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Is the concept of "soulmate" actually in existence?
Jun 3, 2021 10:03 AM
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I personally don't believe in that kind of concept at all because of many factors, eventuall parting,different interests,lack of relatabiltily and also how can someone fall for someone instanly without even getting to know them first?

So with these factors are part of the reason why i don't believe in such things aside from general apathy to dating but do you believe in that concept?

Jun 3, 2021 10:07 AM
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As I know soul-mate can be also a partner or close friend, as I think I wrote in other of your posts (that's not hard as you create them everyday as a machine), I met a girl who was the copy of me by basing on personality, even tho we were different in other things, like our interests, hobbies etc. she felt like my soul-mate and except her I would definitely put into my soul-mate one of my bffs with whom I am close friends since we just met in highschool and still are in a very good relation.

So yeah I believe in a some sort of soulmate (excluding any sort of magical spiritual connection etc. etc.)
Jun 3, 2021 10:24 AM
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People who talk about being soulmates after like their first interaction are just spouting nonsense. That being said, soulmates do exist I think, you just need some kinda timeframe to recognise them. When I first started talking to Mrs. Erg I wouldn't have thought she'd bring such an overwhelming amount of happiness into my life. I've had my fair share of relationships before meeting her but none of them brought the same kind of joy and that sense of security so to speak, she makes me feel like my life is on the right track and there isn't a single moment where I feel bored around her. I think that's the kind of feeling you get around a soulmate, it's a kinda tranquil joy that you just absorb when you're around them.

Soulmates can be friends too, anyone who really makes you feel at peace with everything around you.

Anyway I probably missed a bunch of stuff but I'm STARVING and none of you magnificent shitheads are gonna grab me some dinner so hopefully this made some kinda sense xoxo
Jun 3, 2021 11:00 AM
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I've spent 5 years wanting to be with and to see the same person every day when I wake up, and it must be some kind of mutual feeling because every day we spend together, through thick and thin, and despite arguing worse than I've ever argued with anyone.

I don't know. Life is really weird sometimes. It's not easy to know what people feel or want. I can tell what I feel tho and I feel I found my soulmate, yes.
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Jun 3, 2021 11:04 AM
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If you think that out of the billions of people in the world that not a single one of them would be inherently compatible with you than you are probably a very sad individual who will be alone forver.
Jun 3, 2021 11:25 AM
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Yeah I've met a couple dozen pretty cool people
Jun 3, 2021 11:45 AM
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No, such a thing doesn´t actually exist
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Jun 3, 2021 11:56 AM
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I do believe there is something similar to the idea of soulmate, while a believer of Eric Fromm's conceptions on the topic.
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Jun 3, 2021 11:56 AM
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I believe in the concept of soulmate, simply because out of the billions of people on Earth, surely there is at least one person who is completely compatible with you, may it be through romance or friendship. And even then, it isn't ever guaranteed that any of us will meet our soulmates during our limited lifetime.
Jun 3, 2021 11:59 AM
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I believe in soulmates and I think they can come in many different forms (family, friends, lovers)
Jun 3, 2021 12:12 PM

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People change too much for such a thing to be true - there are great matches, and you could go as far as to say that some two people could be considered perfect. But, with billions of people on the planet, and the concept of the soul completely disproven by science, your chances of finding someone else that is very complimentary in today's society is very high.

In the past, at the start of the industrial revolution and just before, the act of marriage was antiquated, and finding potential mates was not only bogged down by societal pressures and stigmas, but by a small human population and lack of high speed travel. Finding someone compatible with you in the past could warrant the term soulmate because of the rarity of such a chance occurring. But in today's world, you can find a significant other in less than a day.
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Jun 3, 2021 1:21 PM
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Soul-mate. Lol. Something like that is completely non-existent for me personally. It's something that has to be ordained and obtained. If it's not ordained and obtained, it will not happen, no matter how much personal effort is put into trying to find a soul-mate. Most relationships are formed from mental health these days as well. It's all based on just financial and emotional support. That's about the extent of it.
Jun 3, 2021 1:22 PM

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The idea of soulmates is a idealized fantasy like unconditional love.
Jun 3, 2021 1:56 PM

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Zettaiken said:
As I know soul-mate can be also a partner or close friend, as I think I wrote in other of your posts (that's not hard as you create them everyday as a machine), I met a girl who was the copy of me by basing on personality, even tho we were different in other things, like our interests, hobbies etc. she felt like my soul-mate and except her I would definitely put into my soul-mate one of my bffs with whom I am close friends since we just met in highschool and still are in a very good relation.

So yeah I believe in a some sort of soulmate (excluding any sort of magical spiritual connection etc. etc.)


Soul mate is a toxic belief.... It turns every failed relationship into "they weren't my soul mate"

You can be happy with anyone who puts as much effort into you as you put into them.
Jun 3, 2021 1:59 PM

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Soul-mate. Lol. Something like that is completely non-existent for me personally. It's something that has to be ordained and obtained. If it's not ordained and obtained, it will not happen, no matter how much personal effort is put into trying to find a soul-mate. Most relationships are formed from mental health these days as well. It's all based on just financial and emotional support. That's about the extent of it.


Robert Sapolsky once named a collection. of studies and meta analysis proving that love lasts on average 5 years and even if the relationship endures much longer than that, then love has already died and been replaced with respect and simpathy for the once loved one, sometimes it becomes even admiration... Many things but not love.

So yeah, you are never gonna love anyone forever, and no one is gonna love you forever... But your partner can become your best friend eventually.
Jun 3, 2021 2:02 PM
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Ceisri said:
Inphyy said:
Soul-mate. Lol. Something like that is completely non-existent for me personally. It's something that has to be ordained and obtained. If it's not ordained and obtained, it will not happen, no matter how much personal effort is put into trying to find a soul-mate. Most relationships are formed from mental health these days as well. It's all based on just financial and emotional support. That's about the extent of it.


Robert Sapolsky once named a collection. of studies and meta analysis proving that love lasts on average 5 years and even if the relationship endures much longer than that, then love has already died and been replaced with respect and simpathy for the once loved one, sometimes it becomes even admiration... Many things but not love.

So yeah, you are never gonna love anyone forever, and no one is gonna love you forever... But your partner can become your best friend eventually.


Some people need it to fight off loneliness. I've always been comfortable being alone. I actually function better in every area of my life when I'm just left alone.
Jun 3, 2021 4:27 PM

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I'm going with magical unexplainable connection on this one and without any detailed explanation, because it's going to be a damn long treatise to write lol I'll just say I absolutely believe in soulmates, won't give any kind of arguments whatsoever and I'm ready to be trashed for that :p
Jun 3, 2021 8:48 PM

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There are different ways people define it so most believe in something like one of them.
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Jun 4, 2021 12:57 AM
Jun 4, 2021 1:24 AM

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Only if you believe in such a thing as "Fate" or "destiny" which is unfathomably dumb.

Jun 4, 2021 1:25 AM

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yes you are my soulmate but you cant leave your friends behind



Jun 4, 2021 1:48 AM

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No, Your personality, hobbies, and interests will change over time, so the person who was compatible with you at one point whom you may think was your soulmate may not be compatible with you at another point in your life and someone else may be compatible with you at that time. So did your soulmate change? No, because there is no soulmate.
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Jun 4, 2021 6:49 AM
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I don't believe in soulmates in the supernatural sense but yes there are people out there you (generic you) are very compatible with (but that's common sense lol)
Jun 4, 2021 6:59 AM
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yea for single people like me and others . Like you are not getting a girlfriend and want to get one but are not able to, but you know that your soulmate is always there
Jun 4, 2021 5:29 PM

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A lot people seem to be conflating the idea of a soulmate with the idea of compatibility. The way people talk about having soulmates normally, they seem to believe there is exactly one person out of the over 7 billion in the world they are meant to be with, and they somehow pinpointed who that is.

I don't buy the kinda thing. It's probably also a terrible idea to tell yourself that whoever you're with is the person you are uniquely compatible with. That's why it's a good idea to remind someone suffering a break up that there are other fish.

In short, if you're with someone, they're not special. You're attached to them now, sure, but under a different set of circumstances, it would have been someone else you wound up with who you might have enjoyed equally as much or even more. Not that that's a good reason to break up a functional relationship but still.
Jun 4, 2021 6:43 PM

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Yes, i think it is very true. That being said it is rare than a bottle of buffalo trace in spain. I think that it just happens with some people and just not others. Its the same sort of case of do you believe in love at first sight. Which i again think is true but is also just really rare.

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