story about love...
We dated for over a year and were each other's best friends, we completely understand each other, and we are still in love with each other, but it was best for us to break up. The reason why we break up, was because I was going to move to another country, and we didn't want to have a long distance relationship, especially because we were still quite young for that style of relationship.
It was mutual and we both knew it was best for us so we decided on day to break up. On the last day of our relationship, I decided to take her out on one last date. It was one of the most perfect, romantic, happy, and yet heartbreaking date we ever had.
At the end of the night, we said our goodbyes as we hugged and kissed for one last time and went our separate ways, never to see each other again. It was the hardest thing I've had to do to this date, but I wouldn't want it to end any other way. It was as perfect as a heartbreak could be.

Nowadays, I find it very difficult to feel that feeling. My last romantic relationship was at the beginning of 2013. Since 2014 I started to fall a bit into depression, and recently a year ago, I became a shut-in.
Slowly I've been coming out of my hard situation, but if I have to be honest, it's difficult. Being a shut-in is an addiction. For every step forward, you take a step back. You don't see it, but you're actively fighting to make it worse. The pain of every day life is a constant thing that you know how to live with, when the unknown has repeatedly beat you down and left you back at the opening square only with more bitterness. Some part of you understands that anything would be better, but when that part tries to climbs up to try and make itself noticed, it slips back down and is drowned by the litany of paranoia and doubt. You relapse into old habits.
Sep 11, 2017 11:43 PM

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I haven't experienced romantic love. I had a crush and a relationship before but never actually felt something like that.
Sep 12, 2017 6:41 AM

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Mista_AlanNice said:
Nowadays, I find it very difficult to feel that feeling. My last romantic relationship was at the beginning of 2013. Since 2014 I started to fall a bit into depression, and recently a year ago, I became a shut-in.
Slowly I've been coming out of my hard situation, but if I have to be honest, it's difficult. Being a shut-in is an addiction. For every step forward, you take a step back. You don't see it, but you're actively fighting to make it worse. The pain of every day life is a constant thing that you know how to live with, when the unknown has repeatedly beat you down and left you back at the opening square only with more bitterness. Some part of you understands that anything would be better, but when that part tries to climbs up to try and make itself noticed, it slips back down and is drowned by the litany of paranoia and doubt. You relapse into old habits.

Hang in there! Just the fact that you're aware of all of these sides of your situation means that you're a) in the way of recovering and b) ahead of the ones who don't yet know.

As for OT, yeah, I think romantic love exists and it can be a very nice thing, but it takes time and effort for the real thing to surface.
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Sep 12, 2017 11:28 AM

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I don't believe in any form of love. It's a feeling that we humans created to feel safe and not be alone.
Sep 12, 2017 11:56 AM

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WinterEnlighten said:
As the title says. What is it like to love someone ? We love our parents,,family, anime waifus and husbandos😊. But what is it like to fall in love with someone ? Not a crush, I'm talking about real love. Tell your experiences. I have a little story of mine too.

There's a boy I used to play with as a kid...we were really close friends. But then he moved away to study in a faraway place. When he returned in time of holidays, he kinda changed. I did too I think, cause we were growing up. We both kinda became reserved and shy perhaps. I felt the distance between us was increasing. For some reason I didn't say anything. But it was painful...when I think about it now. There was a time when I really waited to see him just once in a day. But with time... I really told myself to stop this and to move on. And I was successful to cut out all the emotions.

But still, somehow there is permanent warm place for him remained in my heart. I know these feelings won't change.

I never experienced romantic love...yet. is this what you call love ?
Yeaaaah I don't consider that romantic love. More like puppy love or what people usually call it, a crush.

I don't think you can really love someone til you spend enough time with them to know you "love" them, than just you like them and view them as a potential romantic interest. And if it was "love", you'd do more to try to preserve it than just let it slide away.
Sep 12, 2017 12:22 PM

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WinterEnlighten said:
As the title says. What is it like to love someone ? We love our parents,,family, anime waifus and husbandos😊. But what is it like to fall in love with someone ? Not a crush, I'm talking about real love. Tell your experiences. I have a little story of mine too.

There's a boy I used to play with as a kid...we were really close friends. But then he moved away to study in a faraway place. When he returned in time of holidays, he kinda changed. I did too I think, cause we were growing up. We both kinda became reserved and shy perhaps. I felt the distance between us was increasing. For some reason I didn't say anything. But it was painful...when I think about it now. There was a time when I really waited to see him just once in a day. But with time... I really told myself to stop this and to move on. And I was successful to cut out all the emotions.

But still, somehow there is permanent warm place for him remained in my heart. I know these feelings won't change.

I never experienced romantic love...yet. is this what you call love ?


it's a crush I think.
love was dynamic, they changed over time. First, you love your partner for the beauty things you seen on them. Although most beautiful things are shiny but not all shiny things were gold. Next, you'll think about how to preserve that feelings, either with showering them with luxury or doing things that make them feel surprised and liked. In order to preserve these things, you'll encounter things like thinking about future life with your partner, about married, about having kids, etc. And this step is as far as I could go atm so I can't tell you what or how its like when you're proceed into the next step, that's living with your partner as a family, not just a lover.
Sep 12, 2017 1:04 PM

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Hang in there! Just the fact that you're aware of all of these sides of your situation means that you're a) in the way of recovering and b) ahead of the ones who don't yet know.


If I have to be honest, I didn't imagine anyone would read my comment. the only thing I have to say is that 1) Thank you for reading it 2) Thank you for the words of support.
I really appreciate it!
Sep 13, 2017 6:37 AM

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Having a smile when thinking about them, wanting to be important for them, to do good to them, and wanting their company. Feeling all embarrassed and then becoming an helpless little girl again. That's how I feel that makes me think I may be in love, when I do.
Sep 14, 2017 3:52 AM

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I'm faithless. It seems like a lot of fun, but it also seems too difficult to achieve - you need to have the right look, know how to court, have a poppin' social life. At some point it gets tiring.
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Sep 14, 2017 3:57 AM
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real love and not just lust? well i will go for the definition that love is blind that despite her flaws you are still attracted to her
Sep 14, 2017 4:24 AM

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Love is a nurtured crush. Meant to wilt and die if not properly tended.


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