| Hi guys, Short story: I was going home on my bus, the only person on my bus. There is a traffic jam and this guy waves at me from his car. I look at him twice thinking I didn't recognise him but in fact I didn't know him at all. He looked very nice and smiled and asked for my number. I said no and we kept smiling and looking at each other until my bus drove away. He waved as in bye bye and I did the same. Was quite sweet but felt a bit strange to give my number to someone I didn't know. What would you have done? Would you have given him the number ? |
| Sure, why not. I use Google Voice anyway, so if needed I can change my phone number at any time. I'm also a very open person though, I have no problems giving out pretty much any information besides things like social security number or credit card numbers. |
dperolioOct 9, 2014 11:47 AM
| seems like the worst thing that can happen is he stalks you. pretty random though, i might not have. |
| I CELEBRATE myself, And what I assume you shall assume, For every atom belonging to me as good belongs to you. |
Nobody should give there number to just someone in the street. In a club yeah that's different Give me your number *heavy breathing* |
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| generally i think good idea to see someone more than once before establishing communications. otherwise just enjoy a pleasent random encounter |
| I CELEBRATE myself, And what I assume you shall assume, For every atom belonging to me as good belongs to you. |
| That seems a little creepy tbh. I would feel bad if I later found out he is a nice person with no ill intentions. But I would not give my number to a stranger. |
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Kibura_Iburasa said: Nobody should give there number to just someone in the street. In a club yeah that's different Give me your number *heavy breathing* Haha you are funny. Hats off to you tehe. FatefulLove said: That seems a little creepy tbh. I would feel bad if I later found out he is a nice person with no ill intentions. But I would not give my number to a stranger. Exactly my afterwards thoughts. He was cute and seemed nice but as mots of you guys said a bit creepy. |
| Isn't that unfair to assume that every guy that shows some interest in you is a creep? Very unfair. Maybe you were a cute girl and he wanted to get to know you. |
| There are better ways of meeting someone, this wasn't one of them. It looks romantic, like something from a love novel, but in reality, he could of been a serial killer. I don't want MAL members to be stuffed in a bag and floating downstream river. : / OR He's probably watching porn and forgotten about you. |
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vansonbee said: There are better ways of meeting someone, this wasn't one of them. It looks romantic, like something from a love novel, but in reality, he could of been a serial killer. I don't want MAL members to be stuffed in a bag and floating downstream river. : / OR He's probably watching porn and forgotten about you. Again, that's unfair. When is the appropriate time to meet someone? In a club? That's stupid. You can meet someone anywhere. Just because they showed an interest doesn't mean they're a rapist or a serial killer. |
| My bad, I meant the situation was unusual/strange so kinda felt lost for words and did the safe situation. Dunno, i did give my number to a person before stranger again and then he kept texting and calling quite too often if you know what I mean. I guess that's why this time, I just wanted to keep it safe, I guess? |
Cause- said: vansonbee said: There are better ways of meeting someone, this wasn't one of them. It looks romantic, like something from a love novel, but in reality, he could of been a serial killer. I don't want MAL members to be stuffed in a bag and floating downstream river. : / OR He's probably watching porn and forgotten about you. Again, that's unfair. When is the appropriate time to meet someone? In a club? That's stupid. You can meet someone anywhere. Just because they showed an interest doesn't mean they're a rapist or a serial killer. Clubs, definitely not. Bad, bad idea. It does sound like a novel/movie situation. But I get what you mean Cause. Oh well, maybe we will run into each other in town again since it's quite a small one and it may be different. :) |
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Cause- said: Isn't that unfair to assume that every guy that shows some interest in you is a creep? Very unfair. Maybe you were a cute girl and he wanted to get to know you. Guy leans out of his car and asks for some girls number hes only thinking one thing: MMan this gurl is fit I wanna do things with her. Not like he knows her personality or anything so its gotta be a superficial sexual attraction. He wanted to bone you and hes over confident and arrogant to assume you will give it to him. |
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Kibura_Iburasa said: Guy leans out of his car and asks for some girls number hes only thinking one thing: MMan this gurl is fit I wanna do things with her. Not like he knows her personality or anything so its gotta be a superficial sexual attraction. He wanted to bone you. Welcome to the world. Attraction to anyone you first meet in reality is an underlying sexual desire. Men and women have this. It's still unfair. Would it more appropriate if the genders were switched? People will say yes. And that's not right. I'm just saying that not everyone who asks a girl for her number is a creep. Besides. It's your phone number. Not your bank account or address. If he ends up obsessively calling you, you can always block his number. |
| Jmmm that's hard.. I'm not a very tough looking guy (I have a picture of my face in my profile) but I see no problem with giving a random chick my number, Ive done it in college and never had any problems. But as a woman... jmm... idk I guess IF I was a woman I wouldnt give it to guys who look like they could knock me unconscious with 1 punch. If that makes any sense. |
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| As a guy who regularly does this, it's really 50/50. I guess i'm just a extroverted person, i have probably asked dozens of girls for their numbers just like that and the responses have been mixed with the majority saying no. I wouldn't call it 'dangerous', if you're a paranoid type person then you probably wouldn't but i have no issues with giving out my number..i can just block you after all, and who knows, you might meet someone interesting. But i agree with what someone above said, if he asked that purely based on just seeing you without ever talking to you, he wanted to bone you, plain and simple. Though you have to admit it is admirable that someone can just do that ^^ |
| I do admire his gesture indeed. He was cute, I give him that. But then again, I do like a bit o interaction just before exchanging numbers. :) He didn't look that bulky like someone mentioned above but he was fit. Democracy said: Jmmm that's hard.. I'm not a very tough looking guy (I have a picture of my face in my profile) but I see no problem with giving a random chick my number, Ive done it in college and never had any problems. But as a woman... jmm... idk I guess IF I was a woman I wouldnt give it to guys who look like they could knock me unconscious with 1 punch. If that makes any sense. Hmm, that..I have never thought about this way. Wouldn't any guy be able to knock a girl out muscles or not? Isn't it about where you punch rather than how hard? Oh well, just my opinion but I get what you are hinting towards. |
| Yeah if you're not looking for a one night stand or friends w/ benefits type thing then it's probably best to wait for someone to like you for you rather then like you for your body. |
| I gave my number to some random dude last weekend Don't blame me I was on drugs |
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| Yeah I could have worded it better, but I was thinking how you can pretty much tell who looks threatening or not(in person). Altho that could be a problem if you're attracted toward 6'4 guys with muscles and you're 5'2 lol. But as a guy I can tell who could kick my ass if I didn't get the first hit in so I was thinking something among those lines and some people you can tell at a glance don't handle rejection that well. |
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| Depends how good they look. euphoriia said: I wouldn't call it 'dangerous', if you're a paranoid type person then you probably wouldn't but i have no issues with giving out my number..i can just block you after all |
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pauperunit said: I gave my number to some random dude last weekend Don't blame me I was on drugs That was a lamp post man. |
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| I only give my number to students for study group and homework reasons. |
pauperunit said: I gave my number to some random dude last weekend Don't blame me I was on drugs Ha I guess it can be overlooked. Kibura_Iburasa said: pauperunit said: I gave my number to some random dude last weekend Don't blame me I was on drugs That was a lamp post man. I actually laughed, good one. |
| If you can acknowledge the fact that the guy wants to get in your pants, sure you can give him your number. Otherwise, why would you? Anyway, I'm not looking to get involved with random strangers. There's no reason to get involved with a random person over someone you have the choice of interacting with (based on your hobbies, interests, values, etc). If you're not selective with who you interact with, you might end up wasting a lot of time or being influenced in ways you may not be comfortable with. Ultimately it just comes down to knowing yourself and your wants. |
| Seems like there's a lot of "Oh hell no!" and "He's just trying to get into your pants." views here. I think that's a bit silly to judge just because someone is asking for your number. Ultimately, you're your own person and you have to be responsible for your own choices and actions. That guy/girl that asked for your number is not getting into your pants unless you let them/want them to. As for the "omg he/she could be rapist serial killer godzilla!1!"... I don't even know how to reply to this. Are you really that paranoid? Don't go around people at all then. There's about a 0.0000001% chance that someone you give your number to is a serial killer. Hell, your own parents could be serial killing rapists for all you know. Or your best friend. I think that's just a ridiculous argument to make. I would have no problem giving a girl (or guy--- I'm straight though) my number. We can text and get to know each other, become friends, maybe something more, who knows. If she ends up not being the kind of person you want to talk to, tell her, or just be avoidant and block her number. Whatever floats your boat. I don't see any problems from just giving someone your number though. It's not like a phone number is a super secret thing or inscripted onto your body--- they're easily changed and you can easily block anyone. In the end, only you can decide who you want to talk to. Of course, the other person has that choice as well, so if they choose to block you instead, well time to move on. Btw, if anyone wants to text me, feel free: (920) 624-2637 :p |
dperolioOct 9, 2014 12:54 PM
Kibura_Iburasa said: pauperunit said: I gave my number to some random dude last weekend Don't blame me I was on drugs That was a lamp post man. Never met such a friendly lamp post though |
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| Lol what. Nay |
| My cellphone is always out of battery so it doesn't really matter.. |
[i]"Yet each man kills the thing he loves, [/i]By each let this be heard, Some do it with a bitter look, Some with a flattering word, The coward does it with a kiss, The brave man with a sword!'' ~Oscar |
| I wouldn't be comfortable with it. I'd like to have a conversation or two with the person first. |
| I just changed my mind because of a flashback I just had, there is NOTHING more frustrating than having a REALLY good conversation(flirting in my case) only have have it abruptly end because the person arrived at their destination and there was 0 time to exchange numbers. Yes its possible to look someone up on facebook but what if there are 27637 people with the same name and last name???? I say YAY! Give the person your number, if he/she is annoying block them! And if they notice and have their friends call you as a prank... who cares? your phone will be ringing 5-7 times a day because of it and people will be impressed as to how popular you are. |
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dperolio said: I would have no problem giving a girl (or guy--- I'm straight though) my number. We can text and get to know each other, become friends, maybe something more, who knows. If she ends up not being the kind of person you want to talk to, tell her, or just be avoidant and block her number. Yeah thats true but it always pays to be more protective of your contact details now a days. Stalker and stealing photos from phones and things like that are on the rise and just giving someone your number just because they ask for it shows you are easy, I mean hell make them work for that number, make em talk to you for a few minutes atleast so you know what kind of person they are. They may look good but could be rotten or kidnap you for sex trade when you meet up again kind of person. pauperunit said: Kibura_Iburasa said: That was a lamp post man. Never met such a friendly lamp post though I'm not surprised I bet he was Tall, slim and bright too :P |
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| You can't get to know someone from a few minutes of talking though. Hell, you might not get to know someone after 40 years of talking. Some (a lot) of people are just really good liars and deceivers, at least from what I've seen. It's sad, but that's the world we live in. In the end, you can't trust anyone. Well, of course you can and will, but there's no guarantee they aren't putting on a facade. |
| Why not, I don't really have much to lose. |
 "Everything you see on the internet isn't true." -Abraham Lincoln |
Kibura_Iburasa said: Yeah thats true but it always pays to be more protective of your contact details now a days. Stalker and stealing photos from phones and things like that are on the rise and just giving someone your number just because they ask for it shows you are easy, I mean hell make them work for that number, make em talk to you for a few minutes atleast so you know what kind of person they are. They may look good but could be rotten or kidnap you for sex trade when you meet up again kind of person. That kind of argument is like saying "Why should I go outside? I might get hit by a car and die!". "Why should I eat, I might choke!". |
dperolio said: You can't get to know someone from a few minutes of talking though. Hell, you might not get to know someone after 40 years of talking. Some (a lot) of people are just really good liars and deceivers, at least from what I've seen. It's sad, but that's the world we live in. In the end, you can't trust anyone. Well, of course you can and will, but there's no guarantee they aren't putting on a facade. Yeah but its the principle of it still. Its easy to ask someone for their number straight away but they should have to work for it. You wouldn't just go home with a guy in a club if he comes up to you and asks "Hey come back to mine?" I'd be like "Pshh if that's all the effort you're willing to put in to get me you can go fu- yourself" Guy buys you a small drink, gets talking, little flirting, little laughing then yeah sure have my number. |
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Cause- said: That kind of argument is like saying "Why should I go outside? I might get hit by a car and die!". "Why should I eat, I might choke!". Difference is you need to do both those things in life whilst you can get by without ever just handing out a phone number to a guy hitting on you in the street, as there are other ways of getting dates. Its just a personal preference, its the only comment a person can have on such things like this, a personal one. There is no universal laws on such things. I'm a paranoid, people hater so that's how I roll. Everyone's an asshole till proven innocent. |
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evelyness said: He looked very nice and smiled and asked for my number. I said no and we kept smiling and looking at each other until my bus drove away. He waved as in bye bye and I did the same. [...] What would you have done? Would you have given him the number ? Probably the same, because it seems to be the most polite way to reject him. While I've never had a problem sharing my number with colleagues, total strangers are another matter altogether, so I'm also very reluctant to give my number to anyone, regardless of how attractive they appear to me. Yes, you can block and/or change your number, but the latter also goes for the caller and potentially blocking every unknown number or changing your own number is linked with having some trouble as opposed to flatly refuse the request. A similar thing happened to me a few days ago: there was one decently looking girl (not really like a model, but still attractive enough) coming very close to me to talk about some career info event by a partner program of my university or something. I didn't pay that much attention on the actual discussion, because I found the situation to be that surprising, so during answering her questions whether I would have heard about it and so on, I had been pondering about how close people really come when talking face-to-face and whether those few centimeters or "kissing distance" are apparently still considered "normal" for my country, so my focus had been on trying to stay calm. At one point of the discussion, she wanted to note my name and my number, because apparently she or someone else would call me for an appointment about this career info. After a very short consideration and because I didn't want to let my Döner Kebab become cold, I decided to use the most basic, polite rejection term "I'll think about it! Bye!" and went my way... I'm not really refusing to share my number along with my name to some stranger, but the circumstances have to be right and it's better when you are not pressed for time or because you're about to eat a warm takeout. |
| No, I wouldn't have given him my number either. Guys who asks random persons for their number usually only thinking about sex and are not serious about relationships. |
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GreyKitty said: No, I wouldn't have given him my number either. Guys who asks random persons for their number usually only thinking about sex and are not serious about relationships. That's not really fair, true the guy is obviously attracted and his end game would be to have sex but that doesn't mean he's not willing to take you our for a few weeks/months depending on how you roll before it. |
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Democracy said: GreyKitty said: No, I wouldn't have given him my number either. Guys who asks random persons for their number usually only thinking about sex and are not serious about relationships. That's not really fair, true the guy is obviously attracted and his end game would be to have sex but that doesn't mean he's not willing to take you our for a few weeks/months depending on how you roll before it. Few weeks/months is exactly what we are looking for... |
one day I'll be a champion at shitposting! |
GreyKitty said: Democracy said: That's not really fair, true the guy is obviously attracted and his end game would be to have sex but that doesn't mean he's not willing to take you our for a few weeks/months depending on how you roll before it. Few weeks/months is exactly what we are looking for... Oh lol I just realized... I meant continuing the relationships AFTER getting laid. But damn it you made me look like an douche!! >_< "I bringa shame to my famiry!" *seppuku* |
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