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Oct 26, 2013 2:36 PM
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Hey guys

So, I'll try not to talk too much about her since, once I get started on her, I'm rarely able to stop XD

There's this girl at school that I've had feelings for for a while now. She's from Taiwan and doesn't speak a lick of English, but she certainly knows the language of my heart, and she knows it well. She just gets me, understands my angst, and I've seen her skating at the local skate park so that's pretty cool. Skating is pretty cool. I also know for a fact she smokes weed (Fuck yeah)

Anyway, I thought my love was unrequited for a while. She never responded to my facebook messages despite the fact that I could tell she read them, thanks to that read function they added a while back. But then the other day something happened, she sat down next to me on the bus. To be fair there were no other seats open, but my seat is usually always unoccupied, the other kids just stand instead of sit next to me (possibly due to my heinous odor).

With my spirits high, that day at recess I asked her if she wanted to play and pretend that we were young aspiring ninjas about to take the Chuunin exam. You guessed it, she didn't say a word and just walked away. My pretend ninja is a chuunin now, though.

So on to the topic point, have any of you guys ever been sent mixed messages like that? Have you ever intentionally or unintentionally sent mixed messages to someone? Share your experiences

Oct 26, 2013 2:38 PM
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I don't like your new avatar Okazaki

On Topic: I laughed a bit but your threads are gradually getting worse
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Oct 26, 2013 2:41 PM
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Meh. I liked your old avatar.

OT: You have a clear logic break in saying she doesn't know English, but read your Facebook messages. It's not even a funny logic break either. Needs work.
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Oct 26, 2013 2:45 PM
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Okazaki93 said:
She's from Taiwan and doesn't speak a lick of English, but she certainly knows the language of my heart, and she knows it well.
ahahah

give her the D
Oct 26, 2013 2:53 PM
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Okazaki93 said:
Hey guys

So, I'll try not to talk too much about her since, once I get started on her, I'm rarely able to stop XD

There's this girl at school that I've had feelings for for a while now. She's from Taiwan and doesn't speak a lick of English, but she certainly knows the language of my heart, and she knows it well. She just gets me, understands my angst, and I've seen her skating at the local skate park so that's pretty cool. Skating is pretty cool. I also know for a fact she smokes weed (Fuck yeah)

Anyway, I thought my love was unrequited for a while. She never responded to my facebook messages despite the fact that I could tell she read them, thanks to that read function they added a while back. But then the other day something happened, she sat down next to me on the bus. To be fair there were no other seats open, but my seat is usually always unoccupied, the other kids just stand instead of sit next to me (possibly due to my heinous odor).

With my spirits high, that day at recess I asked her if she wanted to play and pretend that we were young aspiring ninjas about to take the Chuunin exam. You guessed it, she didn't say a word and just walked away. My pretend ninja is a chuunin now, though.

So on to the topic point, have any of you guys ever been sent mixed messages like that? Have you ever intentionally or unintentionally sent mixed messages to someone? Share your experiences



Hold the phone, exchange students have to pass an English proficiency exam with a certain score, how can she study in the US with no English speaking skill, are you sure she doesn't speak English or is it what I think and she doesn't want to speak English.


Oct 26, 2013 2:56 PM
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Nope, I'm not bold enough.
Oct 26, 2013 2:58 PM
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I question the authenticity of this story...
Oct 26, 2013 3:02 PM
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She's just playing tsundere. Ask her to marry you OP. If she is willing to sit through your heinous odor, it means she loves you. Best of luck
Oct 26, 2013 3:05 PM
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She's just playing tsundere. Ask her to marry you OP. If she is willing to sit through your heinous odor, it means she loves you. Best of luck


If she's playing tsundere, it's not a good thing, I watched the horror stories on youtube.


Oct 26, 2013 3:12 PM

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Oct 26, 2013 3:51 PM

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Maor said:
I question the authenticity of this story...
I don't. I know it's not.
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Oct 26, 2013 3:52 PM

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Nah, those that know me could tell you that I would never be able to tell if someone was sending me any kind of signals, I'm just ignorant like that (as in, I litterally tend to ignore people around me most of the time).

If someone likes me, they tell me because most know that unless they confront me, we would never get anywhere.
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Oct 26, 2013 4:08 PM

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no one have ever sen me anything like that so if i ever got one i would just throw it away
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Oct 26, 2013 4:09 PM

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no one have ever sen me anything like that so if i ever got one i would just throw it away
You must have superhuman strength to throw girls away.
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Oct 26, 2013 4:14 PM

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lol
Oct 26, 2013 5:07 PM

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beavis2323 said:
no one have ever sen me anything like that so if i ever got one i would just throw it away
You must have superhuman strength to throw girls away.

Not really, I don't have superhuman strength and I can throw people away.
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Oct 26, 2013 8:29 PM

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elite-sama said:
beavis2323 said:
no one have ever sen me anything like that so if i ever got one i would just throw it away
You must have superhuman strength to throw girls away.

no it just that i lack empathy and i can throw people away without feeling emotion
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Oct 26, 2013 8:32 PM

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My pretend ninja is a chuunin now, though.

Congratulations.
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Oct 26, 2013 9:10 PM

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ask her for a date..
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Oct 26, 2013 9:11 PM

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Oct 26, 2013 9:42 PM

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Okazaki93 said:
She's from Taiwan and doesn't speak a lick of English, but she certainly knows the language of my heart, and she knows it well.
ahahah

give her the D


I wish it were that simple
Oct 26, 2013 9:52 PM
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ask her for a date..
Oct 26, 2013 10:25 PM

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I'm so sorry all I got out of this is that Bugs Bunny has been taking drugs lately.
Oct 26, 2013 10:37 PM

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I love u Okazaki
Oct 27, 2013 1:46 AM

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Something like that happened to me, but all I did was asking her for naked pics and money by Paypal, then I forgot about her LOL
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Oct 27, 2013 7:17 PM

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Something like that happened to me, but all I did was asking her for naked pics and money by Paypal, then I forgot about her LOL


Whoa man, that's pretty messed up
Oct 27, 2013 9:30 PM
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If a girl sends you mixed messages, assume that she wants your dick and act like a man. A female will not hesitate to let you know she doesn't want you if she truly doesn't. So forget about "mixed signals".
Oct 27, 2013 11:46 PM

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I've sent mixed messages like that and have sent it a lot but it shouldn't be read imo. Just ask her if she likes your or something. If she says yes, congratz. However, if she says no, go take a rope and force her into your house.
Oct 27, 2013 11:57 PM

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It's a tough call. If the girl is a bit shy/reserved this may be a good sign. If she's more outgoing and unafraid of rejection, it's probably a bad sign.

It's all about playing the field you're on.
Oct 28, 2013 12:02 AM

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Okazaki93 said:
Sourire said:
Okazaki93 said:
She's from Taiwan and doesn't speak a lick of English, but she certainly knows the language of my heart, and she knows it well.
ahahah

give her the D


I wish it were that simple

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Oct 28, 2013 12:03 AM

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5/10 Okazaki you can do better than this go back to your old avatar

Yeah it happens all the time to me. In my first two years of high school girls I liked acted like they're not interested, then when I gave up (not a lot of confidence) they would suddenly be interested and I'd be like "Well you're too late I've already moved on".
Recently at my work a lot of girls have been flirting with me...I think it's the new hair style or maybe the beard....
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Oct 28, 2013 1:24 AM

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6/10

I expected more from you OP. Oh, and your older avatar was much better btw.
Oct 28, 2013 1:38 AM

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ok okazaki bbs i got this
she probably speaks chinese too so ill teach you what i know

go get em
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Oct 28, 2013 3:17 AM

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I want to hear more about her.
Oct 28, 2013 8:45 AM

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To answer your inquiries in the corresponding order: Yes, I hope not and I think not*.

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Oct 28, 2013 8:46 AM

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School.
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Oct 28, 2013 9:21 AM

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If it goes up it goes in. BOOM!
Oct 28, 2013 10:09 AM

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am i the only one who thinks that this doesn't even qualify as being mixed messages?
sorry bud!

my avatar? 10/10 :D
Oct 28, 2013 12:25 PM

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What I am about to say is completely unrelated to anyone, I apologise for derailing briefly, but it has relevance to the topic.

If there was such an individual who spent some considerable time coming up with the scenarios that an all round failure at life would experience (such as the sort you might imagine a young teenager doing if they were incredibly retarded and had no social skills) in order to try and cause some sort of reaction from other people within a medium that allowed mass communication with other anonymous people, then I would suggest that such a person is actually far closer to this truth than they would like to believe.

I would say that a person like this (let's call them Bob) is actually in rather dire need of attention due to fulfilling life in which they are ignored. Although they find some solace in making attention for themselves in an anonymous form that will not change the fact that in real life they still lack social skills (though luckily not to the extent they claim to), they probably aren't very confident in themselves or their looks, arguably for good reason, but they know at the very least they aren't the worst they could be, and as such by comparing themselves with this fictional version of themselves which has all their problems but to a much extremer degree they can pretend that they aren't that bad off. In the end though, I think they should realise that such a facade will only last for so long.

This is relevant because in this hypothetical medium of mass communication from which they can remain anonymous, Bob can attract attention to themselves. However this attention is full of mixed messages, mostly in the form of responses that acknowledge the effort even if they are mostly antagonistic. This form of mixed message may even lead someone to think that they were appreciated. So Bob may feel that people like him a lot more than in reality, and he may even have the futile thought that people will actually remember him if he were to disappear.
So here's me testing the waters as to what constitutes and insult.

Mixed messages are dangerous.
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Just tell her how much you love chinese cartoons and see how she will fall for you in a second.
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Oct 28, 2013 2:57 PM

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What I am about to say is completely unrelated to anyone, I apologise for derailing briefly, but it has relevance to the topic.

If there was such an individual who spent some considerable time coming up with the scenarios that an all round failure at life would experience (such as the sort you might imagine a young teenager doing if they were incredibly retarded and had no social skills) in order to try and cause some sort of reaction from other people within a medium that allowed mass communication with other anonymous people, then I would suggest that such a person is actually far closer to this truth than they would like to believe.

I would say that a person like this (let's call them Bob) is actually in rather dire need of attention due to fulfilling life in which they are ignored. Although they find some solace in making attention for themselves in an anonymous form that will not change the fact that in real life they still lack social skills (though luckily not to the extent they claim to), they probably aren't very confident in themselves or their looks, arguably for good reason, but they know at the very least they aren't the worst they could be, and as such by comparing themselves with this fictional version of themselves which has all their problems but to a much extremer degree they can pretend that they aren't that bad off. In the end though, I think they should realise that such a facade will only last for so long.

This is relevant because in this hypothetical medium of mass communication from which they can remain anonymous, Bob can attract attention to themselves. However this attention is full of mixed messages, mostly in the form of responses that acknowledge the effort even if they are mostly antagonistic. This form of mixed message may even lead someone to think that they were appreciated. So Bob may feel that people like him a lot more than in reality, and he may even have the futile thought that people will actually remember him if he were to disappear.
So here's me testing the waters as to what constitutes and insult.

Mixed messages are dangerous.

Very true. A lot of this also has to do with self-disclosure. People like to regulate what information they give about themselves to control others perceptions of them (forgive my pseudo-intellectualness for a moment) so that they can create a certain image. This is extremely apparent when dealing with people on the internet. You can use this image or create stories to get certain responses from people (be it empathy, sympathy, etc.) in order to create self-satisfaction and gain recognition from strangers that people in real life who know you or the whole story my not otherwise give. Your (referring to "Bob" in the above post from now on) self-serving bias also makes you want to do this since in your eyes you are usually misunderstood by those who meet you or people in real life never get the chance to know the real you and therefore make negative opinions of you which causes you to run to the internet where you can remain anonymous and control your image and what others know about you.
Oct 28, 2013 7:41 PM

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5/10 Okazaki you can do better than this go back to your old avatar

Yeah it happens all the time to me. In my first two years of high school girls I liked acted like they're not interested, then when I gave up (not a lot of confidence) they would suddenly be interested and I'd be like "Well you're too late I've already moved on".
Recently at my work a lot of girls have been flirting with me...I think it's the new hair style or maybe the beard....


It's most definitely the beard. Shoot I have been trying to grow mine since I had a mustache.
Oct 28, 2013 9:54 PM

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3/10, that was a shitty fake story and you know it. (EDIT: if the story was actually true, which I doubt, then ask her about it. Don't be passive, you won't be able to tango with her if you don't say anything.)
8/10 for the ninja part at the end though, congrats for your ninja becoming a chuunin.
Onto the mixed messages part, I've never been in a situation where I felt like someone liked/may of had a crush on me in my entire life (besides this one kid that had a crush on me at the end of third grade and then hated me afterwards), so no stories from me.
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Fueille is a deconstruction of a decent human being.

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