Eylandos said: In the olden days stuff like this wouldn't be questioned but today everyone is a special snowflake who wants to deviate from the norm. That's just in our society. Native Americans did not have 'surnames.' The U.S. government forced them upon the Indians. It's another example of how tribal society still stands as an unbeatable model for ideal human interaction in many ways... in a tribe, without this complication, strength would be actually a much more important factor in a man winning the heart of a woman. So, yeah. Think about that, maaannnn ^_^ |
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| If they don't care then why are they refusing to do it? Women sound so silly with this hyphen bs. Wanting to keep their maiden names. It's not your last name. It's your dad's last name. So either way you're using some man's last name. Yet they have to be adamant about something they supposedly don't think is a big deal. |
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| I really don't see why there has to be a hyphenated name, maiden names exist for a reason. The only way I could see a hyphenated name work if it's in the case of nobility or something like that and the wife has no brothers. Other than that, no need. |
WordIsBond said: You don't need a prenup if you dont combine assets. See my reply here. Also things can be decided without the court intervention if they mutually agree on something. Prenups are "disrespectful". You deserve a standing ovation for this post. White Knights going to be on the attack now. Eylandos said: People are naive and think it doesn't matter. It's designed to undermine the male headship in the family. Nowadays you got kids with hyphenated last names. Who the " headship" belongs to if anyone at all is up to the couple involved and no one else. It could be the guy, it could be the girl, it could be both. It's not really your business how others have their relationship in this regard if it is what they want. |
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xrockxz89 said: Eylandos said: In the olden days stuff like this wouldn't be questioned but today everyone is a special snowflake who wants to deviate from the norm. That's just in our society. Native Americans did not have 'surnames.' The U.S. government forced them upon the Indians. It's another example of how tribal society still stands as an unbeatable model for ideal human interaction in many ways... in a tribe, without this complication, strength would be actually a much more important factor in a man winning the heart of a woman. So, yeah. Think about that, maaannnn ^_^ Conjecture and nothing more but I do appreciate your spin on the subject. |
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| I'm not giving up my last name and she can keep her last name if she wants, but the kids get my family name. |
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WordIsBond said: Comic_Sans said: ^ What does "not thinking that wanting to keep your maiden name instead of switching to your husband's name is a huge deal" have to do with white knights and political correctness? You're basically doing what the SJWs are doing and using the oppressor card although it's of complete irrelevancy, except that in your case it's the "ur just an SJW" card instead of the "ur just racist/sexist" card If you don't care then that's fine. I don't particularly care about a surname either, but everything he posted about marriage being one-sided is fact.. HAHA, YOU TOOK ALL MY PROPERTY BUT YOUR LIFE IS FOREVER TAINTED BY MY SURNAME. MWAAHAHAA, FEEBLE FEMALES. |
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Eylandos said: xrockxz89 said: That's just in our society. Native Americans did not have 'surnames.' The U.S. government forced them upon the Indians. It's another example of how tribal society still stands as an unbeatable model for ideal human interaction in many ways... in a tribe, without this complication, strength would be actually a much more important factor in a man winning the heart of a woman. So, yeah. Think about that, maaannnn ^_^ Conjecture and nothing more but I do appreciate your spin on the subject. It's a fact that native americans didn't have surnames, and the implications of that are pretty vast. Any sense of dominance by the man over the woman would be that much more merit and strength based, rather than reliant on an ingrained cultural tradition (and I think we can agree that adoption of the surname by the woman does indeed imply some degree of submissiveness to the man on that social level). See what I'm saying? Like, actual strength would matter more, rather than what is basically social tradition, deeply ingrained or otherwise. And btw theres no reason we couldn't live in a modern proto-tribal society, the urban environment could become like that one day actually... |
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| I don't care enough to keep my last name and I don't care enough to change it, so I mise well just go with tradition... unless the guy had a last name like Dick or something. |
| I quite literally could not care less. I do mean this. However seeing as how (as of right now at least) I have absolutely no intention of getting married, I can also say that this doesn't matter to me one bit. |
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Eylandos said: If they don't care then why are they refusing to do it? Women sound so silly with this hyphen bs. Wanting to keep their maiden names. It's not your last name. It's your dad's last name. So either way you're using some man's last name. Yet they have to be adamant about something they supposedly don't think is a big deal. If it weren't a big deal as you're implying the guy shouldn't have any issue attaching a hyphen to his name. It's not her name, it's her dad/mom's/dad's/mom's/dad's/mom's/dad's name that same could apply here as well. What people fail to understand with these topics is they're often one sided and rely heavily to times when it went on unopposed because that's how it was. In this case where women were considered semi-liquid assets, back when they should stay at home raise kids...that's it. Your very existence revolved around a man's dick and what would come from interacting with it. That's bullshit. |
| If you love your name more than you love your partner, maybe you shouldn't get married. |
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| yeah, honestly, I'd view a man like that weak and find someone else. Fuck spreading weak willed genes to my kids, I want my offspring to be better, not pushovers. |
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QWERTYFish25 said: Actually that sounds like a fantasy of mine, lel.Your very existence revolved around a man's dick and what would come from interacting with it. That's bullshit. |
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Yumadu-nii said: So 12 inch dick, 6ft tall, no glasses, or heart problems?yeah, honestly, I'd view a man like that weak and find someone else. Fuck spreading weak willed genes to my kids, I want my offspring to be better, not pushovers. Yumadu-nii said: QWERTYFish25 said: Actually that sounds like a fantasy of mine, lel.Your very existence revolved around a man's dick and what would come from interacting with it. That's bullshit. *Activates gravitational pull around penis* |
QWERTYFish25 said: Hell no, anything longer than 7 inches would be painful as hell, I'm not built like a porn star :[ 6 ft, no glasses and no heart problems sound great though.Yumadu-nii said: So 12 inch dick, 6ft tall, no glasses, or heart problems?yeah, honestly, I'd view a man like that weak and find someone else. Fuck spreading weak willed genes to my kids, I want my offspring to be better, not pushovers. Yumadu-nii said: Actually that sounds like a fantasy of mine, lel. *Activates gravitational pull around penis* Thanks for letting me experience my fantasy finally btw |
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| Who cares? It's just a name. I'd let her keep her own last name if that's what she wanted. My uncle's wife decided to keep her own last name, and I don't see anything wrong with it. |
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| There are a lot worse things to worry about when you get married than if your wife is gonna take your last name. |
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| Really hope you're joking and you're not actually really irritated by something as petty as last names... It's not a huge deal. And what are the guidelines for same sex relationships then? Which man (or woman) is the "real (wo)man" that keeps their last name instead of taking on their spouse's? To answer the question though, I'm probably more likely to get a wife than a husband, and I'd like to keep my surname since it's uncommon and I've grown rather fond of it. If she wants to take my surname, hyphenate it, or keep her's it wouldn't bother me too much. The only issue that I could see coming up is that our last name would be probably insanely long if she chose to hyphenate it. Whatever makes her--us happiest and feels the most right is best, no? |
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| I think it’s weirder to want to legally bind someone to you and declare your undying love in front of tons of people. Does that sound creepy to anyone else? anyone? no? ok Some cultures use the hyphen and keep both their last names. Personally I don’t like it for aesthetic reasons but to each their own. |
| I don't see myself getting married , but if I had to, I wouldn't change my last name. I've grown up with it, my signature is based around it and all my legal documents have that name on them, and I'm a little bit fond of the way my name sounds. It's a nice, strong name. Yes, it's my father's name and not my mother's but that doesn't make a difference. It's my name as well now. Calling it just my dad's name would be the same that the house I live in isn't my house. That anything my parents bought for isn't mine. And I don't agree to that. Most people in my family who've gotten married recently haven't bothered to change their last names. The kids take on their father's last name for convenience , and that's it. Calling it 'weak' and calling people who don't force their names onto their wives 'pussies' only shows how misogynistic people on this site are. |
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| People can do whatever they want in this regard. I really don't care. Eylandos said: If they don't care then why are they refusing to do it? Women sound so silly with this hyphen bs. Wanting to keep their maiden names. It's not your last name. It's your dad's last name. So either way you're using some man's last name. Yet they have to be adamant about something they supposedly don't think is a big deal. I have my mom's last name though... |
PoeticJustice said: nigga i am black, do you think my ass would fit in? "Oh look it is negro kun." Hell no. |
| lol most Americans have just a little bit of trouble pronouncing my last name and I'm most likely to marry someone who isn't my race so I'd be more than glad if she keeps her name. Besides, women are supposed to work, earn their own money, buy their own stuff and live with men not live off men.. OP & Spooks are going backwards a bit.. |
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