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Nov 23, 2015 11:21 PM
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Obviously, we all have obnoxious neighbors/uncles (some may also include parents in the list). Time and again, I find myself frequently getting into arguments with older people and they keep telling me about how I am being disrespectful when I lash out at their annoying habits and even when they know it's their fault but they say they are not willing to change their behaviors and tell me to just let them be. Like, seriously? A few months earlier, someone told me to loose control and to not filter my thoughts. No doubt I am having a great time after imbibing this golden advice and acting accordingly but I just can't help but be disrespectful and rash sometimes. Could anyone tell me where I'm going wrong? 'No offense' doesn't really alleviate anything.
Nov 23, 2015 11:23 PM
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"You're just old."
"Literally no person who isn't in their 1000s thinks that."
"Grandmama you can't do shit."
"Grandpapa sit the fuck down you're not gonna go to Vegas."

OT:
Probably not possible.
Nov 23, 2015 11:23 PM
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*hug noises*

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You don't speak up properly so they can't catch what you're saying
Nov 23, 2015 11:24 PM
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Be condescending. Treat them with respect as if you're superior. Play sports as if you're capable of doing practical and physical activities. Old people lose the ability to do that when they grow older.
Nov 23, 2015 11:24 PM
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You don't need to be respectful to elders just because they are old.
Nov 23, 2015 11:29 PM
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The entire point of insulting is being disrespectful. Being of polite constructive criticism is not disrespectful though.
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Nov 23, 2015 11:30 PM
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Sarcasm and condescending behavior.
Nov 23, 2015 11:30 PM
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Tell them that they're disrespecting you.
Nov 23, 2015 11:34 PM
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you cant win against them. eventually, you'll be the one annoying the shit out of teenagers!
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Nov 23, 2015 11:45 PM

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who told you and in what context to lose control and not filter your thoughts?

>lash out at people
of course they're going to see you as disrespectful lol

the very definition of insult coincides with disrespect. you can address people politely without attacking their character; ie avoid calling people idiotic/stupid/etc. (seems lately I haven't been doing this much myself so I'll have to re-learn the basics of respect lol)

your tone can also indicate whether or not you're disrespectful, really the only tip is don't take their comments personally. apply empathy and, yes, control your emotions. lashing out at them does nothing but create more tension between you
Nov 23, 2015 11:51 PM

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I don't. Sometimes they are way more cool than teenagers tbh



Nov 23, 2015 11:52 PM

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"With all due respect sir, you're an old fart."

That first part makes all the difference probably.
Nov 24, 2015 4:20 AM

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"Grandpa, when will you rest in peace?"
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Nov 24, 2015 4:21 AM

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Kokuoh said:
- Insult.
- Being respectful.

Pick one.
deadoptimist said:
Though I think shit-flinging should also have standards - no personal, no behind the scenes.
Nov 24, 2015 4:58 AM
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Tachii said:
who told you and in what context to lose control and not filter your thoughts?

>lash out at people
of course they're going to see you as disrespectful lol

the very definition of insult coincides with disrespect. you can address people politely without attacking their character; ie avoid calling people idiotic/stupid/etc. (seems lately I haven't been doing this much myself so I'll have to re-learn the basics of respect lol)

your tone can also indicate whether or not you're disrespectful, really the only tip is don't take their comments personally. apply empathy and, yes, control your emotions. lashing out at them does nothing but create more tension between you
A friend did. He said to follow that in everyday lives just so you don't get disappointed and upset or regret later feeling you did not say what you truly wanted to. Sometimes, I just can't control myself seeing their stupidity and reluctance to change which frustrates me further to the point where my brain cells starts committing suicide. People should learn how to accept love too, it's just so much important.
Nov 24, 2015 5:00 AM
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Paella_ said:
"Grandpa, when will you rest in peace?"
No. I love my grandpa. He's a pacifist.
Nov 24, 2015 5:01 AM
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Nilin said:
"You're just old."
"Literally no person who isn't in their 1000s thinks that."
"Grandmama you can't do shit."
"Grandpapa sit the fuck down you're not gonna go to Vegas."

lmao

"Are you sure you are not rotting yet,dear Grandma?
"Grandpa,do you need help so you won't fucking trip on your own leg?"
Nov 24, 2015 5:13 AM

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Kokuoh said:
- Insult.
- Being respectful.

Pick one.


Confirmed shit thread
Nov 24, 2015 5:17 AM

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Say "no offense" first then everything you say is fine.

Nov 24, 2015 5:29 AM

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you sir are a cur
Nov 24, 2015 7:17 AM

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jonyconwoman said:
Tachii said:
who told you and in what context to lose control and not filter your thoughts?

>lash out at people
of course they're going to see you as disrespectful lol

the very definition of insult coincides with disrespect. you can address people politely without attacking their character; ie avoid calling people idiotic/stupid/etc. (seems lately I haven't been doing this much myself so I'll have to re-learn the basics of respect lol)

your tone can also indicate whether or not you're disrespectful, really the only tip is don't take their comments personally. apply empathy and, yes, control your emotions. lashing out at them does nothing but create more tension between you
A friend did. He said to follow that in everyday lives just so you don't get disappointed and upset or regret later feeling you did not say what you truly wanted to. Sometimes, I just can't control myself seeing their stupidity and reluctance to change which frustrates me further to the point where my brain cells starts committing suicide. People should learn how to accept love too, it's just so much important.
that advice sounds bad tho

since it doesnt take into consideration how others might feel to your behaviours
changing someones behaviour is incredibly complex, but i'll tell you for sure if you insult them for it you comes off very ineffective and most likely wont work
Nov 24, 2015 7:49 AM
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Tachii said:
jonyconwoman said:
A friend did. He said to follow that in everyday lives just so you don't get disappointed and upset or regret later feeling you did not say what you truly wanted to. Sometimes, I just can't control myself seeing their stupidity and reluctance to change which frustrates me further to the point where my brain cells starts committing suicide. People should learn how to accept love too, it's just so much important.
that advice sounds bad tho

since it doesnt take into consideration how others might feel to your behaviours
changing someones behaviour is incredibly complex, but i'll tell you for sure if you insult them for it you comes off very ineffective and most likely wont work

I don't think I agree with you wholly on that. People are taking me more serious and I am more confident compared to what I was few months ago. Although I guess I need to fine tune my words to make them less offensive.
Nov 24, 2015 11:54 AM
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I just tell them it's time for them to hustle to bed.
Nov 24, 2015 1:04 PM
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Hello3245 said:
Why would you insult the elderly? They should be the one insulting you, but they're wise enough to say nothing.

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