| Basically, are you someone who's always had a complete disinterest, avoidance, or outright repulsion to the romantic aspects of a relationship. The only time I said yes to being asked out, I felt like I was pressured into it socially. I managed to break things off after our first date. The drive to actually obtain a partner has never been there though. I've always been fine with remaining single. So yeah, I'm aromantic. How about you? |
| I'm honestly the opposite. In fact, I fall for people really easily and I like multiple people at the same time while even in a relationship. It might have something to do with my attention-seeking behavior though. I constantly crave attention and when I'm in a relationship, I can easily grab their attention and make them pay attention to me. I want people to pay attention to me and only me and I don't like the idea of anybody close to me being with somebody else. Then again, according to my previous psychiatrist, I have Cluster B traits, so that says a lot about me. I've always had the drive to be in a relationship but I think being single has its benefits too. After all, university is time-consuming and many people aren't in the right mindset or spot to be in a relationship for much of their life. I also think that a relationship would be best so I can manage finances easier when I move out and enjoy living in a house with someone else. I also want to foster kids in the future and orphanages are more likely to let you foster if you're a married couple. Plus, I think part of it is that my parents really want me to get married in the future and they expect me to fulfill that goal. It might be an Asian family thing, but who knows. It also might be societal pressure since I've been told from a young age that I'll get married and have kids when I'm older. |
  Life has no meaning, but that doesn't mean we shouldn't live it  |
| Me. Never had any interest for a romantic relationship and I, in fact, never fell in love. |
| You are not your body, you are your brain, the "self" that emerges from within it. |
| Anyone can have romantic interests. I have a romantic interest with that hot girl on TV, but see that getting an affair with her is a bit difficult. I can only see from her window how happy she is with a wealthy fool. |
| I have do have interst at times but the thought of myself being in one or when they start flirting, I feel disgusted. I tried being in one (felt forced too) and... I hated every second of it, it absolutely sucks! |
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| I suppose I don't need to look for love. I've been told by my ex that the reason she walked up to me was cause of my persona with her other friends to the point that she got asked to ask me out and wasn't dissapointed. I left her after for cheating. |
 サディスティックな考え "JUST KILL ME." サディスティックマインド |
| No, but I am aromatic if you're interested. |
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| and that you don't have now doesn't mean you can't. |
Liberachi said: that they spend their entire lives without a romantic interest, does not mean they can't..@xA-2, I haven't so far, and there's many people who go their entire lives without any romantic interest. |
| @xA-2, nope, at the end of the day, there's people who are romantics and those who aren't in anyway. It's not something that's for every person. Either way, anyone who's gone their entire life so far without any romantic feelings would be in the right to think maybe they just don't have any. |
| Can't wait to read all the posts made by edgy teenagers claiming that love ain't their thing. |
  “The most shameless thing in the world is political power that can be inherited regardless of ability or talent!” |
Liberachi said: People without romantic interests are not psychopaths. They can generate interest. Making it harder for them or just avoiding those things is another problem.@xA-2, nope, at the end of the day, there's people who are romantics and those who aren't in anyway. It's not something that's for every person. Either way, anyone who's gone their entire life so far without any romantic feelings would be in the right to think maybe they just don't have any. |
Liberachi said: I think my English is a bad thing, my apologies.@xA-2, people who tend to identify as aromantic can have interest. Just not any romantic interest. Kinda like never being interested in sports. You make someone who doesn't like sports play sports, and they won't enjoy themselves. "Making", i meant that if they find it difficult. I'm not talking about forcing someone, that would make it worse, for me. They can generate interest in sports (is different from romantic, but well), if there are instances in life that merits it. You don't have to see it as impossible. Because yes, you can generate romantic interest. |
Liberachi said: Please, do not compare the romantic interest in a woman (from someone heterosexual), to romantic interest in a man (from someone heterosexual). You speak as if it were something biological in you that does not allow you to have romantic interests.@xA-2, okay lets just say some people have tendencies that tend to lean one way or the other. And that not everyone is 100% one way. Kinda like how everyone is technically bisexual on some level. |
| but you are not different, you can have romantic interest, that without knowing you. |
| Of course, but don't fool yourself. |
| Nah son, I'm romantic as feck. I mean, I can understand where aromantics are coming from, but it aint my thing. I love candles and red wine and flowers and sunsets. |
If life ain't just a joke Then why are we laughing? If life ain't just a joke Then why am I dead? |
| Just here to plug in my Tractatus. Get things going, So yeah, my answer is pretty known. Romance is nice but nothing too important. Illuminatli said: Lose the wine and the flowers because I'm a cheapskate and I'll let you in on a secret. Oh, wait. Read above.Nah son, I'm romantic as feck. I mean, I can understand where aromantics are coming from, but it aint my thing. I love candles and red wine and flowers and sunsets. |
Yarub said: Just here to plug in my Tractatus. Get things going, So yeah, my answer is pretty known. Romance is nice but nothing too important. Illuminatli said: Lose the wine and the flowers because I'm a cheapskate and I'll let you in on a secret. Oh, wait. Read above.Nah son, I'm romantic as feck. I mean, I can understand where aromantics are coming from, but it aint my thing. I love candles and red wine and flowers and sunsets. Flowers don't cost anything... just pick them from a meadow! |
If life ain't just a joke Then why are we laughing? If life ain't just a joke Then why am I dead? |
Illuminatli said: Sure... the only flowers I see around here are in private properties and the only way for me to procure any flowers without paying raises the chances of me either being shot dead by an M-14 or eating compost off the grass as I get raped by a couple of Pakistani security guards in the aforementioned garden espionage operation. Now that would be romantic.Yarub said: Just here to plug in my Tractatus. Get things going, So yeah, my answer is pretty known. Romance is nice but nothing too important. Lose the wine and the flowers because I'm a cheapskate and I'll let you in on a secret. Oh, wait. Read above. Flowers don't cost anything... just pick them from a meadow! |
Liberachi said: Sorry, was I bothering you?@xA-2, oh I'm open to being wrong about myself. Nothing has come along to prove otherwise though. Let's make this the last post here. This is dragging on too long. I'm sorry for you that you didn't have romantic interests. It is something that depends on the events in your life or your experience. You can have them for sure, unless you are very "special" guy. |
Yarub said: Sure... the only flowers I see around here are in private properties and the only way for me to procure any flowers without paying raises the chances of me either being shot dead by an M-14 or eating compost off the grass as I get raped by a couple of Pakistani security guards in the aforementioned garden espionage operation. Now that would be romantic. I'm sorry... I wasn't aware of your living circumstances. |
If life ain't just a joke Then why are we laughing? If life ain't just a joke Then why am I dead? |
| Emotions are just a theoretical concept to me :P. But in all seriousness, I do think that all people are romantic to a degree. It just takes a compatible person to evoke these feelings of romanticism. |
Be your true mind. |
| @xA-2, people who have no romantic interest are in the minority, so "special" indeed. Not saying enviromental factors aren't at play, but I'm inclined to believe romantic tendencies have more of a biological basis from the start. Either way, if someone by their young adult years has gone through life without a shred of interest in pursuing a partner, they may decide that they just don't have an interest. That maybe, that's just how they are. That doesn't mean they're not happy. It just means that person doesn't experience romantic feelings for another person. At this point, I'm tempted to fake-agree with you just to end the conversation. |
LiberachiNov 23, 2019 3:20 PM
Liberachi said: So a few years ago many of my relatives were very "special", thanks for the clarification. @xA-2, people who have no romantic interest are in the minority, so "special" indeed. Not saying enviromental factors aren't at play, but I'm inclined to believe romantic tendencies have more of a biological basis from the start. Either way, if someone by their young adult years has gone through life without a shred of interest in pursuing a partner, they may decide that they just don't have an interest. That maybe, that's just how they are. That doesn't mean they're not happy. It just means that person doesn't experience romantic feelings for another person. At this point, I'm tempted to fake-agree with you just to end the conversation. I never said you weren't happy. but I would like to see that biological basis that takes away the romantic interest in people. I assume you have no medical problems or any true special conditions. |
| @xA-2, uhhh I was not entirely sure what you meant by "special" to begin with. Do you mean like rare? Handicapped? I've clearly confused you even more. It's more of an absence of feeling that way. It either isn't developed or just isn't there. Either way, people end up feeling the way they do. No I do not. |
LiberachiNov 23, 2019 4:07 PM
| Yes. I'm primarily interested in sexual things over romantic things. |
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Liberachi said: special, something that makes you unique or different from others. I refer to psychological or biological problems. No things like tastes or personality.@xA-2, uhhh I was not entirely sure what you meant by "special" to begin with. Do you mean like rare? Handicapped? I've clearly confused you even more. It's more of an absence of feeling that way. It either isn't developed or just isn't there. Either way, people end up feeling the way they do. No I do not. No doctor or psychologist will tell you that you lack romantic interest without special conditions. I don't know you, but you seem perfectly normal. Then I doubt it. But that is your opinion. So, you can be different and edgy all you want. |
Liberachi said: Yes, that observation is that they are aromatic, not that they can't have romantic interest. I was very aromatic as a teenager. Geez, what turns life gives.@xA-2, in that case, I don't think you have to be special to be aromantic. Science has actually said very little on this subject. I'm not trying to be edgy. I and allot of other people are just making a simple observation. And we return to the beginning of the thread. I can stay all day if you want, I really am very special haha. |
| Yes, I am. I've posted about it on here a few times before today, but not really in any significant detail. It simply boils down to the fact that I can and do feel forms of: A) Familial love (Love or affection for relative/family member like mother, father, cousin, etc. in a familial way, depending on personal relationship; completely non-sexual and non-romantic) B) Platonic love (Love or affection for a close and trusted friend and person; completely non-sexual and non-romantic) C) Sexual attraction (It's a physical, biological phenomenon, and one on which I've acted in the past; I'm not asexual) On C, the sexual attraction part and overall sexuality profile, it's like I see it purely for what it is, which is a desire to experience sensory pleasures from the organic biochemical drip. Sex and sexual stimulation are a means to an end for releasing something which is produced naturally in the human body as a desired alternative to taking some laboratory-made pills, like the opioids others are addicted to. It's just a means for deriving personal pleasure rather than furthering an interpersonal relationship. Which could be achieved with another person or, preferably, autonomously. There's nothing about it that makes me in any way want to actually invite another person into my life in any sense. I don't want to care for another person like that. I don't want to have to compromise any single aspect of my lifestyle with another person, to jointly decide where to go, what to eat, how to act, how to live. It's just never remotely appealed to me since childhood. Or to sap any of my time dedicated to my own interests. The only thing I'm uncertain about is whether that comes down to neurology and my basic physiological makeup and can be said to have some genetic component and rooted deep in the brain's natural circuitry. As some schools of thought consider sexual orientation like heterosexuality, homosexuality, and bisexuality to be. Or whether it's more psychological, nurture over nature, and a conscious choice and preference on my part rather than who I am on the intrinsic physical level. That's more of a question for science and philosophy though, because either way it doesn't change my life decisions as a result of it. I've always been incredibly asocial in general though. So you could also consider it an extension of that. |
WatchTillTandavaNov 23, 2019 4:52 PM
lavah said: Sounds like bipolar disorder to me lolI like guys and when they like me back and ask me to go out with them I agree. By the next morning I block them and cut off all my connections with them cause I lose my mood for dating anyone. Does that make me an aromantic? Or maybe it's just my bipolar disorder. |
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Liberachi said: haha of course, I read your concept from head to toe and vice versa. It's a shame, then I stop bothering you.@xA-2, nah, we'll end it here. You're not really getting this concept, and I don't feel like repeating myself. Just look over what I've already said. |
| ok, then you are aromatic forever, without biological or psychological prove. Thanks for all this knowledge. |
Liberachi said: you do not fall in love for now, since it is part of the experience and events of your life. But you can do it, since you have no medical or mental problems. it is simple. @xA-2, not sure what other proof I could give you other than my word. I don't fall in love. If you don't fall in love for the rest of your life, it doesn't mean you couldn't have done it. |
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