The_Face said: This guy knows what's best.All MAL user should follow this exemplary individual.I think being cheated on is awesome. All men secretly wish to be cuckolded whether they admit it or not. |
What is she hated herself, felt inadequate and you just needed this certain situation where she could pour out all her feelings in order to get to the heart of the matter and resolve it? There's so much context to these things pal, you can't have a general ironclad rule that once someone cheats on you it's over. I can't think of every example under the sun but they exist, and it's the mistake of not being able to identify these contexts that lead people like yourself to form these ironclad rules. You won't know until you're in the situation and then you've just got to trust your own judgment. Mental illness is insanity to relative degrees (ignoring non-psychological symptoms in themselves). We're all affected by some sort of symptoms, some more so than others. In severe cases one's mind can become so warped that they almost lose accountability. When rationality is not at play, rational rules and ways of understanding why the event happened don't really work. You can't understand and prevent irrationality if the person is spiraling out of control. Sometimes it can be hard to see it coming as well, or your partner might not listen to your warnings because they feel insulted that their mental health is being questioned. So it sails it's course. in such an event I cannot possibly hold the ironclad rule that since she cheated on me I must break up with her. |
Autocrat said: You're forgetting the fact that they could have been suffering from mental illness and made a terrible mistake. With all the due respect... that's just stupid. |
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| "I was horny and stopped thinking" My ex's quote after confessing what she did, really funny. |
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| I've been cheated on by a total of three men. My first bf at 16, my first relationship in uni at 19, and the bf I lived with at 23, who cheated on me with three different women. It is the worst feeling I have ever experienced. Its a hot, panicky terror-like feeling that stops you from eating or sleeping or functioning right, especially when you know that as soon as you end it you're very likely to lose your home, too. It makes you feel like you're worth shit. |
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| My ex-fiancée cheated on me, I have never cheated though. It's heartrendingly painful if you really care for your significant other. I was absolutely devastated and just unable to process what had happened given the circumstances. It put me in one of, if not the lowest point of my life for a very long time. |
Maria_Sama said: Autocrat said: You're forgetting the fact that they could have been suffering from mental illness and made a terrible mistake. With all the due respect... that's just stupid. Yeah, maybe. Maybe I'm just trying to justify not ending a relationship I wouldn't want to end. I guess I'd be a fool. |
| i'm not a jealous person at all so i probably would forgive my bf if he cheated on me but i know he wont because he adores me sometimes i wish i could have more dicks in my life, but i adore my bf too so i keep it to fantasies but even then, i think about my bf most of all so i can't imagine cheating on him either so maybe cheaters just need to meet that person that gets them hard as diamonds all the time, even after four years of dating lol |
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| Not in a relationship, but being cheated on is one of the most painful things in the world. The fact that someone you should trust alot suddenly turns into someone who you cant trust causes alot of psychological impact. Dump them, try to move on. There should in no way ever be a good reason for someone to cheat anyway. |
| There is absolutely no excuse to cheating at all. Cheating is cheating. Is there an excuse to cheating on an exam? The answer is no. I don't even understand how people can possibly excuse this. Explain? Yes, and I understand how relationships can HAVE this happen. But for people to excuse it is another thing. That is simply unacceptable. If you have the need to cheat, there is obviously something wrong with the relationship either in general, on you, or on them and it should entirely be ended. |
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| I've never been cheated on but then again I've never been in a relationship either. Who knows how would I react. I mean; who am I to judge others? After all, I probably would never know that I was cheated on even if it were to happen because I'm on work 10 hours a day. And after day's work, the only things I care about are food, water, and some rest. I would probably never cheat because it's not in my nature, simple as that. I wasn't raised that way. Even if it was in my nature, I simply wouldn't have time/motivation to actually do that. So, I think that it mostly depends on the person in question. My view on this: it's an unjust and selfish deed. |
| One man's freedom is another man's terror. |
yyasu said: Once a cheater, always a cheater. Especially considering my severe trust issues and overthinking. I cheat, but don't anymore? So your statement is false. ;) |
In the name of Allah, the Gracious, the Merciful. | You know what I hate the most? People who aren't free. They're no more than cattle. |
| I've never cheated on someone before, but I've been cheated on. And let me tell you, it hurts like a bitch. If you don't want to be with someone, please just go ahead and end it before you even think about looking for that someone else. Don't wait and find that person in order to line it up first and then just move from one relationship to the next without even pausing. I honestly don't understand how people can be heartless enough to cheat on someone. |
Not much, I'd say it's pretty natural. There will always be someone hotter in physical appearance, smarter, and overall better than you. The only thing holding a relationship is trust and commitment which I find is very easily broken. Part of me sees that you have to keep up with the competition...(ie, go exercise, get smarter, etc) not really romantic lol Have you ever being cheated on? How did you feel about it? no What did you do? Have you ever cheated on someone? no And if you've never being cheated on, what do you think your reaction would be? Discuss~ Probably break immediately and not waste any more time. should be noted I never had a relationship also OP. |
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| It's actually shocking how some people have no disregard for another persons emotional well being. I pity anyone here who has been through it. And I'm willing to be someone to talk to if you're currently going through a rough patch, or just need someone to vent to feel free to message me! I'm really nice and although I'm not a miracle worker, I'm a great listener. From a really bad past personal experience, I can relate on levels you can't imagine. You're all great people. <3 |
49er477 said: Rekeri said: It's actually shocking how some people have no disregard for another persons emotional well being. I pity anyone here who has been through it. And I'm willing to be someone to talk to if you're currently going through a rough patch, or just need someone to vent to feel free to message me! I'm really nice and although I'm not a miracle worker, I'm a great listener. From a really bad past personal experience, I can relate on levels you can't imagine. You're all great people. <3 Ok, so here it goes. My girlfriend left me for an African American woman. She said I turned her gay and she's been sleeping with her for years. Please help me. I've been crying for the last 3 months. It's so bad. I usually scream in my pillow. First of all I'm really sorry to read that, that's awful. Regardless of the situation, cheating is cheating. Just remember that letting out your emotions like that is perfectly normal, and it's nothing to be ashamed of at all. The Psychological pain that you're constantly probably experiencing has the ability to make its way into every fiber of your existence and keep popping up when you least expect it to. Trust me, I've been there. Now there's no way for me to relate to you under the exact same scenario, but like I said cheating is cheating. I'm just going to be honest with you, the only way through this is to fight through it. I won't aim those generic "there's plenty of fish in the sea", as I'm sure you already know this. Try not to over-analyze the situation. Like for example: Why would they do this to me? What did I do wrong, etc .. because in the end you're just punishing yourself. It’s probably not going to feel like things are improving steadily or linearly, but trust that time will do it’s thing. Now depending on the duration of the relationship it may take longer for some people. Me typing this out won't do wonders for you miraculously but let me tell you, it's a start. I don't know you but I can tell you that you made the first step, in expressing your feelings. Sure I may be someone over the internet that you don't personally know anything about. But opening yourself up and letting your emotions out is a sign of good things to come, trust me. :) |
| i've been cheated on. i thought i would care if that happened because i was head over heels for the person, but i actually didn't mind. if the situation was different, i probably would've minded. cheating is really not as simple or as black and white as people here are painting it to be. it depends on the people involved, the way both of them see the relationship, the context of how the cheating happened, the general context of their relationship. a lot of the comments here are kinda naive. Autocrat said: no dude, you have a point. i didn't really read everything you wrote, but people who are telling you you're stupid have obviously never been in a similar situation nor do they have enough cognitive empathy to understand you, the girl in question, or the general situation.Yeah, maybe. Maybe I'm just trying to justify not ending a relationship I wouldn't want to end. I guess I'd be a fool. |
deadoptimist said: Though I think shit-flinging should also have standards - no personal, no behind the scenes. |
| In all the relationships I've had, I've never been cheated on (to my knowledge anyway though I'm fairly confident it never happened) and I've never cheated on others. Just the idea of consciously hurting the person you supposedly love is disgusting. I believe in karma so I couldn't even dare to cheat on anyone without being incredibly paranoid afterwards. Plus with my strong conscience, the guilt will kill me. However, I'm surrounded with people who are serial cheaters. My dad cheated on my stepmom, my brother never only has one girlfriend at a time, my uncles and cousins talk about the girls they screw around with despite being married or already in a relationship and talk about it like its some contest or some achievement... basically, there are tons of them who do it and for the life of me I don't get why they do what they do and how they're doing it. (How do they even have the patience and will power to bother?!) After hearing all their stories it did make me extra wary about cheating possibilities though (as in, if my own boyfriend ever cheats on me, not me on them) but it never happened thankfully enough. And I do take pleasure on hearing how much they suffer when they're caught or whenever their partners suspect them of cheating because then they get what they deserve for pulling all that bullsh*t in the first place. |
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| Maria sama I would never ever cheat you. |
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Anonymousman5953 said: I found this online and I just wanted to talk about what happened with someone who might understand what I am going through. I'm not sure how to start exactly so I'm hoping I ca get a little help? I would definitely recommend another website, I think the vast majority here wouldn't have a fucking clue how to help you, me included. |
Anonymousman5953 said: Absol said: I would definitely recommend another website, I think the vast majority here wouldn't have a fucking clue how to help you, me included. Absol said: I would definitely recommend another website, I think the vast majority here wouldn't have a fucking clue how to help you, me included. Honestly, I didn't expect anyone to respond. I just don't know what to do and this is basically my last option. Well Ive never had any of the issues you speak of so I'm not sure where you could go for help, friends maybe. |
Anonymousman5953 said: Honestly, I didn't expect anyone to respond. I just don't know what to do and this is basically my last option. What happened? I'll hear you out if you really need help. |
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| If they really loved you, they wouldn't cheat in the first place. Thats what I go by personally. I've never been cheated on but I hope I never have to experience anything like that. Just sounds like a shitty feeling reading from other peoples posts. I wouldn't give a cheater another chance, just throw the whole relationship away and move on lul |
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gen12Weeb said: If they really loved you, they wouldn't cheat in the first place. Thats what I go by personally. I've never been cheated on but I hope I never have to experience anything like that. Just sounds like a shitty feeling reading from other peoples posts. I wouldn't give a cheater another chance, just throw the whole relationship away and move on lul I agree, he was probably a Douche Canoe, although maybe if you were a bad partner that may have contributed, either way you're going to have to do some reflecting to see what really went wrong. |
Anonymousman5953 said: Absol said: I agree, he was probably a Douche Canoe, although maybe if you were a bad partner that may have contributed, either way you're going to have to do some reflecting to see what really went wrong. I'm still with him absol, I just keep having internal conflicts and I keep askjig him for personal space and I basically take the day and cry and go over everything but I just cant figurreo rwhat I did wrong. I have been faithful and loyal and supportive even on things that I didn't agree on and I even agreed to move to him in our relationship because I'm that much of an idiot Some people are just dinguses, and your boyfriend sounds like he might be one too, but again I'm not you, you're the only one who can figure out what he is really like. |
| I've never cheated on someone or have been cheated on. Due to the fact that I just hate the thought of being in a relationship, and the though of worrying about your partner cheating on you makes me too nervous to actually get in a relationship, it seems to stressful. What do I think about cheaters? Absolutely hate them. It's the truth, after they cheat I don't care what happens to them, I literally have a passionate hate for them, be it in shows/games/books etc. I don't care if it's a family member, my own parents or friends, I want nothing to do with you. I've literally, dropped shows because of the MC cheating, or if it's a side character I skip all the parts with them or strongly hoping for them to die or get heartbroken. What would I do if I ever got cheated on? Hah, drop my partner like a hot pan. My saying goes: Once a cheater, always a cheater. Obviously if they were able to cheat on your they didn't love you enough to stop themselves from letting their lust takeover. And even if it wasn't because of that, if you're not satisfied with your relationship with your partner, how hard is it to tell them you want to break up? How hard is it to tell them you want to improve your relationship? Instead they choose to go behind your back and cheat on you without you knowing and act as though everything is still normal until you find out? Nope. They didn't consider how you'd feel about their actions so they're not worth it, don't need them, don't want them. And I also believe that they really don't need a second chance, I'm sorry but if they were brave/stupid enough to do it once, they can or may do it again. Have I ever cheated on someone? Well, since you've read my post I'm sure you can tell if I have or haven't lol But no, I have never done that and never will. I'm that person who, once they've established loyalty to you, it's not easily broken unless you've done something bizarre. I'm actually very open with my feelings and will state if I think there's a problem with someone or myself etc. So It's safe for me to say that I would never cheat on anyone. Edit: Oh my gosh I just realized how harsh I sound. Sorry! lol I get very fired up on these discussions. And like I said, I have a passionate anger towards cheaters. |
| Fuck it old thread but w/e, what I'm going to say is important I think. Never cheated because I prefer to stay loyal to the person I love. I don't think my partner cheating on me is something unforgivable and it probably tells more about me rather than my partner even though to be honest it really depends on why they decided to do it. It's important to mention that it never happened to me or at least I don't know about such a case... In my opinion it can strengthen the relationship by revealing some issues that both of you were most likely ignoring for a long time. I believe the best way to react is by trying to be more understanding about your partner's feelings and talk to them and make sure that you still care about and love them. Or of course if they believe that things are not going that well and there's nothing between you then perhaps you should consider breaking up. |
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| I think people should stay loyal and not cheat on your partner. |
| I was cheated on...twice but weirdly enough i couldn't care less...well that's exactly true i had that hatred for them i wished them dead and i would kill them if i could do it without any consequences. But i wasn't crying nor depressed cause i care more about myself than others...they cheated cause they wanted they didn't steal anything from me nor hurt anyone.... |
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