Your thoughts on bullying/ is THIS what bullies deserve?

TheBrainintheJar said:

In my experience, bullies are often charismatic and popular. Why punish them when we can punish the person nobody cares about?

Teckmeister said:


Yeah, the majority of bullies I encountered were charismatic and popular people.

If they weren't charismatic and popular, then they won't be able to keep up a campaign of violence against anyone for long. Without charisma and popularity, any violent act will likely be exposed right from the get go and the culprit will face opposition from the student body and teachers.

I remember how a middle-school teacher sided with my bully against me. She's very good at telling lies. That is to say, lying to herself. She managed to convince herself that she sided with my bully NOT because he's charismatic and better-looking than me but that somehow I was the one at fault for getting on his bad side. Hah.

And that's the thing. Victim blaming is so easy. During one interview, I was asked questions like "Why were you at that place in the first place" and "Why did you get close to him in the first place?" and "Did you say anything to provoke him?".

Why didn't she just admit that her theory was that attractive people are all good? Of course she couldn't. She would look stupid in front of her superiors and the parents. So she shifted part of the blame to me.

"I am not saying xxx was blameless in this affair but you should take care of your own conduct blah blah blah..."