Your Ultimate Fetish Chart + Love/Sex/Relationships Talk in General

Lotus97 said:
Lesbian/Butch/Femme Personality Test (for men and straight people too)

I have an issue with women. I identify as trans lesbian, but can't transition. Either way, femme women tend to want alpha men (or butch women). I was trying to figure out where I fit in with this because I'm attracted to femme women, but don't want to be alpha/butch/dominant/etc or play the role of the man.

I took this lesbian personality test and scored right in the middle at "androgyne". Nearly all of the questions are gender neutral or have at least on choice for males so you might find it helpful to see where you fall on the spectrum. It's 100 questions so if you're feeling lazy and just want to read through the descriptions of the archetypes they're listed here: https://switchingteams.wordpress.com/2011/08/19/types-of-lesbians/

So I'm curious what other people think of the test. It seems pretty accurate for me. I would also like to hear some thoughts on dating/relationship in terms of gender roles. I remember @miyazawa_rin saying something about being the more dominant/alpha in your relationship.

The thing is, a lot of women might assume the role, but end up losing attraction for the man because that's not what they actually want. I just don't want to end up like this guy (trigger warning if you're a feminist)

I'll post my results from the test here:

SOFT ANDROGYNE
Your score placed you in the category of Soft Androgyne. This is the "steel magnolia" type. You may also wish to review Strong Femme and Androgyne, the two categories surrounding you. In a ranking across the femme/butch gamut, if 1 is femme and 100 is butch, you fall between 41 and 47 on the scale. For a review of where you fall in the overall population in numbers, refer to this chart. Your group is a large part of the 35-45 age group for the most part and has a wide mix of genders and orientations.

For most of your life and social interaction, you don't really see yourself as either butch or femme, but if pressed into a corner, you react more femme than butch. You prefer to seek aid rather than solve your problems on your own, and prefer to give aid rather than to encourage someone to stand on their own feet. You're fairly well balanced over all, with the occasional weakness you haven't quite yet conquered.

Education is important to you, as you see knowledge as a key to independence and freedom, and you tend to have a higher educational level than your peers, either formally or by self-teaching. You read a lot, and a varied assortment of genres, enjoying cartoons as much as heavy psych drama. Biography, however, bores you. You like historical anecdotes but are not very good at memorizing dates, having a more general sense of time.

Your home is a roof for you and not a showplace. Order is optional. You cook if you have to and are efficient at it but really don't like to bother. You prefer to be fed. You like small dogs or big cats and the occasional hamster.

You enjoy a fairly strong butch for a partner, along the lines of a Feminist or Classic Butch, and take on other Androgynes as friends. Family is not terribly important to you, and odds are good you came from a home where that was not the primary issue. You may have a good, but distant relation with your family, or may not be in touch at all, but it's pretty certain you don't live with them unless you have to, or in the same city.