What do you girls think about Harem anime?

Ayanashii said:
Honestly, if they don't have an overkill of ecchi and fanservice *glares at most harem anime* and if the characters aren't horrible and stupid *glares at again most harem anime*, then sure, it's fine with me. I just hate it when in, like most harems, the girls always seem to gain up on the guy for the stupidest things. That irritates me SOOOO much. (-___-)
As for reverse harems, I don't find them appealing in the slightest. If it has a good story, characters, and humor, then okay. But, most reverse harems seem to have guys act like girls and be all stupid or whatever. I don't know why they even make reverse harems, honestly. But, whatever. I'm sure someone likes them. I just think they're a waste of my time.

yu3 said:
I'm a girl and I don't like harem shows. But when I watch harem, I only watch it because of the "comedy" in it(ex. Nisekoi). Or if the story was interesting(ex. ToraDora, Clannad. etc.). In the end, It gets boring since they only have one goal. To make the guy fall in love with them.

Harem shows was like you are running in circles of nowhere, specially if the guy can't pick or want them all. Another thing, harem got a tons of ecchi and fanservice. And most of the story have no sense..

Unlike in "reverse harem", it has more interesting and realistic story. And you know that it will have an ending since the girl will pick only one. So i like reverse harem more.

Imaishi said:


how does reverse harem make more sense?
pls explain because I don't see it

Power_Logic said:
I'm no girl but harems is like a high school boy's sex jokes, and sexy imagination, comes to life so no wonder most guys like it.

Reverse harem.. to tell ya the truth, reverse harem is more likely to occur in real life than harems.

I remember my cousin a girl, having 3 guys fall head over heels for her ... One guy was her classmate and my classmate in grade school, the other guy was my friend and classmate, the last guy was a senior in my school. all of them just probably want to get into her pants.

none of them were the main guy hahaha, coz she is lez.... now she is dating some chubby butch. and damn both of them were hot tsk.. tsk .. a great loss for men around the world

mayukachan said:
Harems aren't really my preferred genre, but I can watch one. If you pull me into other male-targeted stuff like moe and yuri, I'd be kind of grossed out. Reverse harem are usually as bad as harems but I enjoy reverse harems more because of the cast.

Inferno792 said:


That would be the case under normal circumstances.
But in today's world, the normal harem is still more plausible than reverse.
There are many men who buy a harem and I doubt many women do that.

yu3 said:
I'm a girl and I don't like harem shows. But when I watch harem, I only watch it because of the "comedy" in it(ex. Nisekoi). Or if the story was interesting(ex. ToraDora, Clannad. etc.). In the end, It gets boring since they only have one goal. To make the guy fall in love with them.

Harem shows was like you are running in circles of nowhere, specially if the guy can't pick or want them all. Another thing, harem got a tons of ecchi and fanservice. And most of the story have no sense..

Unlike in "reverse harem", it has more interesting and realistic story. And you know that it will have an ending since the girl will pick only one. So i like reverse harem more.

Inferno792 said:


That would be the case under normal circumstances.
But in today's world, the normal harem is still more plausible than reverse.
There are many men who buy a harem and I doubt many women do that.

Power_Logic said:

buying harems doesn't make it natural or normal and no poor man can buy one but women on the other hand poor or rich has a chance to have many suitors if she is beautiful. heck even average girls can attract many males usually males that wants a partner.

For us males You have to be attractive and rich if you want to have a quality harem. not a harem where the women stays because you have $$$ and they are all secretly having lesbian sex and making fun of you behind your back. being the mr. nice guy won't get you the chicks it doesn't work that way in real life.

If you are muslim your are at least allowed to have as many as 4 wives but i don't know much about about that and i'm pretty sure that there are a lot of wives that secretly do lesbian stuff together when the husband is working out.

KamiCity said:


I always find it funny when people try to talk about males not getting girls when the "every guy cheats" line is thrown out so often by girls. I mean if guys didn't get girls, then no girl would ever be cheated on. If real life harems didn't exist, then no girl would ever get cheated on. We see it all the time, the main girl getting cheated on with the side chick and them both staying with him regardless.

Also the oh so famous "mr nice guy won't get you the girl." Most nice guys get with girls, most average guys get with girls, it's the guys who think being nice is the only thing you have to do that don't get with girls. If all you got going for you is "i'm nice" then i'm sorry bro but you don't have much to offer....

Power_Logic said:


Real life harem exist and for it to exist the women or men in the harem must not be hostile to each other. Cheating man or woman isn't considered a harem.

History show that some civilization indulge in harems like in Islamic countries, Chinese emperors they have a lot of concubines. Also in a harem a lot of women are actually lesbians so when they are not fucking the king they are fucking each other.

nah... i'm just kidding i don't know much about the traits of harem in different civilization
all i know is that they exist in the past (probably in modern times too) and women are usually force into it,also it a fact that some women in harems are lesbians or bi.

mahodango said:
I only like reverse harem.

FloatingTree said:
Something only naive idiots would really enjoy.

Both kinds really take their audience as complete retards who have no intellectual interests or even the most basic form of logic. But sadly I guess there are some people out there who actually buy into this shit, which explains why it still exists.

FloatingTree said:
I think harem anime are just there to entertain guys with big tits and arses, letting them live out whatever sexual fantasy that helps them jerk off.
Reverse harems aren't better either. The protag is always some dumbass girl with a tragic background swarmed by sparkling hot bishonen who for some reason all fell for her "innocence". Something only naive idiots would really enjoy.

Both kinds really take their audience as complete retards who have no intellectual interests or even the most basic form of logic. But sadly I guess there are some people out there who actually buy into this shit, which explains why it still exists.

mimiiria said:
As a female, my biggest problem with harem series isn't the ecchi or even the Gary-Stu self-insert protagonists. Reverse harems are just as bad, sometimes even worse (Try sitting through an episode of Fushigi Yuugi. I dare you.) My biggest problem with these harem/reverse harem shows is their incredible POPULARITY. It eats away my faith in humanity. Who can seriously relate to the average harem protagonist that always is more or less a loser yet still ends up with all these amazing bishoujo/bishounen craving for their love?

I know it's sometimes fun to fantasize about things that can never happen, but isn't it also twice as painful to return to the real world afterwards? Don't stories with somewhat realistic goals sell in Japan? Is it that they simply don't bother writing better stories for the fans, since the repetitive wish-fulfillment crap sells better nevertheless?

mimiiria said:
As a female, my biggest problem with harem series isn't the ecchi or even the Gary-Stu self-insert protagonists. Reverse harems are just as bad, sometimes even worse (Try sitting through an episode of Fushigi Yuugi. I dare you.) My biggest problem with these harem/reverse harem shows is their incredible POPULARITY. It eats away my faith in humanity. Who can seriously relate to the average harem protagonist that always is more or less a loser yet still ends up with all these amazing bishoujo/bishounen craving for their love?

I know it's sometimes fun to fantasize about things that can never happen, but isn't it also twice as painful to return to the real world afterwards? Don't stories with somewhat realistic goals sell in Japan? Is it that they simply don't bother writing better stories for the fans, since the repetitive wish-fulfillment crap sells better nevertheless?

AikoClover said:
To be honest,i dont like harem animes what I still watch them because most of them are funny..

Imaishi said:

How is popularity a problem for you, does it affect your experience in any way?
And since when do you need to relate to a character to enjoy the show? Harems can be fun because of the comedy and fanservice, you don't need to 'insert yourself' to enjoy them.

hoopla123 said:

Wish-fufillment and escapism is a huge reason why people turn to fictional work anyways.

Same applies for gaming (especially MMOs).

mimiiria said:
As a female, my biggest problem with harem series isn't the ecchi or even the Gary-Stu self-insert protagonists. Reverse harems are just as bad, sometimes even worse (Try sitting through an episode of Fushigi Yuugi. I dare you.) My biggest problem with these harem/reverse harem shows is their incredible POPULARITY. It eats away my faith in humanity. Who can seriously relate to the average harem protagonist that always is more or less a loser yet still ends up with all these amazing bishoujo/bishounen craving for their love?

I know it's sometimes fun to fantasize about things that can never happen, but isn't it also twice as painful to return to the real world afterwards? Don't stories with somewhat realistic goals sell in Japan? Is it that they simply don't bother writing better stories for the fans, since the repetitive wish-fulfillment crap sells better nevertheless?

TheBrainintheJar said:


Your problem is then not with the popularity (that's external, and a logical fallacy. Popularity doesn't prove quality) but with the escapist nature of them.

I agree. I don't think it's in the genre's blood. A talented creator can use the harem genre for a fun satire, or just to create a cast of quirky, odd characters that do fun stuff. Pretty often, the harem/romcom school anime just add forced craziness or panty shots (Rosario + Vampire, Kemeko DX, Akikan) and stops being fun.