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Nov 8, 2014 1:57 PM
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You meet a boy/girl. You spend a lot of time together. You decide to get married. But then the mask comes off, and you see the true them, and after that, you barely see them, and before you know it, you're outside, watching her/him and her/his new lover, and you're sitting in the rain, looking like a fool, thinking, "Did she ever love me?"

What part of that is good?
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Right now, me, right now, in Cleveland, Ohio, take fucking care of me right fucking now. Don't worry about where I'm supposed to be tomorrow. Don't worry about what segment I'm supposed to be. Fucking fix me. My fucking ribs are broken, my knee is fucking torn up, I'm fucking sick. Fucking help me.
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Nov 8, 2014 1:59 PM
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You're pretty cynical, OP.
Nov 8, 2014 2:00 PM
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Jackrabb1t said:
You're pretty cynical, OP.


What can I say? Experience.
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Right now, me, right now, in Cleveland, Ohio, take fucking care of me right fucking now. Don't worry about where I'm supposed to be tomorrow. Don't worry about what segment I'm supposed to be. Fucking fix me. My fucking ribs are broken, my knee is fucking torn up, I'm fucking sick. Fucking help me.
Nov 8, 2014 2:00 PM
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It isn't.
Nov 8, 2014 2:00 PM
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The sex
Nov 8, 2014 2:01 PM
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you need a hug OP?
Nov 8, 2014 2:02 PM
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html said:
you need a hug OP?
I'd give him a hug but I'm a hairy guy so I doubt he'd appreciate it
Nov 8, 2014 2:05 PM
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Its your own fault for marrying. Love doesnt need a contract so if you decide to follow some stupid ancient tradition that probably spawned off some religion well its your own fault. I think that by never marrying and constantly living under the risk of breaking up at any time people actually put more effort into their relation.
Nov 8, 2014 2:05 PM
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Kungfumaster said:
The sex


You can have sex without love.


Nov 8, 2014 2:05 PM

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Jackrabb1t said:
html said:
you need a hug OP?
I'd give him a hug but I'm a hairy guy so I doubt he'd appreciate it
I think OP would love to rub himself against your soft, delicate body hair and feel your warmth.
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Nov 8, 2014 2:08 PM
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You get to spend all your life time with him/her and you will raise your children with him/her and you got to see your Children grow and you'll love him/her more and more till you die and your grandsons and granddaughters will visit you and you'll spoil them and give them presents and shit.

That's the real dream yo.
Nov 8, 2014 2:08 PM

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To continue the fucking generation.
Nov 8, 2014 2:09 PM

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If people took more time searching and getting to know their love interest, I think relationships would go much better. Then after finding your significant other, you have to realize that everything isn't going to be rainbows and sunshine all the time. There will be arguments and there will be fights. But you have to be willing to communicate with the other person and willing to compromise. Teamwork and mutual interest is crucial. Marriages are supposed to provide intimacy (emotional and sexual) between the partners and an stable environment to raise children.
Nov 8, 2014 2:10 PM

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LOL, did you get dumped by a nerd?
Nov 8, 2014 2:11 PM

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your always there for him/her and he/she is always there for you
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Nov 8, 2014 2:12 PM

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VitaminCaim said:
LOL, did you get dumped by a nerd?


Close, but no. It was a Bleach fangirl,
CM said:
Right now, me, right now, in Cleveland, Ohio, take fucking care of me right fucking now. Don't worry about where I'm supposed to be tomorrow. Don't worry about what segment I'm supposed to be. Fucking fix me. My fucking ribs are broken, my knee is fucking torn up, I'm fucking sick. Fucking help me.
Nov 8, 2014 2:13 PM

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You'll get over it.
Nov 8, 2014 2:13 PM

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To grow old together and stuff
Nov 8, 2014 2:14 PM

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L3XJam3s said:
VitaminCaim said:
LOL, did you get dumped by a nerd?


Close, but no. It was a Bleach fangirl,

Even worse

Just don't be a fegget over it
Nov 8, 2014 2:15 PM

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To not suffer from the >tfwnogf feels
Nov 8, 2014 2:15 PM

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There is nothing good about marriage, especially not in this century.

Nov 8, 2014 2:17 PM

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L3XJam3s said:
VitaminCaim said:
LOL, did you get dumped by a nerd?


Close, but no. It was a Bleach fangirl,


How could she?There's no romance in the Bleach universe,doesn't it rub off.

Anyway,it's heartbreaking and there's no point if you two don't know each other very well.That's why people should get to know their love interests more,and not rush into relationships and all that.I've seen many times,a friend of mine would rush into a relationship,then a couple of months later would be cursing the other person.You should consider a lot before embarking I guess,or else there's no point.
Nov 8, 2014 2:26 PM

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Extended parental care allows our bodies and brains to develop slower and more complexly. We mature at a much slower rate compared to other organisms, and that means that we are dependent on our parents for longer periods of time than other organisms. Evolutionarily speaking, your big brain may be possible because of parental investment.

That's arguably one of the biological bases for love.
Nov 8, 2014 2:30 PM

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L3XJam3s said:
VitaminCaim said:
LOL, did you get dumped by a nerd?


Close, but no. It was a Bleach fangirl,
Relationships don't last forever bro. Some of the people you feel like you could spend your entire life with can get a change of heart. It's human. I've seen some of the strongest longest relationships end in a matter of days because of just one conflict
Nov 8, 2014 2:39 PM

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Kungfumaster said:
The sex
Worst part.
Nov 8, 2014 2:40 PM
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Every rational person would choose to get rid of it if they could. It's a curse. I think that's why God wants us to love him more than anyone or anything else, to help us liberate ourselves. Imagine how dangerous this force actually is and what it can make you do. Especially as it is today, when it's "free".


Nov 8, 2014 2:42 PM

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There are some lonely and sad people on this site
an egomaniac and a fool

Nov 8, 2014 2:45 PM
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Having a special someone to go through life with is nice.
Nov 8, 2014 2:52 PM

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I've seen marriages fall apart, crumble, and be destroyed, but I've also seen some get stronger, and actually felt like partners. Most people are putting a act then get confused when the person that they married int the person they dated. Or outside forces put pressure on them, and they couldn't handle life together. But there are some that genuinely help watch other in life, are partners and best freinds. Life throws SO much at them but it only makes them stronger together. Not ALL marriages fall apart, but for every 4 , no 9 that don't work, there's 1 that does.

And now I sound like a loser.
I didn't come here to play, I came to win. Now lets play.
Nov 8, 2014 2:55 PM

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It's not automatically a good thing. You can choose whether you want to fall in love and get married. If you're happy by yourself that's good for you OP.
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Nov 8, 2014 2:56 PM

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MechaKiryu said:
Kungfumaster said:
The sex
Worst part.

dude that's like the 5th gayest thing you've said

OT: You get married if you want but the whole cheating thing is usually when one of the 2 neglects the other for work/hobbies
Nov 8, 2014 3:22 PM

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Not everyone thinks like you OP. I don't think everyone in the world is a cheating bastard either, most likely.

I can see you


Nov 8, 2014 3:25 PM

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Well a few decades ago it was, when people actually picked good spouses, but now its just temporary as divorce rates are going up.
Nov 8, 2014 3:31 PM

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Democracy said:
MechaKiryu said:
Worst part.

dude that's like the 5th gayest thing you've said

OT: You get married if you want but the whole cheating thing is usually when one of the 2 neglects the other for work/hobbies


I doubt he's gay, not liking sex =/= gay, sounds more like a combination of being aromantic (not liking romance) and asexual (no urge for sex), it's good in to not have to worry about dating or being married and it can be good for sanity in some people to not think about sex.


Nov 8, 2014 3:33 PM

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I'm pretty sure he meant that marital sex isn't stereotypically great. "I have a headache" yadda yadda yadda..

Anyway, if you think not liking sex is gay, you obviously don't know a damn thing about gay people.
Nov 8, 2014 3:36 PM

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You probably haven't spent enough time with your lover before getting married if they ended up changing afterwards.
Nov 8, 2014 3:39 PM

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Democracy said:
MechaKiryu said:
Worst part.

dude that's like the 5th gayest thing you've said

OT: You get married if you want but the whole cheating thing is usually when one of the 2 neglects the other for work/hobbies
Because gays don't have sex...
Nov 8, 2014 4:43 PM

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mayukachan said:
You probably haven't spent enough time with your lover before getting married if they ended up changing afterwards.


Dude, I'm freaking 16, I was just using the marriage thing as an example.
CM said:
Right now, me, right now, in Cleveland, Ohio, take fucking care of me right fucking now. Don't worry about where I'm supposed to be tomorrow. Don't worry about what segment I'm supposed to be. Fucking fix me. My fucking ribs are broken, my knee is fucking torn up, I'm fucking sick. Fucking help me.
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Nov 8, 2014 4:47 PM

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L3XJam3s said:
mayukachan said:
You probably haven't spent enough time with your lover before getting married if they ended up changing afterwards.


Dude, I'm freaking 16, I was just using the marriage thing as an example.


Bloody teens and their love problems. Maybe I am just a aromantic asshole but I never had this teenage first world problems. Are you really seeing the world as soo bleak just because of some failed romance? Really? There are enough potential mates in world, yet you fret over a single lost one?
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Hoppy said:
Democracy said:

dude that's like the 5th gayest thing you've said

OT: You get married if you want but the whole cheating thing is usually when one of the 2 neglects the other for work/hobbies


I doubt he's gay, not liking sex =/= gay, sounds more like a combination of being aromantic (not liking romance) and asexual (no urge for sex), it's good in to not have to worry about dating or being married and it can be good for sanity in some people to not think about sex.


He's 14, cut him some slack guys

And to OP - who hurt you? Who hurt you, OP? I'll grab the wine and movie, you're always welcome on my couch for a consolation cuddle
Nov 8, 2014 5:50 PM

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I don't know what you are talking about my parents have been married for 40 years.

How about, don't get married too young, or make sure you actually fucking know the person before springing into marriage, or....hey try living together for a while before you take that plunge.

I think marriage is stupid, the only reason I would ever do it is if I was truly in love with the girl I conned into liking me, and getting a good tax break, other than that the concept of marriage is dumb.

But falling in love?? I believe in that....I fall in love every day lol.
Nov 8, 2014 5:58 PM

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Procreation
Nov 8, 2014 6:01 PM

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Not everyone experienced the same thing as you. Plus not all marriages end up like that. Some people think finding love and marrying the one you love is "the key to their happiness." Others just think falling in love is all fake and pointless. Everyone thinks differently about love.
Nov 8, 2014 6:02 PM

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L3XJam3s said:
You meet a boy/girl. You spend a lot of time together. You decide to get married. But then the mask comes off, and you see the true them, and after that, you barely see them, and before you know it, you're outside, watching her/him and her/his new lover, and you're sitting in the rain, looking like a fool, thinking, "Did she ever love me?"

What part of that is good?
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Nov 8, 2014 6:03 PM

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Money is more important here not love or marriage it is just the icing on the cake due to high cost of living here.
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You don't have to pay bill by yourself!
You gotta do what you gotta do.
Nov 8, 2014 7:27 PM

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I don't have any experience with marriage, but I'd personally want someone to be with, grow old with. Possibly have children with, though that part is still undecided.

You don't necessarily NEED to marry, but it's nice to not be alone.

Nov 8, 2014 7:30 PM

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Are you married?
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its not a good thing its all futile anyways
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