| I guess I actually should address some of these. I work long hours and my job has taken priority over hobbies to a great extent. Thinking back a few years ago I did actually meet a fair number of people with my hobbies. However, I never made friends with any of them. Soichirou said: Wherever! At parties, outside, at events, at work , on street. How? By simply being outgoing and open minded :). That doesn't work for everyone. Wyzdm said: Tinder I've actually thought about that... Lahi said: Join a gym (met people there by asking them to spot me or ask advice) I work 12 hour days, there's simply not time to regularly visit gym. [/quote] Toarujisuru said: Well, first of all you have to make a conscious effort. You can't expect it to fall into your lap. I mean, who knows, maybe once in awhile it'll happen, but most times it won't. I've made friends with co-workers, people at anime conventions, fighting game tournaments, etc. Got a nearby bookstore that sells manga? Talk to people while their there. If they pick up a series you like, talk about it. Basically, you just gotta' leave your damn house. Otherwise, the chances of you finding a friend online who lives close by is super rare, but i've made plenty of online only friends too. And please OP. Don't call your life shitty. You were right to cut ties with those coke heads. That's far from shitty, imo. My life was shitty. Its pretty good now, I have money and my own place. If it was a little less lonely it'd be pretty damn good. Jiischa107 said: parties friends from friends That would require me to have friends in the first place. I have none. Lahi said: Join a gym (met people there by asking them to spot me or ask advice) Definitely volunteer if you have time, great way to expand your network Volunteering is actually a good idea, however the issue there is again time. |
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Yumes-lil-Faggot said: lol trueFirst off, not everyone's a NEET and a basement dweller here. Stop thinking that everyone is like you. That'll help you meet new people. |
| Co-workers and mutual friends if you don't want school as an answer. If you socialize in anything outside you can talk to someone who shares the same interest. Umm...like the gym? I've made like three nice friends from the gym. Get out there. |
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| I'm going to stick around on this thread, might learn how to make friends. |
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| My issue with I ended up getting wrapped up in a long hours job and at the same time drifted away from every single friend I had for good reasons. Time did not allow for hobbies I once held dear and I drifted away from them as well. I retreated into the internet for my socialization, this was honestly a mistake. Eventually I woke up and smelled the shit. I realized I was isolated without a leg to stand on and completely lost. I've exhausted work as an option for friends, the one eligible coworker for friendship in about as close as we're going to get. I mean we have a good working relationship, but I can't imagine going places and doing things outside work with them. I just need my spring board to get back into the world. |
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| Honestly the best you could to is enroll in 1 class at a nearby University, it can just be something stupid like an acting class where it doesn't matter if you pass or not. But you will have a chance to meet a ton of new people. Even the 10 minutes before and after the class will give you a whole new bunch of people to talk to and unlike them you can do whatever you want because you don't have to study for anything else. Even if the people on your class are meh they each have their own group of friends and you're bound to hit it off with someone eventually. |
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| Enroll in an acting class! OO: It's hard NOT to talk to people-- and if you usually don't talk to people or they usually shy away from you, you'll usually find that they'll approach you in those classes. Once people approach you, others will see that you're friendly and they'll approach you too. You can also go to conventions. I made a lot of friends through cosplay. You go to gatherings, you hang with them for that time, then at the end of the day, you start exchanging FBs and stuff. Or they post pictures of the gathering, tag you in it, and then some overzealous person adds everyone who went to the gathering. They then invite you to other gatherings. You go. The same people are there and they remember you. You talk to them more, have a good time, and your bonds become closer. It's fun. ;u; Only problem with that is SOME of those cosplay-made friends might drop you if you stop cosplaying. There WILL be some that stick though, and that's the important part. |
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Drakehawk said: Here I think I'll pass on that one. ~~~ Anyways! I thank those of you who posted helpful advice as it did help me brainstorm ideas. I've been getting an old GT car restored and set up to be a Track Day car. Something to road trip to different race tracks and have fun with. There's also a substantial gathering of enthusiasts for the car within easy driving distance. Not to mention local car shows and such. The process is just painfully slow and expensive. Secondly, I've been piddling around with credit by exam college material. I'm going to step up work on this and possibly even enroll in a class at the local college. That is if it can fit around my work schedule. I'm wanting to acquire a degree in biology and there's a large aquarium local I'm sure I can volunteer at. I'd rather have waited until I was further along on that path, however I guess it can't hurt to go ask around. Finally, I'm going to get back into offshore kayak fishing, something I've been saying forever... The benefit being there's a large group of local enthusiasts as well as a large internet forum dedicated to the topic in the area I live in. |
_MystMar 5, 2015 5:35 AM
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geniobastardo said: First off, not everyone's a NEET and a basement dweller here. Stop thinking that everyone is like you. That'll help you meet new people. |
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EmperorAkashi said: geniobastardo said: First off, not everyone's a NEET and a basement dweller here. Stop thinking that everyone is like you. That'll help you meet new people. basically this. whatever you do, just be friendly and open-minded and you'll find some friends. |
ALL HAIL LELOUCH! ALL HAIL BRITANNIA! |
| Meeting new people isn't hard. It's building the connection so it is worthwhile. Explore the things outside in life. Find events that happen like biking tours, parties, volunteer gigs, get to know your co-workers, etc. Just be open and adventurous is what I would say. You'll see that if you explore and put yourself out there, it won't be that hard to meet new people. |
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| Try working at a summer camp.. I'm sure you'll meet some cool people there (the people that work there at least)... and not only do the kids get fun, but you'll get to have fun, too (this is from my point of view as one of the campers when I went to summer camp last year and the year before. I saw the staff having an awesome time with each other and always laughing) or if you can't deal with kids, then try a bar (or something like a bar)? |
| Ha. Ha. HA. HA. HA. HA. HA. HA. I'm laughing because you got hurt. |
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_Myst said: You dropped out of school lolYumes-lil-Faggot said: First off, not everyone's a NEET and a basement dweller here. Stop thinking that everyone is like you. That'll help you meet new people. My post indicates I am neither, unlike you. |
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MechaKiryu said: _Myst said: You dropped out of school lolMy post indicates I am neither, unlike you. Should work on your reading comprehension. I stated I dropped out for one year due to circumstances, nothing I could do about it. I later went back, did double classes, and graduated on time. Not to mention saying I've held a quality job for well over two years. |
_MystMar 5, 2015 9:12 AM
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_Myst said: I did read that. My English reading comprehension is the top of my class. MechaKiryu said: You dropped out of school lol Should work on your reading comprehension. I stated I dropped out for one year due to circumstances, nothing I could do about it. I later went back, did double classes, and graduated on time. What are these circumstances? |
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MechaKiryu said: _Myst said: I did read that. My English reading comprehension is the top of my class. Should work on your reading comprehension. I stated I dropped out for one year due to circumstances, nothing I could do about it. I later went back, did double classes, and graduated on time. What are these circumstances? This little child is certainly full of themselves. Those matters of my life are private, but are of the not knowing where my next meal was coming from variety. The situation was worsened by buying into a sate funded distance learning program to avoid bad schools. Unfortunately that fell by the way side to more pressing concerns at the time. |
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