Do things out of love or dont?
| So I was arguing about this with a friend (yes I have friends, shocking) The argument was whether waiting for marriage to have sex with someone is a better way to prove you love them than actually "making love" to show it. Her argument was that the relationship shouldn't be based around physical things but instead it should focus on the feelings the couple has for each other and everything physical should just be an afterthought. To which I replied "It's 2014 the white dress doesn't mean pure anymore and most people you'll meet our age(20+) aren't virgins" especially women(fact in most countries) I believe there is no longer a reason to not have sex and all that fun stuff before marriage because people don't care as much anymore and with all the social media crap relationships can go *poof* in a matter of seconds Now I'm not saying the relationship should be about sex just that every healthy relationship should have sex or at least sexual deeds involved (like nudes and cyber for the long distancers) TL;DR: I believe "If you truly love someone than why wait?" She believes "If you love someone then why not wait?" Which side are you on? |
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| Nowadays marriage is just a bunch of papers proving you're attached to each other legally. Why bother at all? |
| I'm on the virgin side. |
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| Sex is a part of a relationship. Of course a relationship shouldn't be heavily focused on sex, but it shouldn't matter whether you have sex or not before marriage. As long as you truly love them, having sex is fine either way. |
j0x said: pre marital sex is still a social taboo here in the philippines but more and more teenagers now a days have sex anyway, im somewhat liberal so i agree with the teenagers today Same and also a social taboo here. |
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Gotsupermilk said: I'm on the virgin side. Exactly, I should sleep with everybody and nobody else should sleep with anybody. |
xshizuneix said: Sex is a part of a relationship. Of course a relationship shouldn't be heavily focused on sex, but it shouldn't matter whether you have sex or not before marriage. As long as you truly love them, having sex is fine either way. /thread |
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| Boring topic, go to sleep if you aren't right now. |
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Minute said: Haha that made me laugh.Gotsupermilk said: I'm on the virgin side. Exactly, I should sleep with everybody and nobody else should sleep with anybody. |
MintPanda said: xshizuneix said: Sex is a part of a relationship. Of course a relationship shouldn't be heavily focused on sex, but it shouldn't matter whether you have sex or not before marriage. As long as you truly love them, having sex is fine either way. /thread Yeah this. Pretty much, if you need to verify your relationship with sex, then there's not much of a relationship there. I'm not saying you can't have pre-marital sex. However if your justification is "how can I show them I love them without sticking my dick in it", then you have some misconceptions of what kinds of things you consider romantic and what you consider just sex, because you're not grasping the difference in those things. Love isn't just sex. But sex is one part of love that can be shown. |
Democracy said: Neither. Both of your arguments predicate love on sex. What the fuck?The argument was whether waiting for marriage to have sex with someone is a better way to prove you love them than actually "making love" to show it. |
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| fuck love ! fuck it hard ! |
lewd is love, lewd is life ! |
| there is no love in the world its all fake |
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katsucats said: Democracy said: Neither. Both of your arguments predicate love on sex. What the fuck?The argument was whether waiting for marriage to have sex with someone is a better way to prove you love them than actually "making love" to show it. The arguments were about that because sex WAS the subject not relationships as a whole. There are obviously other ways to show affection but that is not what we were talking about. I may be a pervert but I'm not an asshole! most of the time. |
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| Most real relationships have a physical side. Denying attraction is a weird concept to me - if you both mutually decide you want to wait for whatever reason, fine, but I don't see the point in waiting for the sake of waiting. Just because you have sex does not mean your relationship is founded on sex. That's completely up to you and your partner. People like to fuck. It feels good. It can also be very intimate and emotional for couples, having a healthy sex life is a very positive thing in a relationship. |
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| I can still wear a white wedding gear and be genuine ;) |
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dity said: xshizuneix said: why?Of course a relationship shouldn't be heavily focused on sex Because sex becomes the focus of the relationship, once that becomes boring the relationship will fall through. Its ok to start that way but it must grow beyond that to have lastability. The same way a friendship based on a love of paintball won't continue once the paintball matches stop unless they start to relate with more than just that. |
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dity said: xshizuneix said: why?Of course a relationship shouldn't be heavily focused on sex Because sex is bad and only dirty people do it Kibura_Iburasa said: dity said: why? Because sex becomes the focus of the relationship, once that becomes boring the relationship will fall through. Its ok to start that way but it must grow beyond that to have lastability. The same way a friendship based on a love of paintball won't continue once the paintball matches stop unless they start to relate with more than just that. Do you think that all couples that have sex frequently have a relationship built on sex? I'm not implying you do, just curious. It shouldn't be what holds you together, but I don't think it's a bad thing to have a lot of sex. |
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Feyfray said: Do you think that all couples that have sex frequently have a relationship built on sex? They said heavily based on sex Which is completely different to a couple having frequent sex. |
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Kibura_Iburasa said: Feyfray said: Do you think that all couples that have sex frequently have a relationship built on sex? They said heavily based on sex Which is completely different to a couple having frequent sex. I agree, but I also think that some people consider the two the same thing. |
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