| I don't know if I ever even "came out". I noticed I had developed an interest for both genders fairly early on into my life, and never really saw anything wrong with it. I've always been talking about stuff homophobes would be uncomfortable with, with my friends of the same gender, and it's just been like that - everyone's been cool with it, whether they've felt like I've been joking around or whether they've taken me seriously. (Of course, my important friends know about my sexual orientation anyway). As far as my relatives and parents are concerned - whether the former, as a larger group, know about my "normality" or lack thereof is unimportant, but I think I have told most who have asked. My mother has always been open-minded about stuff (she had some lesbian relationships in her early 20s, or so I heard) and I don't think she has ever cared much, though I did tell her that I'm attracted to both genders when I was like...16? My dad, though, got to know this on accident, when a random sexuality-related topic was being discussed at some person's 50-year birthday party, and I just "confessed" that I'm a bi, out of the blue. This was when I was 18, less than two years ago. Like I said, I don't consider myself abnormal, thus I don't need to go around saying I'm a bi-sexual. |
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| I was never "in" :-) I was always attracted to my own gender as far back as I can remember, though for me it was exclusive that I was gay, no desire to be bi... many of the ones I was around where I grew up were "either/or". It was just friendship plus more if you wanted it, or survival, a job...what you had to do. No parents or relatives, so there was no influence in that way. I attached to the man I am still with now very early so I have "always been". It was no matter for in or out, it simply was. And honestly I never thought about it one way or the other, because it is as natural to me as breathing. Still we are fortunate to live where we do nearby Berlin, Germany where what other people do sexuality is a matter of their own interpretation for most. In or out of the closet, ones I have known who've had a problem with (from my observation anyway) seemed to feel distress because of family or religious influence and pressure about their preference. Not always the case, but it really seemed to be majority in the small percentage of those I've met with difficulties. |
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| I live in a homophobic environment so coming-out is not an easy thing if you don't plan to sacrifice anything. My first coming-out was like year ago but it was a failure. That friend who knows that I'm lesbian has to tell me every time we meet that it would be better for me to be heterosexual. She doesn't want to listen to anything about it etc. Few other friends know about it too. They accepted it but I wouldn't say that it helped me in any way. They just stopped asking me whether I have a boyfriend. My parents, teachers, classmates - I can't tell them that I'm lesbian. They always criticize gays so I doubt that they would accept me. Oh well... |
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| To paraphrase something I read somewhere at some point - "You never finish 'coming out'." And, I agree. you never really do - their is always someone you aren't "out" to. Be it someone at work, school, home, etc. That being said, many of my close friends know I am gay. And were certain members of my family to ask, I would not hesitate to say it. Other people, I don't feel I should tell, even if asked about such. Overall, the only people I feel have to find out at some point are my parents and my partner. And my parents/immediate family will find out when I have said partner. As it is, I see no need to tell them. Really. |
| i was great at keeping the fact that im bi a secret and i was perfectly fine with it. no one i knew in real life knew my secret except for the few i was with. but my most recent relationship... my lover wasnt happy with keeping it a secret she would make sure her preference was obvious. her parents didnt know though. i told her it was to be a secret no matter what. she didn't listen. she told her sisters and people at school (she was the new kid who lived wif me becuz they lost their home) that she was with me. she blurted out that she was with me one day to her dad, who spazed and told my mother. my mother told every relative of me and i went through hell. after all that we broke up a while later becus we were tired of being harassed by are family. (^ -.-)^ |
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| I came out to my friends and classmates last year (I'm a bisexual guy). It's okay I guess, I do live in a homophobic environment, so it's "just don't talk about it and we're okay" reaction. :/ |
| Well, im neither 'in' nor am i 'out' i guess im inbetween. I came out to my little brother durring the spring (who not even five min earlier told me he was bi) then my best friend. After i told her well, she was the one who told every one of my friends for me. (Thanks Holly) Then later my parents went through my diary and found out (I hate 10 hour drives to nowhere talking about the future) needless to say WHEN i come out to them i WILL be kicked out. No exceptions. The rest who know would be my dads mom (And I will forever love you for accepting me grandma) and my friend who is now trying to cheer me up. (Love ya Zeba) My life here is crazy, but I wouldnt be the Fag I am today with out the crazy in it! ^_^ |
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| Officially? Last February. Mentally? Months beforehand. |
| i still dont know ! ^-^ |
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| uhm, so i'm new and didn't really know how to start with actually participating with the club..so I thought here would be a nice start (: I'm not really sure if I ever really progressed into "coming out" I just kinda was out? I officially talked with my mother about the situation at the age of 13 after an incident that happened at a birthday party sleepover.[ we played "house" ;) ] I thought it was "weird" that I was not really attracted to males and more so females in more than friendship way. My parents were really ok with it. Hell, our next door neighbors at the time, and my mothers best friends for a long time were lesbians. XD Once I got into high school my parents would playfully tease me all the time about my sexual orientation. I was rather open about it all throughout school. I would get very hot and in depth with debates in class over the Christian and/or biblical viewing of homosexuality scandals. :D My junior year of high school I got sent home for wearing a shirt that simply stated " I <3 girls".. of course my argument got shot down on how it should be allowed. Apparently wearing a shirt with a half naked girl sitting on a beer bottle is ok over that short sentence with no visual effects. |
| Wow Avian, that was a brave thing to do to wear that shirt :O if someone here did that then chances are they'd get severely beaten ;__; I came out to my closest friends this thursday in fact. Two of them said "I kinda knew already", and two of them took several hours to convince that I wasn't joking xD I don't plan on ever telling my parents or my siblings though. |
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Kuromii said: Wow Avian, that was a brave thing to do to wear that shirt :O if someone here did that then chances are they'd get severely beaten ;__; I came out to my closest friends this thursday in fact. Two of them said "I kinda knew already", and two of them took several hours to convince that I wasn't joking xD I don't plan on ever telling my parents or my siblings though. when some people found out I was like, "how did you already know!? 'o' i had no idea until a few months ago" lol apparently I was way too touching XD |
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| I guess you could say I "came out" when I confessed to my best friend when I was 15.. which was one of, if not the biggest mistake, of my life, ever. She had told me she felt the same, then called me the next day crying and saying we could never be together and that I was going to end up burning in hell... because she told her mother about it and she heavily opposed to it. Even some of the friends I told said they couldn't be friends with me anymore because it just wouldn't be the same.. overall a horrible experience so I guess you could say I "went back in" the closet after that and told everyone I was just confused. So next time I'm going to wait until I fall for a girl who won't make me feel like shit for being the way I am =) Until then I'll just stick with guys. |
Crycho said: I guess you could say I "came out" when I confessed to my best friend when I was 15.. which was one of, if not the biggest mistake, of my life, ever. She had told me she felt the same, then called me the next day crying and saying we could never be together and that I was going to end up burning in hell... because she told her mother about it and she heavily opposed to it. Even some of the friends I told said they couldn't be friends with me anymore because it just wouldn't be the same.. overall a horrible experience so I guess you could say I "went back in" the closet after that and told everyone I was just confused. So next time I'm going to wait until I fall for a girl who won't make me feel like shit for being the way I am =) Until then I'll just stick with guys. well that doesnt sound too fun. I dont get how you would look so different. your still the same person whether they know or not. (oh yeah im your stalker missy :3) I did that "went back into the closet" thing when it comes to my family but now when it comes to anything else, if it comes up, Im not afraid to hide it lol I have no friends though so I really dont have to worry. I have half naked chick posters and stuff so Im pretty sure my family knows now but decided its nothing to discuss. |
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Crycho said: I guess you could say I "came out" when I confessed to my best friend when I was 15.. which was one of, if not the biggest mistake, of my life, ever. She had told me she felt the same, then called me the next day crying and saying we could never be together and that I was going to end up burning in hell... because she told her mother about it and she heavily opposed to it. Even some of the friends I told said they couldn't be friends with me anymore because it just wouldn't be the same.. overall a horrible experience so I guess you could say I "went back in" the closet after that and told everyone I was just confused. So next time I'm going to wait until I fall for a girl who won't make me feel like shit for being the way I am =) Until then I'll just stick with guys. That's so sad! Your preferences shouldn't change how people think or feel about you :( |
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| I don't think I've ever really "come out" per say. I knew I had romantic feelings for my best friend, who was a male (as am I) in high school, but I wasn't sure what to make of it exactly. I eventually stopped feeling that way about him because we grew apart after we both graduated, and I never really had any reason to think back upon my sexuality up until a couple of years ago. I realized I was bisexual and that's all there was too it. Not too many people know. Close friends and that is about it. My mother would likely have a cow. My dad would actually be supportive likely seeing as how he is too, yet I don't really feel the need to tell him. |
| Just made my first inroads to coming out to family members. I told my cousin last night. We were sitting out on his back porch, having some coffee and a cigar (which he gave me for my birthday). The subject of dating came up. And I contributed what I could to the conversation, but finally got tired of trying to sound interested about girls. I made my move. I just looked at him and said "well, just to let you know, I'm gay, so...". He acknowledged it, and then went right back to the conversation. Didn't bat an eye. I was really touched. And I couldn't help but point out how nonchalant he was about it. I said "doesn't surprise you, does it?" He said no. And said the only time he was ever surprised about something of that sort was when he found out his brother was bi. Which I only recently found out...via this same cousin. So I tend to forget. So, one family member down. I have no qualms telling my other cousin (the bi one) for obvious reasons, were it to be brought up. As for other family members? I guess it will just come with time. |
| I'm not really out yet, but so far 16 people I know(surprisingly only 1 of them are openly against it) in real life and my mom know about me being transgender and sexually attracted to men. =x |
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| I came out in 9th grade, which is like six years ago! |
| I came out to my parents about this time last year and I only recently came out to everyone else a few weeks ago. I posted that I was on facebook and I got loads of likes and comments. It was a better reaction than I expected :D |
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| I was pretty sure I was asexual and aromantic and when I was 24-25 I realised I am into this 1 girl. I did not find other people attractive at all. The only thing I am attracted to is my current girlfriend and I am asexual towards the rest of the world. I am demi or lesbian for this one girl. Near other sexualities I usually feel like an alien from planet of Gethen ('The Left Hand of Darkness', science fiction novel by Ursula K. Le Guin), who needs to explain why I do not have any favourite actresses, singers or models and when I answer 'what type of girl is your type?' questions. |
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