| I've always felt friendless. Yes, i do have friends, all fake friends perhaps. It's just like they need you for something, then ignore you afterward, thus, maybe my definition of friends now is mutual benefits. I have the feeling that behind their smiles, they are always plotting. Or maybe, i'm just being paranoid. Anyone felt like this? |
| Ever since my guild died in Guild Wars three years ago, I've felt friendless like you do. My family isn't too friendly with me, so I went about three years without any personal conversations. People at school and church simply don't like my presence. I wish I could enjoy being a loner, but all I ever feel is lonely. When I tried to talk to people, they'd snap at me or just stare as if I'm not allowed to talk. Anime is strange in that it fulfills social needs for me, where games are just fun but leave me just as lonely as ever. Still, I'd much rather find friends that want to talk to me. It's getting better recently. I've found that anime conventions and Friday Night Magic are places where people pay attention to me and genuinely enjoy my presence. The people at school are nice, but I can tell most of my class prefers for me not to try to include myself in their conversations, especially at lunch. Lul, so after enough strange looks after trying to say something, I spent half the schoolyear in the bathroom throwing up from intense social anxiety during lunch. Eventually, I built up the courage to sit at the same table with the boys who had been nice to me in computer programming class one year. They happily accepted me and miss me whenever I skip for an appointment. I had just assumed that they would push me away, too, so I had been afraid to try any earlier...I seriously regret that. They are the first friends I've made in school, and I made them halfway through my junior year of high school. They would have accepted me just as well way earlier if I hadn't been so afraid because of how everyone else treats me. I seriously regret that. Now it's summertime, and I'm all alone again. :P I quit the Youth Group at my church years ago because the girls were very clique-ish and so mean to me and the teacher, they nearly made her quit. This summer, though, the new girls I volunteered with at Vacation Bible School were very accepting of me, so I've tried going back to the youth. Everybody else ignores me or makes weird comments behind my back, but those two new girls let me sit beside them and talk to me. They are so nice, and I really think they care about me. I'm seriously hoping college will be better. I still spend most of my time on facebook, wishing there were people to talk to, but things are definitely brighter than they were before. My advice is not to be afraid of people just because most people treat you poorly/ignore you. Not everyone will be like that. Find people with similar interests you can relate to and be yourself. Even if they seem to be, friends aren't the most important thing in life, so take it slow and they will come. Just be sure to be just as friendly and open as ever and don't let negative people affect your disposition. Being cold and sad won't help. It's hard, though. |
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| I had the same five close best friends since sixth grade, and I've had a lot of friends throughout that come and go. I think our class was really close and we all hung out during games, dances, parties as we got older, of course high school kind of split everyone up every now and then with pointless drama so the cliques really formed. I definitely felt a little friendless during my sophomore year, because our group of five split and I stuck with the one they all hated. So it was just she and I for a long time, with a new group of people I didn't really like. But, throughout high school I think it's been much better having a lot of friends you can talk to, but have those close bestfriends there no matter what. I met the most amazing people my senior year, and reconnected with friends I lost :) I'd consider myself much more of a people person now than I was, and I really do love meeting new people. The more the merrier! So, I'd say go out there and make new friends for sure! |
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| I have had periods in my life where i have had no friends, few friends and allot of friends. I have been both popular and bulled. The by product of moving house a bit and being a bit of a loner *thumbs up*. Honestly i have gone through extreme loneliness in my younger years but after awhile i got used to my own company, i found the good things about it and now the friends i do have are added bonuses to my life. They are not essential but mean allot to me. Love your life, find many hobbies, be okay with being alone and you get a strange level of self confidence out of it. People are more attracted to confidence then someone who needs them to be happy. That is my consensus on my weird life so far anyway and now that i have been strangely honest for once, let us never talk about this again *thumbs up* |
| I never feel alone. Like, ever. I love being alone too, and it's practically impossible for me to actually being alone most of the time. I talk with my friends very frequently, and with my very best friends, well, I talk to them basically every day. I would have to be surrounded by friends, but the few people I actually call friends, are always there whether I want them or not. There will always be someone opening their arms for you. Just look for the right people. |
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| I have three friends from college and that's it. Once in a while we get together for dinner or a movie. Everyone else I've met just disappears after a couple years or less. Online, offline, it doesn't matter. I do like being alone most of the time, but loneliness is really something different. |
| I use to have a lot of friends when i was in high school. I stopped hanging out with them because they weren't really friends if you know what i mean. Now I usually prefer to be alone. |
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Allecto said: I'm the kind of person who has lots of good friends but *needs* to spend a lot of time alone doing my own thing. Seeing friends a lot is mentally exhausting for me, yet if I spend too much time alone even I feel lonely and friendless sometimes. This basically sums up all my feeling on this subject. I have no better way of saying it. |
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| "Friendless" is my normal state, and I enjoy it. So I can't say that I identify with your concerns about it. I would suggest you pick up a hobby or something else you enjoy doing alone. Or just go out and meet random people, if any of your friends is interested in hanging out with you. |
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| Considering that I'm alone a lot, and don't do much of anything cause mostly what I do drains my energy....I'm glad that I don't have that many friends. Though at times wish I did but sadly my energy levels can't take much... Pretty much the one thing that sabotages my efforts to do more to try to interact more to make more friends is my low energy -having to put a lot of it into controlling my emotions and other things to keep from screwing things up so much that I'd piss people off probably but luckily that hasn't happened yet[I just have to deal with either possible self destruct or meltdown]...just the side effect apparently is I'm drained so much by the end of the day/week/month- Just don't have any friends more or less around here where I live so try to do what I can over the net. |
TyjosAzari said: You're absolutely sure that the problem at hand is "low energy"?Considering that I'm alone a lot, and don't do much of anything cause mostly what I do drains my energy....I'm glad that I don't have that many friends. Though at times wish I did but sadly my energy levels can't take much... Pretty much the one thing that sabotages my efforts to do more to try to interact more to make more friends is my low energy -having to put a lot of it into controlling my emotions and other things to keep from screwing things up so much that I'd piss people off probably but luckily that hasn't happened yet[I just have to deal with either possible self destruct or meltdown]...just the side effect apparently is I'm drained so much by the end of the day/week/month- Just don't have any friends more or less around here where I live so try to do what I can over the net. |
| Wouldn't know now these days, there are days I'm fine though. Plus I'm kinda spread out with what I do now these days, burnt out a little bit but recovering...still gotta try to do better to socialize a bit better. I mean I can talk with people and that,just haven't had energy to deal with other stuff-Due to not sleeping well too lately so starting to get that back under control- [Though I have Anxiety so that adds into it,plus probably not looking in the right places to make friends now these days I suppose] I could also say one thing if anything that having to deal with others in terms of communication-which there are times I'm bad at it- messes up things. I've always had a problem with how to say things at times without ending up with stuff happening. -I did just go through a 6 Month Job Training Program/Rehab Program so that's helped with at least some of that so just been drained from that since I've been recouping the last month for sure- |
TyjosAzariJul 10, 2012 4:00 PM
TyjosAzari said: Judging by the amount of words you just used to make a point, you seem to be fine when it comes to talking. Wouldn't know now these days, there are days I'm fine though. Plus I'm kinda spread out with what I do now these days, burnt out a little bit but recovering...still gotta try to do better to socialize a bit better. I mean I can talk with people and that,just haven't had energy to deal with other stuff-Due to not sleeping well too lately so starting to get that back under control- [Though I have Anxiety so that adds into it,plus probably not looking in the right places to make friends now these days I suppose] I could also say one thing if anything that having to deal with others in terms of communication-which there are times I'm bad at it- messes up things. I've always had a problem with how to say things at times without ending up with stuff happening. -I did just go through a 6 Month Job Training Program/Rehab Program so that's helped with at least some of that so just been drained from that since I've been recouping the last month for sure- Just look at it all like it's a bad dream. That's how I get by. |
| I had alot of friends in highschool although i moved away right after to try to find work and havent really looked back, i go and see them but due to gas prices and the fact im a cheap sob (my truck eats gas faster than Takeru Kobayashi in a hotdog eating competition) i dont go and see them but once every few months. Although i keep myself busy watch anime or reading manga oh and work..... |
| I havent made a single friend since I started uni. And I dont keep in contact with any of my old friends. At most its like a text every 5 months. I enjoy my "alone" time but its really getting hard seeing other people have fun and converse so I've resorted to talking on the internet. Yes that is the only reason I am commenting on a thread that hasnt been active since 2012. |
| I had a few friends back in high school, but they all moved away to find work. I now only have one friend left. We meet up once every couple of months to play some games. |
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| "Aurora, what is a home?" "A place where you truly grown." -Child of Light |
| 2 good friends and no more. |
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| Havnt had a good experience with "Friends" so Nah Aint got many. only like 3 or 4. Fuck the world man! |
| My Manga List My Anime List Shabada shabadabadaba I am DjG545 aka Dj Fo Fo aka The Mutha Fkn Name I'm Usin Now |
| Me and my closest friends are pretty far away from eachother right now. I don't have true friends close by. I have a couple I go to coffee with and the others only want to hang-out when it's to party. |
There's no such thing as a painless lesson. They just don't exist. Sacrifices are necessary. You can't gain anything without losing something first. Although if you can endure that pain and walk away from it, you'll find that you now have a heart strong enough to overcome any obstacle. Yeah, a heart made fullmetal. - Fullmetal Alchemist |
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Sol_Ou said: I havent made a single friend since I started uni. And I dont keep in contact with any of my old friends. At most its like a text every 5 months. I enjoy my "alone" time but its really getting hard seeing other people have fun and converse so I've resorted to talking on the internet. Yes that is the only reason I am commenting on a thread that hasnt been active since 2012. Sorry to hear that. Let's chat haha. Yakuzaa said: Me and my closest friends are pretty far away from eachother right now. I don't have true friends close by. I have a couple I go to coffee with and the others only want to hang-out when it's to party. Exactly my situation atm fml. But I do not have people to have a coffee most of them -since they are from work- just wanna party and get drunk. I do like parties, don't get me wrong, but sometimes I prefer to be sober and have some more interesting conversations. Oh well, life. |
| I had a lot of friends but my girlfriend wasn't comfortable with me talking to them much so I gradually stopped talking to them to avoid a fight (most were girls) we broke up months ago and I missed the date for my 2nd year enrolment at uni so now I'm all alone... But I've actually never been happier, the only friends I have I can shut up by turning off my phone or not opening kik or logging into forums/chats for a week and I do whatever I want without having to think about anyone else if I dont want to. To my surprise not getting laid suddenly after so many years of... nevermind thats tmi but the point is I have no IRL friends atm and I'm surprisingly happier than when I had a lot or was in an obsessive relationship. |
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| In truth we are all alone, there are no such things as relationships of any nature you are your only friend. |
| ~Hime Hime~ |
| What is a friend, it sounds useless. I have my computer and my cellphone, they keep me happy. Wait, I can't forget my bed, we spend all our time together <3 #besties. |
| I am definitely on the side of having only a few friends. But in situations like these, I like to think that quality is better than quantity by a big margin. Being a first year at a new school, making new friends was harder than expected. Since no one talks during a lecture making the time before a lecture or outside the class the only option. I find myself being closer to my old friends and acquaintances that are going to my school. The classrooms being really big just makes it harder as I wouldn't know the name of a single person. |
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| I guess I don't have that many friends since I'm really shy and quiet, but I'm happy with what I have. c: |
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SparkleBunnies said: I guess I don't have that many friends since I'm really shy and quiet, but I'm happy with what I have. c: One of my problems with friends if that they are ALWAYS loud and obnoxious, I need to try finding shy and quiet friends. That way I will have my peace and quiet but not feel lonely? On second thought that'd be pretty weird if its a dude... and awkard if its a female... shit nevermind Ill stay alone!! D: |
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Democracy said: I like that it's easy to talk to loud people, but I like my quiet friends just as much. cc:SparkleBunnies said: One of my problems with friends if that they are ALWAYS loud and obnoxious, I need to try finding shy and quiet friends. That way I will have my peace and quiet but not feel lonely? On second thought that'd be pretty weird if its a dude... and awkard if its a female... shit nevermind Ill stay alone!! D:I guess I don't have that many friends since I'm really shy and quiet, but I'm happy with what I have. c: Aww, good luck. You can do it if you at least try. *^* |
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SparkleBunnies said: Democracy said: I like that it's easy to talk to loud people, but I like my quiet friends just as much. cc:One of my problems with friends if that they are ALWAYS loud and obnoxious, I need to try finding shy and quiet friends. That way I will have my peace and quiet but not feel lonely? On second thought that'd be pretty weird if its a dude... and awkard if its a female... shit nevermind Ill stay alone!! D: Aww, good luck. You can do it if you at least try. *^* Oh I have no problem at ALL making friends xD the problem is I just get annoyed when they done leave me alone xD |
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Democracy said: Oh you're still here.SparkleBunnies said: Oh I have no problem at ALL making friends xD the problem is I just get annoyed when they done leave me alone xDI like that it's easy to talk to loud people, but I like my quiet friends just as much. cc: Aww, good luck. You can do it if you at least try. *^* Lol I see, that doesn't sound like the worst problem to me. xD But GL anyway. c; |
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Steezus said: In truth we are all alone, there are no such things as relationships of any nature you are your only friend. Deep I have a ton of acquaintances, but not much friends to hang out with really.. I honestly only think one of my friends only hang out with me just because he wants me to play in his band :/ Besides that one guy.. Don't hang out with anyone else.. maybe a neighbor once every 2 months or something. I usually just stick with music and watch some stuff to pass some time unless I got some stuff to do. Oh the great senior life.. So boring. This is just making me realize how much shit I don't do and how pathetic I am living damn. Oh well. |
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| I always feel friendless tbh But that's good. I can watch my animu with peace and quiet. I still talk to my high school buddies though. They're great. |
| no never had very many friends in the first place |
| RRRRRRRRRR |
| I don't even have friends. |
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| Ever since i became a hikikimori, i don't have any friends, got to say, most of the time it feels good, but sometimes this painful agony just swallows you and u feel hopeless :/ I had some friends when i had a life though, normal friends, not into anime, with an exception of 2 or 3, but they were also normal. |
FragOutFire said: Why am I a Berserk fan? All I ever experience is pain. We are in the eclipse and Miura has sacrificed us |
mayukachan said: But that's good. I can watch my animu with peace and quiet. True, but there comes a time when you want something else.. Even if I love anime I do need a break sometimes, too much is too much -.- Generally few friends are better it seems. Now I can feel less weird when I hear others going on about their SOO BIG groups of friends. |
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