| Depending on how long you've been friends and what the fight was over. If he fucked my girlfriend then there's no going back. Most other things can be worked out. If they're unwilling to make the effort to remain friends then I would respond in kind... you don't need people in your life that just bring you down. |
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| I've had plenty of friends and acquaintances that I simply never heard from again. Only ever lost one friend due to an argument before, and it was over something incredibly stupid. I tried to fix things in that scenario, by apologising and trying to make my feelings on the matter as clear and blunt as possible after shit had cooled down. He apologised too, explained his own reasonings, and told me that "it's in the past now", but then proceeded to avoid me whatever chance he had. That just pissed me off, made it feel like he was being dishonest even though I was honest as I could possibly be. I confronted him about it several times, and he'd always come up with the same excuses. When they contradicted what he had told me earlier, and I pointed that out to him, he couldn't seem to make any sort of reply. Eventually, he just admitted that he thought differently about me, and that he'd rather we went our separate ways, and so we did. I didn't appreciate the childish mind games though, or his inability to be honest because he was too much of a wimp to just spit out the truth. Just made me feel worse in the long run, I felt like I wasted my time and effort on someone who didn't even want to be friends any more over an insignificant incident. (If you're curious about what the argument was, it's that I couldn't play Xbox with him for a period of time, and he threw a tantrum over it. Never seen anyone act so childish before, I certainly never expected that kind of behaviour from him. To want to end a 2 year old friendship over something like that just astounded me). /rant |
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| That happens a lot after high school. The most annoying one was a friend I knew since elementary. Close friends, someone I trusted. She ended up getting home schooled on the last year of high school. She rarely hung out with the group. During Halloween she said she couldn't do anything because she was sick. She lied to us about that. Me and my friend(who liked her) saw her with another group. My friend was mad, I didn't care. When she said hello we both didn't really acknowledge her. I guessed my friend(who liked her) was why she was dodging us so we both hung out with another person in the group. Then she ended up avoiding us too and got a boyfriend. I pretty much gave up trying to be friends with her at that point. I get annoyed whenever I see her post about how she's lost so many friends. |
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JinxedMe said: Jalapolo said: Depending on how long you've been friends and what the fight was over. If he fucked my girlfriend then there's no going back. Most other things can be worked out. If they're unwilling to make the effort to remain friends then I would respond in kind... you don't need people in your life that just bring you down. What if he was really far away now? Like he moved after you fought... And no he didn't fuck your girlfriend =o Would you try to make it work? I'll try and explain it in a different way... When I finished school I had a few friends from school still, but over time we gradually drifted apart, not because we had a fight or anything, but when you're at school you are forced to socialize with certain people and you can get along because you have common interests, being school. Most of my current friends are people I play sports with socially (soccer and tennis) or that i work with. When you leave school you realize that people at school you never really had that much in common with, you just make friends out of circumstance. If you truly really care about this person than sure, try to make an initial effort, but if that person insists on having nothing more to do with you you can't force it, that will just push them away more. |
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Necromia said: That happens a lot after high school. The most annoying one was a friend I knew since elementary. Close friends, someone I trusted. She ended up getting home schooled on the last year of high school. She rarely hung out with the group. During Halloween she said she couldn't do anything because she was sick. She lied to us about that. Me and my friend(who liked her) saw her with another group. My friend was mad, I didn't care. When she said hello we both didn't really acknowledge her. I guessed my friend(who liked her) was why she was dodging us so we both hung out with another person in the group. Then she ended up avoiding us too and got a boyfriend. I pretty much gave up trying to be friends with her at that point. I get annoyed whenever I see her post about how she's lost so many friends. That's her own fault for being a bit of a bitch. |
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SnugglyWhuggly said: (If you're curious about what the argument was, it's that I couldn't play Xbox with him for a period of time, and he threw a tantrum over it. Never seen anyone act so childish before, I certainly never expected that kind of behaviour from him. To want to end a 2 year old friendship over something like that just astounded me). /rant Over Xbox? What a shitty friend. |
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| Ehh, I haven't had this happen too many times. I can only think of this time with an online friend I had. At one point, we chatted often. Then I just got so busy with school and other interests that I just kinda dropped them. Then, years later, I shot them a message like all was good. All was not good. They asked me to scram, because I guess I made things weird for them. So I did without much of a problem - we weren't real friends or anything. Stung a little, but hey, things change. |
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| I've lost two friends. Walked out on one. I don't feel like elaborating though. |
| Well I was friends with this girl for 3-4 years. Let's call her Ana for now. She was actually my best friend and when I got a boyfriends things were pretty awkward because she was jealous of how much time I dedicated to him,so I decided to make them meet in hopes they would become friends ...they didn't and they told me they hated each other...and for a while I was okay with that. Some months after that another friend of mine talked to Ana and she said she was in love with my boyfriend and that my boyfriend had confessed that he was in love with her too. Well apparently they had been talking behind my back and to make me not suspect a thing, they told me they hated each other. So well...I broke up with the guy and she was my best friend so I tried to forgive her and pretend everything was okay. I even rooted for her and my ex. Although I won't pretend I did this out of good will or something like that. I think that back then I was too scared of losing them both and being alone, so I wasn't honest and didn't express myself. Some months after I started dating this guy but I wasn't sure about our relationship so I didn't tell anyone about this new boyfriend. she got pretty mad about me hiding this and stopped talking with me for 5 years. Specially because this was the guy who told me about her and my ex. This January I decided that things weren't okay...I had to know what happened so I contacted her and we actually talked a bit. She had grown (as I did) and we talked about the stuff that went wrong in our relationship. Why did she betray me, why I forgave her, why after us getting into uni things changed so much between us. We aren't very close now but we talk sometimes and I am actually fine with her. |
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JinxedMe said: Jalapolo said: That's her own fault for being a bit of a bitch. Mhmm I disgree D: you do not know why she did it... But yeah these thing happen. You think if it wasn't for that friend of yours who liked her everything would've turned out okay and you would've been friends? I'm not sure since she even started avoiding hanging out with me and my friend that didn't like her. |
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JinxMe said: It's sad when people just go 'poof' and disappear D: Ouch... I feel you. I can't believe that something so silly could lead to so much trouble. I mean lying to you about things being fine and avoiding you and eventually telling you he's not interested in staying friends. That's sad. I'm sorry Snuggly D: I'm sure your the next friend you'll meet will be Torgue like!!! Late reply here, but I'm afraid this happened to be one of those threads I didn't check back on, until it was bumped just recently of course. Yeah, it felt like we'd be friends for years to come, I never imagine something so insignificant could just suddenly end everything then and there. It felt like all the enjoyable times we spent together prior to that suddenly didn't mean anything to him, I still don't understand it all these months later. :( Thanks, hopefully I'll make better friends, someday. I'm not too optimistic about it, but stranger things have happened, I guess. Mr Torgue is too awesome to be friends with little ol' me though. :P |
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JinxMe said: Have you ever lost a friend? Like they simply walked out on you and you never heared from them again, or you had a fight or some sort of disagreement and they won't talk to you now. How would you act if this scenario happened to you? You could try and fix things, change yourself so things are good again or you could move on with your life and forget about them. Please Discuss and don't be afraid to elaborate. Elaborate! I'm not joking, do not shitpost >.<! This is important! honestly, this happened yesterday. i've had a kind of fucked up friendship and started fighting all the time. but we always make up. not this time i think. me met about 2 years ago. but its weird, silly things like: "oh! have to take a pic of my pumpkin for him" run in my mind. just little things that became significant in the past. write to him when you get home. bleh. i don't know how i am handling it, pretty ok b/c we just fought all the time over stupid stuff. we shall see. but its like there is suddenly a part of my life has gone away. |
| If you are reading this, its already too late |
| I've been here way too long... |
| didn't even know this thread existed lol |
| I've lost countless friends, for various reasons. Most of my really good friends I lost because of things I was doing(they. just say me going downhill fast and knew there wasn't anything they could do about it), and I don't blame them at all... I'm really starting to become hopeless... I'm fucking 27 and don't have any friends I can trust anymore... I know people, I know plenty of people... They just aren't actually friends, and most are not good for me to be around. I kind of want to move and see if I could start over, not sure if that'd even help though. |
| Fuck them, live your life. You got MAL anyway. |
| It happened to me a few times. I went up to these people and told them I want to start over. I told them where I thought I was wrong, and that I want to begin again. If the old times were so good, we could recreate them. There were also people I just didn't talk to for a long time. I simply messaged them, told them I'm meeting up with some people and asked them if they want to join. |
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IntellectualMr said: Fuck them, live your life. You got MAL anyway. For a moment there I thought you meant to physically fuck them, which could be seem as rape but who knows. |
| I've been here way too long... |
| Haven't lost any friends. Real tight with my mates. |
| basically lost all my irl friends thats why i'm here |
| It depends on the situation of why we got into a fight. I would attempt to salvage it by talking about the issues we have if it's somethings major. If we both lay everything out on the table, usually you can pinpoint the differences and talk through them so you both understand. If my friend walks out on me, and I don't hear from them after a while, I'm sorry, but I would move on from it. I would probably ask them one time what's wrong why they abandoned, but other than that no. Now if they come back and want to rekindle that, we would have to have a long talk about it. I have a friend let's call her One. She has a friend (who I will name Two). One has been best friends with Two since fourth or fifth grade (college now). Well every once in a while whenever Two got a new boyfriend, she would tell One and get her opinion and Two would always be weary of them because Two was the type to change her personality to be accepted, and her boyfriends were usually douchebags. She would pretend like she didn't play video games in public and stuff like that. Also after a while Two would completely stop talking to One for months on end with no explanation until her and her boyfriend broke up. Two would do this constantly, and made One feel like absolute crap. So like a year ago Two stopped talking to One again and recently came back wanting to pretend like nothing happened. So One at this point wants to know what to do. And I honestly told her not to try to get as close anymore since she's just going to leave again. Anyway, if somebody doesn't want to be friends with you, and isn't willing to put in the effort, then I wouldn't worry about it. I'm sure it would hurt for a long time, but it's not worth it being with someone whose not going to appreciate you. What's the situation TC? If you don't mind me asking. |
| Had a friend of about 4 years. Recently called the friendship off with her. She was manipulative and usually always just brought me down. Recently, she's been bragging about her life and pointing out how I didn't get the same achievements as her, played it off as "sarcasm". Even threw in my face how she has friends and I honestly really don't. . "sarcastically" of course. We've had many fights, and I'm no angel, but I won't go on about this, it'd be a short story. There's only so much I can take until I finally realise that the friendship is no good. I'm a bit sad about it, of course, but there's always others. TLDR: I'm that person that walked out from an unhealthy friendship. Sometime, crap just happens. There's plenty of others to friend you. |
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