| I usually get rid of them. It's as simple as that. |
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| Get rid of them. It's as simple as that. |
| Don't let them surround you, problem solved. |
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| Ditch them. I’d rather have no friends than shit friends, they’re not worth wasting your time on. I used to hold on to shit people when I was young because I didn’t want to be alone. Not worth it. |
| I get rid of fake friends. Then I don't have to cope with it. |
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Reply to lalabella
Ditch them. I’d rather have no friends than shit friends, they’re not worth wasting your time on. I used to hold on to shit people when I was young because I didn’t want to be alone. Not worth it.
| @lalabella Being alone is also bad as well, isolation from people could lead to weird and dark complexes. But yes, considering having shit friends is what leads to isolation, it's always better to not have shit friends, or even friends in general. |
| Most of that idea is just coworkers in general. I never get that close, but I still try to be nice. |
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| My fake friends are much more polite than yours. |
| その目だれの目？ |
| But you are a troll. An imitation of life. Your account is fake. You are fake yourself. |
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| We're all kind of surrounded by people with weaker or stronger ties. But we should learn to just... see the pleasure in a companion, even if they're here for a short while. Life is lonesome if you shut everyone out. You can't expect everyone to sacrifice everything for you. Relationships take work to enkindle and maintain the flame. You can try building redundancy with exchanging several socials, or doing something like of yore, a written letter that is longer than a "hi" message, to tell about your life, enquire about people... Life is that, I believe, lots of bottles at sea. |
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| I'm not surrounded by fake people. The only people I see are my family, and my clients are always in the most vulnerable states of their life. Friends the few I do have, there nothing fake about them. I never wanted friends |
| Not having friends fixes this problem. Not the loneliness though. |
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Reply to Serafos
I usually get rid of them. It's as simple as that.
Serafos said: I usually get rid of them. It's as simple as that. This. Or I try to keep my interactions with them to a minimum if I have to work with them. Trying to match their fake energy is exhausting. |
| I don't have the privilege of being surrounded by friends fake or real. |
| I would recommend trying to find some real friends. |
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| If you can identify fake friends, then the most rational decision you can make is to cut them off |
| Step 1: Don't surround yourself with fake people lmao If you feel you need people to feel alright then that is your own problem and something that can be changed. |
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| except for the online experience of a music forum attended from 2007 to 2012 where i became at some point the right-hand man of the admin until he turned out to become the worst person i've ever dealt with (at least, never met in person)... not surrounded by fake friends since a very long time, because of way too many traumas already in elementary, junior high and high school early years, even if HS it wasn't about people from the same institute. The final straw for me was the terrible summer of 2001... immediately after i finished year 1 of high school i was weirdly optimistic, especially about "i'm gonna play PSX all season long, yeah"... and the PSX stopped working on day one because it suddenly refused to make cds run, and had no money to repair it. Even if i still used it here and there mostly for Crash Bash and Spyro 3, it was always a borrowed console that my few real friends brought for me when needed. So... things fell apart every day when i couldn't play those games, especially after one afternoon in which my main three best friends came visiting me and complained about "we need a larger group of friends, play football / soccer at that court into the athletics ring field, go beyond this town using our scooter to flirt with more girls, find a hanging out staple place where we all meet each other and plan events, where we can also hide the beers because we're still underage..." And thus, it sadly happened, almost all of that. The group became way too large, including some former bullies from junior high days plus people already met at the train stop for the respective high schools in the close bigger city (and seemed almost all unlikable too to begin with), and anyway most of the activities were just playing football / soccer at the place mentioned before by trespassing if the caretaker in possess of the keys was impossible to contact on phone... i hated to join (and hate that sport too) but at the same time i felt like a hostage of fear of missing out or losing the few real friends even if they weren't as friendly anymore sometimes. Immediately, when i began complaining it wasn't fun to go through all of this, guilt-tripping was ready to attack, some of those douchebags even got in possess of my private number and made prank phone calls pretending to be girls attracted to me (YEAH, SURE, SO BELIEVABLE), and even if i called them names and angrily ended the conversation, i couldn't find the force to quit. My mother noticed how unhappy and miserable i was because of all this story, and correctly commented at some point: "don't you have your own personality?"... but this was also when she was completely a different person from now, even if i passed my first year of high school with only good grades except for maths, she was over-obsessed by my academics and especially just that subject, and even ordered me once a curfew hour to return home and study it, so... lose-lose situation, once again, as if i wasn't used to those from before way too goddamn much at 15 years old already. Can't actually remember now if i returned home and only pretended to study or straight up decided to disobey the deadline hour because it was hard to decide what was the lesser evil. By the way, for HS maths i always kept a average score of 3,5/10 and then 2/10 starting midway through the third year until graduation, and don't feel sorry for it in the slightest. Unsurprisingly, it turned out to be all useless stuff as i correctly predicted back then. Returning in topic... i wasn't even considered "the friend nobody likes" or possibly even a person, i was just a tool, a stand-in to make those sport matches with even-numbered teams instead of odd figures. Of course, i was never actually invited to "meet-up with girls" attempts outside of our town, both because i didn't own a scooter like most of the boys and couldn't even afford it, and obviously or especially because my mere presence was considered a burden and a attack to the group's reputation. It gets "better"... one of those idiots one day punched me from behind at a local valley fest (happening almost all summer long at every weekend) and when i angrily turned my back he suddenly put an innocent act, with the support of others. i returned home, began ignoring phone calls and texts for going out more even if it was my best friend sending them, and FINALLY a friday evening at the end of august i decided once and for all to contact one of my other best friends and inform them i was out of "everything". By the time we returned to school two or three weeks later, the "big" group was already probably disbanded and reduced divided to the previous smaller ones because of big egos clashing and poor chemistry that never existed to begin with. Hell, i had almost no one to socialize with between my classmates too, i still wasn't happy about lessons resuming, and still it felt a relief returning there compared to that summer disaster where everything went wrong. |
_untitledOct 19, 2024 1:32 AM
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| I get it. I don't really do 'online friends' (Hence why my friends list here is near empty, and why I have friend requests / profile comments / DM's and such disabled not just here, but nearly everywhere I'm online). Acquaintances are acquaintances, and if we're friendly towards each other, then that's all that matters. It tends to hurt less if you think of things like that, even if such a thing seems kinda gloomy. We aren't all emotionally/mentally ironclad, after all. I've already tried to open myself up a few times online, and I've been hurt enough to know that I'm better off just keeping people I only know online at arms length. I don't think I'm ready to open up again any time soon. |
Daviljoe193Oct 14, 2024 5:32 AM
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| Depends on how fake exactly, and what your current social situation looks like. If they're at least okay to have as company, but are just "fair-weather friends" as you might say, or generally don't give you much to talk about with them, then it's understandable if you'd want to drop them at some point, although if your alternative is living in social limbo at a level that only makes you less able to actually find real friends, then it'd make sense to keep them around for at least as long as it takes to find more suitable connections. On the other hand, if they're the types who try to make you think they're your friend, while at the same time pressuring you into accepting behaviors that are the exact opposite of what you'd expect from one, then that's a big red flag telling you to get the hell away from them asap, no matter what. |
k0m0d097Oct 14, 2024 2:06 PM
| I don't have any fake friends, I know all them personally and we connect on a personal level. My friend group is loyal to each other and I know that for a fact. Even after highschool we still talk and we hang out at times. Usually people just don't talk to their friends after highschool but we all do since we all know each other well. |
| What is your definition of a "fake" friend? I don't even use Facebook (FB). That website totally sucks. I permanently deleted my FB account long ago. I am definitely not going anywhere near that website. It is totally just a CIA/NSA honeypot. |
| Here is my Pixiv account of my hentai drawings..... https://www.pixiv.net/en/users/104739065 Here is my blog.... https://theendofindustrialcivilization.blogspot.com/?m=1 |
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