thewiru said:I can't relate to a ton of threads here on MAL because they're referencing either complaints or simply opinions about anime which I never heard before as if they were something "Everyone heard someone saying at least once".
Where does that even come from?
It makes sense you haven’t heard those kinds of complaints, if you don’t actually talk to people in real life... That’s probably why some of your past threads felt so out of touch. Like your "Is it easier to explain the entire history of anime than explaining the premise of certain anime?" thread was so beyond ridiculous that I didn't even grace it with any serious reply. lol
Also going back to this thread too... "How to talk about anime with people IRL?", it was pretty evident you would never get that far in a conversation with random strangers if you never took the time to have shit like small talk with anyone 1st...
Now I am not going to comb back and thrift through months and months of topics just to try to find the exact lines of text, but I distinctively remember you basically coming out saying you don't really have any friends in real life to begin with. If you can't get past small talk, it's easy to see why.
To relate to these kinds of complaints, you’d actually need to be in situations where they happen and not just rely on hearsay online.
Back in the early 2010s, I finally had some "real" free time again. It was the first since graduating college and getting married shortly after the turn of the century. Work had basically eaten up my time throughout the mid 2000s and up to 2010, and having our daughter during that time period of my life only compounded it.
So my wife and I started going out at night to local bars and grills, actually socializing with strangers. It felt like ages since we’d done anything like that together. At first it was awkward... kind of like someone who’s been dating the same person for over a decade suddenly going back out and trying to play the field again. We were both rusty at small talk, but it came back fast... chatting about sports in a sports bar, talking about the weather, or discussing family life with parents (One reason we finally had free time was because our daughter had reached the age to start primary school, so we decided to have her live with relatives in Japan for her schooling).
It actually took almost two full years to finally meet and encounter another, that I wasn't acquainted with before, who was into Japanese Anime too. And it just happened to be at one of the sports bars my Wife and I would frequent on the weekends together. But of course the dude was around my age so they grew up with the same shit I did. VHS bootlegs, seeing shit like "Akira" in the theater, even renting half eaten copies of "Urotsukidoji" on VHS from a local rental store, etc... When we got into the conversational groove, we would be drinking beers and shooting games of pool, all the while discussing Anime factoids... While rare in my experience, the most common thing I would hear bitched and whined about at the time was the fact that modern Anime basically just didn't look sexy anymore. Sure there is fanservice and shit, but we both missed the 90s OVA days and Anime from the early 2000s.
Basically, that "everyone has heard it" shit doesn’t just appear online... it comes from people actually talking to each other likely outside of social media ecosystems. If you haven’t done that much yourself, it’s easy to see why it all feels foreign. lol |