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Dec 29, 2020 7:45 AM
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People need to be more direct and blunt towards issues cause being kind does not help.
Most people that are kind are like that only because they care about their own image
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Dec 29, 2020 7:50 AM
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I definitely agree, though I try to be nice to people unless they do something wrong, then I think it's fine to be blunt. Being kind works in most situations but not in all, being blunt can also be a form of kindness
Dec 29, 2020 7:54 AM
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I mean...sometimes being kind helps. Whether it's the optimal solution depends on the situation.
Dec 29, 2020 7:56 AM
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That's true, but personally, I already have a lot of negative feelings, so I'd prefer it if people weren't blunt with me. I just want them to be kind, even if they don't mean it, that's a much better way to keep my heart at peace.
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Dec 29, 2020 7:58 AM
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You are describing ENFJ anime characters like Akane from Kuzu no Honkai.

Manipulative seductresses are my favorite kind of characters.
Dec 29, 2020 8:02 AM
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Bruh stop watching Oregairu.



Being kind doesn't make you dishonest automatically.
People who uses MAL forums are mostly bug people, take their speech with a grain of salt.
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Dec 29, 2020 8:15 AM
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It really depends on the situation. Sometimes people do it to lighten the blow. Being blunt isnt always the way to go. I only do it if I'm close to the person otherwise I feel like an jerk lmao
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Dec 29, 2020 9:40 AM
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Nice/good people rarely get far in life.

I'm not saying one should be a dick....but going out of your way to be a good person will NOT get you anywhere most of the time.

Just be yourself.
Dec 29, 2020 9:46 AM
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2shizukasensei88 said:
Bruh stop watching Oregairu.



Being kind doesn't make you dishonest automatically.

YOOOOOOO the moment I saw this post I was like, OreGairu.




I said keep your hands on the table
Dec 29, 2020 9:50 AM

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2shizukasensei88 said:
Bruh stop watching Oregairu.



Being kind doesn't make you dishonest automatically.

LOL!

I dropped that shit after season 2's disaster of a season....it's sooo fucking stupid it hurts, and the fact so many people think it's a masterpiece is disturbing.

The ONLY good thing about Oregairu is the fucking doujins.

Top quality shit right there....but mostly cuz they got a really good artist pumping out material every Comiket.

That trap is also fucking DELICIOUS....too bad they gave him like 2 seconds of air time.
Dec 29, 2020 1:50 PM
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I feel like it depends on some situations.
Now generally for things to improve and change, being nice and kind and being more timid doesn't help. Sometimes things must be put openly and bluntly.

But if, for example, you're talking to someone who's going through a hard time, being kind can make their day just a bit better^^

Also phrasing things a bit more nicely or being careful with your words does not make you dishonest or fake. It makes you a decent human being who can read situations and act accordingly.
Dec 29, 2020 6:58 PM
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I'd agree with most people only being kind for their image. If nobody was watching I'm sure people would act differently in a lot of situations. I personally don't want any kindness if I feel like it's coming from a place of pity. Pity = cruelty. Or at least in my eyes it does.

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