How many years is acceptable for you to date someone?
Must be of same age group
2.5%
11
1-2 yrs
14.3%
64
3-5 yrs
38.7%
173
6-10 yrs
13.6%
61
Age is nothing but a number
30.9%
138
447 votes
| personally, older than me by 1-8 years is acceptable for me. |
| Is it that bad if my dad who is 60 just got engaged to a 26 year old and I am 24? lol He is just an old pervert I swear.... |
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| For me, i'd say 1-3 years. For others, I could care less. Minus my friends and sisters. If they dated some slime who was 11 years older, i'd express my feelings on it. But, it truly depends on the person. Though, I do have a friend that dated a seventh grader when she was a senior. That was a strange situation. o_O She isn't a friend much anymore. |
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| I've been thinking about this lately. In a way I think it would be fun dating someone of a totally different age. A couple of months ago this guy started talking to me on the subway and I found out he was still in high school (he assumed I was his age and not my real age which is 22, I look really young) and afterwards I was like 'what would have happened if I had given him my number or something, and gone out with him. I could have gone to high school parties in this city (which is a much bigger and crazier one than where I grew up), I could have relived my highschool experience (which was quite crappy the first time around) and pretended I was still 17, lolololol" And then I was like"NONONONO that is just creepy". It's not illegal here I'm pretty sure, but still creepy. I must be having a quarter life crisis to be having those thoughts XD Anyway, then after that I was thinking about what it would be like dating a man much older than me. And my thought process was kind of like this "well, it would be almost like a Lolita love story since I still look 17. And he would probably have tons of money and could take me out for nice dinners and stuff. And I could stay at his fancy apartment instead of my crappy student bachelorette mouse hole in the wall". And then I realized that older men have feelings too and that it is probably quite insensitive to date one just because his apartment has a gorgeous view of the downtown area *sighs wistfully* Anyway, then I remembered that I don't particularly like dating and am quite happy being by myself. Ah well. |
naeCeal said: I believe that at the time when 'it' happens at that moment when two feel that present time is right, then go for it. Your sub-conscience mind at the time will supersede your vote here. Having that said, I didn't vote. Now that's the kind of thinking that gets you into trouble. XD Also, you know, you could have voted for "Age is nothing but a number". Isn't that basically what you're saying? |
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| when people are teenagers its all iffy. It just depends on their personalities. when your older I say kudos to the guy who can pick up a young hot chick. my uncles 47 and with a 28 year old. She has huge boobs and tattoos so I gave him a high five lol. I'm straight (I just had one incident XD) and I hang out with guys too much lmao |
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naeCeal said: Nope, because age is more than a number here, and it is considered as you age. Only that I don't agree with the standard rule that was posted earlier on in this thread. Non-the-less, I do see what you mean. Also, I tend to throw in some of my current thoughts that pass through my mind at the time into my posts, so expect the unexpected when you see my post (...usually for "argument's sake" itself). XD Lol, I can see that train of thought passing on by... I used to do that with essays. >_<" Anyway I like to think age is, in all actuality nothing but a number. One that certain people make a fuss about. It's really up to the individual to figure out if they want to seek the companionship of someone younger, their age, or older. If it is an issue, although physical age alone isn't usually the biggest concern. At least I hope it isn't, there are far worse things to worry about than a mere age gap. Although it's not out of the ordinary for people to honestly "click" and worry about trivial things such as age difference later on and how they will be perceived by their friends/family members. Bringing it back to the OP's point. Regardless of an age gap. If they're both happy, then who cares if someone thinks it is or is not socially acceptable? I know I wouldn't nor do I look at a couple with some sort of disgust when I see a significant age gap. |
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| Well at my age (14) 5 years is a big age gap, whereas when you're older it doesn't make that much of a difference. Right now, I wouldn't date more than 2 years older or younger. |
Lol, I'm too half asleep and lazy to specifically quote sections. So I'll just spoiler the entire quote so it isn't a huge post. XD Anyway, I'd rather not get into specifics, since I don't particularly like posting details about my personal life but when I was around 15. I got into a relationship with someone around 6-7 years older, which lasted about 7 years or so as well. While the age gap, was an issue at times. There are, like I said, tons of things to think about in a relationship than just that. That is partially why I think age is nothing but a number, especially since people don't really act their sometimes and why I don't see anything wrong with age gaps in relationships. They (relationships) all require work, some more than others. |
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| Ehh, i'm a male myself. I don't mind dating a 18 year-old when i'm like 40. :P |
Scud said: I don't date people. lol, is your real name Suzumiya Haruhi? I'd only date someone same age or up to 4 years older, though that'd probably change as I age. The reason is that I'd like someone who can share the things I'm going through right now (school, graduating, then searching for a job, building a career, etc.). I don't want someone who's seen it all and walked all the way there and back; I want someone to walk with, same pace and place. |
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| So I'm not the only one who doesn't date? Damn, there goes unique through the floor boards. Well in any case, most likely anyone old with a way younger gf, the girl is a whore. And really likes the taste of dust. |
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Mystere said: Scud said: I don't date people. lol, is your real name Suzumiya Haruhi? I'd only date someone same age or up to 4 years older, though that'd probably change as I age. The reason is that I'd like someone who can share the things I'm going through right now (school, graduating, then searching for a job, building a career, etc.). I don't want someone who's seen it all and walked all the way there and back; I want someone to walk with, same pace and place. I'm along the same lines except I'd date someone 3-5 years older or 3-4 years younger than me. |
| There's this 33-year-old rock star I'd dig into ;] , 17-16 years isn't too bad I think haha... |
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| why limit yourself with an age barrier? thats the real question |
| I have a family friend who is a mensa genius, he's got an IQ of over 180 or something he married a woman twice his age when he was 17 and they are some of the happiest and nicest people I've ever met. age is kinda relevant, but maturity is what really matters. |
Launchpad said: why limit yourself with an age barrier? thats the real question The closer the age-range... the greater the commonalities. But yea... sometimes, it is better to expand the age-range... when needed. |
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| Depends. The older the person, the larger the gap can be(up to a certain point). A 10 year gap in your teens is creepy and just wrong, but ok when your like 40. The certain point would depend on the person(15 for me). |
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| There should never be an age gap. Its just that this world has come to a point where many would stereotype when seeing a couple with a large age difference as just 'weird' Face it, its weird I agree, but its not wrong as long as what is going on is sensible. KyuuAL said: Launchpad said: why limit yourself with an age barrier? thats the real question The closer the age-range... the greater the commonalities. But yea... sometimes, it is better to expand the age-range... when needed. Exactly, and its not as if we see 3 or more out of 10 couples doing so. |
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stirfry said: There should never be an age gap. Its just that this world has come to a point where many would stereotype when seeing a couple with a large age difference as just 'weird' Face it, its weird I agree, but its not wrong as long as what is going on is sensible. KyuuAL said: Launchpad said: why limit yourself with an age barrier? thats the real question The closer the age-range... the greater the commonalities. But yea... sometimes, it is better to expand the age-range... when needed. Exactly, and its not as if we see 3 or more out of 10 couples doing so. The problem though is if it's an older guy dating a younger girl then most likely all he cares about is sex. |
| The number of people who voted age is nothing but a number (which can be considered >10 years) freaks me out. 3-5 at most is optimum for me |
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| It's better than seeing an 80 year old granny bitching with her 34 year old honey,right? |
| If it's legal, then what's the problem? |
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xXnagashiXx said: The number of people who voted age is nothing but a number (which can be considered >10 years) freaks me out. 3-5 at most is optimum for me Eh, yea I choose this option Yup said: If it's legal, then what's the problem? lol, legal is different in each state but you could say your following the lowest state's rules if questioned. |
Yup said: If it's legal, then what's the problem? Every country has it different. In Vietnam it is against law, for people to date if they have not yet reached the age, of adulthood. I'd say it much more about morale and dignity (maybe morale only). Well, if two people truly loves each other, so why not. |
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xXnagashiXx said: The number of people who voted age is nothing but a number (which can be considered >10 years) freaks me out. 3-5 at most is optimum for me You should be freaked out you hot, hot loli. |
| I'd say 6-10 years would be the max.Most likely I wouldn't share near enough stuff in common to make it work with someone 15+ years older than me. |
| I voted 3-5, but I'm probably less likely to go lower than I am to go higher. I'm 23 myself, so I'd prefer not to date a girl I can't go out to a bar/club/whatever with because she's under 21. I tend to date women older than myself anyways though, but I think yeah over 28 would be kind of pushing it. But hey, you never know. Love can be crazy like that. |
| 12 weeks at the most, otherwise its just disgusting |
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| love is love. if u feel connected to the person and feel ur on the same wavelength and the younger person is mature enough to handle that short of relationship then wuts the problem. of course I don't like seeing a 14 year old dating a 30 year old..that just wrong in so many ways but when ur older i don't really see any problem. I'm 20 and I could date a guy over 30 if I happened to like the guy but then again I don't think I could ever date anyone under my own age. |
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| If they love each other enough then sure. As long as it isn't anything iilegal. For me though, I can only see myself dating someone 2~3 years older than me. |
Leffy said: love is love. if u feel connected to the person and feel ur on the same wavelength and the younger person is mature enough to handle that short of relationship then wuts the problem. of course I don't like seeing a 14 year old dating a 30 year old..that just wrong in so many ways but when ur older i don't really see any problem. I'm 20 and I could date a guy over 30 if I happened to like the guy but then again I don't think I could ever date anyone under my own age. I already mentioned why it's usually bad for girls to date a much older guy. |
| One of my friends, who is 24, is getting married to a 43 year old. thats just too old for myself, my limit is somewhere like 5/6 years older, 5 years younger however is too young, i wouldnt go past 2 or even 1 year younger |
| I know two couples with big age differences - one's 15 and 25. Another's 18 and 50-something. Not nice. |
| 3-5 is my ideal gap although I don't think it really matters when love is involved. |
| For me, personally I wouldn't go anymore than maybe 5 years younger or older. But in my family, I have relatives that have 15 year age gaps. Also, one of my friend's parents have a 25 year age gap. |
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cb27ded said: people nowadays fret over couples with 5 year age gaps or something like that, while in the past there were 60 year olds marrying 15 year old girls..For me, personally I wouldn't go anymore than maybe 5 years younger or older. But in my family, I have relatives that have 15 year age gaps. Also, one of my friend's parents have a 25 year age gap. |
| 4 tha most part i feel its not a big deal as long as the 2 ppl feel a connection nd r on the same page but sumtimes tooo old or yung iz a prob like 18 + 60 wtf wuld u do with a 60 year old person |
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| for me 6-10 yrs maybe is the good limit... personally, me and my BF have an age gap of 7 yrs and we're fine with it.. hope it lasts :) there's no much big deal about it' if both of you are okay with it and you two get along well.. but tell you, i had this BF before, we had an eight yrs gap.. at first it was okay but then as days, weeks, months, goes on... he become skeptical and grew conscious of our age gap.. though, it was an influence from his group of friends that made him think that our age gap is a big problem... and it was really difficult to fix it up... |
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MondayBlues said: people nowadays fret over couples with 5 year age gaps or something like that, while in the past there were 60 year olds marrying 15 year old girls.. see that's where I'd draw the line....instead of marriage, that sounds more borderline to slave-trading....i mean can you even imagine wanting to bump'n'grind with a 60yr old at 15?? you can only see that kind of thing in hentai where the dad or mom is in debt and they sell off their kids....totally wrong |
| For me. Nothing more than 8 years older. As for younger I guess there is no limit =P |
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