jkun said: that joke is like 5 years old and it is stupid and you should feel stupid for saying it and i dont like you anymore,dunno, ask james oh and yes i am very blunt |
Immahnoob said: Jizzy, I know you have no idea how to argue for shit, tokiyashiro said: Jizzy as you would call yourself because youre a dick The most butthurt award goes to you And clearly you havent watched that many shows thats why you cant determine if a show is unique or not Or maybe you're just a child who likes common stuffs where hero saves the day and guys gets all the girls. Sad taste you have there kid you came up to me in the first place making you look more like a kid who got slapped without me even knowing it and start crying about it to me |
| I'm too nice to be blunt really. Although if I'm angry I can be blunt. Dangerously blunt. I also find people among this community to be relativity blunt. |
| I'd rather have someone be blunt with me than be extremely vague. It becomes annoying when someone cannot answer a question with a straight answer. There is a line between being blunt and being rude. You just have to realize yourself when you think you should or shouldn't cross that line. |
"Cheer up, you’re never alone! There is probably at least 1 bug in your room." |
| yes. well, i am. they want my honest opinion, might as well give them what they want. if they can't handle the truth than they shouldn't have siad anything in the first place. |
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| I do not mince words. I do not play soft. I do not induce diabetes through words. Ever. |
| Being blunt doesn't mean saying everything you think. It simply means not wasting time on pointless information. "What are you up to?" "Oh not much, just sitting here listening to some music, thinking about stuff, trying to figure out what I'm going to do today. I have nothing to do really, it's so boring here. Why are you asking? Do you have something in mind? I'm game for whatever..." "What are you up to?" "Nothing, why?" Note the difference. It's easy to be blunt with people you know. Because they pick up on small things, and you can say more with less words. A conversation between my brother and me that would go like this normally. Me: "Hey, I'm thinking about cooking something in a bit, when do you want to eat?" Brother: "Uhm, I don't know, I'm not really hungry right now. But I guess sometime around 5 would be good." Instead goes. Me: "Food?" Brother: "Five." Me: "Ok." |
VinterSep 26, 2011 12:56 AM
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| I think you are confusing brevity with blunt. Brevity is getting the message out in less time and less words. Blunt is more like a comment that feels like a club to the ear. We use the term blunt to convey that feeling of being clobbered with the comment. Blunt is the opposite of inuendo. With inuendo, you have to look for the meaning, with blunt, there is no search for hidden anything. It's why the usual reply to 'were you talking to me?' or 'what did you say?' usually gets a follow up put down insinuating the target is fucking dense as well. |
| While not technically anime, currently I am a big fan of Hatsune Miku. At least I can go see her in concert. |
| It wasn't a great example, I can admit that. It was after all posted early in the morning, and I hadn't gotten any sleep. xD But being blunt is just being honest, without any regard for emotions. Or at least seemingly so. I know for instance that my sister would rather I tell her that she looks like a clown in an outfit, than let her walk outside in it and embarass herself in public. Being embarassed in front of friends or family is always preferable to strangers. Being honest is always a good choice. No one can ever hold it against you that you didn't lie. |
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| Being blunt can make the other person a better man/woman. Well in some cases anyway. I am blunt, this is because I don't like people that are cocky, believing in false modesty (if you get ehat I mean). |
mococomonoSep 26, 2011 11:40 AM
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Vinter said: Being honest is always a good choice. No one can ever hold it against you that you didn't lie. Now this just isn't true. It'd be more correct to say no one ever should hold it against you if you don't lie. If someone doesn't want to acknowledge that they're fat or something other (I've met people like this), then telling the truth will make them resent you, since it threatens their happy delusion. Anyway, I'm sure there are some circumstances where telling the truth is the wrong thing, I imagine there are a few concerning the questions of people who are just about to die. Telling the truth is best the way forward in most cases though. |
| It's great. I can't stand people who beat around the bush. |
| <!--link--><a href="http://myanimelist.net/animelist/angelfire892&sclick=1"> Being sane is over rated :) |
| As with most things, I think it depends on the situation. In some situations, bluntness can be good. In others, it's inappropriate and unnecessary. For example, if a woman asks if you like the new dress that she's wearing, and you think it looks hideous - for the sake of your relationship/friendship, it's probably best not to be blunt. While you don't have to lie, there's no need to be overly harsh. On the other hand, if you're in a situation where it is absolutely vital to make your thoughts and feelings very clear, bluntness can be useful. I think rather than always being one extreme or the other, it's more beneficial to be able to tell when to be blunt and when to "soften the blow." |
celestialocean said: For example, if a woman asks if you like the new dress that she's wearing, and you think it looks hideous - for the sake of your relationship/friendship, it's probably best not to be blunt. While you don't have to lie, there's no need to be overly harsh. I beg to differ. If someone told me the truth, no matter how much it hurt my ego, I would always, ALWAYS appreciate it. No matter how horrible the truth is. On the other hand, I wouldn't be able to forgive someone who let me make a fool of myself because they didn't tell the the truth, whether by admission or lie. If you can't handle the truth of things, you have no business even being alive. Seriously... How pathetic is not being able to handle something as basic as honesty? |
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| It depends on the person I guess, but probably not unless necessary. You just need to know how to put words in a way that doesn't hurt him/her. Especially if you're employed, you don't want to get on your boss' bad side. Vinter said: celestialocean said: For example, if a woman asks if you like the new dress that she's wearing, and you think it looks hideous - for the sake of your relationship/friendship, it's probably best not to be blunt. While you don't have to lie, there's no need to be overly harsh. I beg to differ. If someone told me the truth, no matter how much it hurt my ego, I would always, ALWAYS appreciate it. No matter how horrible the truth is. On the other hand, I wouldn't be able to forgive someone who let me make a fool of myself because they didn't tell the the truth, whether by admission or lie. If you can't handle the truth of things, you have no business even being alive. Seriously... How pathetic is not being able to handle something as basic as honesty? The world doesn't revolve around you, and it shouldn't. |
ZephysSep 26, 2011 10:51 PM
| I don't know if being blunt is always the best option, and it seems that people are confusing just being honest with being blunt. I think it is always important to be honest, but to also consider other people's feelings when doing so. Being blunt just for the sake of being honest can sometimes just be a tricky way for people to be rude and thoughtless. There are many ways to be honest with someone without being brutal, and it doesn't mean you are being any less truthful. When you are close friends or family and your more relaxed with someone, I think it is easier to be honest, but being blunt could still be hurtful to a close friend. I really disagree with the idea that if someone can't handle the truth, then it's their problem and they are weak. It's important to be conscious of what other people are feeling and realize that bluntness doesn't always work. Having any kind of relationship (friendship/family/love) with someone means that sometimes you need to realize when to hold your tongue to save their feelings. Expecting someone to just accept bluntness all the time may be your loss in the end. I think it can be a way of distancing people. That was a bit of a ramble! xP |
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Kuradachi said: It depends on the person I guess, but probably not unless necessary. You just need to know how to put words in a way that doesn't hurt him/her. Especially if you're employed, you don't want to get on your boss' bad side. Vinter said: celestialocean said: For example, if a woman asks if you like the new dress that she's wearing, and you think it looks hideous - for the sake of your relationship/friendship, it's probably best not to be blunt. While you don't have to lie, there's no need to be overly harsh. I beg to differ. If someone told me the truth, no matter how much it hurt my ego, I would always, ALWAYS appreciate it. No matter how horrible the truth is. On the other hand, I wouldn't be able to forgive someone who let me make a fool of myself because they didn't tell the the truth, whether by admission or lie. If you can't handle the truth of things, you have no business even being alive. Seriously... How pathetic is not being able to handle something as basic as honesty? The world doesn't revolve around you, and it shouldn't. My world does.  That wasn't even my point though. Not everyone shares the same belief that sparing someone's feelings is a good thing. Some of us believe withholding the truth from someone out of fear of hurting or upsetting them not only isn't good, it's down right selfish. |
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| In my opinion, yes. Even though I'm blunt myself. |
AnnoKano said: Vinter said: Some of us believe withholding the truth from someone out of fear of hurting or upsetting them not only isn't good, it's down right selfish. So taking someone else's feelings into account is a selfish act? Huh? Thats a moot point since it's not about the other person. It's about YOU not wanting to be the one who tells them. It's about YOU not wanting to be the object of any possible anger. The reason you hold back is not because you care about the other person, because were that the case, you'd save them more embarassment by just being honest in the first place. Because what's more upsetting? If your friend/family member/whatever tells you that you look stupid, or if your friend/family member/whatever knowingly lets you walk around in public, looking stupid? When it comes down to it, it's about covering your own ass. And that is selfish. |
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Vinter said: celestialocean said: For example, if a woman asks if you like the new dress that she's wearing, and you think it looks hideous - for the sake of your relationship/friendship, it's probably best not to be blunt. While you don't have to lie, there's no need to be overly harsh. I beg to differ. If someone told me the truth, no matter how much it hurt my ego, I would always, ALWAYS appreciate it. No matter how horrible the truth is. On the other hand, I wouldn't be able to forgive someone who let me make a fool of myself because they didn't tell the the truth, whether by admission or lie. If you can't handle the truth of things, you have no business even being alive. Seriously... How pathetic is not being able to handle something as basic as honesty? I believe you misunderstood my point. I never suggested that it is good to lie or to be dishonest. Bluntness really has less to do with honesty or the lack thereof, and more to do with how something is said. I think it's something you have to be careful with, because while bluntness can be effective, it can also be overly harsh and hurt feelings when there is no need to. In the situation that I described, I am always honest. I don't lie or necessarily even "sugar-coat" things. But there's being honest, and there's being rude - and sometimes being blunt is rude. I honestly think it's great that you appreciate honesty and that you can handle any amount of criticism that you receive. That's a good quality to have. Unfortunately, not everyone has it, and you don't always know how someone is going to react to what you have to say. As a friend, I try to avoid hurting feelings without avoiding the truth. There are also a number of situations in which being blunt could result in worse consequences than hurt feelings, so I think it's smart to know when to be blunt, when to be subtle, and when to just keep your mouth shut. You may disagree, and that's fine. I just wanted to clarify what I meant, because I did not mean that being dishonest with your friends is okay. |
| I'm usually "blunt" if I think it is in an area which can be improved upon, although that is more commonly called "constructive criticism." There isn't much point in being blunt if it's about something that the person has no control over. That just makes them self-conscious and aware of an inadequacy that they can do nothing about, and absolutely nothing positive comes out of it, even if it is the truth. It really doesn't take much; just think about the possible impact of your words before you say them. |
AgnostosSep 27, 2011 11:43 AM
| I shouldn't really be saying, since I'm never blunt, but thinking about it, it's better to be blunt and open than to hide your opinions and be 2-faced about everything. I should be blunter, but oh, well. |
AlexSadist-sama said: You have to consider the situation, the person and what you are about to say. bump on this answer. |
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