_Maneki-Neko_ said: 149597871 said: It is normal, or at the very least common. Females are physically weaker than males, so in most cases, it would be more acceptable than if some guy was beating a woman. Not to mention that hitting somebody's arm, shoulder, etc., is unlikely to result in long-term harm even if it leaves temporary bruises. You are trans, so I guess the story is different, but that phenomenon is very common in sapphic relationships as well. I do not remember a long-term female partner who has never hit me, and I have been in quite a few relationships with women. Something that works for me (other than simply getting tougher) is making an agreement, such as a safe word. If you are being annoying, and your partner can longer suppress their anger, they first have to say the safe word and can only resort to physical violence if the situation does not improve after that. It has to be a neutral word (not "stop" or "enough," for example) and should not be overused. That method dramatically decreased the violent incidents in one of my past relationships. You can't generalize that. I'm sorry that you were making these experiences, but my partners or someone I dated (which weren't that many to be honest, three, one man and two women xD) never have been abusive towards me in any kind and I knew them in the relationship / know them now for quite a long time. Ah, it is okay. I did not want to sound like some kind of victim. I am just trying to tell OP that it is not something uncommon, which I guess is what they meant by asking whether it is "normal" or not. Perhaps it is not normal, but many relationships are indeed like that, so one should not be too surprised if it happens. Nevertheless, it is good to hear that someone had a different experience. I genuinely hope it remains that way for you. |
149597871 said: _Maneki-Neko_ said: You can't generalize that. I'm sorry that you were making these experiences, but my partners or someone I dated (which weren't that many to be honest, three, one man and two women xD) never have been abusive towards me in any kind and I knew them in the relationship / know them now for quite a long time. Ah, it is okay. I did not want to sound like some kind of victim. I am just trying to tell OP that it is not something uncommon, which I guess is what they meant by asking whether it is "normal" or not. Perhaps it is not normal, but many relationships are indeed like that, so one should not be too surprised if it happens. Nevertheless, it is good to hear that someone had a different experience. I genuinely hope it remains that way for you. Just 'cause it's not uncommon it doesn't mean it's right |
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DigiCat said: 149597871 said: Ah, it is okay. I did not want to sound like some kind of victim. I am just trying to tell OP that it is not something uncommon, which I guess is what they meant by asking whether it is "normal" or not. Perhaps it is not normal, but many relationships are indeed like that, so one should not be too surprised if it happens. Nevertheless, it is good to hear that someone had a different experience. I genuinely hope it remains that way for you. Just 'cause it's not uncommon it doesn't mean it's right True. By normal I mean common, not "morally correct" or objectively right. |
| Yeah no ofc not, wtf. Should have hit her back,Fair square. |
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| Yes, and it's also okay for men to hit women. If words don't work, beat the shit out of each other and make up in a hospital |
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| It's never OK for anyone to hit anyone except as necessary in immediate self-defense. I firmly believe this. If a man is beating a woman, she has the right to hit him back in self-defense. But she does not have the right to hit him first, no matter how much bigger and stronger he is. |
| No, and dare I say that those who do that are almost guaranteed to be misandrists (they don't think misandry exists and then project by calling you a misogynist). It's so easy to notice hypocrites. Nobody should assault anyone. Full stop. |
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| No, it's not ok. I think it's pretty BS how if a man's being abused, they're usually mocked and laughed at. I don't believe in hitting your spouse. |
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| Partners should never hit each other. |
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| Hit on: yes. Hit: maybe, but it shouldn't be. |
| No. Hitting your partner is not normal regardless of the gender and there's something wrong with that relationship. |
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| Never have had it happen because I'm not attracted to psychos but if a girlfriend seriously hit me I'd immediately break up with them because that is a massive fucking red flag. If someone physically abuses you I guarantee that's not the only thing they're going to be doing to make your life hell. If it was a pretty decent injury they caused it might even be worth pressing charges just so that there's public record of it for any future people who try to date them. Everything I said goes double true for men btw because they're you're not even punching up your punching down on someone weaker than you. |
| No one should be hitting anybody regardless. |
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