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Talk to him/her properly
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Beat him/her up
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Beg
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Blackmail
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Steal it back
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Tell your parents/teachers
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Just forget about it
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| A friend of mine owes me money but she wont pay me back, she's always making excuses like saying that she will pay me back the next week. My problem is I'm too nice to do anything other than talk to her properly. So if you're in the same situation. What would you do? Or if you have already experienced it. What did you do? |
| I keep nagging them 24/7, during the day at school, during the evening/weekends via Skype etc, eventually they'll become too annoyed and fed up with and give up :> |
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| Blackmail. Just stop being friends until they pay back. They were gonna keep using you anyway, so you may as well cut them off. And forget about the money; you ain't gettin' it back. |
| EgoFaptor is written all over this! |
| I'll tel them to give my money back. If they don't after telling them a few times i will start not wanting to be as close to them anymore. |
| I don't trust any one enough to lend money in the first place. |
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| http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZomwVcGt0LE I would pretty much do this^ Playin with my money is like playin with my emotions |
| Just about how much money are we speaking? What is her living situation? How much money do you own? How good of a friends are you? Shit like this matters. |
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| Nagging is the best option, she comes to you hand you extend your hand asking for the money. Also that's not a friend. |
| I stab the fuck. |
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| Just about how much money are we speaking? About 38 dollars + What is her living situation? Average. I'm also at the average level. How good of a friends are you? The very best. She just turned just like those swag teenagers this month. Maybe that's why... |
| Stab her in the ass with a fork! But before you do that.. depends how much money, depends how deep your friendship is and how much you value it. Amazing what can end a friendship these days. If it's like 5 dollars then it aint worth the hassle, what comes around goes around. If we talking like anything 15-20 above then you stab her ass with a fork. No I'm just kidding, Blackmail her, threaten to spill something her family wouldn't want her to know but you will lose your friendship in the process. Talk to her and tell her how you feel and ask for smaller payments. Or you could go tell her parents but where's your proof? Best thing i say is to just stab her ass with a fork. Or of course, leave it to karma and hope she get's hit by a bus. No but seriously, if you know she wont pay you best thing to do is man up, or lady up, and tell her to pay you, that either she does or your friendship wont be the same ever again and if she decided to not pay she wasn't a true friend to begin with. Or if you really want your money then just talk to her like a grown up and tell her you need it and she has to take responsibility and to pay you little by little if she has to. You have to be stern. |
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MaffleWaffle said: The first thing to do is to stop fooling yourself that you're "nice" and to take responsibility.My problem is I'm too nice to do anything other than talk to her properly. |
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OkumuraRin said: Stabbing someone's ass with a fork is too violent for me and I don't like violence.*snip Blackmailing is out of the option too because I'm not that devious. Ladying up (if that's a word) is out too cause whenever I get the chance to talk to her there is always people around us and I get nervous quickly whenever there's a crowd. If I where to lady up people around might notice and some commotion might start and I'm afraid of that happening. But still stabbing her ass with a fork sounds good. Maybe I'll do that with a mask on. elite-sama said: It's not that easy to change.MaffleWaffle said: The first thing to do is to stop fooling yourself that you're "nice" and to take responsibility.My problem is I'm too nice to do anything other than talk to her properly. |
| I'd forget about it, but never lend them money again... maybe. I just never have the courage to face people in situations like that. |
_Chimo said: It's far too scary.I'd forget about it, but never lend them money again... maybe. I just never have the courage to face people in situations like that. |
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| Just whack them in the head while you demand them to pay their debt. |
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MaffleWaffle said: Do notice some * are we really still as good as friends as before you turned that way? * there? She just turned just like those swag teenagers this month. Maybe that's why... Anyway how long has it been. Just keep nagging her about it. You're friends after all she probably will give in after some time. Losing your friend over some stupid money is no worth it. |
johnyjohnyOct 20, 2013 4:29 AM
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MaffleWaffle said: OkumuraRin said: Stabbing someone's ass with a fork is too violent for me and I don't like violence.*snip Blackmailing is out of the option too because I'm not that devious. Ladying up (if that's a word) is out too cause whenever I get the chance to talk to her there is always people around us and I get nervous quickly whenever there's a crowd. If I where to lady up people around might notice and some commotion might start and I'm afraid of that happening. But still stabbing her ass with a fork sounds good. Maybe I'll do that with a mask on. Ask someone to do it for you? Or at least be there with you. It might give you the courage to speak up if there is a third person involved? A third trusty friend? |
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| Dump their body in the river. |
| 38$? Fuck, that's a lot! Better steal her phone and selling it without her knowing it, this process will even bring you a large amount of profit, probably. |
| If I was you I'd force her to pay me with her body. |
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| A little bit of torture usually makes them pay up. |
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| It depends on how much did that person owes me.. If it's a lil, then I can wait patiently but if not, I'll just wait and beat that person in my mind all the time then muster up the courage to talk about the money :P |
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| Talk to them nicely about it and I have experienced it. If your buddy owes you $500+ (after borrowing many times from you in 6 months) and still haven't return the money (most likely they forgot which is bad) then you gotta inform them even if it cause a crack in your friendship. Remember, a person who borrows money from you non-stop and never returns it is not a friend. Sure you can be as forgiving and just let it slide as long as possible but there comes a time when a line is crossed. |
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MaffleWaffle said: My problem is I'm too nice to do anything other than talk to her properly. Talking is usually the right way to handle it, but you really need to be more firm and make it clear that you're not dealing with her bs anymore. Don't have a fight with her over $40, obviously, but yeah |
deadoptimist said: Though I think shit-flinging should also have standards - no personal, no behind the scenes. |
| Yeah maybe I should try to be more firm to her when I ask her to pay me back so that she will take it more seriously but the bad part is I know that she doesnt have enough money cause she always spends them right away >_< |
| never lend money |
| ~"The place to improve the world is first in one's own heart and head and hands." (Pirsig) |
Regicide said: Haha easier said than done :)never lend money |
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worldeditor11 said: But her problem would become my problem.MaffleWaffle said: Yeah maybe I should try to be more firm to her when I ask her to pay me back so that she will take it more seriously but the bad part is I know that she doesnt have enough money cause she always spends them right away >_< Then, that is her problem, not yours. |
ShanaFlame said: Regicide said: Haha easier said than done :)never lend money become more handsome and no one will approach you for money that seems like a response some people would give on the mal forums tho honestly you grow up without spending cash and you will find yourself at the grocery store wincing when you pay 25 dollars for a weeks food lending cash or wasting it doesn't cross my mind or maybe the op is so attractive that he must give out money to maintain his connections i don't know i aint got those problems |
RegicideOct 20, 2013 6:01 AM
| ~"The place to improve the world is first in one's own heart and head and hands." (Pirsig) |
| Nothing. Unless I knew that she was able to pay it back and simply was choosing not too, then I simply wouldn't lend her money again. If it's because she had financial problems, I wouldn't ask for it back probably. |
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worldeditor11 said: It's the first time I lent her money so I wouldnt know about her attitude towards money I just expected that the money I lent her is kinda big so I was sure she was gonna pay me and the fact that we are friends. Being stern is my next step on getting my money back but if everything else fails I might as well steal her money... An eye for an eye. But seriously maybe I would just forget about the money and her, it's tiring for me to nag at her whenever I see her and she's kinda avoiding me now so... yeah. I'll just stab her ass with a fork as revenge, I mean it's a good deal for her right? A stab in the ass for 38 dollars?MaffleWaffle said: worldeditor11 said: But her problem would become my problem.MaffleWaffle said: Yeah maybe I should try to be more firm to her when I ask her to pay me back so that she will take it more seriously but the bad part is I know that she doesnt have enough money cause she always spends them right away >_< Then, that is her problem, not yours. It wont be if you dont lend the money to her in the first place. But since you did despite knowing her attitude towards money, then, you are the one who is contributing to the problem and not solving it. Be more stern if you are being uncomfortable of your "friend" owing you money without paying back. Tell her what is her problem politely and dont get carried over by emotion but persuade by reason. If she fail to listen, you might as well erase her from one your friend's list and forget about the money and move on with life. |
| Forgive them. Edit: Posted the wrong parable. Give me some seconds. Edit 2: Wow, that parable is apparently not very famous, but it has pretty much a lot to teach. Matthew 18:21 - 35 21 Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, “Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother or sister who sins against me? Up to seven times?” 22 Jesus answered, “I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times.[a] 23 “Therefore, the kingdom of heaven is like a king who wanted to settle accounts with his servants. 24 As he began the settlement, a man who owed him ten thousand bags of gold was brought to him. 25 Since he was not able to pay, the master ordered that he and his wife and his children and all that he had be sold to repay the debt. 26 “At this the servant fell on his knees before him. ‘Be patient with me,’ he begged, ‘and I will pay back everything.’ 27 The servant’s master took pity on him, canceled the debt and let him go. 28 “But when that servant went out, he found one of his fellow servants who owed him a hundred silver coins.[c] He grabbed him and began to choke him. ‘Pay back what you owe me!’ he demanded. 29 “His fellow servant fell to his knees and begged him, ‘Be patient with me, and I will pay it back.’ 30 “But he refused. Instead, he went off and had the man thrown into prison until he could pay the debt. 31 When the other servants saw what had happened, they were outraged and went and told their master everything that had happened. 32 “Then the master called the servant in. ‘You wicked servant,’ he said, ‘I canceled all that debt of yours because you begged me to. 33 Shouldn’t you have had mercy on your fellow servant just as I had on you?’ 34 In anger his master handed him over to the jailers to be tortured, until he should pay back all he owed. 35 “This is how my heavenly Father will treat each of you unless you forgive your brother or sister from your heart.” There is your answer, OP. |
lupadimOct 20, 2013 6:32 AM
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worldeditor11 said: Whatever floats your boat. I probably shall mention this, if you did stab her on the bottom using a fork(or any sharp and pointy kitchenware you are able to find), you might get charged for assault and inflicting injury. So yeah, its not just 38 dollars. If she decides to report to the police, prepare yourself getting behind bars and having your face in front of the headlines of your local daily newspapers. BREAKING NEWS "BOY/GIRL STABS FRIEND OVER 38 DOLLARS" She's not serious...I hope :s Oh no, I've created a monster.. |
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| OH MY G-WORD! MONEY, RAGE AND MAL HAVE BLINDED ME! Well I could still tell her parents or mine and let the adults handle it but isn't it kinda wimpy? |
MaffleWaffle said: OH MY G-WORD! MONEY, RAGE AND MAL HAVE BLINDED ME! Well I could still tell her parents or mine and let the adults handle it but isn't it kinda wimpy? Well this certainly isn't wimpy. http://images.wikia.com/degrassi/images/8/8f/Bad-girls-club-bgc-bgc5-cat-fight-fight-Favim.com-231617.gif |
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MaffleWaffle said: OH MY G-WORD! MONEY, RAGE AND MAL HAVE BLINDED ME! Well I could still tell her parents or mine and let the adults handle it but isn't it kinda wimpy? Just read my post. |
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| I recently lent money to a friend but he paid back quite quickly. If he wasnt gna pay me, i would've stolen his wallet the next time we go out to eat. |
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| Well I have decided that if she still doesn't pay me after having a serious talk I'll just forget about it and forgive her. I'll just treat this as a lesson for me and avoid the same situation happening again. But I was hoping more answers about other people here in MAL on what would they do in this situation and not about me but still I really appreciated it. lupadim said: O_O I didnt know lupadim knows the context of the bible*mega snip |
MaffleWaffleOct 20, 2013 6:41 AM
MaffleWaffle said: That is the best thing you are going to do. Congratulations, OP, you made the right decision.Well I have decided that if she still doesn't pay me after having a serious talk I'll just forget about it and forgive her. I'll just treat this as a lesson for me and avoid the same situation happening again. But I was hoping more answers about other people here in MAL on what would they do in this situation and not about me but still I really appreciated it. |
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drinkbeer said: if you lend your money to your friend, you will lose both your money and your friend... QFT. MaffleWaffle said: Well I have decided that if she still doesn't pay me after having a serious talk I'll just forget about it and forgive her. I'll just treat this as a lesson for me and avoid the same situation happening again. But I was hoping more answers about other people here in MAL on what would they do in this situation and not about me but still I really appreciated it. That's one less friend already. In my situation I would talk it properly and hear his/her reason and set a due date. People take it easy because they feel like you'd be there saving their ass every time they need it, just let them know it all comes with a price. Maybe you should create an interest rate on your loan. I always did this to my friends, even my own brother, lol. Usually I asked something in return, or borrow something from them as a collateral reminder. |
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