Claire said: Involtus said: I'm not mean; I'm realistic. He's great. You should be into him, if you're not already ;) It depends if he's hot or wealthy. He's hot and has some business skills. |
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Claire said: Dude, I really hate Fetlife's interface. It's so messy and old school. I made a profile, but the majority of members nearby are fat and unappealing! I'd rather find a guy on Tinder who's into BDSM than use Fetlife. (Not that I've ever had a one night stand with someone from a dating site.) Their interface sucks, but everyone that uses the site is generally pretty horny, so it's like, REALLY EASY to hook up with it. The only reason people are on Fetlife is because they want sex and they want it now. I haven't tried tinder though. Claire said: Why? What are your standards like? So the girlfriend I had that made them so high, she's extremely intelligent, scientifically minded(currently in school for neuroscience at one of the top schools in the US), an accomplished visual artist with her stuff displayed in galleries, an able musician, extremely attractive(Most guys would consider her an 8 or a 9 on that strange subjective scale), very kind and affectionate, intense and experimental in bed, always down for adventure and new things. Finding a girl that comes to the same level, and I don't mean the same specific qualities but has the same jack-of-all-trades mindset and is adventurous, attractive and intelligent, is extremely rare. She dumped me because I fell behind and weighed her down, I became baggage. Because of that I've devoted my entire life to becoming awesome, intelligent, artistic and attractive enough to be deserving of people like this, so that the next time I meet one I'm seen on level ground and as someone who can be in a mutually beneficial relationship. Having these impossibly high standards in people is what's given me impossibly high standards in myself, and I continue every day to try and improve upon my personality. I reach for the sky and beyond, in improving myself so much for these reasons I've learned the value in life and that there's no reason to not try live the absolute best life you could possibly live, settling for anything less is unacceptable. Also, even though I'm bi I don't ever feel romantically attracted to guys. They're just the best fucktoys. |
xEmptiness said: "if we follow what SW is suggesting, nihilism is the conclusion" |
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| Because they're not looking for online-dating? |
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Spooky_Love said: Awesome, a comic based on me.I don't need anybody |
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| Dating sites suck. You have a better chance asking a woman out irl. Girls are super selective, if you don't have a six pack, white or six figure salary you are fucked. |
Space said: I haven't tried tinder though. I don't recommend Tinder for men unless you're at least a 6 or 7 on the attractiveness scale. Wizard said: She dumped me because I fell behind and weighed her down, I became baggage. Because of that I've devoted my entire life to becoming awesome, intelligent, artistic and attractive enough to be deserving of people like this, so that the next time I meet one I'm seen on level ground and as someone who can be in a mutually beneficial relationship. Having these impossibly high standards in people is what's given me impossibly high standards in myself, and I continue every day to try and improve upon my personality. I reach for the sky and beyond, in improving myself so much for these reasons I've learned the value in life and that there's no reason to not try live the absolute best life you could possibly live, settling for anything less is unacceptable. In all honesty, accomplished women like your ex have more stringent standards in regards to their partners in comparison to successful men. That's not to say that successful men would marry a regular attractive bimbo (in fact, they require that their partners must be accomplished in some way -- the stereotype of the traditional trophy wife no longer holds true these days due to the stigma associated with it and the rising number of women who perform great feats in all fields, especially in the corporate world), but for women, their partners must either be on equal footing with them or more superior. Personally, I wouldn't be in a relationship with a man who doesn't impress others with his personal traits and accomplishments. Call me shallow and unrealistic, but I need a man who can conquer the world with me. That's why I'm constantly recreating myself to attract such men. I'm not there yet since I just started, but soon I will be. It's applaudable that you don't settle for women who you deem to be incompetent and not of quality, not to mention that you put in the necessary effort to be worthy of the finest people. I wouldn't necessarily see you as having impossibly high standards though; you just have high standards. You don't have to make your quest seem absurd. You'll find your ideal girl soon because like always attracts like. |
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0w0 said: Because they're not looking for online-dating? They aren't just for dating. ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°) |
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DarkFragBR said: They want the great sex. ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)0w0 said: Because they're not looking for online-dating? They aren't just for dating. ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°) |
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Claire said: Call me shallow and unrealistic, but I need a man who can conquer the world with me. That's why I'm constantly recreating myself to attract such men. I'm not there yet since I just started, but soon I will be. I wouldn't call that shallow at all, I think that as long as someone realizes that they need to build themselves to be at level ground with such people, that's about as deep as you can get as far as relationships go. When I think of shallow I think of people who date for money, physical appearance or temporary emotional support. As for unrealistic, well, like you said, it's not impossible. It just becomes more and more difficult the higher your standards are set, and on top of that becomes even more challenging if you want to be level with that standard yourself. I hope you never stop, as someone on this quest of constant self-recreation, I've never been happier and I have a tendency to make deep impacts on the lives of people I meet, which is an indescribable feeling, good but also frightening at times. As for finding that person soon, I'm in no hurry. People who meet a lot of my standards but not all of them already fall into my lap from time to time, as long as I keep up what I'm doing somebody breathtaking will fall into my life. I ain't even at the peak yet, nowhere close. I've been on this quest for three years now and I constantly feel like I only just started, every new epiphany and realization opens up a whole new horizon that must be traversed. There's nothing better you can do with your life but aim for the top. Why live life any other way? |
xEmptiness said: "if we follow what SW is suggesting, nihilism is the conclusion" |
Space-Wizard said: Claire said: Call me shallow and unrealistic, but I need a man who can conquer the world with me. That's why I'm constantly recreating myself to attract such men. I'm not there yet since I just started, but soon I will be. I wouldn't call that shallow at all, I think that as long as someone realizes that they need to build themselves to be at level ground with such people, that's about as deep as you can get as far as relationships go. When I think of shallow I think of people who date for money, physical appearance or temporary emotional support. As for unrealistic, well, like you said, it's not impossible. It just becomes more and more difficult the higher your standards are set, and on top of that becomes even more challenging if you want to be level with that standard yourself. I hope you never stop, as someone on this quest of constant self-recreation, I've never been happier and I have a tendency to make deep impacts on the lives of people I meet, which is an indescribable feeling, good but also frightening at times. As for finding that person soon, I'm in no hurry. People who meet a lot of my standards but not all of them already fall into my lap from time to time, as long as I keep up what I'm doing somebody breathtaking will fall into my life. I ain't even at the peak yet, nowhere close. I've been on this quest for three years now and I constantly feel like I only just started, every new epiphany and realization opens up a whole new horizon that must be traversed. There's nothing better you can do with your life but aim for the top. Why live life any other way? All depends on your worldview. And to answer the question OP: They probably are on those sites. Most people I know don't use the same username everywhere after all. |
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| i have a girlfriend who is awesome, so i dont do that. But as i have found, MAL users, as well as /a/ and half the other communities are there probably because they have nothing better to do than to indulge in avoiding thier lack of real world social skills... |
YorKeY said: I know it might sound weird, but i think some people see the cute/sexy profile pictures of other members on this site, check if they are male or female (It's usually the males who are the most thirsty) and act accordingly, trying to find a reason to spark up a conversation with their target. I think deep down some people wish or want to believe that the "anime liking female behind the avatar" that they are messaging is as cute/sexy as her anime avatar in real life, does that sound weird? Some people go as far to not even ask for a real picture, cause they don't want to be disappointed, i'm pretty sure i hit the nail on the head, been around humans and the internet for too long. In case you're wondering, i don't do any of the sort, been let down like two or three times, yeah, you can call me shallow, but i still think looks are important, and if it makes your self righteous bitch ass feel better, i still think personality matters more, i just want both. LOL. I've been a MAL member for a long time but that hasn't happened to me -- like ever. So yeah, you sound weird. And watch your language on my thread please. You don't need to insult a nonexistent entity to make your point. Also, you can't have both if you have nothing to offer. 7starkiller99 said: And to answer the question OP: They probably are on those sites. Most people I know don't use the same username everywhere after all. Right. Now give me your OkCupid username. |
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YorKeY said: Claire said: LOL. I've been a MAL member for a long time but that hasn't happened to me -- like ever. So yeah, you sound weird. And watch your language on my thread please. You don't need to insult a nonexistent entity to make your point. Also, you can't have both if you have nothing to offer. Right. Now give me your OkCupid username. It's not weird or out of this world, and i'm not weird, so silence. Sorry, didn't know the world revolved around you, "it hasn't happened to Claire, therefore it's irrelevant and carries no merit of possibility." Oh, didn't know you knew so much about me based off one one post. You should re-read your post, you're definitely the ignorant one here, oh wait, probably why it's never happened to you, you either have one or the other, i'm guessing you don't have neither, must be hard, especially as a female to know that. Fucking owned, you self righteous narcissistic judgemental piece of trash. lol. What a troll. It must have hurt ever so bad. The rejections, I mean. |
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Hoppy said: I've had girlfriends before. Gfs that you found on MAL? |
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| cuz i never seen a dating site for horses yet mal is the closest thing #HorseThirst |
CookieGawd said: cuz i never seen a dating site for horses yet mal is the closest thing #HorseThirst |
[i]"Yet each man kills the thing he loves, [/i]By each let this be heard, Some do it with a bitter look, Some with a flattering word, The coward does it with a kiss, The brave man with a sword!'' ~Oscar |
Cosmicbeing said: I've wanted to join a dating site lately but I am not sure if its worth it. I barely ever talk to girls online and none in real life aside from a little in high school. I am not sure how to speak and behave with them anymore. From the limited interactions with women I've had, I am still baffled by basic things like initiating any sort of physical contact besides formalities and even more arcane is the procedures to kiss them and so far all my social skills lead into dead ends so I am not sure how to even converse with a girl. I am much better at talking to nerds and physics students. Even in the low chance I meet a girl who likes anime and or physics, I would talk to them like friends and colleagues rather than potential lovers and child bearer with the inability to have most sexual related conversation & interaction. I seem to be missing a large portion of my brain concerned with the opposite sex along with the cognitive, emotional and physical facilities which are engaged when interacting with the opposite sex nor have the instincts & personality characteristics involved in mammalian socialization, courtship and relationships. I don't think I am beyond help its just I doubt anyone here can help as I doubt even the girls here can't tell me anything about the underlining mechanics of male-female interaction. The way you bombard them with big words might make them feel a little overwhelmed. That's just my judgement in the end. |
[i]"Yet each man kills the thing he loves, [/i]By each let this be heard, Some do it with a bitter look, Some with a flattering word, The coward does it with a kiss, The brave man with a sword!'' ~Oscar |
| Did you guys know that you can literally only use one website on the internet? Like it is physically impossible to have multiple tabs open. Or even change the site address and go to a new one in the same tab. MAL is literally the only place you can be if you're on the internet. After all, that's the only place OP sees you. In animals (and humans), a key trait in cognition when thinking about the degree of intelligence an individual possesses, is their ability to conceive that others have information that they themselves do not have. Kind of interesting if you think about that in the context of this thread. OnT: I use grindr and tinder (mostly grindr) for casual sex. |
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Cosmicbeing said: I've wanted to join a dating site lately but I am not sure if its worth it. I barely ever talk to girls online and none in real life aside from a little in high school. I am not sure how to speak and behave with them anymore. From the limited interactions with women I've had, I am still baffled by basic things like initiating any sort of physical contact besides formalities and even more arcane is the procedures to kiss them and so far all my social skills lead into dead ends so I am not sure how to even converse with a girl. I am much better at talking to nerds and physics students. Even in the low chance I meet a girl who likes anime and or physics, I would talk to them like friends and colleagues rather than potential lovers and child bearer with the inability to have most sexual related conversation & interaction. I seem to be missing a large portion of my brain concerned with the opposite sex along with the cognitive, emotional and physical facilities which are engaged when interacting with the opposite sex nor have the instincts & personality characteristics involved in mammalian socialization, courtship and relationships. I don't think I am beyond help its just I doubt anyone here can help as I doubt even the girls here can't tell me anything about the underlining mechanics of male-female interaction. Hasn't any female ever approached you during parties and such like? |
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Cosmicbeing said: I've wanted to join a dating site lately but I am not sure if its worth it. I barely ever talk to girls online and none in real life aside from a little in high school. I am not sure how to speak and behave with them anymore. The only way you'll ever know is through trial and error. Cosmicbeing said: Personally, I quite like men like you and I would usually be the one initiating physical contact (hugs mostly) because I want to see you gradually be putty in my hands -- if that ever happens. From the limited interactions with women I've had, I am still baffled by basic things like initiating any sort of physical contact besides formalities and even more arcane is the procedures to kiss them and so far all my social skills lead into dead ends so I am not sure how to even converse with a girl. I am much better at talking to nerds and physics students. Cosmicbeing said: Even in the low chance I meet a girl who likes anime and or physics, I would talk to them like friends and colleagues rather than potential lovers and child bearer with the inability to have most sexual related conversation & interaction. Have you ever tried practicing how to talk dirty with someone (if not in person, then perhaps online)? Cosmicbeing said: I don't think I am beyond help its just I doubt anyone here can help as I doubt even the girls here can't tell me anything about the underlining mechanics of male-female interaction. I'd like to get to know you more. |
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CookieGawd said: cuz i never seen a dating site for horses yet mal is the closest thing #HorseThirst Serious response: I'm not thirsty im just rly bored and i don't rly do dating websites i rather find her irl |
Cosmicbeing said: I've wanted to join a dating site lately but I am not sure if its worth it. I barely ever talk to girls online and none in real life aside from a little in high school. I am not sure how to speak and behave with them anymore. From the limited interactions with women I've had, I am still baffled by basic things like initiating any sort of physical contact besides formalities and even more arcane is the procedures to kiss them and so far all my social skills lead into dead ends so I am not sure how to even converse with a girl. I am much better at talking to nerds and physics students. Even in the low chance I meet a girl who likes anime and or physics, I would talk to them like friends and colleagues rather than potential lovers and child bearer with the inability to have most sexual related conversation & interaction. I seem to be missing a large portion of my brain concerned with the opposite sex along with the cognitive, emotional and physical facilities which are engaged when interacting with the opposite sex nor have the instincts & personality characteristics involved in mammalian socialization, courtship and relationships. I don't think I am beyond help its just I doubt anyone here can help as I doubt even the girls here can't tell me anything about the underlining mechanics of male-female interaction. Are you autistic or just a poorly adjusted, sheltered individual or trolling '-' |
| >Using MAL as a dating site But everyone uses anime avatars, are you really willing to risk it? Also I'm going to guess that dating sites are like crack cocaine for women, the amount of attention they receive there is ludicrous |
MdDaniels said: Also I'm going to guess that dating sites are like crack cocaine for women, the amount of attention they receive there is ludicrous Nah, mate. That's just a rumour. |
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MdDaniels said: Also I'm going to guess that dating sites are like crack cocaine for women, the amount of attention they receive there is ludicrous But it's the same here on MAL. |
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Claire said: MdDaniels said: Also I'm going to guess that dating sites are like crack cocaine for women, the amount of attention they receive there is ludicrous Nah, mate. That's just a rumour. Pretty sure a 5/10 girl on OkCupid will receive more messages than any man there. |
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SubaTonic said: TyraMisoux said: But it's the same here on MAL. checks profile, sees "male", ignores you from now on you're all girls to me |
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TyraMisoux said: MdDaniels said: Also I'm going to guess that dating sites are like crack cocaine for women, the amount of attention they receive there is ludicrous But it's the same here on MAL. Ah, yeah. Only gotta look through any "girls" profile comments to see just how incredibly thirsty people here are. |
MdDaniels said: Claire said: Nah, mate. That's just a rumour. Pretty sure a 5/10 girl on OkCupid will receive more messages than any man there. The only time I used a dating site the quality of messages left something to be desired. Quantity =/= quality. There was a lot of wading through crap messages to find anyone looking for an actual date. |
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| I find it true when people say that a good amount of dating-sites users are weird and need each other because some of them won't get a normal date. I base this prejudice on 1 friend I have irl that is into it. He is weird and ugly, the girls he got were weird too, one was cute. Still I've put some thought into joining one, knowing myself I won't do that in the end. I almost never had to be active to seek potential partners, the few times I did I failed so hard it beat me down. I'm not confortable not having a regular sex life but I guess I'm too lazy to change my situation. Another friend of mine, a good-looking guy, doesn't feel that way and one day said to me something like: "I'm don't give a shit if I don't fuck on a regular basis as most do, I'm certain eventually a girl who meets my standards will fall for me." I admired his peace of mind. I thought I could agree and make his statement mine, as I believed to be an interesting good-looking guy too. I'm not sure how to consider people who change themselves to meet standarts of other people. They say "improving" themselves I see it as a fake ass attitude and very shallow. If I ever "improve" myself I'll do it for me only and not to meet the standarts of anyone. They might say they do it for themselves but it's not like that at all. I find it completely normal that people with the same interest like anime would try to seek out each other on websites like mal and date. There is nothing weird or wrong about it. I know I would if she was living in the same city, afterall. |
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Swagzilla said: Because they're either too socially awkward or just immature. Just look at all the immature threads lately. Woah, horse-face avatar. OT: people can have dating site accounts and a MAL account at the same time. |
Dojourei said: MAL is clearly a level above dating sites. :) |
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| I often get distracted by mirrors, because I'll catch sight of my reflection and be like 'got dam, who is this fine thing?' and then I'll realize that it's me and lol and brofist my reflectionfist and then stand there and marvel at how impossibly, borderline-alarmingly handsome I am and then whip my dick out and trash it around the room while never breaking eye contact with mirrorme until I have sufficiently remodeled the room in some loose sense of the word and everything is dead Then I'll move on from my face and peep my dick for a while This is why I don't use dating sites. No one on them is worthy and it is a rare and strange moment when labia aren't clamped around some part of my face like kung-fu grips so it's difficult to take a proper picture to register for an account |
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Claire said: I'm just curious. Why don't you use sites like Tinder, Grindr, or OkCupid to find a date? Is MAL enough of a dating website for you? Of course there are exceptions. The other day, I accidentally found one MAL member's OkCupid profile. But really, only one?! Where are your dating profiles, MAL? I wanna see them. Stop it that's hilarious |
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MdDaniels said: TyraMisoux said: But it's the same here on MAL. Ah, yeah. Only gotta look through any "girls" profile comments to see just how incredibly thirsty people here are. To be honest, I don't have a problem with guys hitting on "girls'" profiles here since we're all humans with particular needs. As long as they keep their cyber love on profile comment level everything's fine, it only starts getting bothersome when their struggle for love reaches the public threads on general forums. |
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crystal_3001 said: MdDaniels said: Pretty sure a 5/10 girl on OkCupid will receive more messages than any man there. The only time I used a dating site the quality of messages left something to be desired. Quantity =/= quality. There was a lot of wading through crap messages to find anyone looking for an actual date. Good point, the vast majority are of course very thirsty men, so unless the girl is a complete slut and just looking for some random person to fuck I imagine it would make the girl pretty paranoid about which men are actually truly interested in her and which ones just want a quick fuck. Though it is filled with shallow girls who stay there forever because of the ego trip it gives them. |
SubaTonic said: Great, another person who starts dumb threads and has genuinely dumb opinions to go with them. |
Zetto92 said: SubaTonic said: Great, another person who starts dumb threads and has genuinely dumb opinions to go with them. Do you even post here? |
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