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Is it wrong for a man in his late 20's to date a 16 year old?

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Feb 20, 2022 4:32 PM
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Like others have said, follow the law of the land first; and then if that checks out, then it is up to both parties involved.

It's difficult to gauge the maturity gap between you and her, but considering that you're about at the age where you would have finished college already and found work and she hasn't yet graduated primary school... then this will get a bit tricky to navigate this relationship.

For one, she's shown initiative by working at her age - where other kids would still be begging their parents for some spending money. However, she hasn't experienced a true career and she hasn't yet revealed any details about her ambitions and expectations.

You're really shooting in the dark when it comes to seeing whether or not you'd match or not. It's common to see men being older than their SO's.. but I mostly see these cases when we're talking about late-age adults. Something like a successful male at their 40's to 50's marrying or being with a girl that's like up to 15yrs younger.

It's a weird situation, but the age gap becomes less of a big deal the older both parties get...but when you're in your teens and the other side is in their 20's or 30's, the "maturity gap" is much bigger.

It's like the idea that most people reach full mental maturity after their 20's, so the age gap between 2 people anywhere's after the 20's is no big deal.

Personally, I don't see anything wrong with relationships where there is a bigger age gap AS LONG AS it is:
1) Legal in the place you live
2) Both sides agree to it
3) Nobody is using the other for one-sided gains
Feb 20, 2022 4:40 PM

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Age of consent should've be 23 in the first place.
Feb 20, 2022 4:44 PM
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I follow the "half your age plus 7" mindset and since the lowest a 20-something can go is 17 following that rule, it's gonna be a "no go" from me, dawg.
Feb 20, 2022 4:46 PM

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I think someone who's 20 should stay the fuck away from high schoolers much less someone in their late 20s jesus
Feb 20, 2022 4:56 PM
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^best response, a simple yes. I do believe it’s wrong.
Feb 20, 2022 5:01 PM
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LadyOfTheLeaves said:
I follow the "half your age plus 7" mindset and since the lowest a 20-something can go is 17 following that rule, it's gonna be a "no go" from me, dawg.


I like this equation...it's straight-forward and the numbers are acceptable lol
Feb 20, 2022 10:39 PM

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she's 21 now. you can get laid by her legally
Feb 20, 2022 11:33 PM
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Yes. End of discussion


There's never a time where that should be allowed




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Feb 21, 2022 12:16 AM
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It would be considered legal in most countries I've been to, so go ahead. Besides, she's already 21 anyway.
Feb 21, 2022 12:34 AM

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I wonder what's OP doing now. Would his relationship work fine?
Feb 21, 2022 12:53 AM

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Definitely not wrong based on age.

Whether it's the correct decision or not for you and/or her comes down to a range of personal factors, but the age disparity is immaterial. People should never submit to just being a slave to their biological age or falsely imagining that your specific numerical age or even general age bracket and generation defines your interests, lifestyle, values, priorities, experience, or anything else. It definitely does not. It's a generalization and generalizations, similar to stereotypes, usually arise from some form of truth of observable trend rooted in a material circumstance, but that only means they apply to the majority or to a large group. It doesn't mean they apply to the minority in every single group which has always existed since the dawn of time and will until the end of time.

Such broad rules should never be imposed restricting relations based on age like that. The only cases where it makes justifiable practical sense is in cases of pedophilia/pre-pubescent children because any sexual relationship during this time could interfere with the healthy sexual development and maturation of a child (and then this is also compounded by intense societal stigma) and cause physical injury and harm, but it's all puritanical white noise hand-wringing when it comes to post-pubescent sexually developed humans and completely arbitrary. The typical popular and currently ascendant Anglo-American WASP Puritan/Victorian view on this is such pure and utter disposable rubbish and nonsense to me, always has been, and always will be. It's completely out of line with both history and biology and is an unscientific, ahistorical ideological experiment which probably will prove a blip on the radar of recorded human history. Those alive in the time of its hegemony should be able to look outside the collective mental prism of their own era, recognize that, and not kowtow to it.

Don't be a wind-up toy, take your diktats from biological age and allow it to inform how you choose to live your life the way some folks do, anymore than being a male or female or being of a certain race, ethnicity, or nationality/citizenship has to control and govern your life and inform all your choices, preferences, and daily lifestyle and activities. There's already more than enough people around to do that (and there always will be) and let such herd mentality/groupthink, tribalism, and artificial segregation run their entire lives like a programmed script fed to them like data into a computer.

There's already too much both ageism and age-related segregation across different societies. Within reason and accounting for each individual situation and its plethora of all possible nuances, age shouldn't have any relevance in determining the nature of people's familial relations, platonic relations, romantic relations, or sexual relations.
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Depending on the age of consent in the region, it may not technically be illegal, but it would sure raise a lot of questions.
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Feb 21, 2022 4:23 AM

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It's fine, as long as you don't bang her. I mean her parents wouldn't give a flying fuck if she was dating a guy her own age. If you "love" eachother enough (cringe worthy) to wait, for her to turn 18. Or help each other masturbate if you need some sexual release.

It's the penetration that gets people in trouble after all.
Feb 21, 2022 4:36 AM

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MeanMrMusician said:
Depending on the age of consent in the region, it may not technically be illegal, but it would sure raise a lot of questions.

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Feb 21, 2022 5:03 AM
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Not my problem so no, not wrong. But wtf you want a high school student? You are gonna have nothing in common. Pump and dump makes more sense then dating.
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Feb 21, 2022 9:45 AM

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I'm surprised that teenage girls have a thing for older guys apart from teachers.

If a teenage girl is that clingy, then deal with clingy people like the pros do. Find a way to make her scram to save you any embarrassment or trouble.

I would never hit on teenage girls, because I'm not into kids. I don't even like Kagome Higurashi or her teen girl mentality.
Feb 21, 2022 9:57 AM

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Anyone who wants to date a teenager is mentally ill (including other teenagers).

Like why on earth would you want to spend time with a teenager
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