Why Are Boys Rude?

iamYuyaSakaki said:
Too much GTA, Fortnite, and Mortal Kombat

L_o_l_i said:
I was wondering who was talking to you in such a silly matter and noticed I put them on ignore. Thanks again for reaching out to me, don't waste anymore time on him.

koniGGG said:
It's hard to find a good guy this days. Most of them are rude and simply stupid. You'll need to look harder I suppose.

Omnimaniac said:

Another thing you have to understand that boys and girls will 99.9% of the cases never be able to be friends. If you have a friend that is a boy I can guarantee that if you let him have a chance with you he'd take it instantly if he felt he was ready for it. Men seek out partners by instinct and having girls as friends is merely scouting out a target subconsciously or consciously.

GwaziMagnum said:


Please don't self project >.>
Just cause you don't see women as people doesn't mean others don't either.

I feel I need to clean things up now. Excuse me.

lbngc said:

I don't know what you've been into, or what trauma you experienced, but I just can't overlook replying after reading this.

I don't think using most and vast majority of the boys is right. How did you conclude that? Majority of boys that I know aren't like what you explained. Some had very traumatic experiences, but they still live as very good people. No facade, no pretending. Just being themselves.

Saying that 99.9% of boys and girls can't be friends is definitely wrong as well. It's pretty normal for a girl to have a friend who's a boy, and vise versa. Not because you try to get closer to an opposite gender means you just want to get inside their pants. What happened to you to make you think this way?

I'm not trying to push you away from your ideals or thoughts, but this just hits so many wrong buttons to me that I don't want others to be thinking the same thing as well.

Omnimaniac said:
I don't know if you're a male or a female, but if you're a male you're lying to yourself. I recommend watching the videos and ask yourself the exact same questions.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T_lh5fR4DMA
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FYQmqxQgEBY

It's not a self projection at all and I do see women as people, but men and women simply cannot be just friends. If you truly think women and men can be friends I'd really like you to elaborate on why this would be possible despite the restriction due to the nature of men and women.

GwaziMagnum said:


It really isn't that complicated. You see an individual, you get along with said individual, you befriend said individual.

L_o_l_i said:
A handful of people seem to have gotten banned because the thread was 8 pages long and all of the sudden it's 5. :3

lbngc said:


Wait, what? It's like this thread became the Spanish inquisition. XD

L_o_l_i said:
In a nutshell yeah hihi! :3

Gan_water said:


Nobody got banned, at least I didn't. Lol.

They just deleted my white knighting ;)

L_o_l_i said:
Thank goodness you're fine teehee phew! :)

Gan_water said:

they will never get me ahahahaha! xD

Gan_water said:


Nobody got banned, at least I didn't. Lol.

They just deleted my white knighting ;)

lbngc said:


Hoooh. So you were one of the 3-page contributors. Well, good thing you didn't get banned.

With your community participation, I doubt you'd be though. Nobody reaches that amount of post without being logical. :thumbs up:

Gan_water said:


Yeah it's a little turnt up huh cupcake?

lbngc said:

That was meant to compliment, not as sarcasm. Why am I explaining tho. XD

KanaAoi said:
It's funny how "boys being rude" led to arguments about male-female relationships.

Boys are tsundere! That's why they seem mean towards the girls they like.

I also don't believe in true male-female friendship (considering that both are straight). It's not about "ulterior motives", it's just natural for one of them (or maybe both) to develop romantic feelings in time. But it depends on how deep that "friendship" is. People often rush to call someone friend just because they are acquainted. Don't expect to develop romantic feelings for someone you barely see or you just have casual conversations with. So there is no such thing as "best friend" between straight male and female. I'd call that "friendzoned" haha.

SpamuraiSensei said:
Maybe it's because you're a bitch.
Alpha males ain't got time for that.

L_o_l_i said:
Maybe you need more time to study what an alpha really does. I don't need to have someone who thinks they are greater than others cause that's just self centered ego, plus the use of unecessary cussing just makes me loose respect on a person's first impression. See you never Spamming person.

L_o_l_i said:
This thread is about personal experience and is not meant to every boy out there. Most of the boys that have talked to me pretend to be nice to me but later on just tell me that I should do things their way. I've always ended up ignoring those kinds of people because I don't feel like it's right for me to just follow along to anything they tell me to do. It feels like they want to control me. I feel like the real nice boys are the ones that let me be me. I hope I'm not the only one that has had this issue.

Haittakari said:
The fact that you refer to them as boys suggests that you are young and the boys you're talking about are also young, high schoolers at the most. Guess what, young people are assholes, more so than adults, as they've yet to learn social grace, or just become jaded to actually try communicating with anyone. Also teens especially have a tendency for over confidence, they believe that they know how things are and should be without realizing just how little they in fact know, as they (and you) grow up they'll (and you) realize that they and everyone else is a god damn moron, and nobody knows what the hell is going on, we all just try our best in our limited understanding.

But on a more general point.

If I'm doing something in a difficult way, and a friend of mine knows of an easier way in which to do it, I'd appreciate them telling me. It'll save me time and/or money and/or energy, if I find a more efficient way of doing the thing. If there is some underlying reason for why I want to do it the way I'm doing it, I'll just tell my friend that reason, to assure them that there is no need for assistance. (If the reason is too personal to share with that specific person try saying "I know, but I like this way better". If you think that they are simply wrong, explain their error.) Offering one's aid is what a good friend does.

If this is about men calling each other names, that is a form of male bonding. If I call you a dickweed and you don't get mad or hurt by it, I know all is well, if you get upset, something is wrong. It could be that I hit some sore spot, or it could be that we don't actually have a good level of trust between us. Either way, it can't emended if I don't know there's an issue. Maybe you didn't know there was an issue either, and now they do so you/we can tackle it. Also it's fun to call people (well, it just occurred to me that I don't know what words we're allowed to use on MAL).

It's been brought up before, but men tend to be more blunt than women. This can come off as rude. Personally I prefer it, I can't fucking focus, if you meander too long beating around the bush I won't hear what your point was. Some people don't like it though. There are however blunt women, and "courteous" men, so don't give up hope I guess, you just need to find people that have a similar style of interaction as you do. Those will be your people, we all have to go through the struggle of finding them, it isn't a big deal.

epyon4light said:
IMO

most people are rude regardless on sex.