how much does your biggest or worst fear affect you?
| whats your biggest or worst fear? and how much it affects you daily? my biggest fear is fear of rejection but im a social reject for years now and im unmotivated too so its an irrational fear of mine since it continues even today and any coping techniques you do? im trying self distancing https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Distancing_(psychology) for years aka separate yourself with your thoughts like fears or thinking youre not your thoughts but its easier said than done for me but ye sometimes it works |
degMar 1, 2023 3:05 AM
| Fuck yes! I love this quote, I love Dune. OT: I guess my biggest fear is not being in control of my own mind (Mental-break) as it happened to my Sister and my Father. It was especially concerning since it happened pretty quick, and I don't know exactly what caused it? although it's been somewhat linked to what my diagnosis is, as most of my family also suffer from it. I just hope it doesn't happen... because they were never the same afterwards, and years of forced treatment didn't help. I just try to live my life as stress-free and as happy as I can. And I try to remain busy, I hate being bored, or feel as if I could be bored. I always want to be doing something. |
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LightWorker said: Fuck yes! I love this quote, I love Dune. OT: I guess my biggest fear is not being in control of my own mind (Mental-break) as it happened to my Sister and my Father. It was especially concerning since it happened pretty quick, and I don't know exactly what caused it? although it's been somewhat linked to what my diagnosis is, as most of my family also suffer from it. I just hope it doesn't happen... because they were never the same afterwards, and years of forced treatment didn't help. do you simply mean fear of going crazy or insanity then? personally as a crazy person i got anosognosia sometimes that makes it hard for me to be aware im going crazy so its not a big fear of mine |
| @deg Yes I suppose so? But I suppose also it's just what would happen to me if something like that happened, as my actual diagnosis and other health issues/allergies won't be documented with the NHS, I'm only recognized privately. So I would be worried about given meds that could severely affect me (which has happened with some of my family who were sectioned). We tried numerous times to tell them of our history and illnesses, but they don't believe us lol, so I guess I'm also fearful of being sick in general. |
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LightWorker said: @deg Yes I suppose so? But I suppose also it's just what would happen to me if something like that happened, as my actual diagnosis and other health issues/allergies won't be documented with the NHS, I'm only recognized privately. So I would be worried about given meds that could severely affect me (which has happened with some of my family who were sectioned). We tried numerous times to tell them of our history and illnesses, but they don't believe us lol, so I guess I'm also fearful of being sick in general. damn what happened to your family seems really like a tragic or conspiracy theme movie |
| Fear is natural traits that keeps you alive and out of trouble. Without it you would jump off 20 story building for kudos and die. Or pointlessly provoke some tough ass mofos and get beaten up to death/disability like Eren from AoT or EyeAmTheI from MAL Fear keeps you safe and sound. Because of that you will be able to live long and safe live. Unless you try to kill yourself to avoid hardships of life. It is lack of fear that suggest that something wrong with your mind/brain. |
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ThorLL said: Fear is natural traits that keeps you alive and out of trouble. Without it you would jump off 20 story building for kudos and die. Or pointlessly provoke some tough ass mofos and get beaten up to death/disability like Eren from AoT or EyeAmTheI from MAL Fear keeps you safe and sound. Because of that you will be able to live long and safe live. Unless you try to kill yourself to avoid hardships of life. It is lack of fear that suggest that something wrong with your mind/brain. lots of mental illness especially anxiety disorders and phobias are too much fear though so the keyword is too much |
| I have a story that I think I should tell in detail, because without all the bizarre and unusual details I feel the impact and the message isn't quite as powerful. Forgive me while I get a bit wordy but I have 10 minutes to kill while I wait for this video to render. Years ago, during a trip to Florence, I sat by an elderly gentleman outside of a café who couldn't sit still. My eyes were almost demanding to be drawn to him. The best way I can describe him is that his presence was persistent. Unkempt thinning gray hair, but dressed tightly in an old-timey brown suit and a bowler cap. Fidgeting with a cane far too long for him to use properly and bouncing his legs up and down. His other hand bumbling through messy notes. As I was looking through my phone for directions and trying to ignore him he abruptly slammed his notebook shut and stopped moving entirely. No more shaking or bustling. I slowly shifted my gaze away from my phone towards the old man. I would normally be startled to find someone staring at me, but in this instance I felt strangely calmed by his stare. I gave him a soft smile and went back to my phone. That's when he blurted out plainly in English "You don't speak Italian do you?" I kinda just stopped everything and looked at him for a few moments before shaking my head and saying "Nope," turning to face him "How'd you know?" Instead of responding to my question he opened his book to the page he was on before and pointed at his notes and asked me what I thought of them. I looked over at them and raised my eyebrows. "They're in Italian. I just told you I don't speak Italian." He laughed and said "When I asked you to look at my notes I didn't ask in English." At this point I honestly had no clue what he was talking about. I didn't recall exactly how he phrased what he said but it must have been in English for me to understand it. After a few minutes of back and forth, introductions, his frankly absurdly long and impressive academic resume, he then went on to tell me he was writing about fear. He explained to me the way he believed that fear is another way to pretend something doesn't exist. To convince yourself that if you avoid something enough you can exist independently from it. That we can create fears far more easily than we can overcome them. And that while no person is born fearless, they can choose to be so by simply deciding to fear fear itself. "Being afraid isn't necessarily bad, but choose to fear being afraid, and you'll know what it's like to be truly fearless. You'll never look at anything the same after that." I don't remember for how long we spoke following this but I know once I moved on for some reason I couldn't get him and our conversation out of my head. It's stuck with me to this day, and while what he said sounds simple in concept I get the strong feeling I still don't really fully understand what he was explaining to me. But I for some reason know it's without uncertainty, unequivocally true. |
QuietlyPerfect said: I have a story that I think I should tell in detail, because without all the bizarre and unusual details I feel the impact and the message isn't quite as powerful. Forgive me while I get a bit wordy but I have 10 minutes to kill while I wait for this video to render. Years ago, during a trip to Florence, I sat by an elderly gentleman outside of a café who couldn't sit still. My eyes were almost demanding to be drawn to him. The best way I can describe him is that his presence was persistent. Unkempt thinning gray hair, but dressed tightly in an old-timey brown suit and a bowler cap. Fidgeting with a cane far too long for him to use properly and bouncing his legs up and down. His other hand bumbling through messy notes. As I was looking through my phone for directions and trying to ignore him he abruptly slammed his notebook shut and stopped moving entirely. No more shaking or bustling. I slowly shifted my gaze away from my phone towards the old man. I would normally be startled to find someone staring at me, but in this instance I felt strangely calmed by his stare. I gave him a soft smile and went back to my phone. That's when he blurted out plainly in English "You don't speak Italian do you?" I kinda just stopped everything and looked at him for a few moments before shaking my head and saying "Nope," turning to face him "How'd you know?" Instead of responding to my question he opened his book to the page he was on before and pointed at his notes and asked me what I thought of them. I looked over at them and raised my eyebrows. "They're in Italian. I just told you I don't speak Italian." He laughed and said "When I asked you to look at my notes I didn't ask in English." At this point I honestly had no clue what he was talking about. I didn't recall exactly how he phrased what he said but it must have been in English for me to understand it. After a few minutes of back and forth, introductions, his frankly absurdly long and impressive academic resume, he then went on to tell me he was writing about fear. He explained to me the way he believed that fear is another way to pretend something doesn't exist. To convince yourself that if you avoid something enough you can exist independently from it. That we can create fears far more easily than we can overcome them. And that while no person is born fearless, they can choose to be so by simply deciding to fear fear itself. "Being afraid isn't necessarily bad, but choose to fear being afraid, and you'll know what it's like to be truly fearless. You'll never look at anything the same after that." I don't remember for how long we spoke following this but I know once I moved on for some reason I couldn't get him and our conversation out of my head. It's stuck with me to this day, and while what he said sounds simple in concept I get the strong feeling I still don't really fully understand what he was explaining to me. But I for some reason know it's without uncertainty, unequivocally true. lol damn i do not know how to fear fear itself but ye sounds like a revelation |
| @deg Because the incident that caused our illnesses happened at an NHS Hospital, they were the ones who naturally covered it up. The NHS is pretty notorious for doing that. My parents did the best they could, and probably more than most would, only because they had the means to. My Mother did sue (I'm not sure who though?) and it did go through Courts, but many tried to get the case to fail deliberately, and I don't know what the outcome was. It does suck, but I don't know what I can do about it :/ I honestly wished what happened had happened in a more recent time, as it could have turned out a lot differently than it did (maybe?) |
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LightWorker said: @deg Because the incident that caused our illnesses happened at an NHS Hospital, they were the ones who naturally covered it up. The NHS is pretty notorious for doing that. My parents did the best they could, and probably more than most would, only because they had the means to. My Mother did sue (I'm not sure who though?) and it did go through Courts, but many tried to get the case to fail deliberately, and I don't know what the outcome was. It does suck, but I don't know what I can do about it :/ I honestly wished what happened had happened in a more recent time, as it could have turned out a lot differently than it did (maybe?) i guess with how big social media right now is you can expose the cover up more that way and more people will take notice |
| @deg It's a possibility... although it's a difficult thing to explain anew, especially since there's virtually nothing about what happened online, I've only seen the Hospital mentioned maybe 3 or 4 times on websites, and of course it mentions virtually nothing about it, mainly only about it's previous history as a workhouse. I would also be very wary of where they get the information from. Because it happened in Wales, they obviously control what they want out there (not much), so getting truth out of them I think would be virtually impossible. And even the remaining evidence in my possession I would be a little uneasy about having people look over, as people have tried stealing it in the past, my medical history has been altered and is full of lies also. We always used to say where to go who knew us, and to obtain our private medical records, but people just ignore or do a half-hearted attempt just to say they did. The press hasn't always been helpful to us either, especially Welsh media. We eventually found two prominent investigating journalists who vetted my family before writing anything about us, and eventually they put us in their column for a National paper, but even they had some things stopped from releasing by our Government. Very, very few people wanted to help us, they were up against far too many prominent people. And honestly I don't know what the current public would think about it if it came out again, as we did eventually find & get treatment, although a lot of that was from public donations or my family's own money, and since we always had numerous homes (mainly to hide me between) people might think we really didn't suffer as much as some. And I'm also a little worried about trolling or worse, as I was in danger from being taken into as a kid for years because of it... sometimes i want it to remain forgotten about, I just wish my parents had a better rest of their lives, as my Mother spent her remaining years working on her cases, and then looking after my sick Sister & Dad. She was very passionate about it, but also a little delusional maybe? she always thought we were still News, when we hadn't been for 20+ years or so, and whatever allies we had to go back to, didn't seem to want to do much to help us as they did in the past. And as for what the decision the Courts came to I don't think can be challenged (maybe I'm wrong though?). My Mother did want to set up a foundation or company to help others like us, and she did want a book wrote about it, but I'm really not in a position to do either :/ and whilst my eldest Sister works at a Legal Firm, I don't know what she can do either, as it was my Mother's case and she's passed, and she's also a little scared for my safety also. I don't even know if the Courts would recognise/speak to me, as my Mother never appointed me to carry on with it. I'm very grateful for people to just listen to (some of) my History and experiences though, even though I can't make people believe (have experienced that way too many times lol) I'm very grateful for what my parents did for me though, and they gave the best life they could for me :') |
Little_SheeplingMar 1, 2023 5:47 AM
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LightWorker said: @deg It's a possibility... although it's a difficult thing to explain anew, especially since there's virtually nothing about what happened online, I've only seen the Hospital mentioned maybe 3 or 4 times on websites, and of course it mentions virtually nothing about it, mainly only about it's previous history as a workhouse. I would also be very wary of where they get the information from. Because it happened in Wales, they obviously control what they want out there (not much), so getting truth out of them I think would be virtually impossible. And even the remaining evidence in my possession I would be a little uneasy about having people look over, as people have tried stealing it in the past, my medical history has been altered and is full of lies also. We always used to say where to go who knew us, and to obtain our private medical records, but people just ignore or do a half-hearted attempt just to say they did. The press hasn't always been helpful to us either, especially Welsh media. We eventually found two prominent investigating journalists who vetted my family before writing anything about us, and eventually they put us in their column for a National paper, but even they had some things stopped from releasing by our Government. Very, very few people wanted to help us, they were up against far too many prominent people. And honestly I don't know what the current public would think about it if it came out again, as we did eventually find & get treatment, although a lot of that was from public donations or my family's own money, and since we always had numerous homes (mainly to hide me between) people might think we really didn't suffer as much as some. And I'm also a little worried about trolling or worse, as I was in danger from being taken into as a kid for years because of it... sometimes i want it to remain forgotten about, I just wish my parents had a better rest of their lives, as my Mother spent her remaining years working on her cases, and then looking after my sick Sister & Dad. She was very passionate about it, but also a little delusional maybe? she always thought we were still News, when we hadn't been for 20+ years or so, and whatever allies we had to go back to, didn't seem to want to do much to help us as they did in the past. And as for what the decision the Courts came to I don't think can be challenged (maybe I'm wrong though?). My Mother did want to set up a foundation or company to help others like us, and she did want a book wrote about it, but I'm really not in a position to do either :/ and whilst my eldest Sister works at a Legal Firm, I don't know what she can do either, as it was my Mother's case and she's passed, and she's also a little scared for my safety also. I don't even know if the Courts would recognise/speak to me, as my Mother never appointed me to carry on with it. I'm very grateful for people to just listen to (some of) my History and experiences though, even though I can't make people believe (have experienced that way too many times lol) I'm very grateful for what my parents did for me though, and they gave the best life they could for me :') what i mean is like maybe making a thread on some big popular forum on reddit maybe on conspiracy or cover up theme subreddits if those exist and people might make your story more viral because you want it to go viral and keep people talking about it if it happens now that is and yep at least your parents leave you with a comfortable life so thats great |
| @deg Ohhh, I didn't think of somewhere like that actually? I guess it could be good for maintaining a little anonymity if I wanted it. I think I would be a little skeptical of the professionalism of the sleuthing, but even the Pros let us down so what does it matter 😂 And thanks :) you sound like you have a great family around you also, hope you health situation improves too, but I don't what advice I could give... as I saw very little improvement with anything the Drs tried with my Dad & Sis :/ Best wishes to you :) |
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| My biggest fear is dying a prolonged and painful death. Other than that, I guess nothing much but that's possibly because of 2 reasons: 1) I haven't encountered anything that seriously scared me in life 2) My medication dulls my fear to quite a degree |
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LightWorker said: @deg Ohhh, I didn't think of somewhere like that actually? I guess it could be good for maintaining a little anonymity if I wanted it. I think I would be a little skeptical of the professionalism of the sleuthing, but even the Pros let us down so what does it matter 😂 And thanks :) you sound like you have a great family around you also, hope you health situation improves too, but I don't what advice I could give... as I saw very little improvement with anything the Drs tried with my Dad & Sis :/ Best wishes to you :) yep thanks and best of luck with life too! |
| My worst fear rarely affects me, it needs to be a specific location and time, and my other fear needs to be a specific person but I never found that person yet. I won't tell anyone what I fear the most since fear is a weakness and I'm aware of my own weaknesses so I take steps to manage them in a healthy way. |
''Enemies' gifts are no gifts and do no good.'' |
| My biggest fear is my fiancé dying and it affects me strongly in everyday life, sometimes I can't even enjoy happy moments because I think "this won't last, he's gonna die eventually anyway". And I keep wondering how much time we have left together. I have no reason to think that he could die because he's healthy and at the prime of his life, but I keep thinking of him getting in an accident or developing cancer. I love and need him so much that my brain forces me to come up with all kinds of horrible potential ways for him to die, and it's so stressful that it's sickening. |
If life ain't just a joke Then why are we laughing? If life ain't just a joke Then why am I dead? |
| Fear is not a mind killer, fear is actually the factor to become better. Actually the best to describe why would be quoting Aizen from the TYBW arc [not animated scene yet] Yhwach. You desired a world... Where fear would no longer be a burden. But... In a world without fear of death... People will never attain the hope that is to be found from casting their fears aside and preserving through them. While it is true that people can continue to press forward through the simple act of living... That is no way comparable to marching forward in the face of death, while doing their damndest to keep it at bay. That is why... That is why people have given that very march a unique and special name. "COURAGE. I have personally heigth fear, nonetheless I still went to line park, still went into some mountains, bah even tho when I was going to Śnieżka the walking path was covered in too much of Ice so I had to climb by hand through rocks, one big mistake and I would be dead, obviously I was terrified and covered in fear, but that's the point of overcoming the fear, which we now call Courage or Bravery. |
| fear definitely can fuck you over when its irrational, but i mean it is something we've gained evolutionarily for a reason so ig it isnt TOO awful also this thread reminded me of this banger song so thank you for that |
| I'm not certain what my biggest fear is, but I do certainly let it get the best of me. I am prone to being risk-adverse and not making effort to establish the change necessary to pursue long-term goals. |
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| "Fear is the little-death that bring total obliteration" -Dune I think what sucks about "Fear" is its not always one thing, is the cousin of caring imo and can hide in our logic as well. For example: Not even sure I articulated my thought effectively or accurately, but I was afraid it wouldn't read right, which is tied to a deeper fear of I dunno what, so now I'm typing this long sentence out to ensure...you get it. I wouldn't get rid of all fear, but will use the ones I can as an opportunity to get stronger cause it can be both a hinder and help. "When I am frightened, I shall master my fear" -His Dark Materials |
| "In the end the World really doesn't need a Superman. Just a Brave one" |
| fear keeps me safe. the key is to identify what is the cost of failing at the thing you're afraid of. if fear of rejection, the cost of failure is nothing. maybe you will be insulted and people will laugh at you. so that is a pointless fear and i will ignore it. if fear of death, then unless i know how to avoid death with almost 100% certainty, i will listen to the fear since it is keeping me alive. |
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