Girls & the term 'slut': Why so serious?

Fintan said:


I've had friends where it works, but if it's more then just the occasionally thing then at least one of you usually starts to have stronger feelings. There's jealousy, expectations, ext. Friends with benefits is a nice way of saying an open relationship basically.

It can work, and when it does it is great. Most of the time though you might as well be dating the person and just kind of be agreed that it's mainly about sex and that the friendship is the more important part. It ends up being kind of a less stressful relationship I find.

However, if one of you does start to feel like it should get serious they should be honest. Honesty... It's the key.

PerpetualTrance said:


ad hominem
ad ˈhɒmɪnɛm/
adverb & adjective
1.
(of an argument or reaction) directed against a person rather than the position they are maintaining.

By all definitions, that was an ad hominem. Now I admit that I went easy on you last night ignoring your utter bias and your feigning insecurities, but let me clear myself out before you go on further spreading the shit I never said around. So, the line you put in bold, the one about tolerance and apathy, is what in your view? nonsense? Good. Now I expect you to never comment in any thread regarding any world matter that doesn't concern you. I expect you to not call anyone a weaboo, to not criticize a self-loathing suicidal teenager, to not make comments on any one's life who is not you. Go on, spread your apathy. Apathy is the death of progression.

Now then, about the virgin shaming and slut-shaming. The former is usually done for the reasons that virgins are associated with 'losers', in a broader sense. The later is done on the basis that promiscuity is never desired and if you see traed's post above, you'll get to know why. What I was saying is that, whereas the reason for slut-shaming remains true in all scenarios, the reason for virgin-shaming does not. People can remain virgin for a plethora of reasons; not just them being 'losers'.

If promiscuity is undesired in your society, then one should have all the right to criticize it; regardless of ''it doesn't hurt muh feelings blahblahblah''. Liberalism, secularism never imply apathy. They only imply 'tolerance'. Tolerance is when you criticize yet let them be. Apathy is when you don't even care. The later never results in the betterment of an individual, let alone a whole society.

Fintan said:


You're wasting your time typing that much. I don't care about your opinion on this.

PerpetualTrance said:


Willfull ignorance feels real good, aye?

Fintan said:


It's not ignorance on my part. You've shown you're bloated ego and bias regarding this topic eliminates any purpose of discussing it further with you. Also calling you a jerk is not an ad hominem... Look at it in the context it was said, I had before hand already ceased discussing/debating the topic.

You said...

"PS I don't agree with the belief 'duh, it's their life it's not hurting anyone blablabla''. I believe in tolerance, not apathy."

If anything THAT was a better example of an ad hominem. You misquoted me and added a tone of idiocy to it, as to belittle and take away from what I had said.

You also ignored I said "If they're not hurting anyone then a person's sex life should not be the concern of anyone but themselves and the people they are with.".

PerpetualTrance said:


And that exactly is what we call 'apathy', my chumling. Apathy says, 'it's none of my concern'. Tolerance says, 'it is my concern but I'll let them be'. Simple as hell.

traed said:

http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=fuck+boy

http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Manwhore

how to spot a fuckboy:

- white nike tube socks with his adidas sandals
- he wants to play 20 questions (!!!!!!!!! do not play !!!!!!!!!!! especially if there’s a “;)” involved)
- relies on his mom but doesn’t respect women
- looks like he just read one of jaden smith’s tweets in all of his selfies
can’t find the clitoris

fuckboys come in all shapes and sizes and results may vary but when he a fuckboy…he a fuckboy…and u will know

Nico- said:
>MAL still would rather talk about the gender roles being either radicalized or the sole focus of reactionary politics

LoneWolf said:
The slut/stud double standard exists for biological and evolutionary reasons that no amount of birth control or condoms will fix.

Women will have more reproductive success if they are more selective and only choose men with the best genetics. Pregnancy is a resource and time consuming and mating with just anyone is not a good reproductive strategy.

Men will have more reproductive success if they reproduce with all potential women that can give birth. Men can produce billions of gametes and don't have to worry about pregnancy thus "spreading their seed" as much as they can will yield the best results.

Thus males have to compete with each other for females, but females don't have to do the same.

People want to think about sex and reproduction as completely different things, but it is only very recently that we have things like birth control and condoms. Our bodies and our brains have yet had the chance to adapt to these changes. Ignoring the biological aspect and only focusing on the social will leave you with a skewed and unreliable perspective.

scruf4ls said:
i think the internet forgets that women can slut shame too.

traed said:
Dear gods, please don't remind me Sex and the City ever existed.

devinder said:
'Cause we're salty about it. Men have to work at it. Women just have to say 'yes.' A fat, hairy man has to work to get pussy. A fat, hairy woman? That's some guy's fetish.

Spooks said:
People who go around sleeping with loads of people generally tend to be a type of person you don't want to be around. you know unless you want to get laid. If you sleep with enough people to be called the town bike wheres the self respect in that, giving it away easy is not a sign of empowerment.