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Nov 10, 10:09 PM
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Like they aren't in a relationship but they have a kid.

Or do you think it's cucked to raise another's offspring?
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Nov 10, 10:14 PM
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Yeah, I don't think it would be a big problem.



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Nov 10, 10:34 PM
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Sure, why not? I've seen videos of kids presenting their stepdad with adoption papers etc etc, even wanting the mans last name. I think that's kind of nice.
That would be if I'd raise them in a good way. xD
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If she has a daughter then for sure, gotta wait some years and the oyakodon will be delicious.

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Nov 11, 1:42 AM
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If they are looking to take care of another kid, me, then I'm interested
Nov 11, 1:53 AM
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It depends on how bratty the kid is, I guess.
Nov 11, 2:20 AM
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Absolutely no, never. I don't like giving people false expectations, especially kids.

It's not about "cucking", it's about integrity.
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Nov 11, 6:11 AM
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I'm not really good with kids so maybe not.

vasipi4946 said:
do you think it's cucked to raise another's offspring?
no
Nov 11, 6:19 AM
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Anyone who wants to start a relationship with someone with a ready-made family like the person's significant others - kids and ex-spouse, in-laws, etc - should consider properly. A lot of conflict may begin in long term.

I personally is fine with it. But sometimes kids may not acknowledge you as their new parent.
Nov 11, 7:01 AM

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I think it would depend on the person, the kid and the situation concerning the kid's other parent, any complications or still lingering romance I absolutely wouldn't want, I've plenty of complications already.
I think it's something I wouldn't do eagerly, but perhaps for the right person I would.
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I rather continue being a virgin for life than help raise someone elses kid. Chad leaving or getting divorced is a huge red flag. Even if the husband died, no way I would ever pay for some other kid willingly.

It is uber cucked for a man to pay for kids that are not his own.
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I rather continue being a virgin for life than help raise someone elses kid. Chad leaving or getting divorced is a huge red flag. Even if the husband died, no way I would ever pay for some other kid willingly.

It is uber cucked for a man to pay for kids that are not his own.
@rohan121

Do you think every or even the majority of divorces are initiated by men? Also sometimes the father dies?



OT: It would be in spite of that status, but it can happen. Kamala Harris's stepdaughter was 15 when she married his husband. 15 is probably old enough that you don't have the expectation the person coming into your family will literally be your father/mother.
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Of course, I will make them all mine.

Nov 11, 7:50 AM

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Of course. If I had a son, then we'd both get dates!
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Nov 11, 9:36 AM

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vasipi4946 said:
Like they aren't in a relationship but they have a kid.

Or do you think it's cucked to raise another's offspring?

No it's not cucked to raise a step-kid, and people who think that way probs aren't fit to raise biological kids either
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Anyone who wants to start a relationship with someone with a ready-made family like the person's significant others - kids and ex-spouse, in-laws, etc - should consider properly. A lot of conflict may begin in long term.

I personally is fine with it. But sometimes kids may not acknowledge you as their new parent.
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I personally is fine with it. But sometimes kids may not acknowledge you as their new parent

Yes that is true

But as a parent (regardless of if they're biological or step-kids), one should not be looking for acknowledgement from the kids, but they should be there for the kids uncondotionally
Nov 11, 10:40 AM
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nothing more pathetic and self deprecating for man than to raise another man little bastard
Nov 11, 10:50 AM
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It's an added complication, an added responsibility, not only do you have to make the relationship work with your partner but also with his or her children and then there's probably also that the father or mother of this kid or kids who still gravitates around the life of your partner and his or her children and it's a complication to the complication.
Nov 11, 12:56 PM
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Not even using the slang right, Beta not cuck if they're with the person they're not a cuck.

Yes and No. If they still are in contact with the child other parent absolutely not.

@Auron_ Incel / Red Pill community kids father dying is acceptable situation. Logic double edged sword.
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At the moment it is not something I would like, but over time that might change.
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Not even using the slang right, Beta not cuck if they're with the person they're not a cuck.

Yes and No. If they still are in contact with the child other parent absolutely not.

@Auron_ Incel / Red Pill community kids father dying is acceptable situation. Logic double edged sword.
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If they still are in contact with them child other parent absolutely not

So if you fall in love with someone who has a kid, and that kid's mom/dad is still alive, you don't want the kid to have a healthy relationship with their biological mom/dad?
Nov 11, 1:42 PM
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Amityblight said:
If they still are in contact with them child other parent absolutely not

So if you fall in love with someone who has a kid, and that kid's mom/dad is still alive, you don't want the kid to have a healthy relationship with their biological mom/dad?
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ProGoddess said:
I personally is fine with it. But sometimes kids may not acknowledge you as their new parent

Yes that is true

But as a parent (regardless of if they're biological or step-kids), one should not be looking for acknowledgement from the kids, but they should be there for the kids uncondotionally
@DigiCat

I do agree with you.

For children who are unable to accept their new parent, it does take a lot more effort to "win" over their trust. Hence it is very important that the kids' parent spend some time communicating with his/her kids before even introducing them the new boyfriend/girlfriend. Then gradually through gatherings and spending time together - with much love and care - that through these efforts that the children may get to accept the new relationship their parent is engaging in. It would make the new marriage and family more cordial, harmonious and happier.
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Nov 12, 3:02 AM
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It depends on the person i would be dating and how well i would get along with the kid in that case. If the kids hates you, it's over.
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what the person above me said. if the offspring doesn't think you're a spring, you're off.
Nov 13, 10:54 AM

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I cannot and will not categorically rule it out, but it's not an attractive thought because:

a) it misses the "it's the child that comes from both of us" feeling, so the part of every partner in a genetic sense (regardless of looks or behavior)

b) there will always be the tragic wound that someone else was either forcefully evicted of the father's role or left on his own term

c) the child would have to accept a new father figure and me as his father figure for it to work
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If she has a daughter then for sure, gotta wait some years and the oyakodon will be delicious.

@Zarutaku You're a bad person, and so am I for laughing uncontrollably at your post 😂

On-topic: Don't see why not, most women my age have a kid anyway... Kids are fun, plus I can kick their asses at videogames or wrestling >:3
But I'm out if the mother refuses to let me take part in their education, I'm not dealing with a useless brat teen down the line.
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If she has a daughter then for sure, gotta wait some years and the oyakodon will be delicious.

Have you watched Oyakodon? It's a hentai and it's great.
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Have you watched Oyakodon? It's a hentai and it's great.
@BigBoyAdvance This one? https://myanimelist.net/anime/15409/Oyakodon__Oppai_Tokumori_Bonyuu_Tsuyudaku_de

Watched it some time ago, it's ok but the boobs are kinda oversized.
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If I didn't have to deal with drama from the previous relationship, then yes.
Otherwise, nope.
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Married woman maybe, but single moms absolutely not.
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Nov 14, 4:53 AM
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Well the cuckoo bird kind of leaves their eggs to be raised by someone else

So yes, that would, quite literally, be cucking

Although of course I understand that the kid did not ask to be born, so in that situation I would not be mean but I would not be his friend either
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I have no problem finding a lover who has a child. I babysat my sister and kids who are crouchfruits of my father's co-workers, so I ain't a stranger to kids.

Just that I don't want to be involved in a family drama surrounding the said kid.
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I'd be more comfortable if the kid was a teenager. Then I will just pretend they do not exist. Maybe be friends or friendly, but not much more than that.
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I have a son so the question does not apply (?).

But I still separate things. My current girlfriend, who we have been together for about 4 years, has not met my son in person yet.
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Depends on the circumstances. If we get along nicely, why not.

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I would have loved to, especially babies and toddlers because they could grow up with you.
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I would say a concrete no, if the other parent was still present in that childs life, or there was potential they (or unhinged family members) might be in the future.

If they were also a risky unknown (such as someone in debt) I'd also say no because it really might come back in a bad way. Also a no if there was any sort of religious undercurrent to that relationship. Really the child is not the issue at all, it's the unknown of that other parent (and their family) and what kind of turmoil they could cause.

The friends I've had growing up in this situation always seemed to have some terrible tension/conflict in their families due to it, so I feel like it would be better to avoid it.

If the other parent was totally out of the picture with no potential of re-appearing, it would be down to the individual circumstances really. I don't have any issues with it in principle (child from another parent), but I have a lot of issues with the potential of that other parent. I suppose there's also the circumstances as to why they are separated, and whether there is potential for repair there. Having a child together is a very big thing. I think it's difficult to come between unless there is a very strong disconnection.
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I'm sorry, but no, it's my definitive red flag
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Ideally not but not a dealbreaker since if I love someone I dont really have a choice in loving them. I just dont like the possibility it isn't even me being loved but just being used to help raise her kid out of desperation and I dont like how kids could interfere with intimacy. I'm not opposed to kids in general just certain relationship dynamics.
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if i can yes why not there is my simple answer
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it would depend on the person, i think it instantly makes the nature of the relationship more serious (assuming they arent the type that frequently goes through partners despite being a single parent). but if someone meant enough to me then naturally i would support them anyway i could. definitely would make for a complicated relationship at the beginning though
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Are they* hot and or rich? If so, then I'd consider it!

*"they" as in the parent. Who cares about the little cretin?
Nov 20, 6:08 PM

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I'm not interested in dating at all right now, so the answer is no.
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To be honest such relationships are complicated, depended on the case and the people.
If the children are fine, the relationship is not toxic and you have same goals with your partner, it can happen yeap...

In my case I actually had flirt time with a man whom I met quite often recently and he actually told me that he was single/divorced and has a daughter few years younger than me.(not a child)
Well he was straight forward about his feelings and his intention to have relationship, but it didn't happen. He doen't intent to have other children and this is a big no for me actually. Other than that he really was caring and had good feelings!

In conclusion, if there are no problems with the other parent and their children and you have same goals and good chemistry, well go for it!
If not, i would not risk this kind of relationship... be aware of traps! lol

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a lot depends. how old are the kids? do the kids even like me? how involved is the bio father in their lives? what was the reason for her split from the bio dad? how do the kids feel about the divorce?

my answer isn't inherently a no, i don't think i would shy away from being whatever father figure the kids need me to be, but it's still a very slippery slope with many variables in play so it's hard to be optimistic

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