What is the most important element in friendship/love?
| If you're fap buddies, takes a lot of balls to do that. Other than that, loyalty and trust I guess, they should respect you too. |
| You're all idiots, but I'm no different. |
| Humour of course. |
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| Loyalty. Interests are nice too. |
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| Interests and Respect...Forgiveness too |
Nidstang said: Humour of course. +1 |
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Maor said: Nidstang said: Humour of course. +1 +1 |
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| I honestly think that it is personality is the most attractive thing in anyone. Sure, looks paired with personality is even more amazing, but there's just a certain charm I see while spending time with someone who is passionate about something. When they are able to share the zeal, the love of life, learning, adventure, and enthusiam for new experiences. Being with a cute girl like that is such a turn-on... Who wouldn't like that? People who are down-to-Earth, has a love for music, media, arts, socialization, spirituality, cooking, food, etc. and enjoys those things not because it is "the cool thing to do", but is genuinely passionate about it and is a reflection on the person and defines them as a unique, yet fitting in with society's norm. You can usually sense a person's genuine interest in something, as well as a phony or "try-hard" if you want to call it. Keeping this in mind, I believe that this is a major thing to consider when meeting new people. |
Star_BoyJul 3, 2013 5:00 PM
| It's definitely trust, though respect is pretty important as well. |
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| regarding this topic, we can say that at our cores, we are defined by our values. I think that everything here can ultimately be considered manifestations of our values...so i will go with values. |
| Genes.. Having Good genes generally results in good looks. Making you younger, More susceptible to fitness in general, having glowing, radiant skin, luscious hair, etc. Having Good genes could result in good brain development. Throughout life, the way your thoughts influence your actions, this has an influence towards personality and values. |
Danielcookie said: Genes.. Having Good genes generally results in good looks. Making you younger, More susceptible to fitness in general, having glowing, radiant skin, luscious hair, etc. Having Good genes could result in good brain development. Throughout life, the way your thoughts influence your actions, this has an influence towards personality and values. Do people with 'bad genes' have poor relationships with their friends and significant others? |
Danielcookie said: Genes.. Having Good genes generally results in good looks. Making you younger, More susceptible to fitness in general, having glowing, radiant skin, luscious hair, etc. Having Good genes could result in good brain development. Throughout life, the way your thoughts influence your actions, this has an influence towards personality and values. i was gonna say something like this, but that makes too much sense |
| If we can get through the OP of a K-ON episode together. That''s friendship. |
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pauro19 said: Finally something that relates what is happening to me right now .. Seriously guys, I've had experienced of what do love really is ... I've been into a very strong love with each other (happening right now).. My answer to the thread? Nothing, as you wont deal with any shit if you really love the person.. It's like, why do you love her? I don't know, but I just do.. Love has a reason which reason itself you can never understand - proven and tested... Love is - - Knowing a persons flaws, and accepting them - Prioritizing them over most everything else Sadly, no one for me has met these 2 criteria, so I can't say I've been in love myself, just silly crushes and the like. |
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Dark_Chaos said: pauro19 said: Finally something that relates what is happening to me right now .. Seriously guys, I've had experienced of what do love really is ... I've been into a very strong love with each other (happening right now).. My answer to the thread? Nothing, as you wont deal with any shit if you really love the person.. It's like, why do you love her? I don't know, but I just do.. Love has a reason which reason itself you can never understand - proven and tested... Love is - - Knowing a persons flaws, and accepting them - Prioritizing them over most everything else Sadly, no one for me has met these 2 criteria, so I can't say I've been in love myself, just silly crushes and the like. That's a part of it ... But basically you wont understand why, as per your point, it is just a part.. Something like, "Why could I accept such flaws from her? I shouldn't been tolerating this kind of flaws?" you've accepted the flaws, but you don't understand why.. My own experience tells me that it's like this.. |
| ScribeOrigins, MKD 「先生のことが」 |
| Probably respect for me; I think the world would be a better place if people tried more to understand and be apologetic rather than hostile and intolerant. That's probably the only thing I expect out of myself and my friends, cause we're all a wide variety of people and we put emphasis on different things and I respect that and I hope that people respect what I do. For a relationship I guess I"ll look for the same thing though I haven't had anything tangible outside of those middle school dating things. We'll see how it goes. |
| ~"The place to improve the world is first in one's own heart and head and hands." (Pirsig) |
pauro19 said: Dark_Chaos said: pauro19 said: Finally something that relates what is happening to me right now .. Seriously guys, I've had experienced of what do love really is ... I've been into a very strong love with each other (happening right now).. My answer to the thread? Nothing, as you wont deal with any shit if you really love the person.. It's like, why do you love her? I don't know, but I just do.. Love has a reason which reason itself you can never understand - proven and tested... Love is - - Knowing a persons flaws, and accepting them - Prioritizing them over most everything else Sadly, no one for me has met these 2 criteria, so I can't say I've been in love myself, just silly crushes and the like. That's a part of it ... But basically you wont understand why, as per your point, it is just a part.. Something like, "Why could I accept such flaws from her? I shouldn't been tolerating this kind of flaws?" you've accepted the flaws, but you don't understand why.. My own experience tells me that it's like this.. Well, you accept a persons flaws because their perks outweigh them. Isn't that common knowledge? |
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| attraction = love trust + tolerance = friendship at least for me |
smoothly said: attraction = love Totally wrong, you can be attracted to someone but not love them, pretty easily, most relationships start because of attraction, they just rarely last. As I said, you need a lot more than just 1-2 options for a relationship to work out, you need a lot, that's why it's difficult to find someone you love. |
| "If you love someone Follow your heart Cause love comes once If you’re lucky enough" |
drinkbeer said: 1) money 2) looks 3) hot body 4) beer |
Hitchens said: drinkbeer said: 1) money 2) looks 3) hot body 3) beer Bear doesn't go with a hot body. |
Play League of Legends here! Autocrat said: Hitler was good, objectively. |
| i think honesty is very important! when your friend is honest with you,you can trust him/her,but when you can't trust somebody you can call that person your friend! |
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Nicole said: smoothly said: attraction = love Totally wrong, you can be attracted to someone but not love them, pretty easily, most relationships start because of attraction, they just rarely last. As I said, you need a lot more than just 1-2 options for a relationship to work out, you need a lot, that's why it's difficult to find someone you love. can you romantically love someone you're not attracted to? |
smoothly said: can you romantically love someone you're not attracted to? No, but you're way of saying it was too simple, as I said earlier there are many things you need in a relationship, attraction is one of them, but it doesn't = love, a lot of things together = love, none are more important than the other. Attraction on it's own doesn't really mean anything. |
| "If you love someone Follow your heart Cause love comes once If you’re lucky enough" |
Nicole said: smoothly said: can you romantically love someone you're not attracted to? No, but you're way of saying it was too simple, as I said earlier there are many things you need in a relationship, attraction is one of them, but it doesn't = love, a lot of things together = love, none are more important than the other. Attraction on it's own doesn't really mean anything. imo since we're talking about romantic love, it all boils down to attraction really. you're attracted to the person as a whole. without attraction, he/she goes to the friend or not in the radar zone. |
| Nuuu not the friendzone D: =3= for me... the most important criteria in a relationship, after a relationship has been established that is... Honesty.. =3= from both party If we're not honest in that relationship or have hidden agendas here and there.. it won't look good when the skeletons start crawling out of the closet xD That.. "I can explain this," shit... xD won't be so much of an assistance |
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smoothly said: imo since we're talking about romantic love, it all boils down to attraction really. you're attracted to the person as a whole. without attraction, he/she goes to the friend or not in the radar zone. Not really, attraction can come later on too, after along time that you've known someone (don't get me started about the friendzone, I don't want to get into that again, stort verison: it doesn't exist). But it doesn't all boil down to attraction, if you are attracted to someone, but you don't trust them, you can't have a relationship with them at least not a lasting one, if you lose respect for your partner, than the relationship is doomed etc, you never all to make a successful relationship. |
| "If you love someone Follow your heart Cause love comes once If you’re lucky enough" |
| If you're not attracted to somebody you can't even think of a relationship, unless you're a masochist, then have fun. |
Play League of Legends here! Autocrat said: Hitler was good, objectively. |
Nicole said: smoothly said: imo since we're talking about romantic love, it all boils down to attraction really. you're attracted to the person as a whole. without attraction, he/she goes to the friend or not in the radar zone. Not really, attraction can come later on too, after along time that you've known someone (don't get me started about the friendzone, I don't want to get into that again, stort verison: it doesn't exist). But it doesn't all boil down to attraction, if you are attracted to someone, but you don't trust them, you can't have a relationship with them at least not a lasting one, if you lose respect for your partner, than the relationship is doomed etc, you never all to make a successful relationship. what do you call someone you trust, share problems with, laugh with, share memories together with? a friend! zing! what do you call someone you trust, share problems with, laugh with, share memories together with, have sex with, are attracted to? a lover! zing! what do you call someone that's none of the above? an alien! zing! |
| Trust obviously. it's quite apparent that the OP believes trust is the most important thing as well since he made it the first option in the poll. |
كنت تهدر وقتك عن طريق ترجمة هذه. mattbenz99 said: Christians and Satanists are technically the same thing |
| From experience, communication. If you both have good value and whatnot, things would work much better if you can communicate those values, wants, and needs, effectively. |
| I like how the votes basically just go down from top to bottom. How suspicious. At any rate, I said values. Values can incorporate honesty and I'll probably respect someone with good values. |
LoneWolf said: @Josh makes me sad to call myself Canadian. |
Nicole said: smoothly said: imo since we're talking about romantic love, it all boils down to attraction really. you're attracted to the person as a whole. without attraction, he/she goes to the friend or not in the radar zone. Not really, attraction can come later on too, after along time that you've known someone (don't get me started about the friendzone, I don't want to get into that again, stort verison: it doesn't exist). But it doesn't all boil down to attraction, if you are attracted to someone, but you don't trust them, you can't have a relationship with them at least not a lasting one, if you lose respect for your partner, than the relationship is doomed etc, you never all to make a successful relationship. If you don't trust someone, I would argue that you are not attracted to that person as a whole - you are not attracted to/are not convinced about some of his fundamental aspects....at least that's what I think Smoothie was getting at lol |
| Magic. |
| "I once sent a dozen of my friends a telegram saying 'flee at once - all is discovered.' They all left town immediately."-Mark Twain |
| I like that everybody is suddenly an expert. Nicole said: (don't get me started about the friendzone, I don't want to get into that again, stort verison: it doesn't exist). You guys are really fortunate to have NicoleB the relationship expert who has shown to have very successful online relationships, especially with people from MAL's IRC, to be your guide in all of this relationship advice stuffs. |
BloodcaliburJul 8, 2013 3:55 PM
"I will close my eyes and let the darkness be the light that guides me through the path of chaos"    Call me the Jelly Factory. I'm the world's largest producer of jelly. |
Darman4242 said: If not sure if this is in the wrong thread or Atlantic Ocean deep.Magic. |
LoneWolf said: @Josh makes me sad to call myself Canadian. |
| They are all important, but I believe trust is the foundation of them. Without it, you can't really have a true relationship (either friendship or love). |
| Trust and 2 sided conversations. I don't think a friendship/love will last long with 1 sided convo's. |
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| Love can be madness, and happiness at the same time... but the most important thing on it is to respect each others oppinions and life... When everybody have his freedom to spread, the meeting in the middle is awesome ;) |
 An Apple a day keeps the doctor away :P |
Immahnoob said: If you're not attracted to somebody you can't even think of a relationship, unless you're a masochist, then have fun. You can fuck and save the feelings for later. |
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Chakaara said: Immahnoob said: If you're not attracted to somebody you can't even think of a relationship, unless you're a masochist, then have fun. You can fuck and save the feelings for later. It wouldn't be enjoyable sex if the person didn't find his/her partner attractive though. |
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Bloodcalibur said: I like that everybody is suddenly an expert. Nicole said: (don't get me started about the friendzone, I don't want to get into that again, stort verison: it doesn't exist). You guys are really fortunate to have NicoleB the relationship expert who has shown to have very successful online relationships, especially with people from MAL's IRC, to be your guide in all of this relationship advice stuffs. Oh yea, that's right, who was it again that I'm supposedly in a relationship with online? No idea why you're so desperate to come up with stuff like this though. |
| "If you love someone Follow your heart Cause love comes once If you’re lucky enough" |
Nidstang said: Chakaara said: Immahnoob said: If you're not attracted to somebody you can't even think of a relationship, unless you're a masochist, then have fun. You can fuck and save the feelings for later. It wouldn't be enjoyable sex if the person didn't find his/her partner attractive though. Alcohol can be wonderful. |
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Chakaara said: Nidstang said: Chakaara said: Immahnoob said: If you're not attracted to somebody you can't even think of a relationship, unless you're a masochist, then have fun. You can fuck and save the feelings for later. It wouldn't be enjoyable sex if the person didn't find his/her partner attractive though. Alcohol can be wonderful. Touché. |
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elevenletters said: Bloodcalibur said: ...especially with people from MAL's IRC. That place is dead and nobody is warming up to me. Haven't seen you talk once D: |
| "If you love someone Follow your heart Cause love comes once If you’re lucky enough" |
| I am |
| "If you love someone Follow your heart Cause love comes once If you’re lucky enough" |
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