| Let's say you get to have a girlfriend, but she'll break up with you in a year or so. Would you take it, or be forever alone? (In theory you could get a second girlfriend in scenario one, but this is an anime forum, so I go with the assumption that probably won't happen.) |
| Already suffered from a heartbreak, I'd rather be forever alone. |
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| First option obvi. But really, a year is too much, may she just break with me in a month or so? That would be perfect, I will even pretend I'm upset. |
| Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. |
Reply to LoveYourSmile
First option obvi. But really, a year is too much, may she just break with me in a month or so? That would be perfect, I will even pretend I'm upset.
| @LoveYourSmile The point is specifically that it's not enough to properly make it to marriage and kids, but long enough to hurt when it ends :p |
| I rather be forever alone than get into a relationship that does not lead to having kids. I would only be chose the other option if it meant being a baby's daddy. |
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Reply to JaniSIr
@LoveYourSmile The point is specifically that it's not enough to properly make it to marriage and kids, but long enough to hurt when it ends :p
| @JaniSIr Still option one ofc. Honestly, heartbreaks are overestimated imo. Nah, no matter what I say, I can't beat this dude: CosmicWhore said: I would consider it cause pussy is pussy |
| Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. |
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@JaniSIr Still option one ofc. Honestly, heartbreaks are overestimated imo.
Nah, no matter what I say, I can't beat this dude:
Nah, no matter what I say, I can't beat this dude:
CosmicWhore said:
I would consider it cause pussy is pussy
I would consider it cause pussy is pussy
| @LoveYourSmile Based Although I have to ask, how do you have this quote, do you just have a huge txt file with ancient forum quotes, just in case they ever come up or what? o.o |
| I mean, I was 40, and my last girlfriend was 22 at that time, it was a short term relationship, and I knew that from the very start. I'd say, do it, but don't get too attached. |
| I never heartbreak since i was the one who initiated to end its relationship (mostly due to ldr issue) since its not worthed it for me to continue if we rarely meet each other later and heartbreak for anyone usually only happened if ur propose get rejected merely no exception include myself lolllll |
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@LoveYourSmile Based
Although I have to ask, how do you have this quote, do you just have a huge txt file with ancient forum quotes, just in case they ever come up or what? o.o
Although I have to ask, how do you have this quote, do you just have a huge txt file with ancient forum quotes, just in case they ever come up or what? o.o
| @JaniSIr The thread was recently mentioned by Zarutaku, so I made my way through 3 pages of meh to find this gold - I just remembered it. No lists, lol, not even bookmarks. |
| Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. |
Let's say you get to have a girlfriend pffftt...I wouldn't even take if they offered (and they have) I'm an HHKV for life and it feels great I laugh at all the losers unable to enjoy themselves because TFW no kanojo a true man don't need no woman |
| well I've been fine without any for my entire life and relationships seem like a bother anyway, so I guess I'm taking the second option |
| "If the cuckoo doesn't sing, I guess I'm fine with that." - Natsuki Andou, Kitaku-bu Katsudou Kiroku |
| I guess I'd go with heartbreak, since it's better than not giving it a try at all. However I guess if I knew that beforehand though, then maybe forever alone. I don't know, I'm confused now! @_@ |
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Reply to Exhumatika
I mean, I was 40, and my last girlfriend was 22 at that time, it was a short term relationship, and I knew that from the very start.
I'd say, do it, but don't get too attached.
I'd say, do it, but don't get too attached.
| @Exhumatika Like how would that work? Unless the relationship goes so poorly you want to break up yourself, or you are an absolute psychopath, I see now way you wouldn't be too attached. |
| I'm not the kind of person who any girl would like to talk to. If I was a working adult, I would be voted number one person women don't wanna get in a relationship with. I have no family, I've been disowned and hardly have any friends all my life. I don't think it's appropriate for me to entertain the idea of being in a relationship or drag someone else into my hell.. I enjoy my solitude and forever is a long time, I'm not sure if I'll be around tomorrow or if I wake up again.. I'm a useless jobless middle aged man like hasegawa_taizou madao. I'm man discarded by systems, mocked by society, I'm wandering through civic dysfunction with a broken umbrella. |
RainyEveningsOct 3, 3:04 AM
Reply to JaniSIr
@Exhumatika Like how would that work? Unless the relationship goes so poorly you want to break up yourself, or you are an absolute psychopath, I see now way you wouldn't be too attached.
| @JaniSIr It's part of the reality, and after a couple of relationship experiences, you get less attached in the next relationships. |
| Heartbreak, so I learn how to be in a relationship |
Reply to Exhumatika
@JaniSIr It's part of the reality, and after a couple of relationship experiences, you get less attached in the next relationships.
| @Exhumatika I mean I guess, but just how many do you need to have to not be hurt by a breakup? Hundreds of one night stands or what? >< |
| Interesting how those who have already experienced the former choose the latter, and those who are experiencing the latter choose the former. "The grass is always greener on the other side" and all that... |
Some of you never watched Bakugan Battle Brawlers on TeleToon in 2008 and it shows. |
| Well in this scenario I'd find partners as loneliness would eventually kill me. I could get over heart break |
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Reply to JaniSIr
@Exhumatika I mean I guess, but just how many do you need to have to not be hurt by a breakup?
Hundreds of one night stands or what? ><
Hundreds of one night stands or what? ><
| @JaniSIr Time, life circumstances, their friends, and many other factors change people. You cannot stay obsessive over someone who's not practically yours and you can easily lose your head if you go too far. |
| Forever alone, at least that's... a pain that i'm used to (*starts writing a check to Depeche Mode) I'm not the kind of person who any girl would like to talk to. If I was a working adult, I would be voted number one person women don't wanna get in a relationship with. I have no family, I've been disowned and hardly have any friends all my life. I don't think it's appropriate for me to entertain the idea of being in a relationship or drag someone else into my hell.. I enjoy my solitude and forever is a long time, I'm not sure if I'll be around tomorrow or if I wake up again.. I'm a useless jobless middle aged man like hasegawa_taizou madao. I'm man discarded by systems, mocked by society, I'm wandering through civic dysfunction with a broken umbrella. Except for the fact that i have almost always had a job since graduating from high school 20 years ago and still live close to my parents even after i finally moved, did i ghost wrote this? "I don't think it's appropriate for me to entertain the idea of being in a relationship or drag someone else into my hell" is unfortunately the biggest part. i always laugh at Madao since i watched for the very first time his episode 16 introduction in late 2021, but those are self-mockery laughters because i'm extremely aware i'm basically him plus a job / small house and being one year older than him now and minus a divorced wife (check that, ugly as i've ever been, with such a horrible name, horrible voice and everything else, i knew since day one i would have turned out... the way i am, as a adult). |
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| Heartbreak, though i imagine a real one may hurt it has still a beauty to it when one thinks back about what was. Plus, getting over it is surely easier than getting over being alone for most of your life, especially one is an adult virgin. The lack, the emptiness is dreadful and the longing only gets worse. It is a whole part of life that one is lacking and that they never got to entertain or access, for example never being able to truly appreciate the works of art involving love, romance, heartbreak, relationships and such. Also you got to enjoy the time you had with the person for sure. There is nothing worse than missing out. If it was me, i would not have a hard time getting over it and even if i possibly didnt liked the heartbreak, i still rather take 100% over being forever alone any day, not even a comparison |
Reply to INoLuv
Heartbreak, though i imagine a real one may hurt it has still a beauty to it when one thinks back about what was. Plus, getting over it is surely easier than getting over being alone for most of your life, especially one is an adult virgin. The lack, the emptiness is dreadful and the longing only gets worse. It is a whole part of life that one is lacking and that they never got to entertain or access, for example never being able to truly appreciate the works of art involving love, romance, heartbreak, relationships and such. Also you got to enjoy the time you had with the person for sure.
There is nothing worse than missing out. If it was me, i would not have a hard time getting over it and even if i possibly didnt liked the heartbreak, i still rather take 100% over being forever alone any day, not even a comparison
There is nothing worse than missing out. If it was me, i would not have a hard time getting over it and even if i possibly didnt liked the heartbreak, i still rather take 100% over being forever alone any day, not even a comparison
| @INoLuv I ended up reading and watching way too much romantic garbage... Vicariously experiencing it is definitely not the real thing, but hormones will mess you up regardless... |
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Heartbreak, though i imagine a real one may hurt it has still a beauty to it when one thinks back about what was. Plus, getting over it is surely easier than getting over being alone for most of your life, especially one is an adult virgin. The lack, the emptiness is dreadful and the longing only gets worse. It is a whole part of life that one is lacking and that they never got to entertain or access, for example never being able to truly appreciate the works of art involving love, romance, heartbreak, relationships and such. Also you got to enjoy the time you had with the person for sure.
There is nothing worse than missing out. If it was me, i would not have a hard time getting over it and even if i possibly didnt liked the heartbreak, i still rather take 100% over being forever alone any day, not even a comparison
There is nothing worse than missing out. If it was me, i would not have a hard time getting over it and even if i possibly didnt liked the heartbreak, i still rather take 100% over being forever alone any day, not even a comparison
INoLuv said: There is nothing worse than missing out. @INoLuv's FOMO is peak ... 😭😭 |
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Reply to Zarutaku
| @Zarutaku I don't care about most things, but this is more like "despair" and not "fear" tier missing out. |
| Unlike bones, heart can be broken as many times as it needs to |
| I'd go with forever alone. The next one might turn out to be a murderer, so.. |
Reply to JaniSIr
@Zarutaku It was a half joke about having messed up my life because I wasted the opportunities I might have had...
| As long as you can be a reliable provider, it shouldn't be too difficult to find new opportunities, just honestly advertise what you can and can't offer. One of my neighbors is ~40 yo, also a software developer with good income, and he has an attractive ~25 yo girlfriend for a few years already. |
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| "Solitude is called wisdom. He who is alone will find that he is happy. Lord unto himself, artificer of his own destiny. In solitude he will come to confront a relentless analysis of himself, as well as the conditioned nature of his existence." - Buddha (Sutta Nipata) |
| “Loddfafnir, listen to my counsel: You will fare well if you follow it, It will help you much if you heed it. If aware that another is wicked, say so: Make no truce or treaty with foes.” - Havamal 127 |
| Heartbreak is inevitable.. you may stay together for 5 years or 50 years.. but one day, separation is bound to happen - that is the cruelest truth of this life and love.. love is such a thing, your heart is bound to break.. What I mean is, even if everything is heavenly, one day we do leave our bodies so.. A year is a very long time.. you could live and love enough for a few lifetimes with one person in one year. |
Would you rather:
or
Hmm, quite the hard call there. |
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Reply to Auron
Would you rather:
or
Hmm, quite the hard call there.
- Something most people experience at some point in their lives and gradually heals with time.
or
- A bad thing but indefinitely
Hmm, quite the hard call there.
| @Auron And yet the second option is currently winning! I suppose what makes a difference is that normally people go into a relationship without knowing it'll be over, whereas in my thought experiment I specified that it will. |
Reply to Auron
Would you rather:
or
Hmm, quite the hard call there.
- Something most people experience at some point in their lives and gradually heals with time.
or
- A bad thing but indefinitely
Hmm, quite the hard call there.
Auron said: Something most people experience at some point in their lives and gradually heals with time. Bad memories don't heal, they make people more emotionally desensitized. Auron said: A bad thing but indefinitely It's not that bad, actually quite convenient. |
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Zarutaku said: Bad memories don't heal, they make people more emotionally desensitized. The memories are not a thing that can heal or hurt, they just exist. Your psychological disposition can be better though as it does for most, that's just true. No one if polled would think their heartbreak is as bad post 2 years as it is post 2 weeks. JaniSIr said: And yet the second option is currently winning! We're also in a platform with mostly lonely people, so they're probably assuming it is heartbreak and then the indefinite loneliness anyway (in which case yeah, it's a no brainer that B is less bad than A and B). You also alluded to this point. JaniSIr said: In theory you could get a second girlfriend in scenario one, but this is an anime forum, so I go with the assumption that probably won't happen |
AuronOct 4, 11:08 AM
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Auron said:
Something most people experience at some point in their lives and gradually heals with time.
Something most people experience at some point in their lives and gradually heals with time.
Bad memories don't heal, they make people more emotionally desensitized.
Auron said:
A bad thing but indefinitely
A bad thing but indefinitely
It's not that bad, actually quite convenient.
| @Zarutaku I don't agree with that, it really depends on what happened exactly. Also being too sensitive is not a good thing either. You need to be able to deal with pain, both emotionally and physically. |
Reply to Auron
Zarutaku said:
Bad memories don't heal, they make people more emotionally desensitized.
Bad memories don't heal, they make people more emotionally desensitized.
The memories are not a thing that can heal or hurt, they just exist. Your psychological disposition can be better though as it does for most, that's just true. No one if polled would think their heartbreak is as bad post 2 years as it is post 2 weeks.
JaniSIr said:
And yet the second option is currently winning!
And yet the second option is currently winning!
We're also in a platform with mostly lonely people, so they're probably assuming it is heartbreak and then the indefinite loneliness anyway (in which case yeah, it's a no brainer that B is less bad than A and B). You also alluded to this point.
JaniSIr said:
In theory you could get a second girlfriend in scenario one, but this is an anime forum, so I go with the assumption that probably won't happen
In theory you could get a second girlfriend in scenario one, but this is an anime forum, so I go with the assumption that probably won't happen
| @Auron I mean I do agree with you, I am a heartbreak enjoyer, but what we would consider obvious obviously isn't! |
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@Zarutaku I don't agree with that, it really depends on what happened exactly.
Also being too sensitive is not a good thing either. You need to be able to deal with pain, both emotionally and physically.
Also being too sensitive is not a good thing either. You need to be able to deal with pain, both emotionally and physically.
JaniSIr said: You need to be able to deal with pain, both emotionally and physically. Would you also tell that to an abuse victim? |
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JaniSIr said:
You need to be able to deal with pain, both emotionally and physically.
You need to be able to deal with pain, both emotionally and physically.
Would you also tell that to an abuse victim?
| @Zarutaku Please specify exactly what are you asking... |
| My life was a lot happier before I bothered with romantic partners, so forever alone, I guess? It's too late, though. Choices have been made. LoveYourSmile said: First option obvi. But really, a year is too much, may she just break with me in a month or so? That would be perfect, I will even pretend I'm upset. Hey, that's not fair. It's not a proper heartbreak if you never cared about her in the first place and was just looking for someone to hook up with, where losing the person is less tragic than "accidentally" dropping your ice cream cone once you realize you got bored of the flavor or something so you have an excuse to buy a new, better one. That's not how it works! |
149597871Oct 4, 11:47 AM
149597871 said: That's not how it works! An old man has just one heart and way too many breaks. Show mercy, he's only starting to learn from his mistakes... and still it's painful sometimes, like someone nailed that icecone straight into his heart. |
| Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. |
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