Why do Lan and Wei wuxian like each other?

234Mannan said:
I love the show(One of my top 10) and i already knew the 2 mains were going to be a couple and i was looking forward to how(ANd i do like BL). however till now i cant really find a solid reason to why Lan Wanji Likes Wei Wuxian to the point he was ready to take such huge risks or why they like each other? What was it that made them soulmates?Other then the fact that lan wanji thought wei to be a kind individual and was effected by his kindness, humbleness and his behaviour was something that really made him fall for him.
Or Maybe I missed something really important(I havent rewatched the series soo)...
I will be very thankful if any one can clear this out because this is the only thing I am actually confused about till now

kirarakim said:
Keep in mind that this series is Censored and a lot of stuff is left out from the Novel. But even in the Novel the story is told through WWX’s perspective which is why at first it may seem like LWJ doesn’t like him.

LWJ pretty much is attracted to WWX right from the start. It’s never explicitly stated but there are a lot of context clues. Why did he fall for him. Well even though most people would say how perfect, respectful and dignified LWJ was they would be afraid of him & keep their distance.But here was WWX this cheerful boy who did the exact opposite he never let LWJ alone. He teased him mercilessly (something that LWJ’s mother also used to do). He made him angry. He made him feel.

But LWJ was also a teenage boy grappling with his feelings. WWX was someone who went against what he was taught as “good” and not to mention he thought WWX didn’t like him him like that so he acts disdainful. But as the years go by he sees WWX’s pure heart and falls for him even more. At first he is still unsure because of the Demonic Cultivation but eventually realizes the stuff everyone is saying about WWX is not true and WWX is still a pure and moral person. It’s just in WWX’s first life he doesn’t do enough to show he cares and believes in WWX because again of concerns about WWX’s demonic cultivation and also because of filial duty that if he sides with WWX it could hurt his Clan and also that he doesn’t think WWX wants him. “I want to take someone back to Gusu and hide him away but he isn’t willing” I won’t spoil too much but LWJ eventually does change his mind about this but it’s too late he can no longer reach WWX.

However when WWX suddenly returns it’s been 13 years of mourning and regrets. LWJ is different. He fully accepts his love for WWX and that he will protect and keep WWX safe even if WWX never return his feelings even if the whole world is against WWX he will stay by WWX side this time and believe in him.

If you want more of the romance aspect I definitely recommend reading the Novel.

kirarakim said:
Keep in mind that this series is Censored and a lot of stuff is left out from the Novel. But even in the Novel the story is told through WWX’s perspective which is why at first it may seem like LWJ doesn’t like him.

LWJ is pretty much is attracted to WWX right from the start. It’s never explicitly stated but there are a lot of context clues. Why did he fall for him. Well even though most people would say how perfect, respectful and dignified LWJ was they would be afraid of him & keep their distance.But here was WWX this cheerful boy who did the exact opposite he never let LWJ alone. He teased him mercilessly (something that LWJ’s mother also used to do). He made him angry. He made him feel.

But LWJ was also a teenage boy grappling with his feelings. WWX was someone who went against what he was taught as “good” and not to mention he thought WWX didn’t like him him like that so he acts disdainful. But as the years go by he sees WWX’s pure heart and falls for him even more. At first he is still unsure because of the Demonic Cultivation but eventually realizes the stuff everyone is saying about WWX is not true and WWX is still a pure and moral person. It’s just in WWX’s first life he doesn’t do enough to show he cares and believes in WWX because again of concerns about WWX’s demonic cultivation and also because of filial duty that if he sides with WWX it could hurt his Clan and also that he doesn’t think WWX wants him. “I want to take someone back to Gusu and hide him away but he isn’t willing” I won’t spoil too much but LWJ eventually does change his mind about this but it’s too late he can no longer reach WWX.

However when WWX suddenly returns it’s been 13 years of mourning and regrets. LWJ is different. He fully accepts his love for WWX and that he will protect and keep WWX safe even if WWX never return his feelings even if the whole world is against WWX he will stay by WWX side this time and believe in him.

If you want more of the romance aspect I definitely recommend reading the Novel.

Gingike30 said:
The novel was written from WWX perspective, and Wangji’s true feelings also need to be peeled off, understood, and ultimately put together. Wangji’s personality is introduced very slowly throughout the novel. Wangji initially became interested WWX because it reminds him of his mother and is the complete opposite of him. Wangji grew up in a strict upbringing, always following the rules, while WWX is a free-spirited young man who follows his own ideas, not the rules. That's why he noticed Wuxian. Then as he sees more and more of the WWX, he realizes that if he is often a clown, they are similar in many ways. Like their worldview. Wangji realized before the death of the WWX that he loved him, but he denied this until the events before the death of the WWX. As in episode 8, after Jin Ling stabbed WWX, there was a flashback where Wangji gave him strength. Well, if I hadn’t read the novel, I would have thought it was happening in the present, but it was in the past after Shijie died and Wangji escaped WWX, it was a scene a few days before WWX died when WWX was already starting to go crazy. Wangji was already in love with him and accepted, but it was too late, he couldn't help him, and after WWX's death, he really felt lacking, the wasted time he wasted denying his feelings, but now that Wangji got it back, he tries to take every opportunity to stand by him, even in confrontation with others because of it, even if he thinks his emotions will never find reciprocity.

But in order for the viewer to fully understand the depth and formation of their relationship, it is worth reading the novel, which is explained in much more detail. Once the viewer has read the novel and re-watched the donghua, he will notice many such small things he will see from a different perspective than before reading the novel. There are many small details scattered in the scenes that only the people who read the novel understand.

Sorry for the bad English :(

Black_wind said:
Why do people keep mentioning LWJ's mother though...ya all making him sound as if he had an Oedipus complex 😭 There is nothing about that in the canon. We just know, that WWX is like his own mother.

And more than being opposites, it's always been hinted that they are in fact very similar, even if it may not seem like it from the first glance. Their ideals, things they believe in...who they are on the inside, it's all the same.

kirarakim said:
Keep in mind that this series is Censored and a lot of stuff is left out from the Novel. But even in the Novel the story is told through WWX’s perspective which is why at first it may seem like LWJ doesn’t like him.

LWJ is pretty much is attracted to WWX right from the start. It’s never explicitly stated but there are a lot of context clues. Why did he fall for him. Well even though most people would say how perfect, respectful and dignified LWJ was they would be afraid of him & keep their distance.But here was WWX this cheerful boy who did the exact opposite he never let LWJ alone. He teased him mercilessly (something that LWJ’s mother also used to do). He made him angry. He made him feel.

But LWJ was also a teenage boy grappling with his feelings. WWX was someone who went against what he was taught as “good” and not to mention he thought WWX didn’t like him him like that so he acts disdainful. But as the years go by he sees WWX’s pure heart and falls for him even more. At first he is still unsure because of the Demonic Cultivation but eventually realizes the stuff everyone is saying about WWX is not true and WWX is still a pure and moral person. It’s just in WWX’s first life he doesn’t do enough to show he cares and believes in WWX because again of concerns about WWX’s demonic cultivation and also because of filial duty that if he sides with WWX it could hurt his Clan and also that he doesn’t think WWX wants him. “I want to take someone back to Gusu and hide him away but he isn’t willing” I won’t spoil too much but LWJ eventually does change his mind about this but it’s too late he can no longer reach WWX.

However when WWX suddenly returns it’s been 13 years of mourning and regrets. LWJ is different. He fully accepts his love for WWX and that he will protect and keep WWX safe even if WWX never return his feelings even if the whole world is against WWX he will stay by WWX side this time and believe in him.

If you want more of the romance aspect I definitely recommend reading the Novel.

Konani said:
re-watching Mo dao after first watching and finishing it about a week ago, knowing what i do now that i didn't do then, i am still curious of when things did start to happen, more or less, between the characters.

-i have not read the chinese manga (manhua?) and i haven't read the original novel this is all based on. i am aware some of the events were moved around and/or altered a bit between the novel and the donghua, but even while watching it now, i am a bit uncertain of when they both more or less started to develop feelings for each other:

i have the impression that Lan Zhan was the first one to decide he liked Wei Wuxian, since in episode 4 already, his older brother mentions he brought Wuxian along since Lan Zhan seemed like he wanted him to.
-as i'm going from the context given through the animation, i would suspect Lan Zhan already developed some feelings for Wuxian during that month they were pretty much stuck together.
-i can't say how much of it is due to the censorship, but i imagine he spent some time trying to figure out his feelings for Wuxian, since i can't figure out if it was something he realized or accepted right away, or if he needed some time to figure out what he really felt toward the mischievous troublemaker. i don't know if the novel details this in any way.

-as for Wei Wuxian, however, even in the "present day" while he's in another body; in episode two since he's putting up an act as the lunatic his new body is rumored to be, he blurts out he (the lunatic kid) finds Lan Zhan attractive, and (in the subtitles i watched) he was convinced that would make both men disgusted with him and leave him alone.
-it backfires since Lan Zhan already recognized WangXian when Wuxian played it to calm down Wen Ning, and Wuxian ends up being taken back to Lan Zhan's place. (saw in a comment on episode 2, that he doesn't say guzu, but apparently refers to his private home? nice detail).

-in the present timeline, and that mainly of the 3rd season of the donghua, i'm 50/50 on Wuxian's attraction to Lan Zhan, and couldn't tell if he was just teasing throughout or not.
-in the donghua, i don't have the impression Wuxian really view Lan Zhan as anything but irritated with him, up until a certain point when he realize Lan Zhan doesn't outright hate him. but it doesn't seem like he -actually- figure things out until he comes across his old notes and finally find out the meaning of that headband.

-having read of some differences between the novel and the donghua, and knowing some events were tossed around in the donghua, while Lan Zhan seemed to become romantically attracted to Wuxian early on, i couldn't figure out when the same happened for Wei Wuxian.
-was it something that happened early on, or was he completely ignorant of Lan Zhan's feelings for himself, up until very late in the story? like, 13 years after dying once-kind of very late _xD?

-in the donghua, once Wuxian's been revived and Lan Zhan recognize him, early on it's pretty clear he's not willing to let Wuxian go again, nor come to harm if he can avoid it.
-so did this poor dude have to wait over 20 years for the rascal he fell in love with, to finally show some romantic feelings toward him too?
or is this progression any different in the novel?


TL;DR:
Did Lan Zhan have to wait over 20 years (and one death) for Wei Wuxian to reciprocate his feelings?