Do you love yourself?

@Rally-

It makes sense, you love people who love you so indirectly you are loving yourself... I don't know if that made sense.

Can you live with yourself?
> No choice.

Do you like yourself?
> Sometimes.

Do you respect yourself?
> I don't think so.

Do you take care of your mental and physical health?
> I try, but apparently not well enough.

Do you love yourself?
> I am called to love all people, so I do try.

Are you really trying to change for the better?
> I thought so...

Ask me again when I'm manic.

@JaniSIr It doesn't make sense if you look at it in an emotional-relationship perspective.

To put it simply:

Person without self-love:
"Im never enough"
"I will never amount to anything"
"I'm a failure"
"Nobody loves me"
“I’ll never get better.”
“I’m so stupid for making mistakes.”
“No one would want to be around me.”

Person with self-love:
"I accept my flaws"
"I'm not perfect but I'm willing to improve"
“I’m not a failure; this is just part of the process.”
“Even if everyone is against me, I still have myself.”
“Not everyone will like me, and that’s okay.”
“I trust myself to figure things out.”

It means that you always have your back no matter what, and that you will never reject who you are.


Now here's where "Narcissism" comes into the picture.

A narcissist is a person without self-love, but they try to put up a facade to make it seem like they do. They can never seem to accept and be content with themselves so they try to boast about it everytime they can.

Just like how a coward tries to look confident, a narcissist tries to look self-loving.

@JaniSIr

Not everyone uses those exact words.

Those are just examples of the kinds of thoughts people might have. The core difference is whether your inner self tears you down or supports you.

This is also what people mean when they say “love yourself before you can love others.” If you know how to support and care for yourself, it means you’re not depending on others to fill the gaps you don’t give yourself.

Fair point- I explained it like it was something everyone automatically understands, but it’s not.

The way I see it, everyone has an inner-self when things happen. Some people have it as a "voice" and some just "react" on it.

For example:
Someone criticizes your height, face, or weight.
You confess to someone and get rejected.
Your sibling gets praised while you don’t.
A friend forgets or takes too long to reply.
A close friend/family compares you to someone.

In these moments, do you think badly about yourself and react negatively, or do you brush it off, and keep a positive mindset?
That’s the difference I mean when I talk about self-love and your inner self.