| Or just new members in General who like to comment. The ppl who usually comment on threads tends to scare away ,discourage and make them leave the site due to constant negative feedback. •Do you think these ppl who often leave bcuz of these reasons should develop thicker skin on the internet ? • Do you often leave negative comments on others post ? If so ,explain why instead of just ignoring the post (most of yall gonna lie) • Have you ever been discouraged in engaging with a community bcuz of these reasons ? (Doesn't have to be MAL) |
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| We do have a few users around who are a bit snarky, but I don't think it's bad enough to actually scare anyone away. Maybe some people don't want to stick around since it can seems kinda cliquey around here and they feel like they don't belong, but I do like when new users do stick around! (@NS2D and @LabMemberX come to mind) |
| I don't feel particularly deterred by anything or anyone; it's not like anybody can stop Zeus from hurling thunderbolts should he feel like it. But if you display the wrong kind of stupid (e.g., you're not particularly smart but you believe in solipsism), people around here will pile on you so much you feel like you have to delete your profile. I find this particularly hypocritical given all the stupid that is apparently perfectly allowed. |
| I love him who is ashamed when the dice fall in his favour and who then asks: Am I then a cheat? – for he wants to perish. |
| Does MAL members scare away new Thread Makers ? I don't think so, Mal members don't have any power to scare new members or do anything without getting in trouble themselves. |
| I don't think too many people here are all that mean. Or the hostile ones are easy to brush off and not care about at least, they're more of a nuisance than intimidating imo. It's probably more that people just don't have much to say, like I hardly ever create threads because of that. Sometimes I don't participate in online communities if I feel like I'd be a bad fit for them. Mean people are whatever, I'm more worried about coming off dumb. so I avoid communities that seem snooty or more sophisticated than me lol. but I doubt anyone feels that way about MAL. |
| In Forum Games, we regularly complain about interesting new people who get discouraged from posting due to the gooners and creeps. Do you think these ppl who often leave bcuz of these reasons should develop thicker skin on the internet ? There are so many people and places to talk about anime with. People leaving is an indictment of MAL's inability to retain people or host interesting discussions. Do you often leave negative comments on others post ? If so ,explain why instead of just ignoring the post (most of yall gonna lie) Normally, no. Most of the worst users on this forum are too insipid to engage with in the first place. However, I make one exception for a certain user because he regularly spams the forum with the dumbest threads for sycophantic validation, so I leave negative comments to break his circlejerk bubble and force him to acknowledge how annoyed people are with him. Have you ever been discouraged in engaging with a community bcuz of these reasons ? (Doesn't have to be MAL) Gaming communities are particularly bad about this because I just want to let off some steam and relax while playing games, not be repeatedly reminded I'm a third-rate duelist with a fourth rate deck. There's something oddly joyless about those communities. |
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| If someone is consistently getting negative feedback on the threads they make and/or have mods lock them on a regular basis then I don't think that the MAL users should be painted as the ones being the bad actor just for being negative or simply refusing to engage with the topic. It's really not that hard to make a thread that doesn't contain a controversial topic, reads like blogposting, is obvious ragebait, or just looks like it's AI generated fleurbleue said: Maybe some people don't want to stick around since it can seems kinda cliquey around here and they feel like they don't belong, but I do like when new users do stick around! (@NS2D and @LabMemberX come to mind) Sankyuu! :D And yes naturally people will learn to recognize each others personality and get to know each other more if they're regular posters and that might be a barrier to entry for some. But for me personally I just had fun lurking and reading the forums for a couple of months before making my first post here, just to get a feeling for the overall vibes and I think that's a good approach to have rather than to just blindly jumping in and expecting things to be exactly like whichever community they originally came from |
| Someone who's scared away is too sensitive in the first place. |
| There are very likely a number of different reasons why new users would end up wanting to leave soon after recently joining, and I do see "being scared away by certain MAL regulars and their negative feedback" being one of the reasons. Some other reasons for leaving could be because: - they just don’t see all that many interesting threads in the MAL forums - the number of "Users Browsing Forums" on MAL is too low, and they want to go elsewhere where there’s more activity - forums are considered a thing of the past to them, and they prefer using Discord, Twitter/X, Twitch, etc. Many also probably prefer Reddit over MAL, and like using subreddits instead. - they feel deterred by heavy moderation and/or by the number of moderators there are - they’re creeped out / turned off by the NSFW threads and posts lol - they have other priorities in life VabbingSips said: •Do you think these ppl who often leave bcuz of these reasons should develop thicker skin on the internet ? It probably depends on whether their reason really is because of certain MAL users scaring them away or not. If that is indeed the reason, then yeah, it would be ideal to develop thicker skin, both in real life and online. VabbingSips said: • Do you often leave negative comments on others post ? If so ,explain why instead of just ignoring the post (most of yall gonna lie) Very rarely, and it’s even more rare for me to do so here on MAL since most MAL users seem very nice and peaceful. VabbingSips said: • Have you ever been discouraged in engaging with a community bcuz of these reasons ? (Doesn't have to be MAL) Nope, never. |
| Most people on this site are pretty chill, especially in comparison to elsewhere. Can't imagine being bothered by folks on an anime forum lol. |
| People being scared away by other users? I don't think so if that's happened then the person that got scared has some major issues socially or something, this is just a forum after all |
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If someone is consistently getting negative feedback on the threads they make and/or have mods lock them on a regular basis then I don't think that the MAL users should be painted as the ones being the bad actor just for being negative or simply refusing to engage with the topic. It's really not that hard to make a thread that doesn't contain a controversial topic, reads like blogposting, is obvious ragebait, or just looks like it's AI generated
Sankyuu! :D And yes naturally people will learn to recognize each others personality and get to know each other more if they're regular posters and that might be a barrier to entry for some. But for me personally I just had fun lurking and reading the forums for a couple of months before making my first post here, just to get a feeling for the overall vibes and I think that's a good approach to have rather than to just blindly jumping in and expecting things to be exactly like whichever community they originally came from
fleurbleue said:
Maybe some people don't want to stick around since it can seems kinda cliquey around here and they feel like they don't belong, but I do like when new users do stick around! (@NS2D and @LabMemberX come to mind)
Maybe some people don't want to stick around since it can seems kinda cliquey around here and they feel like they don't belong, but I do like when new users do stick around! (@NS2D and @LabMemberX come to mind)
Sankyuu! :D And yes naturally people will learn to recognize each others personality and get to know each other more if they're regular posters and that might be a barrier to entry for some. But for me personally I just had fun lurking and reading the forums for a couple of months before making my first post here, just to get a feeling for the overall vibes and I think that's a good approach to have rather than to just blindly jumping in and expecting things to be exactly like whichever community they originally came from
NS2D said: I just had fun lurking and reading the forums for a couple of months before making my first post here, just to get a feeling for the overall vibes and I think that's a good approach to have rather than to just blindly jumping in and expecting things to be exactly like whichever community they originally came from Boy that sounds like a good approach. Compared to how I just started posting when I actually did check the forums. But tbh I had no preconceived notion of how the forums might be as I've not been part of any communities for years also tiny bit disappointed I fleur forgot about me being new but that's okay I know I'm not consistent on the forums |
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NS2D said:
I just had fun lurking and reading the forums for a couple of months before making my first post here, just to get a feeling for the overall vibes and I think that's a good approach to have rather than to just blindly jumping in and expecting things to be exactly like whichever community they originally came from
I just had fun lurking and reading the forums for a couple of months before making my first post here, just to get a feeling for the overall vibes and I think that's a good approach to have rather than to just blindly jumping in and expecting things to be exactly like whichever community they originally came from
Boy that sounds like a good approach. Compared to how I just started posting when I actually did check the forums. But tbh I had no preconceived notion of how the forums might be as I've not been part of any communities for years
also tiny bit disappointed I fleur forgot about me being new but that's okay I know I'm not consistent on the forums
Nysse said: I had no idea that you were new. 🙃 But don't worry, I do like having you around! But could it be that you already had some posts when you started posting in CD? I have a good recollection of when @NS2D and @LabMemberX started posting, but that's probably because they had no post count to begin with. If you already had a certain number of posts, it makes it difficult to tell whether you got them elsewhere than CD or if you're an old regular.also tiny bit disappointed I fleur forgot about me being new but that's okay I know I'm not consistent on the forums |
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Nysse said:
also tiny bit disappointed I fleur forgot about me being new but that's okay I know I'm not consistent on the forums
I had no idea that you were new. 🙃 But don't worry, I do like having you around! But could it be that you already had some posts when you started posting in CD? I have a good recollection of when @NS2D and @LabMemberX started posting, but that's probably because they had no post count to begin with. If you already had a certain number of posts, it makes it difficult to tell whether you got them elsewhere than CD or if you're an old regular.also tiny bit disappointed I fleur forgot about me being new but that's okay I know I'm not consistent on the forums
| @fleurbleue oooh okay fair makes sense. I might've made a few posta before in AD and in some challenge things. But I started in CD earlier this year like ummmm march maybe? And still nice to hear people have some idea of my presence |
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Wait. Serious question.
Am I a gooner?
Am I a gooner?
| @LabMemberX Where did that come from? |
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@VabbingSips
No, I mean. I like fanservice but I don't force my tastes on people.
Am I still a gooner?
No, I mean. I like fanservice but I don't force my tastes on people.
Am I still a gooner?
| @LabMemberX I'd say no you're not one |
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@VabbingSips
Thank you. I wanted to be sure.
Thank you. I wanted to be sure.
| @LabMemberX If you want some real reassurance I'll tell you this. You shouldn't care how ppl perceive you, especially online with a bunch of ppl you're never gonna meet |
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| The stricter rules likely shut down a lot of thread makers. Can't call out censorship anymore if it comes from a certain group. Can't talk about loli. Can't talk about consultants Can't talk about dei Can't talk about traps Can't talk about politics Can't talk about statistics  Every one of those things listed above used to be allowed btw. All got banned overtime by snowflakes and corpo management. |
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rohan121 said: Can't talk about consultants @rohan121 What do you mean by consultants? |
VabbingSips said: IDK if I qualify lol, however, I will give my onion regardless. The ppl who usually comment on threads tends to scare away ,discourage and make them leave the site due to constant negative feedback. VabbingSips said: Without context, I can't really answer this. Genuine insults and aggressive language, I don't think should be tolerated regardless. We can "grow thicker skin" however, IRL a lot of these comments would just result in someone getting punched in the face. Main reason, I always get a chuckle out of those that say getting upset at said language makes you "weak" or something. Hiding behind a screen and saying that makes you equally weak. Civility and politeness to me should be the norm, whether you are online or in person.Do you think these ppl who often leave bcuz of these reasons should develop thicker skin on the internet ? That said, anime fans can often be highly defensive, and get upset when fans don't like a certain work, or trope. And TBF, when a lot of negative criticism can be straight up hostile, rather than just an engaging debate, I get the hesitancy however, I think respectful negativity is something to be embraced. I don't want a hug box (boring), and sometimes I am curious why people don't like things I really love. VabbingSips said: Oh no, I post negative comments. Granted, it's usually only for certain posters I have had negative experiences with or posts that are not in good faith. Self righteous in my justification? Maybe. Do you often leave negative comments on others post ? If so ,explain why instead of just ignoring the post (most of yall gonna lie) VabbingSips said: Reddit's and Twitter's (pre and post Musk) echo chamber like worlds definitely have killed my desire to talk on social media. I still do, though slowly weaning off it, MAL is probably the last place I am super active. I originally just wanted to get on these places because I wanted to talk to people about my hobbies. Main reason I made a MAL, now I just have come to hate most of the communities I sought out.....and I don't think that is a good thing. I have made actual friends, and had good moments, though especially lately I sometimes ask why I bother talking to people online. Have you ever been discouraged in engaging with a community bcuz of these reasons ? (Doesn't have to be MAL) |
VabbingSips said: Do you think these ppl who often leave bcuz of these reasons should develop thicker skin on the internet ? Yeah of course, mal isnt THAT dark lmao VabbingSips said: Do you often leave negative comments on others post ? If so ,explain why instead of just ignoring the post I do sometimes yes, but it's rare since i jsut give my opinion most of the time VabbingSips said: Have you ever been discouraged in engaging with a community bcuz of these reasons ? mmmm no i do not think so |
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| Most users here are very chill tbh. So by default, you don't really need a thick skin to begin with. |
•Do you think these ppl who often leave bcuz of these reasons should develop thicker skin on the internet ? I think people need to learn to have more empathy and not be sacks of human shit who attack people for not following the herd mentality as sites like MAL have become a bit of an echo chamber that pushes out anyone who basically doesn't like hyper-specific things in anime (that tend to usually be hyper focused on sexual content) and aren't an incel pretty much. • Do you often leave negative comments on others post ? If so ,explain why instead of just ignoring the post (most of yall gonna lie) I very much oftentimes due so because I am a jaded 20-something year old woman that's honestly just exhausted of a lot of the behavioral trends in the community. It can be really difficult as a trans woman in this community with how much homophobia, transphobia, and misogyny is just casually blasted out under very thin veneers of plausible deniability for the politically illiterate. I am not really calling out anyone specific in particular, but there are a lot of trends of threads essentially just spouting "anti-woke" talking points that are rooted in hate and it is basically just allowed to fester with nobody there to challenge it, so i feel almost obligated to try and fight back as one of the few openly transgender users on this site as it really makes the community unsafe for queer people and women when mindsets like these are the dominant rhetoric that has consumed this site. • Have you ever been discouraged in engaging with a community bcuz of these reasons ? (Doesn't have to be MAL) Being on this site has actively discouraged me from wanting to engage in anime as much as I used to due to the toxicity of the community being so much that it makes me feel a lck of wanting to engage due to not having anyone to talk to. I don't have many friends irl who watch the same things so I am rather reliant on the internet and when one of the biggest fucking anime sites has an overly toxic userbase that isn't very accepting of women and minorities, it just kills my desire to engage with new shows. It's not like this just for anime, the Star Wars community is just as bad with this shit and its part of the reason why I don't engage with new Star Wars media these days too (especially since there's some trauma attached due to being groomed into the alt-right when I was a teenager because of Star Wars fans and how hard the journey to get rid of all those toxic things i was told has been over the course of 6 years). I feel like many women and queer people may feel similarly to me |
This post is brought to you by your local transfem gamer goblin. Will not tolerate bigotry and will fight against "anti-woke" sentiment to make the anime community a safer place.  |
Reply to rohan121
The stricter rules likely shut down a lot of thread makers.
Can't call out censorship anymore if it comes from a certain group.
Can't talk about loli.
Can't talk about consultants
Can't talk about dei
Can't talk about traps
Can't talk about politics
Can't talk about statistics
Every one of those things listed above used to be allowed btw. All got banned overtime by snowflakes and corpo management.
Can't call out censorship anymore if it comes from a certain group.
Can't talk about loli.
Can't talk about consultants
Can't talk about dei
Can't talk about traps
Can't talk about politics
Can't talk about statistics
Every one of those things listed above used to be allowed btw. All got banned overtime by snowflakes and corpo management.
| @rohan121 The cold hard truth sadly. Can't even talk about ecchi on the ecchi shows forum sections either because someone always reports it. |
| "Well, she's flatter than a pancake" -Mimi Alpacas |
| I will admit I didn't touch the forums for a while after joining here after randomly seeing people debate about "stroking" it to characters of the Lolli category? After a while I randomly decided to start replying, and found myself enjoying the New York randomness vibes of people here. Intimdating? Perhaps since there are a lot of Keyboard warriors, then you realize Anime places like this house people of the whole personality spectrum |
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| i mean, probably? there are quite a few weirdos with the "hehe so random xD" personality defect who post random nonsense and usually don't get the replies that they thought they would. that said, it's not like people can really post anything that bad towards them with the moderation guidelines we're beholden to. |
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