| Well mal, been a while since I've made a thread in cd I think. Or maybe I made one recently. I can't remember. Anyway, the question is the title. For those of you with eyes that can't look up and so that this OP is filled with more words to make me seem intelligent, I guess I'll repeat it. Is it better to have loved and lost, or to have not loved at all? and obviously, why do you think this way? Personally, I think it is better to have loved and then lost. I feel like getting a taste of love, no matter how small, will always be better than not experiencing it at all. I would say discuss, but this is just gonna be filled with shitposts anyway, so fuck it, Don't discuss. |
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| Can I kill myself now? |
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| I hate to say it, but it's better to have loved and lost. because it's a life changing experience, could make you be better or worse, or both. but it will always open your eyes on something about yourself more. although it's an excruciating pain, but it's worth. |
INTP (Ne) A hound, begging for scraps at the emperor's table |
RedTie said: I think it's best to have loved and lost it. The love may be gone but the memories you had together will always be there. Those memories can sting a little but I also feel happy with them still. Akihiko86 said: I hate to say it, but it's better to have loved and lost. because it's a life changing experience, could make you be better or worse, or both. but it will always open your eyes on something about yourself more. although it's an excruciating pain, but it's worth. yup |
| Now I see the secret of the making of the best persons. It is to grow in the open air and to eat and sleep with the earth. -Walt Whitman A human being should be able to change a diaper, plan an invasion, butcher a hog, conn a ship, design a building, write a sonnet, balance accounts, build a wall, set a bone, comfort the dying, take orders, give orders, cooperate, act alone, solve equations, analyze a new problem, pitch manure, program a computer, cook a tasty meal, fight efficiently, die gallantly. Specialization is for insects. -Robert A. Heinlein |
Often said: Can I kill myself now? only if you stream it. Anna_Cats said: kill me (your vote) same tbh fam. RedTie said: I think it's best to have loved and lost it. The love may be gone but the memories you had together will always be there. Those memories can sting a little but I also feel happy with them still. I agree with this. I guess the counter argument is that memories can be equally depressing and it's all about how you look at them. For example, if your thinking about good times you had with your ex, you can either be happy that you could have those times or sad because you don't have them anymore. Maybe even both. |
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Anna_Cats said: kill me (your vote) +250 |
Ravioli_Ravioli said: I'll do more than stream it famOften said: Can I kill myself now? only if you stream it. |
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| Ravioli_Ravioli, stick your winky in my hole-y But I would say, despite being cynical, to have loved and lost. Sort of like before I lost my virginity, I didn't get the big deal about sex but now it's all like "woah. & I thought pizza was good" |
khunter said: Ravioli_Ravioli, stick your winky in my hole-y But I would say, despite being cynical, to have loved and lost. Sort of like before I lost my virginity, I didn't get the big deal about sex but now it's all like "woah. & I thought pizza was good" >pizza I didn't think you were into that sort of thing. |
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Ravioli_Ravioli said: khunter said: Ravioli_Ravioli, stick your winky in my hole-y But I would say, despite being cynical, to have loved and lost. Sort of like before I lost my virginity, I didn't get the big deal about sex but now it's all like "woah. & I thought pizza was good" >pizza I didn't think you were into that sort of thing. I'm not but sometimes I like to pretend I'm Dr.Seuss and rhyme things. |
| As one of my favorite songs goes, "I would rather feel the sting than never to have felt a thing." I think it's important to experience negative moments in your life; it gives you humanity and teaches you how to deal with things. Getting everything you want is never a good thing, even if it might be what you want. |
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| It is better to have loved and lost because it gets you closer to being who you really are. If the person left because of you, you learn what you need to fix about yourself. If you left the relationship, it was because you realized what you didn't want in a person. Yeah it hurts, but you just have to live with it. |
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| I'd say that it's better to have never lost at all. Although love is an emotion we have absolutely no control over, you can however control the way you express it. Let's say you are friends with the person you have fallen in love with: You confess your love. The person loves you back, or the person doesn't feel the same way. How do you handle it if the person doesn't feel the same way? You escape from the rejected feeling? You can't? You escape from that person? You could, but the hurt will still remain. Deny, delete and forget. Maybe it's not as easy as I say it is, but it's still do-able. You can do it. You'll... just have to live with the decision whichever you choose. YOU have to live with it. Certainly, to have not loved at all will be the easiest way to lock away emotions like sadness, jealousy, etc. You won't feel that you have to change / improve yourself to be able to stand by their side. You'll live life like always, not knowing the pain love can bring. On the other hand, not knowing the pain love can bring nor the feelings you experience during love means you lose out on a lot. - You will never know the happiness that love can bring. - You'll never know if it 'could' have been possible if you said something. - You'd never have memorable memories or memories worth remembering. To have loved and lost, looked at in the worst capable way, leads to bad things. You emotionally become sad / broken and will suffer from your loss, you'll feel that you can't go on anymore without the person and you could do harming things to yourself (meaning attempted...'death' or successful 'death). My opinion: love mostly only brings heartache and pain. |
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| loved and lost. i'm always up for new experiences even if they end up in shit khunter said: Sort of like before I lost my virginity, I didn't get the big deal about sex but now it's all like "woah. & I thought pizza was good" wish i had that feeling. my thought was "ok cool i've done this so i don't have to do it ever again" |
deadoptimist said: Though I think shit-flinging should also have standards - no personal, no behind the scenes. |
| meh the former really sucks ass esp if your love died in an accident or something. some people can never recover from it, so it would be better in that scenario if they never loved in the first place. they couldve loved somebody else and never had to experience years of depression meanwhile you can go on living, have close friends if you choose not to love anyone romantically. tho not having a partner kind of sucks too. |
| The first one tbqh. |
| In terms of personal productivity,I prefer not to love at all. Otherwise thoughts suddenly become a clusterfuck, your daily habbits are disorganized and mood is easily affected by the status of this 'relationship'. If it's stable enough for a period of time, it manifests into a different, new lifestyle. If not, it depends. At one point I am overwhelmed by experiencing a new feeling, but, c'mon, do I really have to imagine unrealistic scenarios whilst listening to a soft-alternative/indie rock. Do I really have to maintain this love/hate attitude towards snow depending on whether I talked to the significant person that day or not. Not to mention vulnerability. Yes, that tinglish feeling in your stomach is nice, but if it's hard to have a self-control, not advicing love anytime soon. Edit: misread the title, lol. Sorries. AND if at some point you go through all that and then something tragic happens, not sure how many issues that would cause, don't even want to think about it. |
ErynysNov 25, 2015 1:57 PM
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| Id rather not love at all because while ive never had a GF.the filipino dramas make it about to be a clusterfuck of emotions that will either make you happy or utterly destroy you.and besides,getting married might lead to kids,and I absolutely do not want kids. |
 The peasant is bound by the king. The king is bound by the peasants and their kingdom. But the Viking is bound to nothing but themselves. |
| You can't miss what you've never had. |
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| Definitely a good experience. But otherwise you can really do with the lost part. |
| Just need to find out how to quote this every time so I can dodge the stupid 30-character limit. |
| Defiantly never loved because you don't really know what your missing but when you loved someone then lost them they defiantly leave a gap in your heart and cause a lot of pain that you would never have known. Its like having your favorite food taken away forever knowing you'll never taste it again. Its better if you never knew the taste in the first place to miss it. |
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TheShepherd said: Defiantly never loved because you don't really know what your missing but when you loved someone then lost them they defiantly leave a gap in your heart and cause a lot of pain that you would never have known. Its like having your favorite food taken away forever knowing you'll never taste it again. Its better if you never knew the taste in the first place to miss it. |
| Love and lost my first girl friend. Then I got another Girl problem solved. |
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