| Can someone be a shut-out? |
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| I have to work, but other than that I don't really go out much. Plus, Its 100+ degrees out where I live for half of every year so I have no concerns. Being a complete shut in is unhealthy.. Having very few or no friends is not. At least force yourself to not be a NEET haha. |
| Well, I was somewhat a shut-in before I got a job, staying at home playing video games and watching anime all day. After a while, it gets really boring and when you see how other people's live their lives, you won't like it, there will be sense of jealously and anger. There's no future for shut-in unless you know shit and can be productive even while staying locked up in there. Before you think about being a shut-in, think about your life, what have you been born into this world for? What kind of ending do you want for your life? |
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| Well, you are not gonna suddenly get transported into a fantasy world and get a harem of warrior girls, so its kind of pointless being a shut-in unless you want to play games and watch anime 7/24. |
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| I legitimately want to know how to do this too without being a leech off of my parents. Like seriously think about that, if you work full time or even if its almost full time thats 8hours a day or 30-40hrs a week your getting back. You know how much you can do with 40 extra hours a week?! You could learn fucking college level information just from google all free, you could learn what ever hobby you have as in depth as possible, you can stop half assing everything in life and actually have the time to finish things and learn more things and actually enjoy life. Working makes you fucking depressed, it makes you realize all your leading to is a hole in the ground, your literally wasting your precious time and youth doing tasks that don't matter at all for shit pay more than likely. |
| If I had enough money to live a comfortable life without leeching off my parents or the government and didn't have to interact with people it would be pretty decent. I'd probly still go outside for jogs, the gym and hanging out occasionally, but if I was so financially well off I didn't have to go to work or school it would be totally awesome. I'd probably spend most of my time alone watching anime, movies t.v series and playing video games. I could write a book, pick up martial arts and pursue my other hobbies. I always thought mountain climbing was pretty cool, I'd love to try that. I don't see the big problem. If you're talking about the straight up don't want to talk to any people or they can't leave their room out of fear and have involuntarily chosen the life, because of their mental condition that's a different story. This is a pretty widespread problem in Japan and I feel pretty bad for these guys. I'm sure they'd like nothing more than to interact with people and have a family and kids and stuff, but I imagine they've either been constantly rejected or they find the social pressure too great and just give up. |
 "The individual has always had to struggle to keep from being overwhelmed by the tribe. If you try it, you will be lonely often, and sometimes frightened. But no price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning yourself." -Friedrich Nietzsche |
| I have been a shut in these three months due to waiting for college. I just graduated from high school all I have been doing these months is only playing my computer I still go outside though, running some errands given by parents. but I rarely see my friends these months, I dont socialize enough these past 3 months. I'm SO introverted (even family is often mad about me being so quiet, sometimes forcing me to talk), but not being social and doing nothing are SURPRISINGLY excruciating for me. I used to think being a shut in is a good idea, doing internet, playing games, etc. but what have happened these months have made me think it's not good enough as it sounds. I really think that I need to "get social and do things" |
HumbleBratJul 18, 2015 11:39 PM
RedTie47 said: If you're invisible anyway no one is going to even notice if you never go outside, you'll always be alone and worthless. This is so true... |
| I'd pity you if you really were born in 1987 |
| "There's no shame in falling down... true shame is to not stand up again!" "Aah? Of course I won't miss!" "My blood tastes like Iron." "Run through the tape in life! Never give up! Run through the tape!" |
| Currently I live at home and go to community college. I'm going to become an elementary school teacher though so while I won't be a shut in during the school year I can do so during the summer. |
| luuuul, dont be a shut in, ive been a shut in for two months do to serious injury, and when i first went outside, last week i was scared of everything, though my life was in danger, still think that way, do u really think its worth it, and yes im a a burden to my parents, but hopefully ill go back to be a productive member of society soon, |
html said: Being a shut-in takes dedication. Better quit now if you're just gonna pussy out. |
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Daniel-Kami said: Beeing a shut in definitly is not fun believe meSo I am curious being a shut in means you don't leave your house for months right? So how do you have money for anime, food, and rent. Are shut ins just bums who live off of there parents, do some have online jobs? I am curious because I am planning my post high school life right now, and being a shut-in sounds like a fun occupation, but I am not sure how to start. |
| You are naive, kid. Our lifestyle is not funny, it is depressing. |
Karadzic said: Can someone be a shut-out? The homeless. Also being a shut-in is pretty shit. |
Lo-Lo4 said: I've been shut in for periods of my life since highschool. Then before college after a job. Then later started staying in my room at college due to pressures and lack of how to break them. Then for the past 3 summer sometimes into fall. Its not all that fun. I have help from drs and have a learning disability and have a hard time getting over stuff that other people say doesn't need attention. Like my emotions and other peoples feelings on a matter. Its almost like trying not to be like a Darth Vader when dealing w issues like this. Anyway everything will get harder without help or some type of connection. I agree w others that a lot of people don't actively choose to be shut ins and kind of sink into it by pressures and slowly not being able to handle society as well. Or possibly being bullied. How do you overcome being a shut-in? How does the process work? |
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| Being a shut in means you will be conforming to the lowest possible point of degeneracy. Not only mooching off your parents for money and a place to live, but constantly avoiding them and any other living thing. Pissing in bottles and not showering for days, are you sure you're ready to live the life of pure scum OP? |
| There's a stark contrast between hikikomori shut-in hermits and simple NEETs. To hide away from the world you gotta live off social media, so in the end you aren't really avoiding people usually. That is unless you're a website builder or programmer or something to that effect. Being a NEET means someone has to nurture your existence, or you fall in with whatever street gangs are around, be them decent guys or a bunch of scumbags. Not everyone's cut out for the world, not everyone can figure out what they're doing... Some people have poor personal circumstances or depression in which they must fight in order to be self-sufficient. A lot of people like this get pushed aside, even by their families, who think they're just lazy-asses when they're honestly troubled. If you want to be self sufficient without leaving your residence, you're gonna have to find an online job. |
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| Doesn't shut ins generally suffer from huge social anxiety and/or other mental problems, which is the reason they "can't" go out? Purposefully planning to become a shut-in sounds like a bad plan. |
| "In this world, evil can arise from the best of intentions. And there is good which can come from evil intentions" |
| It's very interesting to hear about these perspectives of shut-in's. I watched Welcome to the NHK and I think that scared me straight from that lifestyle. To some extent, I can understand the feelings of wanting to shutting society out. Overall, I don't think that's a good idea but it's really up to you in what you want to do. |
FestivalsOfComfy said: It's very interesting to hear about these perspectives of shut-in's. I watched Welcome to the NHK and I think that scared me straight from that lifestyle. To some extent, I can understand the feelings of wanting to shutting society out. Overall, I don't think that's a good idea but it's really up to you in what you want to do. Oh boy, that anime was terrible and cared nothing for the perspective of the shut-in. It's making light of a serious issue. |
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TheBrainintheJar said: FestivalsOfComfy said: It's very interesting to hear about these perspectives of shut-in's. I watched Welcome to the NHK and I think that scared me straight from that lifestyle. To some extent, I can understand the feelings of wanting to shutting society out. Overall, I don't think that's a good idea but it's really up to you in what you want to do. Oh boy, that anime was terrible and cared nothing for the perspective of the shut-in. It's making light of a serious issue. I haven't seen that anime, but yeah there's a lot that make light of the issue. I know i've seen ones that take it seriously, but i can't think of them off the top of my head. |
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TheBrainintheJar said: FestivalsOfComfy said: It's very interesting to hear about these perspectives of shut-in's. I watched Welcome to the NHK and I think that scared me straight from that lifestyle. To some extent, I can understand the feelings of wanting to shutting society out. Overall, I don't think that's a good idea but it's really up to you in what you want to do. Oh boy, that anime was terrible and cared nothing for the perspective of the shut-in. It's making light of a serious issue. Oh, I see. Sorry, it's been so long since I've watched that anime so I can't remember much. Can you expand your point on what it made light of on the issue? |
| I tried being a shut-in, but it was too much work, so I gave up. |
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| Yea, I've been there before. You don't wanna do that :p |
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FestivalsOfComfy said: TheBrainintheJar said: Oh boy, that anime was terrible and cared nothing for the perspective of the shut-in. It's making light of a serious issue. Oh, I see. Sorry, it's been so long since I've watched that anime so I can't remember much. Can you expand your point on what it made light of on the issue? There's never a moment where we understand the rationality of the shut-in, how the world looks like from his perspective. When we do, it's using cute characters to exaggerate how silly it is - look at how this idiot thinks the world is hostile, when in fact it isn't! Compare it to WataMote, which is far darker. When Tomoko is worried, we see a shopping list of her worries in a way that doesn't make it look silly, but real. She has a lot of fears, all of which can actually come true. GenesisAria said: TheBrainintheJar said: Oh boy, that anime was terrible and cared nothing for the perspective of the shut-in. It's making light of a serious issue. I haven't seen that anime, but yeah there's a lot that make light of the issue. I know i've seen ones that take it seriously, but i can't think of them off the top of my head. WataMote does it right. It's also comedy, but it doesn't think social anxiety is an easy issue to deal with. It uses comedy to face the darkness. Tomoko's pain is apparent and we're meant to sympathize with her, not mock her. |
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TheBrainintheJar said: GenesisAria said: WataMote does it right. It's also comedy, but it doesn't think social anxiety is an easy issue to deal with. It uses comedy to face the darkness. Tomoko's pain is apparent and we're meant to sympathize with her, not mock her.I haven't seen that anime, but yeah there's a lot that make light of the issue. I know i've seen ones that take it seriously, but i can't think of them off the top of my head. Ehh, i don't quite know about THAT, Tomoko is the cringiest fukken retard ever lol. |
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GenesisAria said: TheBrainintheJar said: WataMote does it right. It's also comedy, but it doesn't think social anxiety is an easy issue to deal with. It uses comedy to face the darkness. Tomoko's pain is apparent and we're meant to sympathize with her, not mock her. Ehh, i don't quite know about THAT, Tomoko is the cringiest fukken retard ever lol. 'Retard' isn't the right term. She just has a bad case of social anxiety and we see its pain, not just the quirks. |
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| @TheBrainintheJar She is totally a retard. If she didn't have social retardadion, she would have learned to fit in by now. Look up the definition of that word XD |
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GenesisAria said: @TheBrainintheJar She is totally a retard. If she didn't have social retardadion, she would have learned to fit in by now. Look up the definition of that word XD A 'social retard' is just a vulgar name for extreme social anxiety. |
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TheBrainintheJar said: GenesisAria said: @TheBrainintheJar She is totally a retard. If she didn't have social retardadion, she would have learned to fit in by now. Look up the definition of that word XD A 'social retard' is just a vulgar name for extreme social anxiety. You don't have to have anxiety to be charismatically inept. |
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TheBrainintheJar said: GenesisAria said: @TheBrainintheJar She is totally a retard. If she didn't have social retardadion, she would have learned to fit in by now. Look up the definition of that word XD A 'social retard' is just a vulgar name for extreme social anxiety. Actually last time I checked "social retard" is what they call autistic people, but both are highly ignorant and offensive ... |
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| I am pretty much one. I have to keep my door shut at all times because the cats pee in my room all the time and my dad requires me to keep it closed for that reason. It sucks because I spend most of my time in my room and I feel like keeping it closed just isolates me from the rest of the world. |
| It's cool to find people to hang out with at events, expos, anime conventions and stuff, but its equally as cool to roam around on your own and observe. |
Otaku-Gunso said: Actually last time I checked "social retard" is what they call autistic people, but both are highly ignorant and offensive ... It's a term with more negative connotation, its purpose is more to insult rather than point out someone has a difficulty. Call me politically correct, but I wouldn't throw it carelessly around. |
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TheBrainintheJar said: Otaku-Gunso said: Actually last time I checked "social retard" is what they call autistic people, but both are highly ignorant and offensive ... It's a term with more negative connotation, its purpose is more to insult rather than point out someone has a difficulty. Call me politically correct, but I wouldn't throw it carelessly around. Yea, it definitely cuts deep. Dunno about anyone else but I've been called a social retard once before. |
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| I've been a shut-in ever since I graduated high school three and a half years ago. I live with my parents, and they take care of my needs... |
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Faederwulf said: I've been a shut-in for over half a decade, and it's something everyone should avoid. I've had times where I haven't left the house for months on end, and times where I've been away from home for months on end, but overall I don't have anything to work towards that gets me out of the house, and finding the motivation for schooling (either college or finishing the high school qualifications I missed out on) is extremely difficult. I'm sure most men could remain sane as hermits even with little human contact if they spent time exercising, had a good diet, and spent time in nature - unless you have an income you earn at home, however, it's not feasible in the long run. If you spend time in nature, you're not really a shut-in. It's not just the lack of contact that drives people crazy, but long stays in an enclosed space. |
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Yachty said: That is very, very wrong. you can be confident/have no anxiety and still be a social retard. there's people I know that are uncourteous, lacks social awareness and do weird, socially unacceptable shit but does so with confidence. everyone avoids him and the worst thing is he doesnt know what hes done wrong due to his said 'confidence'. So no, anxiety and social retardation is not the same thing. Your description reminds me of this person I know who's awful at social interactions, yet does it with confidence. He does things I wouldn't dare to. You're right. I got the two mixed up. They're not the same. |
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Yachty said: That is very, very wrong. you can be confident/have no anxiety and still be a social retard. there's people I know that are uncourteous, lacks social awareness and do weird, socially unacceptable shit but does so with confidence. everyone avoids him and the worst thing is he doesnt know what hes done wrong due to his said 'confidence'. So no, anxiety and social retardation is not the same thing. Maybe somebody should help them and talk to them? |
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Faederwulf said: TheBrainintheJar said: If you spend time in nature, you're not really a shut-in. It's not just the lack of contact that drives people crazy, but long stays in an enclosed space. Hence why in the second section I used the word "hermit". As for being a shut-in, however, it's very much like being a prisoner to your own will. Just like prison, the main things that drive people insane are the enclosed spaces and lack of contact, as you say. The fact that you're technically just as free as any other person only serves to mock you. The major difference is that prisons are usually guaranteed to be rough environments, although one benefit of this is that the forced socialisation would make it easier to maintain social skills. I know that isolation chambers are considered some of the worst forms of torture, and they're never big places where nobody happens to be. They're always small. I know some people develop fear of open spaces. I wonder how it happens, considering we seem to naturally fear enclosed spaces. |
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Yachty said: Kagami said: most of his terrible social interaction skills is due to his personality (loud, obnoxious, inconsiderate), its something i cant teach unfortunatelyMaybe somebody should help them and talk to them? Tell me what he does? Color me curious, haha. |
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