InfiniteRufus said: It's not negative words, it's negative opinions. Also, unless you have to resort to saying "it's not good", "the plot is not great", "the characters were not developed very well" etc. then it's hard to express a negative opinion without negative words, and even then you cannot express if you truly hate something and think it's terrible. I think I said it earlier, negative words is not a problem either. Problem is when you use strong, rough or emotional negative words. My point is that since we all agree that negative words affect people's feeling more, it is only natural that more attention would be placed on the wording used in negative posts, and so why it would help everyone and the forum more if some consideration is put into the wording when the post is written.
InfiniteRufus said: Often someone will detest the show, and to express that they use language that properly conveys that, and there should be no problem with that. You cannot express that sort of loathing without using negative words, unless you said something stupid like "this is the least best thing I've seen" or "I'd rather pass away than watch episode 2", the former sounds stupid and the second is more offensive, and restricts the person from actually explaining why. As soon as you said "loathing" you are talking about being emotional. Just like you do not want people to express emotionally positive words like "best ever" "masterpiece" "top of the top" for shows they love, the same thinking should apply to negative posts, and don't forget it is so much easier to find rough and strongly emotional negative words than its equivalent in positive words - the former has a long list of abusive and insulting language to pick from for example.
InfiniteRufus said: I do not actually tell people to get over my posts, but if someone is genuinely offended simply because of the bad language, then simply put I couldn't give a fuck. What is the difference here? Except whether you say it explicitly? Besides, I was talking about your attitude and (the lack of) concern for others when you wrote the post, not whether you actually tell people what you think. The moment you write a post in insulting language is already indicative of your "not give a fuck" mentality.
InfiniteRufus said: Unless a post is a stream of swear words (which I've yet to see here) it should be alright for people to use coarse language. Even though I don't agree with someone who decides to say "This was shit because the plot was crap and the characters were dickheads... etc. " I fully support their right to do so. That sort of post should be easily ignored, in fact I think it is entirely the fault of those who don't have a "high tolerance or desensitization level for that". Having "shit" "crap" "dickhead" is not a stream? It only seems that your tolerance is high for swear languages. At the end, while I see there is no black-and-white line to draw how far our tolerance should lie (you clearly have a line too as you said "unless a post is a stream of swear words..."), the point is that at the end in a public forum each of the participant's tolerance level will be set against each other. The further you go to push towards a higher level of roughness and coarseness, the more likely there are people who feel the line has been crossed, and the mood of the forum at the end depends on the collective view of all the participants. So if you are in a forum where everyone always speaks with swearing words you can use a lot of such words and still nobody cares. For a much broader forum which contains people from many places, we can see a lot more people without a similar tolerance and desensitization level, and you cannot blame them for being discomfited by the use of rough language. To view that they have to bear all the fault only means that the person who writes those language refuses to spare thoughts about the fact that the forum is not a personal sounding board but a place where a large variety of people gather and the possibility that they can have a different view about how much rough language is too much.
InfiniteRufus said: If they can ignore a "this is good" post then they should be able to ignore a "this is bad" post. Of course if it is just "this is good" post versus "this is bad" post " then of course both are easy to ignore. But the issue is different when we talk about rough language since we know negative words draw stronger feeling and it is much easier to throw rough and coarse negative words around.
InfiniteRufus said: Still, what you say is correct, if people did word their responses better then there would be a higher chance that they could discuss without argument, however I still think people would take issue to negative posts simply because the opinions expressed do not suit them. I would say that whether a person agrees with the opinion only changes his tolerance level so if you agree with the positive/negative opinion, you are more likely to tolerate its language, but there is also the reality that in general people do not react favorably to insult and abusive language in general. |