Sex before marriage?
mayukachan said: It won't last long then.Unfortunately, not every couple will have this. |
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ExTamplier said: And that's why you have sex before getting into marriage.mayukachan said: It won't last long then.Unfortunately, not every couple will have this. |
mayukachan said: That's what I said on the last page.ExTamplier said: And that's why you have sex before getting into marriage.It won't last long then. |
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mayukachan said: Cottonrabbit said: Unfortunately, not every couple will have this.Honesty and confidence with your partner is also a necessity. It doesn't sound like they will be a very stable couple if they can't be honest with each other. As someone who is really shy when it comes to having sex talks with their partner, I can understand why people would want to avoid it, but communication is the key to a successful relationship. You should communicate with your partner over your feelings towards everything, including sexual stuff. It's just one of those things that you have to do if you want a strong relationship. |
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ExTamplier said: It's been said many times in this thread, I know. I was never arguing against it, btw.mayukachan said: That's what I said on the last page.And that's why you have sex before getting into marriage. |
mayukachan said: >1994 You're two years older than me, wut. I've been thinking about parenthood since I was in elementary school. I think I'm certain on how I see myself in the future. If they think being 21 makes them unquestionably that much more experienced than you I wouldn't let what they say get to you. LionCake said: Honesty and confidence with your partner is also a necessity. I agree but in reality nobody is honest in a relationship 100% of the time and sex is one of those things people can get anxious or embarrassed about. Of course the more honest and open you can be, the better. But everyone hides something at some point in their life, it doesn't matter how close you are with someone. Sometimes it's exactly because you're close to them. At the very least, if you find yourself unable to be honest about these things, better to realize that before marriage. |
Thalos said: Everyone has a personal opinion, and everyone grew up in a different community with it's own beliefs.mayukachan said: If they think being 21 makes them unquestionably that much more experienced than you I wouldn't let what they say get to you.>1994 You're two years older than me, wut. I've been thinking about parenthood since I was in elementary school. I think I'm certain on how I see myself in the future. |
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ExTamplier said: Thalos said: Everyone has a personal opinion, and everyone grew up in a different community with it's own beliefs.If they think being 21 makes them unquestionably that much more experienced than you I wouldn't let what they say get to you. Even if they grew up in the same community doesn't mean they are going to have the same beliefs either |
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| Wait... There are still people in the Western civilisation that won't have sex before they marry? |
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Comic_Sans said: Wait... There are still people in the Western civilisation that won't have sex before they marry? It's a big world buddy |
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ThRippJck said: WowComic_Sans said: Wait... There are still people in the Western civilisation that won't have sex before they marry? It's a big world buddy Weird |
Nico- said: Conversations with people pinging/quoting me to argue about some old post I wrote years ago will not be entertained@Comic_Sans oh no y arnt ppl dieing i need more ppl dieing rly gud plot avansement jus liek tokyo ghoul if erbudy dies amirite |
| sex is important on any intimate relationship imho so doing sex is a natural part of it i do not see any benefits of premarital sex that major religions preach other than following a holy book that is considered fiction |
Thalos said: I wouldn't even feel comfortable marrying someone I haven't had sex with before to be honest. You wouldn't ask for sex before even kissing the person, to me marriage is the same. Marriage should basically be the furthest step you take your relationship, so it should be proceeded by everything else. You should only get married after you've spent enough time together with someone and are sure that every aspect of your relationship is healthy. I'd rather not have to go through divorce(s) because of something like that. If it's someones belief not to, I'd respect it, but I also probably wouldn't end up marrying that person. That's pretty spot on, I feel exactly the same way. |
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mayukachan said: LionCake said: Well, not necessarily. Some couples can lose all the romance but stay together because of their kids.Sex is a fundamental necessity to a lasting marriage. Sexual libido tends to dissapair after awhile, for some couples. |
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Shoryuuken said: That, and because of pregnancy after effects.mayukachan said: Well, not necessarily. Some couples can lose all the romance but stay together because of their kids. Sexual libido tends to dissapair after awhile, for some couples. |
mayukachan said: Shoryuuken said: That, and because of pregnancy after effects.Sexual libido tends to dissapair after awhile, for some couples. Hmmhmm, many reasons why couples stop having sex. I wonder how life is like if you don't even love your husband/wife anymore, yet you're forced to stick together. |
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| Well I sure ain't marrying someone just to have sex. |
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Shoryuuken said: My parents are like that. It's kind of sad but they don't complain.mayukachan said: That, and because of pregnancy after effects. Hmmhmm, many reasons why couples stop having sex. I wonder how life is like if you don't even love your husband/wife anymore, yet you're forced to stick together. |
| Sexual compatibility is, in most cases (about 90%) , adjustable. A nice long chat about sex before marriage will achieve you the same result as having sexual intercourse before marriage would. But, whatever floats your boat. |
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| In this day and age, I don't think most couples follow that sorta thing anymore. Unless, not being stereotypical or anything, they're very religious. But there is nothing wrong with waiting til after marriage. I guess it depends on each couple. |
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| Sex is pretty much mandatory if you wanna be my girl. :~) Good sex, too. Both of us need to feel good and for real, and preferably stuff like oral included. |
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mayukachan said: Shoryuuken said: My parents are like that. It's kind of sad but they don't complain.Hmmhmm, many reasons why couples stop having sex. I wonder how life is like if you don't even love your husband/wife anymore, yet you're forced to stick together. My parents aren't together anymore, but y'know they never married so I guess "divorcing" doesn't apply eh? The only thing they really do is complain about one another when talking with me. God it's getting on my nerves at times. How's the atmosphere like in the living room? Neutral? |
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| If you're good with each other outside of the bedroom, then it should follow it's good inside the bedroom too. It's down on personal belief and also the couple has to talk about it as well. I don't think it's a necessity but it does not mean I cannot be persuaded if the one I am going to get married thinks differently (and gives convincing argument also). I like to think the first night after marriage is something special. Properly something to do with Eastern practice. |
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Shoryuuken said: Neutral. They do argue a fair bit though. My dad has a bad temper.How's the atmosphere like in the living room? Neutral? |
| Is sex before marriage so out there that this thread had to exist? I thought it was as common as every young couples i see on daily basis. |
| I think that to remain a virgin until marriage can cause mental and sexual damage to some people. Many religions put too much weight on the whole virgin thing, resulting in girls feeling like their value as a person is depending on their "pureness". Some girls still feel this pressure even after they're married, making sex life after marriage awful and destroying their self esteem. We're creating way too much stigma around something that's completely natural to do. |
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Amiluhur said: too many people treat virginity as this precious pearl within them, that they start judging others who don't have it anymore.Is sex before marriage so out there that this thread had to exist? I thought it was as common as every young couples i see on daily basis. |
| I just finished ranting about relationships and the 1st thing I see is this. I don't even know what to type about this. For one thing, I am completely against this. but I'm just confused about how this world lost so much of it's values as individuals. How they devalue themselves so much to resort to this. If you're wondering yes, I'm a Christian. But just to let you know I actually find the atheists more tolerable than the fake Christians in my school and I'm a more logical kind of Christian I can assure you of that. Now back to the topic. Guilty pleasure can only make life worth living for so long. I hope people would put more time and effort on something that lasts for an eternity. |
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bombslayer said: I just finished ranting about relationships and the 1st thing I see is this. I don't even know what to type about this. For one thing, I am completely against this. but I'm just confused about how this world lost so much of it's values as individuals. How they devalue themselves so much to resort to this. If you're wondering yes, I'm a Christian. But just to let you know I actually find the atheists more tolerable than the fake Christians in my school and I'm a more logical kind of Christian I can assure you of that. Now back to the topic. Guilty pleasure can only make life worth living for so long. I hope people would put more time and effort on something that lasts for an eternity. Look at what Grubel said and think again. That's a real problem. |
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bombslayer said: I just finished ranting about relationships and the 1st thing I see is this. I don't even know what to type about this. For one thing, I am completely against this. but I'm just confused about how this world lost so much of it's values as individuals. How they devalue themselves so much to resort to this. If you're wondering yes, I'm a Christian. But just to let you know I actually find the atheists more tolerable than the fake Christians in my school and I'm a more logical kind of Christian I can assure you of that. Now back to the topic. Guilty pleasure can only make life worth living for so long. I hope people would put more time and effort on something that lasts for an eternity. Guilty pleasure is only guilty if your conscience tells you to. If your conscience has been manipulated from a young age, of course it's going to feel wrong. Your value as a person is the same thing. For example: Where I come from, you loose value in your friends eyes if you're still a virgin after 16-18 years. I think it's despicable either way. Why judge people on this matter at all? |
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Mischievous said: bombslayer said: I just finished ranting about relationships and the 1st thing I see is this. I don't even know what to type about this. For one thing, I am completely against this. but I'm just confused about how this world lost so much of it's values as individuals. How they devalue themselves so much to resort to this. If you're wondering yes, I'm a Christian. But just to let you know I actually find the atheists more tolerable than the fake Christians in my school and I'm a more logical kind of Christian I can assure you of that. Now back to the topic. Guilty pleasure can only make life worth living for so long. I hope people would put more time and effort on something that lasts for an eternity. Why devalue themselves? You're soiling yourself without even tying the knot with the person. And I think people forgot that sex are only for those who have dedicated their lives to one another. |
Grubel said: bombslayer said: I just finished ranting about relationships and the 1st thing I see is this. I don't even know what to type about this. For one thing, I am completely against this. but I'm just confused about how this world lost so much of it's values as individuals. How they devalue themselves so much to resort to this. If you're wondering yes, I'm a Christian. But just to let you know I actually find the atheists more tolerable than the fake Christians in my school and I'm a more logical kind of Christian I can assure you of that. Now back to the topic. Guilty pleasure can only make life worth living for so long. I hope people would put more time and effort on something that lasts for an eternity. Guilty pleasure is only guilty if your conscience tells you to. If your conscience has been manipulated from a young age, of course it's going to feel wrong. Your value as a person is the same thing. For example: Where I come from, you loose value in your friends eyes if you're still a virgin after 16-18 years. I think it's despicable either way. Why judge people on this matter at all? I wouldn't even bother with those type of people to begin with and are you saying the human conscience can be manipulated in such a way that rape and murder is justified. |
bombslayer said: those who have dedicated their lives to one another. So marriage is the only way two people who love each other can dedicate their lives to one another? |
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bombslayer said: Grubel said: Guilty pleasure is only guilty if your conscience tells you to. If your conscience has been manipulated from a young age, of course it's going to feel wrong. Your value as a person is the same thing. For example: Where I come from, you loose value in your friends eyes if you're still a virgin after 16-18 years. I think it's despicable either way. Why judge people on this matter at all? I wouldn't even bother with those type of people to begin with Well, you're probably right... But it's sickening to see such judgemental people. |
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DisdainMatto said: bombslayer said: those who have dedicated their lives to one another. So marriage is the only way two people who love each other can dedicate their lives to one another? The amount of dedication I'm talking about is the one equivalent to marriage. And well now that think of it none of this can be proven. So it's all my opinion |
| Not everyone treats sex as a sacred activity between husband and wife. |
mayukachan said: And I wonder what is sex to them now.Not everyone treats sex as a sacred activity between husband and wife. |
bombslayer said: Something that happens on their everyday life, like a handshake.mayukachan said: And I wonder what is sex to them now.Not everyone treats sex as a sacred activity between husband and wife. |
bombslayer said: Considering its something like 65% of all marriages end in divorce and domestic partnerships tend to be more successful I would argue that love and marriage are two very separate things. Marriage is not very indicative of love anymore, unfortunately.DisdainMatto said: So marriage is the only way two people who love each other can dedicate their lives to one another? The amount of dedication I'm talking about is the one equivalent to marriage. And well now that think of it none of this can be proven. So it's all my opinion |
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mayukachan said: Well that's not the first time I heard that phrase.I guess losing faith in humanity is just as common as that to me nowadaysbombslayer said: Something that happens on their everyday life, like a handshake.And I wonder what is sex to them now. |
bombslayer said: You'll realize that there is beauty in this world outside of your religious viewpoints and the shit humans do. The world is a beautiful place, you just have to look.mayukachan said: Well that's not the first time I heard that phrase.I guess losing faith in humanity is just as common as that to me nowadaysSomething that happens on their everyday life, like a handshake. |
I love Christine "If one advances confidently in the direction of his dreams, and endeavors to live the life which he has imagined, he will meet with a success unexpected in common hours. He will put some things behind, will pass an invisible boundary; In proportion as he simplifies his life, the laws of the universe will appear less complex, and solitude will not be solitude, nor poverty poverty, nor weakness weakness." - Henry David Thoreau |
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