| I don't know if it's just me, but I find it so hard to make friends, irl or over cyberspace. Whenever I'm with co-workers or talking online in games, I always feel like that outcast that nobody really cares for. I mean, I try to make friends, but I feel as if I'm just terrible at it or that I'm annoying as hell. Even if I'm just browsing Twitter or something, it seems like everyone has their own little group and I'm just kind of like, "Alright then.." I don't know if I'm just not a cool person to be friends with. Does anyone else feel like it's hard to make friends nowadays or am I really just like, a loner. And I'm not trying to have a pity party for myself, I just am tired of being alone all the time. |
FASTER!!!!!!! |
| I usually have trouble starting a conversation, and keeping it. So, basically, yeah. I have difficulty meeting new people. |
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| Fitting in is the hardest part. Once you get over that obstacle, it all comes naturally. My best advice for you is to stay natural and don't be afraid to say something. If you keep quiet 24/7, of course no one is going to notice you. |
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| iktf man. |
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Ravioli_Ravioli said: Feels.pngiktf man. Try to use your hobbies/interests as a way to interact with people. |
cause said: I'll be your friend |
| I was going to offer myself as a cyber-friend but your taste in anime makes me flaccid. |
| aw darling :/ I think everyone feels like that at some point. I don't know what else to say but I'm sure you'll find a group of people that won't make you feel like an outcast. If you ever want someone to talk to message me :) wow this is the nicest thing i've ever posted on mal i feel so conflicted |
| OP you might curse me for it but having friends is even harder. |
| Same, op. I always feel like the fifth wheel, even when I'm with my "friends" who suddenly start talking among themselves and I'm left standing there by myself like "...okay then." My interests rarely match with anyone I know irl anyway so at this point, I'm not even surprised when it happens. It's easier to connect to people "of your own kind" online, I think. Common interests and such help a lot to start talking to people. |
| 死ねカス国に帰れ |
| Join clubs or summat. |
| Thanks for the friends offers guys lol, add me if you want...I graduated high school a couple years back and I guess what makes me really not to fond of friends is that I lost all mine from high school. Nobody talked to me after school ended so it really made me feel like friendships aren't really that serious. The only meaningful relationships I ever develop are with my other half. I guess it just makes me feel like friendships are hopeless. |
| FASTER!!!!!!! |
| welcome to the club |
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| Fuck friends. I just decided yesterday to stop talking to all of the friends I have. No point in hanging around people who only lead you down the wrong path. Honestly your better off alone. |
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Izumii said: #3edgy5meFuck friends. I just decided yesterday to stop talking to all of the friends I have. No point in hanging around people who only lead you down the wrong path. Honestly your better off alone. |
| In all honesty, friends are just a figment of your imagination. So in having said that, maybe your not missing out?! Lol For real though, your not alone. I typically blow at talking to new people. Especially initiating conversations. |
Brandon0493Nov 29, 2015 2:13 AM
| I'm bad at talking to people in general. I have to basically rely on being like a generous & funny person to just be tolerable. I'm "that girl with mad RBF syndrome but is actually pretty nice & funny" or w/e. And when anxiety takes over its even harder. |
| well its not just you thats for sure, its a silent epidemic brought by modern society Studies have consistently shown that one in 10 of us is lonely, but a report by the Mental Health Foundation suggests loneliness among young people is increasing "We have data that suggests people's social networks have got smaller and families are not providing the same level of social context they may have done 50 years ago. "It's not because they are bad or uncaring families, but it's to do with geographical distance, marriage breakdown, multiple caring responsibilities and longer working hours," he says. http://www.bbc.com/news/magazine-22012957 http://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2014/jul/20/loneliness-britains-silent-plague-hurts-young-people-most |
| I think the hardest part for me when it comes to making friends online is having it last for more than a day. Like, Yeah it's cool to play a game with someone and add them to play in the future, but realistically it doesn't last. Either person would just have another group of friends or it wouldn just end up being a 1 day thing and that person would just end up being another name on your friends list. |
| FASTER!!!!!!! |
| make friends is easy. the hardest thing is to find someone who click to each others. |
INTP (Ne) A hound, begging for scraps at the emperor's table |
Hello3245 said: That's why you have to always be outgoing and meet as many people as you can. Eventually you will run into a friend you will have for a lifetime. They are rare, but the more outgoing you are, the more common they become. ^This is true. You should try to be more outgoing; people can't like you if they don't know enough about you to like. It's hard to make friends if you don't talk, but don't talk just because. Try actually to hold a conversation on a topic you're actually interested in, and don't hold things back (unless it's some really weird fetish) because think they judge you; humans are social animals and overlook weird things pretty easily. Bernkastel said: Do you genuinely enjoy their company? If yes, why wouldn't you do the same thing tomorrow? ^This too. If you like hanging out with them, then do it, and of course, this is much easier if you hold the same interests. |
| Be thankful for the wisdom granted to you. |
| for one, i find it tough to believe you have zero friends including the internet, ffs two people just offered to befriend you ITT two, if having more than a couple friends was really such a big deal for you, then you'd probably have some people who are social, or i guess, that crave social interaction literally crave it. you don't sound like that kind of person and those aren't the kinds of people to envy imo certainly having friends to call and chill with whenever does have its benefits but i think not needing that in your life, at least all the time frees up some focus for you to pursue things that (judging by your post OP) you hold more value for |
| Here's a story of how I became the best man at a wedding for a guy I met over a video game. Play video game. Get good at video game. Begin contributing to forums. Naturally become friends with other good players on the forum and in game because I am not an anti social cuck. Create private chat group with these gaming friends. Problems arise in forum. Notice a specific person is a profoundly respectable and upstanding guy. Treat him the same. Begin speaking to him at a personal level. Eventually meet up after more than a year of knowing each other. Start hanging out all the time and helping.each other when needed. Damn look how easy that was. It all stemmed from a video game neither of us even play anymore. |
ExplicitlyHuman said: And now you can take the time to realize it's not that easy for everyone, if it was then everybody would have friends.Here's a story of how I became the best man at a wedding for a guy I met over a video game. Play video game. Get good at video game. Begin contributing to forums. Naturally become friends with other good players on the forum and in game because I am not an anti social cuck. Create private chat group with these gaming friends. Problems arise in forum. Notice a specific person is a profoundly respectable and upstanding guy. Treat him the same. Begin speaking to him at a personal level. Eventually meet up after more than a year of knowing each other. Start hanging out all the time and helping.each other when needed. Damn look how easy that was. It all stemmed from a video game neither of us even play anymore. |
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| It's even harder to get senpai to notice you... |
| If it's any consolation, I find that making enemies is very easy. Any enemy is kind of a friend inverted. |
| Dunno why but when I socialize I always end up with the weirdos One time I socialized I ended to be with friends with an edgy suicidal muslim (not joking here, he really is suicidal. He hates everything in the world too) also, I got a friend who was a mischief. He always harass anyone and is good at theft |
| Twitter and it's consequences had been a disaster for the human race |
| I feel like the only one on the forums who doesn't have a hard time making friends in real life... |
CookiesNov 29, 2015 5:03 AM
 hiSets Last FM Anime List Manga List Clue no. 2: Somewhere in one of the pictures in my forum signature. |
| Making friends hard... |
| If you wanna make friends, sacrifice their soul to satan and they'll all be yours. |
| Thats how I feel everyday, no point in trying to enter pre-made groups....better to make your own..... |
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| Just have to talk about what they are talking about can't be too picky. Having a really good friend with a lot in common is kinda hard though. Like I'm sure If you liked something someone posted on this thread you made and talked to them you'd find a friend out of all these posters. |
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Xoaz said: Making friends is hard.. DONE. sent you a friend request. PM me with a list of your UP TO DATE problems and we can discuss them on IRC in full detail and then you can stick around and have fun with the regulars, most of them are gamers and yes they like anime too ... duhhh :"P Here's the link IRC 1) type a name/any name. 2) type #myanimelist. 3) join the channel. good luck OP~~ |
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Bambi said: Making friends hard... that is ... also hard actually :/ |
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| I think the reason it's so hard to make friends is partially because of people like me. I'm just too lazy to maintain a conversation at times or too lazy to even be social. :v It still surprises me I have friends really. |
 BecauseAllYourThoughtsAreWicked | Sailor Mars |
| Just make a few best friends. Having a large circle of acquaintances but no actual friends can be quite stressfull. |
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| It's only hard when you over complicate it. Just have fun. |
Grudge said: LemonCup said: welcome to the club |
YW said: I usually have trouble starting a conversation, and keeping it. So, basically, yeah. I have difficulty meeting new people. Basically me. I feel super comfortable around my long time friends, but when it comes to strangers, I overthink things and act really reserved. |
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