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May 25, 2023 6:04 AM
#51
velveteenvamp said: I'm 33 this year but honestly given my own life experience, quality of interactions is more reliant on the individual and their willingness to interact than age.I'm not and I can't imagine myself forging a connection with anyone here on that level. I also think I'm probably a lot older than the average user, so yeah, I don't see how it would happen. I've met younger people with mind blowing insights and intelligence and I've (definitely) met plenty of old people who are just walking spoilt recordings that recycle the same thing every time their mouth opens. |
May 25, 2023 6:05 AM
#52
Moog said: tangentially related but MAL masquerade ball whenI am happily engaged to @illuminatli and so we've been for years. We met in 2015, and we've been living together for 5 years. Even gonna get married soon. MAL dating is real. |
May 25, 2023 6:07 AM
#53
Amityblight said: oh but if the person puts their heart into it the quality of the interaction is the same if not better than offline though. Especially as psychology papers/news have shown it's usually because people are behind a screen so they feel less need to hide their feelings.I cringe at the thought. I have no interest in being in a relationship anymore. Even if I did definitely wouldn't want an online one. What's the of point of that? I've had some of the best experiences in online gaming and their forums. Even ended up somehow getting roped into being impromptu customer service for a private server at one point (hellentrymu iirc, it's like dead now) |
May 25, 2023 6:11 AM
#54
im open to the idea its pretty crazy meeting sb on mal and then going out irl what i noticed though is that people i meet here are pretty timid while im kinda an extravert party person; add to that my own peculiarities and weirdnesses and a certain kind expectations i have when meeting new people... i just cant really vibe like that with the people i met here so far oh and obviously, location further limits the scope, as i will want to go to a rave together u know, and if it requires a flight rather than a train ride its a no-no, i just cant afford it but yeah im down for it tho, meeting sb online, especially on mal, and then going out seems like an incredible adventure; but then again, i think i struggle with keeping up with online friendships wed have to do things outside together real quick u know |
May 25, 2023 7:26 AM
#55
XiaXueYi said: Yes, Text101 has a great advantage over the ones who are even twice their age and still behave with the emotional maturity that is worse than that of a small child. Imagine still getting riled up over something a random person on the Internet wrote years ago or even at all. I do prefer people with more emotional maturity and emotional stabilityNoboru said: and pretty level headed when he/she ranted about vtubers. I see that as a plus in terms of emotional controlText101 said: I highly doubt I would find anyone here who would like me, I have rather little in common with users here. But yeah I am not on the search either way. A bit of a stretch, but one does not get far if one lets oneself be influenced emotionally that easily, so always control your emotions XiaXueYi said: You're welcome. These are just the official stats and there are surely a few 16-18 years, but not as much as 5-10 years ago or longer and pretty much no one younger, as opposed to several years ago. Some have joined when it was technically illegal for them to do so, but they most have become over 18 by now and the majority is somewhere between 18 and 35, at least when it comes to the people participating on the forums here holy tfw TIL there were demographics available. Nice |
NoboruMay 25, 2023 7:34 AM
May 25, 2023 7:33 AM
#56
Noboru said: I would imagine more people. would use less forums and all those discords etc now. Especially seeing how many young 'uns were complaining about MAL using older programming language during the recent hackXiaXueYi said: Yes, Text101 has a great advantage over the ones who are even twice their age and still behave with the emotional maturity that is worse than that of a small child. Imagine still getting riled up over something a random person on the Internet wrote years ago or even at all. I do prefer people with more emotional maturity and emotional stabilityNoboru said: Text101 said: NGL, from your postings, style and humor, I do find you to be a very interesting and sympathetic person. But I don't see it as a race with only one specific goal in mind, but rather as a dynamic relation where there are multiple, different possibilities where the relationship can upgrade, downgrade or stay at a specific stageI highly doubt I would find anyone here who would like me, I have rather little in common with users here. But yeah I am not on the search either way. XiaXueYi said: You're welcome. These are just the official stats and there are surely a few 16-18 years, but not as much as 5-10 years ago or longer and pretty much no one younger, as opposed to several years ago. Some have joined when it was technically illegal for them to do so, but they most have become over 18 by now and the majority is somewhere between 18 and 35, at least when it comes to the people participating on the forums here holy tfw TIL there were demographics available. Nice also its been a while since I fanboyed over people on the internet lmao. haven't touched a forum since I quit kantai collection |
XiaXueYiMay 25, 2023 7:36 AM
May 25, 2023 7:54 AM
#57
XiaXueYi said: Well, this could explain why there would be hardly any actual newcomers and younger ones compared to years ago. Might be easier to just react to videos, images or short messages and converse directly 1o1 if there is interest compared to using forumsI would imagine more people. would use less forums and all those discords etc now. Especially seeing how many young 'uns were complaining about MAL using older programming language during the recent hack also its been a while since I fanboyed over people on the internet lmao. haven't touched a forum since I quit kantai collection To be fair, in most forums I've ever been, the most interesting section has always been the off-topic one where people have talked about different things and you kinda easily get to have your favorite posters that make you want to participate more yourself, but this hardly applies now to me |
May 25, 2023 8:09 AM
#58
Noboru said: usually if it's not an official forum the mods also get onto it, which makes things more fun. Until one of them gets feisty or "feeling disrespected".XiaXueYi said: Well, this could explain why there would be hardly any actual newcomers and younger ones compared to years ago. Might be easier to just react to videos, images or short messages and converse directly 1o1 if there is interest compared to using forumsI would imagine more people. would use less forums and all those discords etc now. Especially seeing how many young 'uns were complaining about MAL using older programming language during the recent hack also its been a while since I fanboyed over people on the internet lmao. haven't touched a forum since I quit kantai collection To be fair, in most forums I've ever been, the most interesting section has always been the off-topic one where people have talked about different things and you kinda easily get to have your favorite posters that make you want to participate more yourself, but this hardly applies now to me I think with people preferring high speed insta/tiktok forums will become a dying trade soon enough unfortunately. The golden age is probably over :v |
May 25, 2023 8:10 AM
#59
I know of people who've been in an online, LDR for years before meeting in person. According to them, the first meeting is typically "divine" but with every subsequent meeting, at least one of them gradually learns that their love is actually infatuation. Of course, this can happen online as well but it's more obvious when you're in each other's physical presence. I really got to know my partner online (not a dating site/app). We had met in person prior to that but were never formally introduced & hadn't had a proper conversation. LD was hard but you can make it work. I get that it's not for everyone & there are some very valid reasons for not wishing to do so |
May 25, 2023 8:20 AM
#60
neol3 said: nice to see it worked out for you, I like celebrating people's wins. also what's with the quote pyramid edit xDDDI know of people who've been in an online, LDR for years before meeting in person. According to them, the first meeting is typically "divine" but with every subsequent meeting, at least one of them gradually learns that their love is actually infatuation. Of course, this can happen online as well but it's more obvious when you're in each other's physical presence. I really got to know my partner online (not a dating site/app). We had met in person prior to that but were never formally introduced & hadn't had a proper conversation. LD was hard but you can make it work. I get that it's not for everyone & there are some very valid reasons for not wishing to do so |
May 25, 2023 8:29 AM
#61
I'd consider having a relationship with @UrMomGay69. |
May 25, 2023 8:31 AM
#62
XiaXueYi said: nice to see it worked out for you, I like celebrating people's wins. also what's with the quote pyramid edit xDDD This's what I'm seeing: to said, So said, Ah, said, There said... xDD Things just got a lil NSFW in here ^I've had to post & delete this like 3 times now. Ugh, hate it when stuff starts acting up |
May 25, 2023 9:47 AM
#63
XiaXueYi said: Yes, and in that kind of environment, it's very much possible that at least two people would resonate with each other enough they would try out a love relationshipusually if it's not an official forum the mods also get onto it, which makes things more fun. Until one of them gets feisty or "feeling disrespected". I think with people preferring high speed insta/tiktok forums will become a dying trade soon enough unfortunately. The golden age is probably over :v This board still hasn't died not even with all the downtimes so while the golden age is indeed long over, it's still decently active. |
May 25, 2023 9:58 AM
#64
IRL and on MAL, no. There is someone I met through here and she DM'd me on Insta and things kinda just progressed from there, though. It's been well over two years since she just disappeared off the face of the internet ._. |
May 25, 2023 10:18 AM
#65
TheAngryNerd said: IRL and on MAL, no. There is someone I met through here and she DM'd me on Insta and things kinda just progressed from there, though. It's been well over two years since she just disappeared off the face of the internet ._. Hope she's okay & did this out of choice ._. |
May 25, 2023 10:24 AM
#66
Noboru said: This board still hasn't died not even with all the downtimes so while the golden age is indeed long over, it's still decently active. I'd say the golden age was b/w 2012 & 2014 or maybe that's just when people my age were most active . Your thoughts? |
May 25, 2023 10:50 AM
#67
neol3 said: Hard to say when I've been more or less active only a bit more than half of MAL's age. But things were definitely way more active before the MALokalypse in 2018 and it seems like I myself have missed the prime of clubs when I've become active in 2014Noboru said: This board still hasn't died not even with all the downtimes so while the golden age is indeed long over, it's still decently active. I'd say the golden age was b/w 2012 & 2014 or maybe that's just when people my age were most active . Your thoughts? Well, people might usually become the most active as later teens and in their early twenties. Everyone else usually has their quality relationships in person that they stop spending too much time online or even at all, outside of maybe updating their lists or using it for other things not related to socializing |
May 25, 2023 11:24 AM
#68
Ive been thinking about it, and I realized that in actuality I don't know if I could have a relationship in the first place. I do not understand intimacy at all, I don't even know how to be close with my family, so I might just be incapable of ever finding love. I guess that is kind of scary to think about, but honestly if it is that way then I will accept it. Noboru said: I dont really see it that way, I am not emotionally mature at all. I would say everything I write on here is emotionally charged. It is all just presentation. I don't think there is anything wrong with being emotional either way.Yes, Text101 has a great advantage over the ones who are even twice their age and still behave with the emotional maturity Noboru said: Well, this could explain why there would be hardly any actual newcomers and younger ones compared to years ago. Might be easier to just react to videos, images or short messages and converse directly 1o1 if there is interest compared to using forums XiaXueYi said: I guess Im the youngest here so I will say that I personally do enjoy faster communication. The reason I like forums as well is because I used to browse forums a lot when I was a kid, I never really posted on them because I never wanted to put anything out on the internet as a kid. I guess I made this account just to try it out and for some other reasons. Forums will 100% die out in favor of more intuitive design, but I guess that is just how it goes. Young people for sure do know how to use forums I feel like, but specifically with MAL, I dont really see a lot of young people caring about old and tired anime discussions. I guess that is just my view on it, I certainly am a stereotype of my generation so I felt like I could maybe say something interesting here.I think with people preferring high speed insta/tiktok forums will become a dying trade soon enough unfortunately. |
May 25, 2023 12:22 PM
#69
I don't mind people meeting online, I think it makes it easier to find people which have common interests, but as things are right now I feel it difficult to do so. I feel like 15-10 years ago forums and stuffs were way more ''socially effective'' media. Then with Facebook & Instagram everything started to feel off and most of the forums kinda died and became way harder to meet new people online. Also, maybe because growing up or idk, lost much of the chill vibe it used to be, now many times I got the feeling that people expected me to owe them something for no reason, as if you should being all the time to run behind people, meh. Last, way less time to keep in touch with new people via forums with Work&University. Anyway, I meet many people since I started using Internet and had a great time, even though only few are still here and got also to meet them from time to time. I didn't have romantic experiences so far and to be honest I'm not so interested on putting so much effort on finding girl, like most of people around me IRL do all the time. It's kinda risky though, many people put up lies via internet, but yolo.. If you have chance why not to try. Didn't get to meet anyone on MAL instead: my brother was the only one i knew on this website and also the person who introduced me to MAL. I was using it way more many years ago, but I wasn't so confident of my english and I never really tried back then to write on forum. |
May 25, 2023 12:37 PM
#70
May 25, 2023 1:00 PM
#71
Text101 said: Well, your thoughts can be a self-fulfilling prophecy:Ive been thinking about it, and I realized that in actuality I don't know if I could have a relationship in the first place. I do not understand intimacy at all, I don't even know how to be close with my family, so I might just be incapable of ever finding love. I guess that is kind of scary to think about, but honestly if it is that way then I will accept it. Whatever you think, there is a high chance that you will end up in the right so if you wish for another outcome, continue to think of it as if you've already achieved it and like it would be already 2nd nature to you. That way, you will learn by doing it With the exception of one thing, I regret whichever choices I didn't make way more than the choices I've made. As much as I've felt sad during the time I've had the on-and-off online relationship with someone from here, I do not regret having made that choice at all. It's a learning experience, even if not as much as a relationship that goes to the physical world as well. What you try and fail are mistakes to learn from, what you don't try are complete failures. Text101 said: Emotional maturity doesn't mean a lack of emotions, but much rather the ability to regulate emotions. This is like not letting things get to you that easily, especially not if those are of negative nature. For example, if you do not get riled up over what someone wrote to you years ago when they write to you again about a completely unrelated topic, you are emotionally way more stable for you can have the advantage of exchanging ideas over being imprisoned to the feelings and image you've been having about that personI dont really see it that way, I am not emotionally mature at all. I would say everything I write on here is emotionally charged. It is all just presentation. I don't think there is anything wrong with being emotional either way. Text101 said: Thank you for sharing your experiences. I guess I've started at pretty much the same age as you with forums (just not here, but on another site) with the wish to maybe have my thoughts resonate with othersI guess Im the youngest here so I will say that I personally do enjoy faster communication. The reason I like forums as well is because I used to browse forums a lot when I was a kid, I never really posted on them because I never wanted to put anything out on the internet as a kid. I guess I made this account just to try it out and for some other reasons. Forums will 100% die out in favor of more intuitive design, but I guess that is just how it goes. Young people for sure do know how to use forums I feel like, but specifically with MAL, I dont really see a lot of young people caring about old and tired anime discussions. I guess that is just my view on it, I certainly am a stereotype of my generation so I felt like I could maybe say something interesting here. |
May 25, 2023 11:58 PM
#72
Text101 said: eh nothing to worry about for family/intimacy, most people are lukewarm or don't get along with their family emotionally, myself included. connections always take 2 hands. If anything anyone similar to me should be more worried, I didn't shed a tear after 3 out of 4 grands passed on because I was never really close to them in the first place. Ive been thinking about it, and I realized that in actuality I don't know if I could have a relationship in the first place. I do not understand intimacy at all, I don't even know how to be close with my family, so I might just be incapable of ever finding love. I guess that is kind of scary to think about, but honestly if it is that way then I will accept it. Noboru said: I dont really see it that way, I am not emotionally mature at all. I would say everything I write on here is emotionally charged. It is all just presentation. I don't think there is anything wrong with being emotional either way.Yes, Text101 has a great advantage over the ones who are even twice their age and still behave with the emotional maturity Noboru said: Well, this could explain why there would be hardly any actual newcomers and younger ones compared to years ago. Might be easier to just react to videos, images or short messages and converse directly 1o1 if there is interest compared to using forums XiaXueYi said: I guess Im the youngest here so I will say that I personally do enjoy faster communication. The reason I like forums as well is because I used to browse forums a lot when I was a kid, I never really posted on them because I never wanted to put anything out on the internet as a kid. I guess I made this account just to try it out and for some other reasons. Forums will 100% die out in favor of more intuitive design, but I guess that is just how it goes. Young people for sure do know how to use forums I feel like, but specifically with MAL, I dont really see a lot of young people caring about old and tired anime discussions. I guess that is just my view on it, I certainly am a stereotype of my generation so I felt like I could maybe say something interesting here.I think with people preferring high speed insta/tiktok forums will become a dying trade soon enough unfortunately. Just take your time to cross that bridge when it comes. You are still at that time in your life to explore and unlock more aspects of yourself, it's irl leveling up. |
Jun 11, 2023 6:08 AM
#73
I don’t as of right now, but I wouldn’t mind getting to know someone on here |
Jun 11, 2023 7:12 AM
#74
I'm not but I would consider it cause pussy is pussy |
Jun 11, 2023 2:32 PM
#75
I know at least one couple who got married after meeting on here, but neither of them are active on the forums anymore. |
Take care of yourself |
Jun 12, 2023 3:47 AM
#76
Lil_D said: Spoken like someone who has never had good pussy.I'm not but I would consider it cause pussy is pussy |
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Jun 12, 2023 3:51 AM
#77
XiaXueYi said: This caught my eye. I bet the young 'uns don't realize that although Perl was written in 1987, Python was written in 1991, and Javascript 1995. So they're all old programming languages.I would imagine more people. would use less forums and all those discords etc now. Especially seeing how many young 'uns were complaining about MAL using older programming language during the recent hack |
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Jan 6, 2024 7:01 PM
#78
nope ^_^ not happening in the history of yawn lineage |
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