| is attempting to socialize with other people similar to net fishing? you sort of cast your net out by attempting and putting out this “generalized” version of yourself. the fish that get caught in your net are the ones you are able to connect with on more than a superficial level. this superficial level i would consider to be situational relationships such as family (to a degree), coworkers, classmates, friends of friends; a robotic, scripted out version of you which includes politeness and not really delving into each other’s personalities. |
| Why generalize yourself? Being fake will only get fake in return. Unless obviously you are getting something out of it, like acting professional at work. |
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Alpha_Tranny said: by generalizing, i get the feeling that people are more likely to be receptive of me. that’s how it works though right? a generalized personality acts like a shotgun aimed at a target. if i were my actual self, my real self is reticent by nature. i don’t like talking much.Why generalize yourself? Being fake will only get fake in return. Unless obviously you are getting something out of it, like acting professional at work. i do understand what you’re saying though. cut the bs and be yourself leads to genuine relationships. being genuine is good, it’s honest to be genuine. |
p0ckyy said: Alpha_Tranny said: by generalizing, i get the feeling that people are more likely to be receptive of me. that’s how it works though right? a generalized personality acts like a shotgun aimed at a target. if i were my actual self, my real self is reticent by nature. i don’t like talking much.Why generalize yourself? Being fake will only get fake in return. Unless obviously you are getting something out of it, like acting professional at work. i do understand what you’re saying though. cut the bs and be yourself leads to genuine relationships. being genuine is good, it’s honest to be genuine. I guess in your hypothetical case it works like giving people a "trial run" of your personality. I just have such a big personality I guess I can't do that, lol. I'm more the 100% be yourself kind of person. |
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Alpha_Tranny said: yee. hook, line, sinker. if i don’t get a bite, i simply move on.p0ckyy said: by generalizing, i get the feeling that people are more likely to be receptive of me. that’s how it works though right? a generalized personality acts like a shotgun aimed at a target. if i were my actual self, my real self is reticent by nature. i don’t like talking much. i do understand what you’re saying though. cut the bs and be yourself leads to genuine relationships. being genuine is good, it’s honest to be genuine. I guess in your hypothetical case it works like giving people a "trial run" of your personality. |
| You can socialize being just yourself... is what everyone would normally say. But do you guys ever know who your real self is or is it just me? I think your personality and traits are influenced by people around you so you can’t really be sure 100% which side of you is real. Who cares anyway! Make it fun! Change how you want to be seen by them often when you socialise... anticipate how they interact with you, find out what kind people you would prefer to socialise with. It’s fun to experience being different versions of yourself too :) |
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| I want to socialize in real life, but I have a phobia of young people, and when I see people in public who are my age or younger, I avoid them, because I assume that they are freaks. |
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Fauxgrandma said: Seiya said: I want to socialize in real life, but I have a phobia of young people, and when I see people in public who are my age or younger, I avoid them, because I assume that they are freaks. big mood. which is why I find myself talking to chatty grandmas instead I also have no problem socializing with older people, but for once, I'd like to make new friends who are around my age bracket, but I don't know how. |
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Fauxgrandma said: damn, are yall me? i find it easier to socialize with older folk too. i definitely feel that i need to be a certain way in order to fit in with people my age. older people are more accepting of me. that’s my perception, at least.Seiya said: I also have no problem socializing with older people, but for once, I'd like to make new friends who are around my age bracket, but I don't know how. exactly like in a way I like talking with old people they usually are very pleasant people and talk about interesting things and experiences and stuff but there is this general feeling that sometimes id like to hang out with people my age and feel young and do young people stuff and experience stuff myself but I also have totally forgotten how to act my age and I have no idea what people my age would normally talk about o_o |
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