| Do people find low self esteem to be annoying? I'm introvert and chill dude but people say i'm annoying, after giving it some thought i have reached the conclusion that it is because i seem to give the impression of having a low self esteem/social anxiety despite not saying a single word in my entire school year. I walk slowly, i always set my eyes down because eye contact makes me feel akward and uncomfortable, i stutter sometimes when i speak and people sometimes can't understand what i'm saying because of overbite, i hunch when i sit, can't get used to sitting straight srsly, my face look like i want to beat up someone. |
| More extroverted and outgoing people have the tendency to get frustrated with those who are more reserved and introverted because they simply don't understand. It's that "Talk first, think later" mindset that extroverts have. Which to be frank, I find more annoying than someone with low self-esteem, and that's coming from someone who has no issue talking to anyone. |
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| It can be annoying, but I can relate to it. I think that might be what I find annoying about it because its something I dislike in my self. Plus sometimes low self esteem can mean easily manipulated, persuaded or pulled into the crowd and those are traits I dont really like. |
| Not at all. The only time it's annoying is when you remind everyone "I'm ugly", "I'm stupid", "I can't do anything right" all the damn time. I struggled with low self esteem throughout middle school and high school so I can understand what it's like to struggle with it. You just have to remember that life isn't going to stop for you just because you're insecure. |
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| People who need to constantly remind others about how much they suck at things get annoying pretty fast. |
| It's only irritating when they're continuously complaining. Other then that I don't consider then different in comparison to the rest of society. |
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| I can't understand how low self-esteem being annoying, maybe shyness? Most extroverts are really weak people who depend on the energy of others and things around them to fuel their ego. You being shy and not giving that to them takes them out of their element and makes them uncomfortable. This discomfort is usually projected through body language or phrases like "Awkward~" directed at nobody specific. But there are some extroverts that may take it more as a personal attack against there character(ie: "Do they not find me interesting?") which then is likely to manifest as negative emotions, such as frustration or annoyance. (anger is secondary emotion triggered by other emotions such as fear, sadness, offense). So I wouldn't worry about it too much, not all personalities are compatible no matter what hippy "world peace" creed your teachers have told you growing up, just develop appropriate cooping mechanisms for people whose personalities clash with yours, because that's about all you can do. |
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| Not really, I'm introvert and don't think highly of myself but I never complain about what I don't like about myself. I guess that's because it's not nice when somebody keeps complaining or tries to make the rest feel sorry for him/her by doing so. |
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| I am not sure about the general case, but I surely don't. It'd be hypocritical if I did. MorsPulchra said: Most extroverts are really weak people who depend on the energy of others and things around them to fuel their ego. lol |
| No, not as far as I know. Self- deprecation is maddening though so if you're doing that, you should probably stop. |
Sandbag said: No, not as far as I know. Self- deprecation is maddening though so if you're doing that, you should probably stop. *sigh* I don't really mind because I'm pretty terrible myself and am bad at everything. |
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| I'd rather be with someone with low self esteem than to be with someone with super high self-esteem or over confident. |
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NasalShark said: Sandbag said: No, not as far as I know. Self- deprecation is maddening though so if you're doing that, you should probably stop. *sigh* I don't really mind because I'm pretty terrible myself and am bad at everything. I know you're joking but the cringe is still so painful. |
| the openly self-deprecating ones are annoying otherwise not really |
Nunnally03 said: You can tend to regret this when you spend 50% of the relationship assuring them you don't hate them, that they're okay, that you really don't hate them...it's exhaustingI'd rather be with someone with low self esteem than to be with someone with super high self-esteem or over confident. |
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| Aw, we're in the same boat, well not really actually. I'm an introvert too, but during my first three years of Secondary school I tried to be more open and friendly but people find me annoying and started to hate me, boycott me (maybe it's just me lol) and the last year of school I decided to stick to being myself -- an introvert but people still find me annoying (haha it's just me they just hate me for nothing really). Until now, except those three years, I've been scared to talk to people, I usually avoid them and even distance myself from my own friends. I don't talk to people at my part-time job, or my relatives during gathering. When people talk to me I reply one word, I don't talk unnecessarily. If I don't know what to reply I just smile. All this because I have low-confidence and I'm really self-conscious. Though nowadays I just couldn't be bothered by people and I hate when they talk to me basically I hate them -,- My mother keeps telling me to talk to people to improve myself and I just can't, and she finds it annoying that I have low self-esteem lol. Either ways both are annoying to people or.... maybe it's just me who's annoying. |
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| I am both introverted and have low self esteem. Nothing wrong with others like that. What does annoy me is arrogant people. |
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| How can they be annoying if they don't talk or bother you... I find it hard to approach them if anything. But that won't stop me from trying :) |
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| If you don't say a single word and go around with your head facing the ground people are gonna get mad at you for being so damn insecure, noone likes people who can't show some bravery in their actions or even just can't fucking communicate. And this is coming from a guy who can hardly be considered sociable. |
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| It depends since that kind of personality can often get misunderstood as hostile/disinterest. I'll tell you from personal experience, since I've had many friends who I'd define as someone with low self esteem. To be honest, once I figure it out it usually just comes off as naive and cute to me. Though if they're constantly wallowing in self pity, THAT is extremely annoying and very very unattractive. Don't do that, seriously. |
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| yeah people with low self esteem very annoying. cant make longer eye contact, when you ask them about something responses as short as it can be also they always like i cant do this/ i dont want/ i look ugly and most of answer no no no no all the time with gloomy face jeeeeeeeez if they move like snails too it makes me want to slap them. |
| no depends on the rest layers of their personality, id say low self-esteem is a good trait even |
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YuriFanboy163 said: I walk slowly, i always set my eyes down because eye contact makes me feel akward and uncomfortable, i stutter sometimes when i speak and people sometimes can't understand what i'm saying because of overbite, i hunch when i sit, can't get used to sitting straight srsly, my face look like i want to beat up someone. I really don't like the fact that there are so many people on this site that seem to be bullied, hated, boycotted or something similiar, which results in them having less self-confidence. I strongly believe that the above quote shouldn't be a reason for anyone to get hated on. silvers0ul said: Until now, except those three years, I've been scared to talk to people, I usually avoid them and even distance myself from my own friends. I don't talk to people at my part-time job, or my relatives during gathering. When people talk to me I reply one word, I don't talk unnecessarily. If I don't know what to reply I just smile. All this because I have low-confidence and I'm really self-conscious. Though nowadays I just couldn't be bothered by people and I hate when they talk to me basically I hate them -,- My mother keeps telling me to talk to people to improve myself and I just can't, and she finds it annoying that I have low self-esteem lol. Either ways both are annoying to people or.... maybe it's just me who's annoying. Too bad that you think this way, to be honest. I know that having a low-confidence sucks a lot, but I feel like anyone might be able to overcome it if they have a positive mindset, or at least try having a positive mindset. Hating people isn't going to get you anywhere, and it'll probably end up with you having even less confidence. |
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Xaneski said: YuriFanboy163 said: I walk slowly, i always set my eyes down because eye contact makes me feel akward and uncomfortable, i stutter sometimes when i speak and people sometimes can't understand what i'm saying because of overbite, i hunch when i sit, can't get used to sitting straight srsly, my face look like i want to beat up someone. You sound like my irl friend. You say you got anxiety, but let me tell you that eye contact is natural, everyone looks at eachother, it isn't awkward, when someone walks in people look, when people walk passed they look, it's just what humans, even animals do, don't think they are judging you, everyone does it to eachother. Also try to sit up more properly, do some back stretches like grabbing the top of your door frame and pull yourself up a bit to stretch your back, lay on the floor after a long time on the pc, to straighten your back, if your back makes a click noise then you know you set your back into more a normal state About stuttering, you may need to think before you speak, look up tutorials on breathing techniques with a stutter problem, relax your mind. Don't worry about looking angry, tbh I've had friend who was a girl tell me everyone told her to smile all the time, and she blames it on her face that she looks pissed off. A lot of people feel that way about their face so I wouldnt concern yourself with it. This is some very good advice, I totally agree. Stuttering isn't something to be ashamed of, I know many people who stutter (including me at some times) and it shouldn't affect your social life. |
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| Well, depends. I'd so my best to cheer up someone with a bad self steem but there is a limit. Nobody likes someone who is constantly putting him or herself down. It gets tiring. Fast. |
| I have low self-esteem but it's so hard to keep it up all the time. I feel like shit half a year and like a superstar the other one. |
| Only if they go around parading how low their self esteem is. You just seem like a shy dude, which there's nothing really wrong with that. Wear some shades so you don't have to look down all the time. |
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| I don't find all introverts to have low self-esteem. I don't find ppl with low self-esteem annoying. As someone who used to lack confidence, I try and help them. One way to build self-esteem is with friendship. At least that worked for me, because it shows that there's someone who thinks you're worthy. |
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| Not really. I'd been there in high school, so I understand unless it's all they talk about. |
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| Having low self esteem is fine, it's the people who need to constantly remind their friends that they have low self esteem that are the annoying ones. |
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| Those who have low self esteem and still seek attention from others by constantly making it clear that they have low self esteem are annoying. And also, if they constantly bring it up in conversations they are being annoying. |
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| I hate it, It's one of the things I can't tolerate. No matter how bad you are in any aspect having a low self esteem is just annoying , you always gotta love yourself and value yourself, and not only love, You have to love it so much that no one can do so more than you. |
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| I understand that it can be annoying for some people, but again just like everything, it depends on the person, some will have more patience with you and some will not, |
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Mogu-sama said: I've been with someone who have a super high self-esteem and believe me it's more tiring and maddening than being with someone with low-self-esteem. Nunnally03 said: You can tend to regret this when you spend 50% of the relationship assuring them you don't hate them, that they're okay, that you really don't hate them...it's exhaustingI'd rather be with someone with low self esteem than to be with someone with super high self-esteem or over confident. |
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| I guess so, in this world swimming with extroverts, it's pretty hard for an introvert. I think low self esteem can point to a positive trait, which is high conscientiousness. Highly conscientious people are very aware of what needs to be done, what ought to happen, what's most desirable/proper/ideal. The other side of that is that they are also aware of what's lacking and what needs changing/improving. And because they're conscientious, they know their part in it or what they can do about it. They're also aware of their strengths and weaknesses. Hence, highly conscientious people are also sensitive people. And them realizing their shortcomings result in humbling down and, oftentimes, low confidence. There's another kind of low self esteem that is annoying. I find it ironically narcissistic. It's telling others "I'm ugly/dumb/etc." just to hear others say that it's the opposite. And they get satisfaction from seeming "meek" when they just really want to be seen/noticed/praised as so. It's low self esteem because they seek the esteem of others. |
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| I haven't gotten close enough to anyone with low self-esteem to know and that Is probably because I am the person with low self-esteem. That I often downplay my abilities may have peeved some people I've been talking to, not aided by my very pessimistic attitude towards life. |
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| Well, the problem is... it might get exhausting to communicate with such a person, because acting shy and awkward causes a lot of communication noise, which means that it creates additional - and for the recipient seemingly unnecessary - barriers. Just keep that in mind when talking to people. If they are unsatisfyied with anything else regarding your low self esteem, it's probably their own incompetence, considering you are not being too vocal complaining about it. |
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| People with low self esteem can be quite annoying at workplace, i have a coworker who's so big and fat he's often not confident enough to do his tasks. He works much slower than anyone else since he's afraid of making mistakes, and when he does make a mistake, he's always panicking like mad and makes a mess of things. Seriously, people like this should be fired, sent back to school and receive severe attitude lessons. I don't care how introverted or extroverted you are, but when you drag everyone else down, you're useless. |
| Only when they won't shut up and constantly whine about it |
| It's pretty insensitive for people to say that it's 'annoying'. Everyone responds to the world around them in different ways; people should be trying to work with you and see the positives in who you are, not passing you off as 'annoying'. This is why humanity frustrates me. |
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| I'm supportive as long as they're not constantly making jokes about how much they hate themselves and trying to be an edgelord |
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| Not really, but I find people who hates a person for having low self esteem annoying as hell. |
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| People with low self-esteem are not fun people to be around. If everyone had high self-esteem it'd be better. I won't write off a person just because of that, but it's a bad quality regardless. |
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