Would you be in an asexual relationship?

vasipi4946 said:
99% of marriages become sexless relationships.

That's why key parties are a thing.

_Nette_ said:

Is that normal? Using sexuality for emotional pleasure rather than physical?

_Nette_ said:
I dont think I've replied yo this thread yet lol.

Kind of in an odd mental debate over the idea. Sex really isn't as appealing as it used to be so there's that. But I've always used sex more for emotional satisfaction over sexual satisfaction. That's atleast what I tell myself lol.

Is that normal? Using sexuality for emotional pleasure rather than physical?

_Nette_ said:
@Iron_Order And I took that personally lol.

@56709 It was always less about love and more about being desirable. To me Alex with or without love is similar enough particularly because I struggle with intimacy, that and it just never feels good anyway lol.

DoisacChopper said:
i'd probably rather be friends rather than be in a relationship with a person who wouldn't ever want to have sex
sex is on my mind like 24/7 it would be a bit odd to be with someone who never thought of sex

Kiyomice said:

I don't understand this. What sexual thoughts are you having so frequently? I can't wrap my head around spending that much time thinking about sex. (I mean I know it was an exaggeration, but still.) Sex never crosses my mind unless I'm ~in the mood~ or am having a flirty and suggestive time with someone. 

DoisacChopper said:
I have a (exaggeration) million fetishes
any number of sexual thoughts about any number of things cross my mind throughout the day and it definitely has to be way more than the average person
if im lookin at a anime girl ill probably have sexual thoughts or a cute anime boy / anything i find attractive really will give me sexual thoughts just by seeing it
even when watching some super wholesome anime i get sexual thoughts a few times if there's any attractive characters (like Spy x Family as an example)

if im in the mood i'd just think that my sexual thoughts / energy become more focused rather than increasing very much

well i could go into more details but probably best not on a public forum thread go into everything lol

its why I don't really understand the concept of not being interested in sex 

EyeAmTheI said:
I never was nearly close to be desperate enough to become a paypig :P Jokes aside. True love is all about burning desires, hence it is all about sex. If you don't have any sexual desire, than you don't have love either. So why would I want to be in a relationship where I'm am not in love, and/or in worse case I'm not loved? It is kinda like sounds like a "marriage of convenience". 

I know, I know, we are in weabo town, where the stupid onesided platonic bullshit is glofied, but I tell you, if the feeling is mutual you'll fuck like rabbits in heat. That's just how it works (Yeah, I know there are true asexuals, if you are really one its understandable, you are the rare exception, but because someone says "I don't even care anymore" it doesn't makes him one) 

Although, it is kinda sad to see, how many of you probably never had the luck to have a mutual consumated love.

EyeAmTheI said:
Let me quote the OP: " Basically, would you be willing to date someone who fundamentally was not into sex?" 
This question actually asks that if you would be in a relationship where your partner is asexual, but you are not. (If you are asexual, the question is totally pointless, since of course you would) In other words, are you willing to surpress your desires for the sake of a relationship... So actually the thread is about non-asexual people in asexual relationship... So yeah, I as one who is clearly not asexual was the "target audiance" of this question.  At least according to my interpretation of the question. So I don't even know what made you think I'm trying to pretend to be one, even though I was clear as the sun, that I'm not one...


Did you even read my comment? It was a joke for fuck sake. I even said " Jokes aside" for the "akchually" ones, that it was a joke, yet you still can't get over it... Although, as I said later in the comment, a relationship without mutual love (and desires) is nothing more than a "marriage of conviniece". Like it or not, that's my opinion. And the paypig joke was connected to this... Though, I admit, it may have been too far fetch to be obvious.

What does heterosexuality do with asexuality? I could be gay or even pan or anything in between and I still wouldn't be asexual. Asexuality is about "People who experience little to no sexual attraction to others".

Anyway, we did not answer the same question... So, I hope I cleared your misunderstanding.

EyeAmTheI said:
As I said the OP said this as well: "Basically, would you be willing to date someone who fundamentally was not into sex?" So again, we didn't answer the same question.
Though, let's assume OP meant what you think he meant. What's the point of this thread then? I mean, you are asexual, your partner is one as well. Naturally, you would be fine with it... What is even the question here then?

There is a lot of relationship with no (or very little sex), yet asexual people are only a small fraction of the population... I have seen (and knew) quite a few couples advocating how good their relationship without sex (and said they don't even feel the desire), a few months/years have passed, they broke up/divorced, and all of them went on a "fuckberzerk" the moment the relationship ended (I have yet to see an exception). Don't get me wrong though, all of them truely belived they don't need sex anymore (human mind is really good at self-convincing), but hey in the end it turned out it is not the case. Since I have these experiences, I'll remain sceptical, if you don't mind... So yeah, from my point of view,it pretty weird (and naive) to assume they are not... I know, I know, selection bias and shit, and the world is all butterflies, and faries outside of my opinion bubble, but I'm comfortable here so I'll stick with it.

Anyway, even only 1/100 is preteneding here, my comment was written for them, not for the ones who do not. So for god sake don't take everything as personal attack especially if it wasn't even adressed for you. SO AGAIN, as I said in my first comment. If you are both truely asexual, its fine, do it, good for you, sometimes I even envy you, my comment wasn't for you, enjoy your life.

removed-user said:
Basically, would you be willing to date someone who fundamentally was not into sex?
I would, as I find the purely romantic emotional aspect of a relationship more intoxicating, and the sexual aspect unnessesary for a relationship on my end.

How about you?